Aquatic Giraffe posted:

Well that was, uh, informative?

We're well aware the separation will suck, we've been through something similar before and survived. Plus I grew up military so it's not like I'm going into this with no idea of what I'm getting into. If he was being stationed CONUS this would be a non issue and we'd get married next year and I'd pay to move myself, but moving to Japan is expensive and I am trying to not have to pay for it if I can. Right now it looks like he'll be there until 2017 regardless of marital status.


He got ahold of the personnel people at Kadena, and they suggest getting married beforehand. They have a ton of spouses move later because of kids' school years and crap and say it's a whole lot easier if we're married from the start. We're still not trusting anything anyone says until we get something in writing from someone who has authority in these matters and knows what the hell they're talking about.