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When you get asked that by a girl, how do you respond? Especially when the person isn't exactly beautiful, but she's not ugly, and you're fine with that because she's cool and makes you happy? Tell her she's beautiful "on the inside"? Too cheesy. "Well, you're really NOT beautiful, but you'll do..." You'll never live that one down. Ideas?
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:21 |
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| # ? Nov 21, 2009 23:18 |
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Bob Morales posted:When you get asked that by a girl, how do you respond? Especially when the person isn't exactly beautiful, but she's not ugly, and you're fine with that because she's cool and makes you happy? Tell her shes loving beautiful dipshit. If shes cool and is fun to be around then she IS beautiful.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:25 |
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Bob Morales posted:When you get asked that by a girl, how do you respond? Especially when the person isn't exactly beautiful, but she's not ugly, and you're fine with that because she's cool and makes you happy? Cheezy is ok man. If she's more beautiful inside than on the outside, it's ok to say so. Go with your first instincts, it's often the case that the first impulse is the best, and honesty is the best policy.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:26 |
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Covert Ops Wizard posted:Cheezy is ok man. If she's more beautiful inside than on the outside, it's ok to say so. Don't listen to this guy. Don't ever tell her shes beautiful on the inside unless it also comes with telling her shes sexy also. She will just interpret it as her being ugly. Honesty is NOT always the best policy.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:29 |
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Infact in this case I would say honesty is the worst policy. Girl just wants a self esteem boost. If you have a huge issue with completely white lies because you're a mormon or something just tell her she's really hot, which if you have to self justify to yourself you can base off your (slight) physical attraction to her, and that you she has attractive qualitys that you value in a relationship. I don't have much hope for you though because you are asking the internet if it's ok to call your girlfriend ugly. But good luck!
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:33 |
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She knows she's not beautiful, so she thinks if someone calls her beautiful it will help. Tell her to lose some weight.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:35 |
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Just tell her she's loving gorgeous, drat. Then tell her you get hard just thinking about her, and there's nobody else you'd rather jack off to. Get really into the concept and then screw her brains out. Any less, you'll hurt her feelings. Ideally she'll be pleased enough not to bug you about it for at least a week or two after that.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:36 |
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nationalism posted:Tell her to lose some weight. This comment will come back to haunt you everytime.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:36 |
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Tell her that isn't a question so you aren't required to answer with anything
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:38 |
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i usually go with the tried and true "i can tolerate your face"
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 03:39 |
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Tell her she's a solid 5, 6 with makeup
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:06 |
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h0lmes posted:Tell her shes loving beautiful dipshit. If shes cool and is fun to be around then she IS beautiful. 2nd post gets it right.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:06 |
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If she's saying something like that, then she probably knows she isn't a 10 and has self esteem issues to boot. Because of this DO NOT tell her she's 'just ok', 'beautiful on the inside', etc. She's obviously fishing for compliments, and wants to know that you find her attractive. So just say yes. No matter what, say yes.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:09 |
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Fishing for compliments is the most annoying thing ever, for real.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:12 |
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She's feeling insecure about her looks, and probably worries about you leaving her for someone more attractive, so she wants you to validate her. Therefore if you want to continue a relationship with her, the worst thing you could do would be to tell her that you don't think she's beautiful. Tell her she's gorgeous, but even if she wasn't you wouldn't care, because you like everything about her. In other words, the best way to get rid of her insecurity is to make her feel secure.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:18 |
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LyonsLions posted:She's feeling insecure about her looks, and probably worries about you leaving her for someone more attractive, so she wants you to validate her. This is good advice. Also, you have to ACT like she's beautiful too - just say "Yeah, you're pretty gorgeous. Uh-huh." won't do a drat thing to help her self-esteem. Drop a "Hey, you're looking good today." as one of the first things you say to her one day without prompting and she'll be delighted.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:20 |
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Is she your girlfriend? If so, then why the gently caress wouldn't you tell her she's beautiful? Why are you even with her if you don't find her beautiful? E/N scares me. There can't always be someone there to hold your hand throughout life. Grow some common sense! No one in their right mind tells their girlfriend that they are "beautiful on the inside" unless they mention how loving gorgeous they are on the outside as well. 
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:24 |
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Tell her you'll need to consult with your internet advisors before you can give her a definite answer
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:45 |
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Tell her the very drat same thing!
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 04:55 |
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Bob Morales posted:When you get asked that by a girl, how do you respond? Especially when the person isn't exactly beautiful, but she's not ugly, and you're fine with that because she's cool and makes you happy? Now that she's mentioned beauty, you need to pick some completely different aspect of her to compliment. I'd do something of the form, "I noticed that you did ____ for Mr(s) _____. You must really be concerned about his/her _____. You're a really considerate person."
