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Thanks all. Trans-Angeles, that's actually a good approach. I've used similar methods to gee myself up in other areas of my life, and although it can seem a bit silly it really can help pump you up for something. Tank-Sledgehammer, that is also a good plan. I like it. Agreed with those saying most girls won't be put off by that situation if it's just an occasional issue. It happens. To be honest I could sense this girl was a little nervous too, she wanted to do it but she was a bit shy in what she would say or do. So I am sure she understands. She had a smile on her face as we went to sleep so that's a good sign 
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DNQ posted:Thanks all. I've been having awesome sex with the same man for 10 years. Sometimes he still gets worked up and nervous and I find it adorable. Sometimes he still gets worked up and 'overly exciteable' and I find it adorable. Sooo pretty much if you're an awesome guy that treats your woman good and has good communication skills.... we find almost any sexual situation 'adorable'. edit: You know what? I was just reading this reply to him telling him how adorable I think he is and while doing so he accidentally let loose a fart. We laughed like a couple of 5 year olds. And it's *adorable*. SilverSliver fucked around with this message at Jun 25, 2011 around 08:04 |
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swagger like us posted:dick trouble I think I've said this before, but take a bath or a shower together. I'd be willing to bet money that your issue is with being naked with another person. A hot shower together can be incredibly sexy like you wouldn't believe. Give that a try! A bath is good, but is more relaxing, I found. Either one should help lower your nervousness.
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SilverSliver posted:I've been having awesome sex with the same man for 10 years. Sometimes he still gets worked up and nervous and I find it adorable. Sometimes he still gets worked up and 'overly exciteable' and I find it adorable. Sooo pretty much if you're an awesome guy that treats your woman good and has good communication skills.... we find almost any sexual situation 'adorable'. I feel like I just got diabetes.
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SilverSliver posted:That man is a saint.
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Zombie Zero posted:That man is a saint. For being with a female that is understanding with sexual mishaps that males have or for being able to giggle with said female when he lets one rip? SilverSliver fucked around with this message at Jun 26, 2011 around 08:54 |
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Update - payload successfully delivered. Had a few dramas but talked myself into making it work
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DNQ posted:Update - payload successfully delivered. How romantic
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FactsAreUseless posted:If people are interested I could do a write-up on anal masturbation, toys, and anal play for beginners. I think solo play is really the best way to learn about anal, especially if you plan on trying it with a partner. Sounds like something the thread would benefit from, you should go for it!
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So remember my advice about growing a beard to break a dry spell? Here's another tip for if you're living with a significant other and you haven't been getting it on for a little longer of a time span than you'd like! Wake up earlier on the weekends with the sole purpose of giving your partner a delightful thing to wake up to. I don't necessarily mean for you to go down on your partner in their sleep (thought that would work for some folks, I'm sure) but a little kissing and nuzzling and nipping helps. I'm still in an ongoing campaign to up the frequency of our copulation. This thread helps keep my head in the game so thanks all!
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What are good sexual positions for someone with a penis that curves up and to the left. she says it doesn't hit her g-spot or whatever at all
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How curvy? Lay her on her back, and you on your right side so it points more upward. Her legs will be over your torso sort of. Also unless you're really weirdly built, her on top, leaning all the way forward onto you should help. She can get her clit on your pubic bone and grind away. At that angle some part of you will get her g-spot as well.
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legsarerequired posted:Honestly, I think any experienced and mature woman knows that it just happens from time to time. I don't think there's any need to act like it's a big deal, or even apologize, really. You probably should explain that you're just having an off day so she knows it isn't her, but otherwise I don't think it's anything to stress about.
