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Can I just make a small point about rule five? I think we stress, with good reason, to not take it too far. But I think we may undervalue actually getting mad. Sometimes there's just nothing left to do, sometimes you just have to get mad before you can begin to move on. And sometimes you need to get mad directly at the other person in the relationship. Maybe I just underestimate how far people can go with it and/or how often that kind of behavior happens. But I don't want to tell someone that they should always turn the other cheek because the other person may deserve to be told off. That's just my little point, otherwise a great OP. But what was wrong with Luska's thread?
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| # ¿ Feb 4, 2011 08:32 |
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So I was just browsing Facebook when I saw one of my friends had posted about the Superbowl. Surprisingly to me two people liked her comment, including my ex who is now married. This is the first time I've seen her name, let alone her, since we broke up almost a year ago. I'm doing well, but it was a little bit of a stunner to look at. That's honestly been the last great hurdle to get over and it's just taking some time. But point of fact, at least the game has been really good! Edit- the original friend with the facebook status update is one of only a few common friends. None of us use Facebook very often so it's not a problem I have to worry about very often. SpitztheGreat fucked around with this message at Feb 7, 2011 around 03:15 |
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Le Pen posted:Uh oh You really should not be drinking if the situation is still that fresh and unstable. Get as far away from the internet as you can if you don't trust yourself to e-stalk her. And get her stuff to her pronto, that will make life a lot more simple. The faster you do all of this the faster you can move on.
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| # ¿ Feb 8, 2011 05:05 |
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VideoKid posted:Yikes You need to sever once and for all. I know it sucks but when you have that kind of overly complicated history you need to just make it simple and SEVER. You won't believe the kind of growth you will go through when you begin to move on with your life. Sure it sucks but it's worth it in the end. What you're doing to yourself right now is madness and it has a simple solution, SEVER. Honestly, some people in these threads need long, detailed answers about what they should do or where they should start. For you it's as "simple" as moving on.
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| # ¿ Feb 11, 2011 07:16 |
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The version of the rule that I heard was that it was: the length of your relationship/ Divide by half= Time until you're "over" your ex. I always thought that rule made a lot of sense, but it's brutal to people who have been in long term relationships. I can understand that if you were in a six month relationship that two or three months might work. And if you were in a year relationship then six months might make sense. But I don't think it works very well if you were in a relationship for years like I was. It's not really important, just a little variation of the rule that I had always gone by. I can say that it's taken me almost exactly a year to finally feel really good again after my break up (seven years with the same girl) and I know that I still have a little left to go. Now it's more the memory of the memory than the actual memory of her. All I probably need at this point is someone to come into my life and the cycle will be complete.
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| # ¿ Feb 22, 2011 06:56 |
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Christobevii3 posted:
How long did you guys date?
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| # ¿ Feb 28, 2011 05:09 |
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I just had an intense dream about my ex, and we broke up over a year ago! The whole dream consisted of her showing up at my house with some extremely bad idea. When I told her that the idea was bad/terrible she became super defensive and an argument ensued. Basically I was reminded, in a characature version, how bullheaded she could be when her mind was made up. I don't know what prompted this dream but I've getting better for months. I guess that's what happened when you date for seven years. 
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| # ¿ Apr 22, 2011 12:31 |
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bonnemenagere posted:I've really started to feel overwhelmed by my new relationship. Stay single if this is how you feel, you'll be happy you did. Being single and casually dating can be very rewarding as you'll discover a ton about yourself. If you're already feeling overwhelmed by the new relationship then I would be worried that you're getting off on the wrong foot. Take it slow and don't rush anything.
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