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Background: I'm a girl, I'm basically 95% gay but not in a creepy militant butch dyke way where I think men are the enemy. AKA I usually prefer hanging out with guys but definitely like girls when it comes to who I stare at/get crushes on/get legit horny about. Nonetheless, I've concluded that the right combination of boredom, horniness, and maybe intoxication would lead me to be okay with breaking my "gold star" and actually doing the deed with a guy that I got along with (and also one that knew what he was doing). Now let me explain the rest. Besides me, the people involved would be: 1. A girl we'll call "Carmen" who I consder my best friend; we both like each other a whole lot and are pretty gay for each other. We're also pretty chill about sex stuff though and have no problem openly talking about girls we think are hot and would gently caress, etc. without it resulting in butthurt as it does with many typical girls. Also we have A+ sexual chemistry and often gently caress the poo poo out of eachother for hours on end, and have already participated in a threesome together several times with the next girl on this list.. 2. A girl we'll call "Rachel" who I dated briefly but things didn't work out for multiple reasons, the biggest being it was a longdistance relationship (I'm currently in the Northeast and she lives in Florida, which happens to be where everyone in this post is from except me). Also the sex was pretty good when it was me loving her, since I'm the type that can get off on other people getting off pretty well, but I still very much enjoy being a bottom and being dominated by someone who knows what they're doing, so the sex isn't so great in that regard with her. She is, however, rather experienced with multiperson sex/orgies for some reason, even though she's only 18 and honestly doesn't give off a typical 'slutty college girl' air whatsoever. 3. A guy we'll call "Matty" who was best friends with "Carmen" in high school, they had a sort of hookup fling but she wound up dumping his rear end 3 weeks into 'dating' for (srsly) the hot cheerleader at their school. Ever since then they occasionally hookup out of boredom but it's never been more than him fingering and eating her out; aka no reciprocation on her end, and never actual intercourse. Recently, "Matty" and "Rachel" met through "Carmen" and started hanging out because they go to the same college in Florida. I went to visit "Rachel" a month ago and finally met "Matty" for the first time; we have very similar personalities so we got along really easily. I wound up breaking up with "Rachel" a few days after I got back from my visit, but it ended on good terms. Soon after she decided she wanted to hook up with "Matty", so they've been having sex about as often as I've been loving around with "Carmen" up here in the Northeast. HOKAY.. now the way this foursome would be feasible is 1. We've all talked about it at multiple points and are basically all DTF (down to gently caress); 2. We've all had experience with at least a 3some except for "Matty".. this would be his first multiperson sex experience but somehow I think it will be okay seeing how he's a guy; 3. "Carmen" is moving back home to Florida next week, and I'm graduating in like a month and am also moving to Florida after that to eat poo poo for a while before I get SRS about finding my first real job, etc. So, the logistics are all there. The consent and enthusiasm is pretty sound. The only question left now is kind of due to a few factors, such as inherent sexual preference, previous sexual histories, and general awkwardness: Should most or all of us be at least somewhat intoxicated when this experience actually goes down, at least for the first time? This could be either some liquor or weed or both, but obviously not enough to induce whiskey dick and/or for people to get too uncoordinated to keep their poo poo together. But the risk of that happening sort of seems to be worth it when you consider that this would be both mine and "Carmen"s first actual intercourse experience with a guy, coupled with this being "Matty"s first experience with sex that isn't 1-on-1, coupled with the overall incestual nature of our combined sexual histories.. aka potentially awkward (though honestly my previous experiences with threesomes have been surprisingly NOT awkward despite past histories with each person involved). But I'd like to hear what other people think, and would be particularly interested if anyone had an even slightly similar experience to share (I realize mine is somewhat rare since not that many people are down for foursomes to begin with, nevermind with all the varying sexualities thrown into the mix), so have at it, if you were brave enough to read all or even some of this! bluenowhere fucked around with this message at Nov 08, 2009 around 08:43 |
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| # ? Nov 20, 2009 23:28 |
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If you're all comfortable.. Just hang out together some night, see where it goes. If you want alcohol possibly, make it available. If it happens sober after youve all had a good time, it will likely be fine. If you all end up wanting to get drunk, that will also likely be fine. It's not a very complicated issue, so relax about it.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 08:45 |
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dr. blanky posted:It's not a very complicated issue, so relax about it. I'm actually not worried/stressed about it to most any extent- sorry if the fact that my post was lengthy/detailed led you to think otherwise. I guess I just wanted to fully articulate that I wasn't considering the use of alcohol during sex for the more typical reasons of performance anxiety or social lubricant with general hookups and whatnot. But I appreciate your input/encouragement nonetheless =]
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 08:54 |