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Here4DaGangBang posted:Sounds like something the thread would benefit from, you should go for it! So You Want To Try Anal Sex... an Anal Masturbation and Sex FAQ (Note: This turned out way longer than I expected. I am sure I will be forever known as the goon who wrote a several-thousand word post about anal sex, but years of having to explain it to my friends has left me with a wealth of information. In order to avoid writing “male-bodied” and “female-bodied” a lot, I’m using “man” and “woman” to refer to biological sex, not gender identity. I’m also assuming play with a single partner at a time. This is not meant to be mono- or hetero-normative, or reinforce any kind of gender binary. English is a very limited language when it comes to gender and sexual identity, and there’s only so long I’m willing to wrestle with it.) Q: My partner(s) and I want to try anal sex, as per the title of this post! Or I want to try anal play solo! As a hypothetical entity, I have some identity confusion. Anyway: Where do I start? A: Anal sex can be a lot of fun, but it presents some challenges for first-timers. There are a lot of things to consider in terms of positions, lubrication, etc. I think, though, that the key to good anal sex is knowing your own body and knowing what you like. To this end, I recommend anal masturbation. Q: Anal masturbation? You can do that? A: You certainly can! It's simple: put your finger in your butt! Okay. Maybe it's a bit more complicated than that. There are also a number of important safety considerations we will go over below. There are several advantages to starting with solo anal play. First, it's safer, as you're in total control of the situation. It allows you to relax and enjoy the sensations, and helps you learn your own body and reactions. This means a more pleasurable experience when you try it with a partner. And it helps with those first-time jitters, and ensures that any embarrassing incidents will happen on your own. Q: I want to try or already enjoy anal play. Am I weird or gay or French or something? A: Lots of people enjoy anal sex. You're perfectly normal. I've seen estimates as high as the mid-70 percent in terms of heterosexual men who enjoy anal stimulation. If it feels good, do it, and do it to yourself enthusiastically and often. Q: Can I hurt myself by having anal sex? It's unlikely, but yes. Safety is an important part of anal sex. But being careful, using some common sense, and getting to know your body can minimize the risk. Important safety note! It is possible to spread STDs through anal sex. And anal sex also spreads other bacteria. Never go from anal contact to vaginal without changing gloves/condoms first. Always wear a condom during anal intercourse. Q: Isn't anal sex dirty? A: Not really. The rectum, the first few inches of the colon inside the anus, doesn't hold feces. Your body pushes that all out. But, in anal play as in life, poo poo happens. You're going to run into it. Probably not a lot, but it exists in that general area. Take a shower and wash up before-hand. Know your digestive cycles, and try increasing the fiber in your diet. Tragically, you can't have anal sex whenever you want, thanks to our friend the digestive system. But if you're in the mood and things aren't in pristine condition, enemas or anal douches can be helpful. Q: The man feeding me questions wants me to ask this: Do you have any important tips on enema use? A: Funny you should ask! As a matter of fact, I do. Don't ever wash with soap inside the anus or rectum. It will wash away the delicate mucous membrane protecting your rectum. It also stings like hell, so you probably won't make that mistake more than once. Only use clean, lukewarm water. Check the temperature carefully. Nobody wants a scalded rear end. (And then double-check. Personal experience.) Make sure your enema has a smooth, flexible tip. Don't use anything but a medical enema. Get an enema bottle at your local drug store, dump out the liquid inside (it contains some chemical laxatives you probably don't want if you're trying to get cleaned out) and refill it with lukewarm water. I have yet to find an enema or anal douche from a sex store that I would consider safe: most are either too large (you don't need that much liquid), have rigid tips or rough edges (an anal no-no), or are too heavy in the suction (which can tear the delicate lining of the rectum). Important Do not try any sort of anal play for 1-2 hours (recommendations vary) after using an enema. Even without soap, the enema will wear away the mucous lining of the rectum, and you want that to recover first. Q: Okay, I'm cleaned up and ready to go. What next? A: First, check