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Bacontotem posted:Mostly fat and tumblr
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Sep 11, 2015 18:09
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It's a hard question to answer when you have a normal and healthy outlook on interpersonal relationships and your brain isn't all hosed up.
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Sep 11, 2015 18:13
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can't wait for the future when ppl say that about monogamists
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Sep 11, 2015 18:13
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nomadologique posted:can't wait for the future when ppl say that about monogamists any decade now, right
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Sep 11, 2015 18:15
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i've read a lot of sci fi and this is definitely in our future, trust me
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Sep 11, 2015 18:17
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nomadologique posted:this is a bit of a silly wash, ya people cheat and there are lots of myths and lies but actually there are people out there who want to be in a relationship with one other person and feel comfortable and happy that way, trust their partner and don't worry about them cheating, because they both want that and want each other Yeah, you're right. I've talked to lots of smart people in monogamous relationships who express the exact same feelings about their relationship that I do about mine, minus the "monogamy is poisonous bullshit". The difference is that they don't play all these power politics with each other and they're respectful and trusting. So obviously it's not a categorical thing. Monogamy always sounds like enforcing rules to me in order to mitigate feelings of distrust, but that idea is a bit alien to them because they don't have that feeling of distrust, they've just integrated monogamy into their definition of commitment and they value that form of commitment. The whole commitment thing always makes me chuckle because I don't know many serial monogamists who are as committed to each other as we are in our marriage. They maintain separate bank accounts and things because there's always a dealbreaker in their relationship and they need to constantly make bets about whether it's going to take place.
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Sep 11, 2015 18:18
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but honestly if you told someone in 1990 that in 25 years nobody would give a poo poo about gay people anymore except the old and insane, they'd have laughed in your face according to my sources we're in the middle of a massive culture war atm, it's all topsy turvy and the internet makes viewpoints evolve very quickly sexual jealousy probably has some biological bases but likely isn't the kind of thing you can't socially program people to express and experience in any number of creative ways
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Sep 11, 2015 18:20
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tuyop posted:It's cool if you're cool. You gotta have a pretty untraditional philosophy of love to make it work. My wife and I are in an open marriage and we're honestly too busy to go swimming in pools of genitals, but it's not a problem when we gently caress other people because who cares? If one of us fell in love with another person, we wouldn't have a problem having them move in and just living that way, or ending the relationship if it came to that because we've had a great life together. If they had a kid with her, I think I would raise it like it was mine if that's what she wanted because I never understood the need to share genetics with children to love them. What's ur fav. episode of Dr. Who?
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Sep 11, 2015 18:21
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BigBoss posted:What's ur fav. episode of Dr. Who? That show is loving garbage. That episode of The X Files where they find that beetle in the hunk of meat mailed from the jungle by that dude, and it gives these escaped convicts these horrible disease pimples... yeah, I think that's my favourite.
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Sep 11, 2015 18:25
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tuyop posted:Yeah, you're right. I've talked to lots of smart people in monogamous relationships who express the exact same feelings about their relationship that I do about mine, minus the "monogamy is poisonous bullshit". The difference is that they don't play all these power politics with each other and they're respectful and trusting. So obviously it's not a categorical thing. So have either of you screwed other people? It's not really an "open marriage" until that happens. If so, and you guys are as strong as you say, then great. I couldn't do it, but I won't judge.
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Sep 11, 2015 18:25
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WobblySausage posted:So have either of you screwed other people? It's not really an "open marriage" until that happens. If so, and you guys are as strong as you say, then great. Uh, yes. It's not a rare thing, just not "rooms of dicks and vadges".
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Sep 11, 2015 18:26
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nomadologique posted:but honestly if you told someone in 1990 that in 25 years nobody would give a poo poo about gay people anymore except the old and insane, they'd have laughed in your face Even just in the 2000s. I remember there was a gay character in a movie in like 2002 (something about baseball), and it was this huge controversy. Also in Crocodile Dundee (1986) there was a lot of gay jokes and crossdress jokes. They even called a gay tranny "fag". That would never fly now.