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bluenowhere posted:I'm actually not worried/stressed about it to most any extent- sorry if the fact that my post was lengthy/detailed led you to think otherwise. I guess I just wanted to fully articulate that I wasn't considering the use of alcohol during sex for the more typical reasons of performance anxiety or social lubricant with general hookups and whatnot. But I appreciate your input/encouragement nonetheless =] After re-reading your post under this context, I get what you're trying to say a little better. In my experience, yes, alcohol, E, or another drug of the empathogenic sort will at the very least lessen the chance of awkwardness, and likely make it more fun for all, without hampering the experience. The key factor is the amount or drink/ drugs you'll partake in- too much could cause issues, like the ones you brought up. The risk of awkwardness or just not being comfortable enough to make it a good time will always be there in this type of situation. But, the risks created by alcohol in moderation are minor, and it could alleviate some of the aforementioned issues, so I would say go for it, it's more likely to help than hurt.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 09:07 |
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i would say to have alcohol available there if you guys decide you want to get your drink on, but it probably doesn't need to be a necessary part of the plan. as far as foursomes go, you guys probably have THE ideal situation; no one's in a relationship, everyone is familiar with one another, everyone is down. you have a good attitude about it, and although bad outcomes are always a possibility with this sort of thing, it sounds like it should be fine. drink if you decide you want to when you guys congregate, and if not, don't. it'll probably be awesome either way. edit: vvvvv plus, if you aren't feeling the hetero intercourse, there will still be plenty of other stuff / girls to do. Un-mode fucked around with this message at Nov 08, 2009 around 09:14 |
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Yeah, I'm personally pretty pumped about it since I've honestly always had a very difficult time picturing myself just being with a guy one-on-one, since the way I've thought about interacting with guys sexually is never anywhere as serious/emotionally-tinged as how it is with girls, so in that sense, having it be in a more "fun" and almost "activity"-like atmosphere seems like a much more ideal way to try it out than some ultra awkward hookup or date where I don't have anyone else to fall back on incase things get too weird. Haha. Plus the other incentive about this particular guy is that, at least, according to both of the other girls involved in this, he's pretty skilled with his hands, and also happens to be well endowed, so the other thing is that, if I'm gonna try it with any guy, it may as well be with one that's not fail at sex. edit- quote:if you aren't feeling the hetero intercourse, there will still be plenty of other stuff / girls to do. Haha yeah, exactly. The fact that there's two other girls there, both of whom I'd willingly have sex with, and HAVE already had sex with, definitely makes it much more appealing. Not to mention that the girl who's currently hooking up with him is perfectly fine with doing full-fledged hetero stuff with him (since she's dated a mix of guys and girls in the past, unlike me and the other girl), so worst comes to worst, we could sort of pair off if things got unappealing, plus that way he wouldn't feel left out and have it become some dykefest, lmao. bluenowhere fucked around with this message at Nov 08, 2009 around 09:25 |
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Wait. So this dude is getting a foursome with three girls, two of which are lesbians that have never done a guy? Man, gently caress that guy.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 09:26 |
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Samuel B posted:Wait. So this dude is getting a foursome with three girls, two of which are lesbians that have never done a guy? LMAO. Well, in his 'defense', it's actually kind of been an idea that the me & the two other girls had been toying with after we had a couple threesomes together, and then he just happened to bring it up around the same time, but in a more eating poo poo/not actually expecting it to happen kind of way, which is how it came to be a mutually agreed upon thing.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 09:35 |
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Samuel B posted:Wait. So this dude is getting a foursome with three girls, two of which are lesbians that have never done a guy? but also, consider chemical assistance for the guy if multiple girls are expecting to want a piece.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 11:55 |
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Yeah, I mean we're not realistically expecting him to be able to consistently participate in everything that's going on the whole time, since guys generally need at least some recovery time haha, so that's definitely another motivation towards the lack of sobriety. But I'm sure there'll be plenty of entertainment in the meantime between us three girls that'll get things going again pretty easily, rofl.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 12:04 |
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I don't think you should focus too much on the actual sex and just have a bunch of fun together that may, or may not, involve being naked. Whatever happens will happen and you're likely to have a great night if you don't try to plan it too much. I think that if you plan too much you'll have too many expectations and that can create nervousness. Most likely with the guy who might feel some pressure to perform, even if it's just out of pride. Just go with the flow and maybe have a drink or two just to get in that funny mood and lower any inhibitions/shy-ness a bit more. Even without actual sex you'd probably still have a real fun night with the four of you. As was said, you guys have an ideal situation for this so rock on.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 12:49 |
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Samuel B posted:Wait. So this dude is getting a foursome with three girls, two of which are lesbians that have never done a guy? Empty cheerleading posts are wrong, but seriously, this. I dunno what university you're all going to, but I think I need to take a second degree there.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 12:51 |
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It does seem like you all have a pretty healthy attitude towards this so having a few drinks and just going for it should be no biggie. All I can say is have fun! (But lay off the rofls and lmaos please).