your nails. Are they very short and smooth, with no hangnails or rough edges? If not (or if you just want to stay clean), get some gloves. I prefer doctor's gloves, in either powder-free latex or nitrile. You're going to want them to be skintight and smooth. Tight gloves means a more comfortable experience, as well as allowing you to get a feel for the situation. Once your hands are in good shape, pick some lubricant. I prefer a water-based lube for ease of cleanup, but silicone is extra-slippery. Note that silicone lubes aren't condom-safe and will damage silicone sex toys. You'll want a thicker lube for anal use than vaginal, so go for viscosity. I like Maximus, but try a lube sampler and experiment with a few different styles until you find the one you like. Aloe vera gel has the viscosity to be a nice lube only if it contains just aloe, water, and glycerin (many lubes contain glycerin) and no colorings, fragrances, sunblock, and absolutely no alcohol whatsoever. Q: I have gloves and lube, I guess I'm ready to start touching my butt. But I don't have any idea where to start! A: First, relax. Find a position that's comfortable for you and allows you access to your rear end, and begin masturbating as you would normally. Lying on your back with your legs lifted and spread is a good way to start. Get very turned on. Arousal causes more blood to flow to the anus, helping you to relax and increasing sensitivity. Once you feel sufficiently turned on (some women like to orgasm first, I don't recommend this for men thanks to the ever-helpful male refractory period, but your orgasm patterns may vary), take one finger and begin massaging around the anus. Get used to the sensations, and look for any sensitive spots or anything that feels good. The anus is very sensitive on the outside, so don't be afraid to put some pressure on that tight ring of muscles. It will also help them relax. Men might enjoy putting some pressure just above the anus and below the scrotum, since it's possible to stimulate the prostate from there (I've never had any luck with it, so don't worry if you don't notice anything). Once you've gotten used to the sensations, lubricate your finger and push the first knuckle into your anus. Let it rest there until you adjust to having something inside you. Try turning it gently and touching the inside of your anus. Again, explore for anything that feels good or sensitive places. Once you're ready, apply my lube if necessary and push in the next two knuckles. Now you can start exploring your rectum, which is not a very sexy sentence. But it is important! Try anything that feels good: thrusting, turning your finger, applying pressure to various points. For men, curve your finger up and in a few inches, searching for a walnut-sized raised spot. You'll know when you've found it. Some women are also able to stimulate their g-spots from anal play, by curving their finger in a similar way. Also try thrusting your finger in and out. This will adjust you to the sensations of anal sex, and many people enjoy that kind of penetrative stimulation. If you feel comfortable or want more inside you, lubricate and slowly add a second finger. Stretching the anus can be very pleasurable (hence the existence of butt plugs), so don't be afraid to try it. But it may take you a few sessions before you can, so don't rush in to anything. You may be able to orgasm from anal stimulation alone, or you may want to keep touching yourself elsewhere. Concentrate on your rear end for a bit, then bring yourself off however you want. Keep your finger in your anus when you orgasm for greater intensity and sensation. Q: Wow! That was fantastic! I had an orgasm, but didn't ejaculate/it felt different from a regular orgasm. What's the deal with that? A: Anal sex stimulates very different nerve endings than genital stimulation, and this means a different sort of orgasm. For women this can mean all sorts of sensations, and for men it can mean orgasm without ejaculation, or even multiple orgasms (not that I'm bragging.) Q: Ouch! That hurt! What did I do wrong? A: Safety is very important in anal sex. The anus and rectum are extremely sensitive, and the rectal lining can be (relatively) easily torn. This doesn't mean you have to be afraid, but it does mean that you have to be careful. And that means no pain! If anything hurts, immediately stop. Note that pain is different from the momentary pressure or slight discomfort of initial penetration. Your body knows when something's wrong. If you're being stretched too much, relax. Your rear end is naturally stretchy, and can accommodate a lot of different sizes. But it takes some practice, and you need to be relaxed. Only use toys that are comfortable, and don't try