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Sep 11, 2015 18:27
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I'[m] essentially in a V with my gf and her other bf. That is, romantically and emotionally. I've been dating her about 3 months, and I get along great with him just fine. But she wants to be generally more non-mono and is open to casual sex with people outside of what we have. I am too, but non-mono in general is pretty new to me. And for the most part I'm 100% onboard; I'm supporting and compersive in her endeavors. We have very clear, open, honest communication about everything. Which helps me to not be jealous. And hearing about past and potential casual sex is all fine with me. But when it comes to it being in my face... as in physically in my presence, I feel "left out" I don't get this feeling at all with her other partner (we're both essentially Primaries) I don't think I feel jealousy specifically... maybe envy? Like someone was kind of touching and kissing on her the other day while I was there, and I felt like I wasn't receiving any attention and that I was "left out". I feel like maybe if I was with someone at the same time I'd be ok; so I don't think it's specifically that she isn't giving me the attention. I feel this will continue to happen, and I'll continue to have these feels, because it's simply easier in my opinion for girls to attract men. Any thoughts on how to mitigate feelings like this? General practices, thoughts, or ideas? Thanks!
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Sep 11, 2015 18:34
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Do you think she would be ok with it if you have another gf
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Sep 11, 2015 19:48
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a bay posted:Do you think she would be ok with it if you have another gf She's been fine with it when it happened, so yes?
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Sep 11, 2015 19:53
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a bay posted:I know people that are dating and some of them are in an open relationship and Im curious about how that works and what its like but I dont want to ask them because they will think I dont know anything about dating. If you who have been in one of these or know somebody who has then I would be interested to read about the experiences Typical open relationship: Man: "This is awesome I can sleep with other women and my girl won't get mad! So perfect!" : Stays at home barring on the internet, doesn't get laid by anyone Woman: "Anything for you dear" : Goes out gets banged by a different guy every week Rutibex posted:I'[m] essentially in a V with my gf and her other bf. That is, romantically and emotionally. I've been dating her about 3 months, and I get along great with him just fine. Saying "things are great, it's been 3 months" is the relationship equivalent of the Coyote looking down and realizing he's about to fall off a cliff Rutibex posted:But she wants to be generally more non-mono and is open to casual sex with people outside of what we have. I am too, but non-mono in general is pretty new to me. And for the most part I'm 100% onboard; I'm supporting and compersive in her endeavors. We have very clear, open, honest communication about everything. Which helps me to not be jealous. And hearing about past and potential casual sex is all fine with me. But when it comes to it being in my face... as in physically in my presence, I feel "left out" Sad part is this isn't even a GBS meme, she is literally wanting to cuck you since you sound willing to put up with anything Rutibex posted:I don't get this feeling at all with her other partner (we're both essentially Primaries) I don't think I feel jealousy specifically... maybe envy? Like someone was kind of touching and kissing on her the other day while I was there, and I felt like I wasn't receiving any attention and that I was "left out". I feel like maybe if I was with someone at the same time I'd be ok; so I don't think it's specifically that she isn't giving me the attention. Let me guess first girlfriend in a while? Typical open relationship, the girl is getting macked on and has all the guys she wants, guy gets to stand around and look sad and if he's very lucky his girl will hook him up with one of her fat friends Rutibex posted:I feel this will continue to happen, and I'll continue to have these feels, because it's simply easier in my opinion for girls to attract men. 
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Sep 11, 2015 20:09
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your gf just wants to cuck you while still having you around
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Sep 11, 2015 20:10
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I've known a few couples in open relationships. They were usually mocked incessantly whenever they were not around. Makes good gossip though so keep one in your social circle if you can.
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Sep 11, 2015 20:15
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Rutibex posted:I'[m] essentially in a V with my gf and her other bf. That is, romantically and emotionally. I've been dating her about 3 months, and I get along great with him just fine. Discuss your feelings w/ her. It's one thing to have an open relationship, it's another to be ignoring you and getting all touchy feely with someone else in front of you. That's just cucking im pretty sure. If you're not comfortable with something, say something. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Better that than spending the rest of your life feeling second rate or something. It's not weird at all to not care if she fucks people but to not want it thrown in your face (certainly not if she's ignoring you while doing that). Afaik most successful open relationships just have the people go gently caress sometimes if the occasion arises (like if you're at a party and someone wants to smash and your SO is out of town or sick or something), they aren't necessarily looking for other people to sleep with or all that poo poo. And while being open is important (no one likes being lied to and snuck around on), all the specific details probably don't need to be mentioned. And also you'd be surprised at the amount of girls who aren't into loving random people (my gf is one - she doesn't like banging if she doesn't know the person well and have a connection) versus guys who don't care about that, as long as we're talking about who gets laid more in an open relationship. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 20:19 on Sep 11, 2015 |
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Sep 11, 2015 20:16
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Moridin920 posted:And also you'd be surprised at the amount of girls who aren't into loving random people (my gf is one - she doesn't like banging if she doesn't know the person well and have a connection) versus guys who don't care about that, as long as we're talking about who gets laid more in an open relationship. That's actually worse, that's like she's not just banging the guys, she's banging the same guys over and over again and has a connection with them. Seriously the only time anyone should consider getting involved with an open relationship girl is if you've lucked into being one of the one-offs. Otherwise, run away. Run as far as you can. PS: Mindfuck for you, at least one of those guys guaranteed thinks of her as his girlfriend too. You're welcome.
