Obstacle posted:

Alright. Sex. Let’s talk about it.

First off, I want to state that my reluctance to talk about the mechanics of sex didn’t stem necessarily out of shyness or a sense of being self-conscious. The subject of disability and sex has always carried somewhat of a sideshow-esque curiosity from certain types of people, which I think actually desexualizes the person in question and turns them into more of a spectacle than someone with real sexual wants and needs. This is something I’m really not a fan of. Objectification like that – whether it’s a pretty gal or a legless guy – still comes from a similarly creepy place.

That said, I’ve been approached a number of times by fetishists. The most common is what’s known as a “devotee”. I’m still looking for the chatlog I saved somewhere, but I was contacted by one in 2004 when I was a freshman in college. They had found photos of me and put them up online. After getting a link to some devotee forum, I found some really bizarre things said about photos of me that I had no control over. It was weird, and admittedly one of the worse links I’ve ever clicked on (and I’ve been lurking here for a loooong time).

The bummer is that this, and similar instances online, has made me a bit suspicious about some people’s motives when going out. That, and the fact that I’m a workaholic who talks too much and is often abroad kinda shoots my dating life in the proverbial foot.

Plus, disability and sex has always been kind of a complicated issue as it means different things to a lot of different people. For me, I would still rather a gal have a solid left hook or a sharp wit than be an easy lay.

Alright, MECHANICS.

And this is all I’m going to give you.
So you know how a cat has a tail that articulates, allowing it to swing and maneuver the back part of its body wherever it wants (unlike the more simplistic wagging of a dog)? Well, after doing 7 years of gymnastics and running around on my arms all day, I have no problem holding a handstand almost indefinitely. That said, when my torso is lifted into the air, I can articulate it much in the same way a cat would…except I have fully functioning genitalia at the end of my body.
The only thing that’s mechanically different between me and a biped is that I have a lot more options.



PS. Please sweet lord don’t let anyone take that metaphor as furry comment/reference/anything. If you are a furry/fetishist and reading this, don’t respond.

H posted:

you're welcome!

Let me know if you ever need a piggy-back ride!

Chin Strap posted:

Are you the guy that was on like 60 minutes a while ago? With your own specialized boot or whatever that you use?

Obstacle posted:

I was on some Sirius radio program last night called the Jay Thomas Show last night, and I was grilled about just that. It's a tough call, because you don't wanna get vulgar, but you also REALLY don't want people to assume that you're lacking a penis. Catch 22.

I usually shrug and mutter something like "gotta keep the mystery alive."

Three Olives posted:

I'm not a big fan of mystery. So, what you are saying is, uh, you have figured out some of workable solution? And if so, does it involve a skateboard?

21stCentury posted:

How do you feel about people who stare at you?

I mean, honestly, whenever i see handicapped (or is it Handi-capable?) people, i never know HOW to react? Should I stare? Should i ignore them? Really makes me feel like a dick whenever i pass someone who looks different.

Traitorous Leopard posted:

A system of pulleys and harnesses...

Lobok posted:

Three Olives posted:

How often do people ask or hint around about asking of the mechanics of sex?

And by that, I mean, like I am doing right now.

AxeManiac posted:

You should make a sequel to My Left Foot. Call it My Left Foot 2: Even less Right

Congrats on the book, I hope this has legs and you take off running into a great career as a writer.