to rush yourself. If your partner is painfully large, it may take a long time before you can comfortably have sex with them. You may also be more relaxed if you allow your partner to pleasure you anally in ways other than anal intercourse. If there's too much friction, slow down and add more lube. Water-based lubes need to be reapplied regularly. Not that friction is always a bad thing: there's a reason they make textured toys. Make sure that your nails are clipped or you're wearing gloves in order to avoid scratching yourself. Q: Oh no! There's blood! What do I do what do I do what do I do? A: First, calm down. Stop whatever you're doing. Blood means you've scratched or torn the rectal lining, but don't rush to the hospital yet. If there's only a small amount of blood (a few specks or spots), wash carefully, keep an eye on yourself, and don't try anything anal that night. You'll recover, just be gentler next time. (I'm serious about the fingernails, too.) If there's a lot of blood or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Q: I enjoyed play with my fingers but I’d like something more. What other options are available to me? A: There are a number of anal toys in a wide variety of interesting designs available! But first, more safety notes! Never use anything other than toys specifically designed for anal use. All toys should be made of jelly, silicone, stainless steel, polished wood, or acrylic “glass” (don’t use real glass, the Pyrex-style acrylic is much safer) have no rough edges, and have flared bases or handles or they are not safe to use. You don’t want to use anything that could become lodged in the rectum. There are vibrating and non-vibrating anal toys. Experiment with both and see which you prefer. I recommend getting a few affordable toys in different styles to see which you like best. Manly macho men who don’t want something sparkly in their butts should General anal toy designs are: - Probes, wands, and dildos. These are long toys in various shapes and textures for penetrative stimulation. I think they’re the best for an active, hands-on experience. Make sure any dildos you use have flared bases. Many dildos and vibrators designed for vaginal use are not safe for anal use. Many probes or dildos will also be built to allow an O-ring to fit around them, so that they can be attached to strapon harnesses. I’m particularly fond of the Silk and the Ripple. The same company that makes the Silk and Ripple also makes the sparkly glow-in-the-dark Vamp if you want the realistic Twilight experience. (Sadly, they have removed the hilarious recommendation to refrigerate it for extra realism.) - Butt plugs. Shorter than the probes or wands, and generally without handles, butt plugs are usually roughly cone-shaped, then narrow before flaring out at the base. They’re designed to go in and stay put, to provide pressure and stimulation while you do something else. (Try putting one on before you do the housework.) You can generally keep these in for a while, but they don’t provide the intensity of stimulation that a probe will. Start small: taking home your new plug and discovering it’s too wide to use is very frustrating. They come in a wide variety of materials, shapes, and sizes. - Anal beads. Anal beads are a strange sort of toy. Generally made of silicone or jelly “beads” molded around a “string,” they provide an intense and unique penetrative feeling when being put in or removed. These are a lot of fun for partner play, since you have so many options when using them. Never buy anal beads on an actual string, and make sure they are strong and flexible. You don’t want them breaking. I recommend the X-10 Anal Beads for beginners, which are small, graduated, and made out of hardened jelly (not plastic as the URL indicates, I double-checked when I bought my own). Those who really like beads and want something a bit more intense can try the X-10 Extreme which is, again, made of jelly, not plastic. (This is why I don’t buy anything from AdamEve, but Babeland doesn’t have them and I wanted to show examples.) Women may enjoy the Hummingbird, which combines anal beads, a small dildo, and a clitoral stimulator. (I know nothing about Eden Fantasies and am not endorsing them. Any other goons who have done business with them, tell me if they’re any good.) - Prostate stimulators. For men there are a number of interestingly angled vibrators and plugs for specifically prostate stimulation. I’m not a fan of these. I don’t like vibrators, but additionally I don’t think one should concentrate solely on the prostate. There are a lot of very sensitive nerve endings in that whole area. But if just prostate stimulation is what you’re looking for, try the highly-reviewed Aneros. I