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 12:53 |
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I have to know, is Matty some sort of demi-god of a man that can turn even 95% lebians into dripping wet knob-gobblers? Or is he just an average decent guy that happened to be in the right place at the right time for this? Also, I don't think many guys are going to try and put you off this idea, because they guy that stops another guy from having a foursome with 3 girls will probably get his dick removed for being a disgrace to the sex.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 13:18 |
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Having a joint/some booze/e around in this situation is a good idea but as long as you're going in to it clear on what you are hoping to get out of it and without putting too much pressure on the dude then you'll probably have a good time with or without additional chemicals. You don't all want to get so wasted that you're falling all over each other, but if the dude needs to mellow out a bit or you need some help steeling your nerves for your first time with a guy, then having something to smooth the way is smart. If you go with e or he drinks too much he might have a problem getting his junk to work right (though he probably won't mind), so be prepared for that. Also this thread is going to implode under the weight of jealous goon guys.
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Sure there's going to be a lot of "PHWOAAAAR SEXING UP MULTIPLE GIRLS AMIRITE LADS?" sentiment, but I don't think EVERY male is that way. Personally, I haven't ever had a threesome (or more) and never will even if the option is handed to me on a plate. It's not prudishness, just that sexual intimacy to me is all about one-on-one. Everybody I've known who has done it regretted it afterwards as it caused a whole heap of jealous, insecure emotions. The way the OP has described it, it seems like she's in the rare position where that fallout won't happen so more power to her.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 13:51 |
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gently caress. you.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 14:08 |
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howthedevil posted:The way the OP has described it, it seems like she's in the rare position where that fallout won't happen so more power to her. Well I'm still gonna wait for the inevitable fallout thread in a few weeks. Personally I'm hoping all 3 of them get pregnant.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 14:09 |
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This is really going to suck for Matty.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 14:42 |
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Mr. G posted:gently caress. you. Huh? Hazzardus posted:Personally I'm hoping all 3 of them get pregnant. I'm not going to lie - if that happens I'll be as :popcorn: as the next e/n poster.
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howthedevil posted:Sure there's going to be a lot of "PHWOAAAAR SEXING UP MULTIPLE GIRLS AMIRITE LADS?" sentiment, but I don't think EVERY male is that way. Good point, it's only every male that likes girls. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1C3_k7Egr8#t=2m26s
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RushingCraze posted:Good point, it's only every male that likes girls. Liking to sleep with one girl at a time means you don't like girls now? Who knew!?
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How fat are all of you? You're all, like, a million pounds right?
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 15:22 |
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My money is on that the 3 girls end up loving and Matty ends up jerky off...sucks to be him.
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ColKestrel posted:My money is on that the 3 girls end up loving and Matty ends up jerky off...sucks to be him. Poor Matty  Has no idea he's going to be refing this thing.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 16:59 |
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This could very well be the sexiest E/N thread ever.
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I have no advice for you until I hear a little more about this situation. Actually, a lot more would be better.
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ColKestrel posted:My money is on that the 3 girls end up loving and Matty ends up jerky off...sucks to be him. I dunno, I don't think most guys would call watching three lesbians go at it and jerking off 'sucking'.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 17:18 |
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if that was all you thought you were getting no, if you thought you were going to play pin the tail on the lesbian than yes it would be pretty blueballsing. Matty, my son, do this! For every guy who was cockblocked out of group sex, do this!
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 17:25 |
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This thread is hilarious. Oh you guys! I'd have a joint or some booze around to loosen things up, definitely. The only issue I see is that, if the dude himself is not used to sex with multiple partners he just needs to be aware of what could happen. Sometimes people go into it thinking "gently caress yeah it will be like porn" and then get super jealous that they're not the center of attention like they thought they'd be. But it sounds like he's a pretty chill guy so it's probably not a worry Also bluenowhere posted:not in a creepy militant butch dyke way where I think men are the enemy It's sad you should even have to qualify that. Also butch dykes are hot as gently caress and the world needs more of them as far as I'm concerned. There's just never enough. bluenowhere posted:without it resulting in butthurt as it does with many typical girls. "Typical" girls, lol.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 17:34 |
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Quote posted:How fat are all of you? My first thought was also "I wonder how much they all weigh."
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 17:47 |
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If you need anything to steel you up for the big event--be it shots of Jack or hits off a spleef or a dose of E--to get up the nerve to go through with this, it's a bad idea. You are involving good friends in something that has the potential to go very wrong if you don't have a clear head about it.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 17:51 |
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Thank you for explaining what DTF meant, I never knew!
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 17:54 |
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George F Dorn posted:Thank you for explaining what DTF meant, I never knew! doomed to fail.
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MA$E'S OLD CAR posted:doomed to fail. Donner Tastes Flesh.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 18:27 |
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Don't Try loving.
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howthedevil posted:Huh? Sorry it was a knee jerk reaction out of jealousy. I'm actually kind of bummed I know better now. To be young again
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 18:32 |
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Slide Rule posted:Don't Try loving. Don't Trust Frenchmen.
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| # ? Nov 08, 2009 18:34 |
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How is someone 95% gay?
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Grin and Tonic posted:How is someone 95% gay? as in their gay, but not opposed to having sex with a guy if such a situation occured?
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