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Sep 11, 2015 20:22
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good honey pot thread op
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Sep 11, 2015 20:29
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I think it's stupid but most people in open relationships seem to think it's only a matter of time before society catches up with their higher thinking.
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Sep 11, 2015 20:34
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It's just like a regular relationship but ur girl smells like cock and farts all the time just like you.
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Sep 11, 2015 20:45
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just make sure you are on the end making out better from the deal dont get cucked or whatever
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Sep 11, 2015 20:46
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A lifetime of beta bitch stds, OP.
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Sep 11, 2015 20:49
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It works better if the guys Bi and also fucks the other guys.
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Sep 11, 2015 20:51
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just have a threeway
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Sep 11, 2015 20:52
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Cyber Dog posted:in my limited experience its p difficult to do without hurting ppls feeling and compromising trust How does it compromise trust? They're already agreeing to sleep with other people, isn't that just completely throwing trust out the window?
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Sep 11, 2015 20:54
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boom boom boom posted:How does it compromise trust? They're already agreeing to sleep with other people, isn't that just completely throwing trust out the window? Trust is just having control over another person's genitals I guess?
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Sep 11, 2015 21:07
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tuyop posted:Trust is just having control over another person's genitals I guess? ahahahaha
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Sep 11, 2015 21:29
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Most people in long term monogamous relationships would kill for a bit on the side but holy poo poo polygamy sounds like an anxious mess
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Sep 11, 2015 21:31
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Very generally it works out to the lady getting some side cock that she could take or leave and the guy sitting around telling himself how progressive and mature he is for being ok with it.
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Sep 11, 2015 21:36
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mind the walrus posted:Very generally it works out to the lady getting some side cock that she could take or leave and the guy sitting around telling himself how progressive and mature he is for being ok with it. tuyop posted:Trust is just having control over another person's genitals I guess? Lol
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Sep 11, 2015 21:39
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For the guys that dont like open relationships, would you rather be in an open relationship or not in a relationship
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Sep 11, 2015 21:42
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Blazing Ownager posted:That's actually worse, that's like she's not just banging the guys, she's banging the same guys over and over again and has a connection with them. yeah seeing another dude over and over is usually a recipe for disaster i meant more just like random one night stands now and again
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Sep 11, 2015 21:45
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I mean maybe just buy a chastity belt and go full sissy cuck at that point ya know
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Sep 11, 2015 21:45
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a bay posted:For the guys that dont like open relationships, would you rather be in an open relationship or not in a relationship Would you rather be shamed and humiliated, letting the entire world know you're a bitchboi or not having that happen? Hmmm.... let me think.
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Sep 11, 2015 21:47
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I'm trying to see a perspective where I'd be OK with it with my wife, but I just can't. For me it's not "control over genitals", it's I'm the one who fucks her and vice versa. Something special between us. Plus sometimes we end up sharing toothbrushes sometimes and I wouldn't want other weiner on there.
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Sep 11, 2015 21:48
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Any arguments in favor of open relationships and the kind of anecdotal evidence supporting them usually boil down to a description of 3 or more people who don't really give a gently caress about each other and lack the kind of intense emotional connection people think of as Love or whatever. This is then said to be much more ideal than traditional monogamy because it lets the participants orgasm much more frequently, which of course is the entire purpose of a romantic relationship, satisfying one's cravings. Like a microwave cooking hot pockets for your all night game sesh, except for your genitals.
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