assume. Not a recommendation from personal experience. - Your fingers. Seriously. They can move in ways that toys can’t, and really allow you to find out what makes you feel good. Especially the first few times you play, stick to your fingers. Q: Wow, there’s a lot of options available when it comes to solo anal play! But my partner wants to get in on the action, too. Where do we start? A: Now that (hopefully both of) you have experimented with anal play and decided that you liked it, it’s time to get your partner involved. Make anal stimulation part of your normal foreplay and oral sex. Encourage your partner to pleasure the outside of your anus with tongue and fingers. Try mixing anal stimulation in with other activities. Let your partner watch you pleasure yourself anally to get an idea for what you like. Share your toys (but always use a condom or sterilize them between uses, to avoid spreading germs), and try the new uses for them available with a partner. Remember that simulating the prostate may lead to orgasm, so if you’re trying to avoid that then don’t concentrate too heavily there. Q: That was fun, but I’d like to try anal intercourse with a penis or strapon toy! A: Anal sex is much like anal masturbation. Go slow, use a lot of lube, explore and experiment with what feels good. First, find a comfortable position. Having the receiving partner on their back can mean awkward penetration, but can be more intense. Having the receiving partner on their knees can be an easier position, but note that anal penetration happens at a different angle than vaginal penetration, more downward than perpendicular. Once both partners are aroused and you’re ready to start, put a condom on the toy or penis and then lubricate it. Make sure the receiving partner is well-lubricated and relaxed. I recommend starting with some other anal play before intercourse. Place the head of the toy at the anal entrance, and apply slight pressure. The receiving partner should push back out, relaxing their muscles as if they’re going to the bathroom. Make sure the receiving partner is always in control. Communication is important. Continue to enter them gently until you are penetrating them to the angle and degree they want. From here, it’s similar to vaginal intercourse. Let the receiving partner choose the pace and rhythm, and start slow. You can go to a fairly fast and hard rhythm without too much risk as long as you are well-lubricated and communicating. Q: That was very helpful advice for a wide variety of situations! Thanks, internet stranger! A: That’s not a question, but you’re welcome.
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That's a very good post, thanks. I have one question. When you talked about anal masturbation for men, you said that it was easy to tell when you found the prostate. Is that just because of the sensation you'd feel, or is it easy for someone else fingering you to tell too? I am never sure if I've found it. 
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One of the biggest roadblocks that we have run into is moving from a small to a medium size. One of the best pieces of advice I found was when using your fingers, when ready to move to two fingers, instead of just trying to put them in, put them together and cross them. Its a lot easier and eventually things stretch out where you can un-cross and move along from there. E: Figured I should also plug Babeland since its in your post too. I really, REALLY like them. Their babelube is affordable and pretty decent quality, and while they might not have as huge a selection of toys as other big online shops, I find that they pay careful attention to the materials used, as well as the general quality. Myrmidongs fucked around with this message at Jun 27, 2011 around 17:01 |
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Ojo posted:That's a very good post, thanks. Myrmidongs posted:One of the biggest roadblocks that we have run into is moving from a small to a medium size. One of the best pieces of advice I found was when using your fingers, when ready to move to two fingers, instead of just trying to put them in, put them together and cross them. Its a lot easier and eventually things stretch out where you can un-cross and move along from there. Edit: I'm also a huge Babeland fan. If you have one in your city, go! They are super friendly and helpful. FactsAreUseless fucked around with this message at Jun 27, 2011 around 20:52 |
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Sorry to doublepost, but I was wondering if anyone has tried Fun Factory's Wanda. I really like the look of this design but good silicone toys are expensive, so I'd like to hear if it's any good before I pick one up. Recommendations?