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:15 |
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Holy crap, what is WRONG with you? You say, "you're the most beautiful woman in the world" and then you shower her with affection and, if you're up for it, some hot sex. It doesn't matter if you're lying through your teeth, that is ALWAYS what you say, unless you want to die pathetic and alone.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:16 |
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I'm really beginning to question how some E/N OPs function in the real world.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:25 |
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Well, you're not a bagger at least... Seriously. loving. Lie. People don't do enough lying, honesty can be really, really bad for you. Ninja: if you really have a problem with it, date someone who's more attractive.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:36 |
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Never, ever tell a woman she is beautiful on the inside when she asks that question. Or 'considerate' or motherfucking 'kind.' Not because it is too cheesy - that is not at all how it will be interpreted. If you say she's beautiful on the inside instead or some stupid variant, she won't miss your clever sidestep - she'll know you basically just said she was not beautiful. And while in your nerd brain not beautiful doesn't equal ugly - well, hell, 'not beautiful' is pretty close, isn't it? So you essentially just called her ugly but virtuous. Which is great, if she's a nun, or you never want to get laid ever again.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:42 |
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Elviscat posted:Seriously. loving. Lie. I was going to post this !
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:43 |
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"I've grown accustomed to your face" -My Fair Lady It's a classic. Also, agreeing w/ LyonsLions. It's not your job to fix her insecurity, she has to do that on her own, but you can at least not make her worry more. Worrying is not sexy Repeating the question again, but is this girl you girlfriend?
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:47 |
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VidaGrey posted:Is she your girlfriend? If so, then why the gently caress wouldn't you tell her she's beautiful? Why are you even with her if you don't find her beautiful?
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 05:56 |
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I wouldn't ever ask anyone that question. That's just impudent.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 06:00 |
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Ema Nymton posted:I wouldn't ever ask anyone that question. That's just impudent. Yeah, they'd have to be a hell of an awesome person otherwise for me to put up with that poo poo, I mean I'd never dream of telling my S/O "you never tell me how handsome I am"
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 06:24 |
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How dare she look to you for kindness and support. What the hell is wrong with this bitch? Next time she pulls that mess just respond with "you're just lucky I ain't dumped your ugly rear end yet." That'll show her. No but really on a serious note -- how broken are you OP? There must be something wrong with you to be asking things like this.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 06:25 |
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Beat. posted:How dare she look to you for kindness and support. What the hell is wrong with this bitch? Next time she pulls that mess just respond with "you're just lucky I ain't dumped your ugly rear end yet." Then again, I've never had anyone say that to me and I tend to only date girls who I think are cute/hot/whatever and I make sure to point it out whenever I feel the need. Khorne fucked around with this message at Nov 06, 2009 around 06:35 |
| # ? Nov 06, 2009 06:30 |
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Is she waiting for an answer? because if you hesitate for more than a few seconds she'll probably read between the lines.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 06:42 |
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hay as far as I can tell E/N is for exactly this kind of dumbass question Fishing for compliments is annoying insecure bullshit, better for you to go a little deeper. A kind way to deflect this question is to say it seems like she's feeling off kilter and would she elaborate on what's really bothering her? And then really listen to her so she'll be straight with you. Maybe her pants were too tight when she put them on that morning, then you can tell her you never noticed a thing, you get the hots for her, and she makes you happy, which is undoubtedly all true. Or maybe she's worried about something bigger and it'll come out if you give her a chance. If she just sticks with "you never tell me I'm beautiful" - that's accusatory, not a meaningful or useful way to have a conversation, she's not really engaging with you. Don't buy into the empty Am I X/Yes/No/Maybe game. You don't owe her some specific set of magic compliments or reassurances delivered at perfect intervals, and they're not meaningful if she had to ask for them anyway. If you haven't learned to speak nice things when you think or feel them, get cracking on that. If you don't feel nice things with her, then loving sever have I covered all the bases now
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 06:55 |
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tiananman posted:Is she waiting for an answer? GIRL: "Why don't you tell me I look beautiful?" - OP hesitates - OP: "Ummm, just posting on the net babe, hold on a sec." - hours pass - OP: "OK, apparently you are very beautiful both inside and out." - slap -
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 06:56 |
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slap me silly posted:Fishing for compliments is annoying insecure bullshit Certainly, but in this case I think the girl has a point. The OP admits to us that he doesn't find her that attractive, and I'm sure she's picked up on it. I'll bet it shows in more ways than him just not giving her enough compliments. Is it any wonder she's feeling insecure?
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 07:37 |
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OP you should probably not date people you don't at least find moderately attractive because it sounds like you're a terrible liar and probably also a lovely partner. Even when my ex gained 50 pounds I told her she looked good every now and then.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 07:47 |
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Captain Matchbox posted:GIRL: "Why don't you tell me I look beautiful?" Whenever a girl asks you anything you're unsure of you should follow this template.
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 09:01 |
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It's an immensely retarded question to begin with, and you can easily pull some verbal judo on it by replying: "If I didn't think you were beautiful, why would I be with you?"
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 09:40 |
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HAND SOLO posted:It's an immensely retarded question to begin with, and you can easily pull some verbal judo on it by replying: "If I didn't think you were beautiful, why would I be with you?" "Because I'm basically one of your guyfriends, only with a vagina and funbags, and pretty much the only person who's gonna stay with you till the end?"
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 09:58 |
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One of the ways to have a good relationship is to make sure that your partner feels good about themselves. People who feel good about themselves are happier. And they associate being happier with you. Just this morning, when my bf walked into the living room, I pointed at him and said: "hot man alert hot man alert." I realize this sounds awfully cheesy written down, and it would be awkward to say such things when it doesn't come naturally (I do think he's hot and I like making him feel good about himself). But showing your partner a lot of appreciation just makes the relationship so much better (just make sure that it doesn't turn into something needy/unbalanced).
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| # ? Nov 06, 2009 10:17 |
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