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Anyone have a recommendation for a good vibrator for me to buy for my girlfriend? She's never used one before but expressed some interest. I've never made her orgasm before which is starting to discourage me. I've tried oral, fingering, and sex and while sometimes I feel like I've gotten her very close, it never happens. I'm looking for a good vibrator that will help! She seems to like g-spot stimulation as well as clitoral, and has a strong urge to squirt (hasn't before though). My only real specification is that it needs to be quiet (I live with my parents and my room is right next to theirs). Any suggestions of a type to get, or a good brand I can look at? I can't spend too much money, around $50 but if it's really worth it I could go as high as a hundred. I thought about a rabbit vibrator as they seem pretty heavy duty and I hear they get the job done, but I'll likely be using the vibrator on her most of the time. For that reason, I figure a rabbit might not be needed since I can use my fingers to finger her or rub her clit while using the vibrator. Are the cheap durex ones ($20 i think) worth it to just try out and see if she enjoys it, before spending more money? Or are they complete junk and not even worth my time? I'm not even sure if the batteries can be replaced on them, they might be disposable or something. The package was vague and unclear. I've tried asking her but she's not very helpful. She doesn't masturbate and doesn't give me much of an answer when I ask which kinds she's interested in. I think she genuinely doesn't know, and just wants to experiment. I realize it's a broad question, but I don't know where to start. I'm worried I'll either buy something that's complete junk, or I'll spend a load of money on something that she doesn't enjoy. One final question - anyone used vibrating rings before? What are they exactly - is it a ring that goes around the base of your penis and vibrates during sex, or are they built into a condom? Are they pleasurable or just a stupid gimmick? She pointed one out in a drug store before so I'm considering buying one (some? I think they're disposable). MoosetheMooche fucked around with this message at Jul 4, 2011 around 04:59 |
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MoosetheMooche posted:
It's great that you are willing to do this for your girl. Don't feel bad if she is not getting off. Especially since she is not masturbating. First off, she really needs to be masturbating. Not only will it help her decide what she wants in a vibe, it will help her with the orgasming thing. If she can figure out how to get herself off, she can then tell (or show) you what to do. Don't get her a rabbit just yet. Just like vaginas, they come in all shapes and sizes and it can be hard to get one that will "fit" her and hit all the places it's supposed to at the same time. Also, those are a little more advanced anyway. Now, having said that, the best beginner vibe, I think, is just a simple bullet. It's made for clitoral stimulation and they work great. They come in different sizes, but you could get different ones on Amazon for cheap. I had one of these a few years ago. It worked well enough, lots of power, though I ultimately decided it was a bit too small to hit my clitoris quite the way I wanted. I haven't personally tried this one but it is a more average size. I want to try this one, I might get it next payday  It would be less than $20 to get those three, and gives you some different ones to try. As for the vibrating rings, its a cock ring (a stretchy ring that goes around the base of your penis, trapping blood and making your erection thicker and making you last somewhat longer) with a bullet vibe built into it. It's intended to hit her clitoris while you penetrate her. I've not personally tried them but they have a good rep.
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Hey, thanks a lot for the tips and the quick response. I'm surprised at how cheap those are, awesome. It means I'll be able to try out a few to see if she enjoys it. Also, I'm going to try to get her to start masturbating! I don't really want to order online since I live at home and my dad has a habit of opening my mail (extremely annoying). However I'm sure I can find that type in a shop, they're very common right? Are they usually pretty quiet? I want to be able to use it with my parents a room or two away, ideally. Although I can always just play some music to drown it out, I suppose. The vibrating ring sounds cool but I'm not sure I'd like to have the blood trapped. I already have a thick base so sometimes crappy condoms cut off the blood flow, and I don't like the feeling. I have a problem with taking a long time to come (too much masturbating, which I'm trying to cut down on). Maybe I'll give it a try anyway, to see if she likes it. If anyone else wants to chime in with some suggestions, I'd really appreciate it! e: Also, unrelated question. Do you guys think it would be a sexy gift for me to take my girl out to a fancy lingerie store and pick something together that we both think is hot? I got her lingerie before, but I picked it myself. This time I'm thinking maybe we could both choose so that she's really happy with it. I felt awkward in the store by myself as a young male and also wasn't sure what she would find comfortable or not (ended up getting her boyshorts cuz I think they're hot but it turned out she prefers thongs). Would it take away the sexiness of the present if she came with me and helped decide, do you think? It's for our anniversary, and I also got her a non sex related gift. MoosetheMooche fucked around with this message at Jul 4, 2011 around 05:28 |
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MoosetheMooche posted:Your dad opens your mail? Lame. Could you not send them to her house? You could just tell her you order her some toys and to watch for them. You could prolly pick those up in a local store, just be aware they won't be as cheap, but still probably under $50. Amazon is just super cheap for that stuff. For that matter, you could get an ok bullet from spencer's if there is one near you. They sell a few other vibes too. They are very common. They aren't like, silent, but they don't sound like a jet engine. With your door closed and music or tv on it should be fine. Do some research on your own about cock rings. I may not have explained it very well. I don't have a penis, after all. My FWB loves his, hahaha. You might find you like it, or that she does. You could take her lingerie shopping, or get her a giftcard to a nice place, either way.
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MoosetheMooche posted:Anyone have a recommendation for a good vibrator for me to buy for my girlfriend? She's never used one before but expressed some interest. I've never made her orgasm before which is starting to discourage me. I've tried oral, fingering, and sex and while sometimes I feel like I've gotten her very close, it never happens. I'm looking for a good vibrator that will help! She seems to like g-spot stimulation as well as clitoral, and has a strong urge to squirt (hasn't before though). I know you weren't asking about this, but I have some personal experience here, and think I might be able to help. You say she has an urge to squirt, but hasn't before, and also hasn't had an orgasm before. I think these things might be related. I remember, when I first started playing around (with myself), I didn't orgasm for a long time. Then one day, out of the blue, I kinda did and I squirted. It was a bit of a shock to me, but I then knew what got me off. If she wants to squirt, but is stopping herself because she thinks it's pee, or just finds it a bit ikky (very possible - I did for a time), then that will also be stopping her from having an orgasm. Just lay down a towel before having sexy times, and tell her to relax, it's not a problem. I think the two will come hand in hand! As for vibes, the other posters hit it pretty well. I recommend this one from personal experience. It's a bit stronger than your average bullet, but it's a lovely shape and a good size (imo) Good luck getting your girl to orgasm, enjoy the squirting!!! (I know my man does). And have fun! 
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She always gets a strong urge to pee, just as I feel like I'm getting her very close. But the thing is, she seems to dislike it and insists that she genuinely needs to urinate. She's read up on it and knows that that's what squirting/orgasming can feel like, but she still can't get over that feeling. I even told her she could squirt all over me and I wouldn't mind, so I'm not sure how I can make her more comfortable with it and finally let go. The towel is a good idea, maybe that will help her relax. Any suggestions on how to get her over the edge from feeling a strong needing to pee sensation to actually squirting? Being a guy, it's hard for me to know what to do when she gets really worked up like this. I usually try to get more intense when she's feeling like that, but she stops me from over-stimulation and uncomfortable feelings before she squirts or orgasms. Likewise with a clitoral orgasm, I can work her up until the verge of orgasming but then she gets ultra sensitive and pushes my hands off her even if I rub extremely lightly. I always have her on the verge for a long time until she feels uncomfortable from the sensation being so strong. I really hope I can make her do it, it would be a HUGE turn on for me. Cool looking vibe too, I like that it's battery operated and doesn't have a bulky controller attached to it. e: A question about condoms: anyone have tips for someone who has trouble rolling it down properly? I'm not sure if it's because I have a thick penis or what, but most condoms don't roll down my penis. They get stuck like halfway down and the only way I can get it to go down is if I pull the condom up a little and roll down at the same time, which makes it so there's excess condom hanging off my penis. The only condom I found which doesn't do this is durex pleasuremax, which has studs and ribs and is more expensive because of that. It rolls down easily. Other condoms with the same nominal width give the same problem. I've noticed pleasuremax is a little thicker which maybe is the reason why it rolls better? I'm not sure. Pleasuremax has a wider head than base, but I tried Durex Ultra Sensitive which I believe has the same measurements, and while it was close, it's sometimes hard to roll down properly. This seems to be a bizarre problem that nobody else has. The ring part gets tangled on itself or something. And yes, I'm sure I'm putting it on the right way. Maybe the issue is that my penis is wider than average but shorter than most condom lengths (I think nominal width of 56mm as this is what pleasuremax is, and I'm about 6 inches). Since most condoms are longer than 6 inches maybe the ring part is thicker/tighter and won't roll down right? It's making me self conscious as I sometimes waste condoms as they just simply won't roll down and I have to try again. It's very hard to find info about this online as every site gives different measurements for condoms, and the brand site (Durex) doesn't even have measurements, except for nominal width. I'm thinking of trying Crown Skinless skin condoms as they have a pretty large width. They don't have extra headroom though, and the length is bigger than my size. Is it bad to have a condom too long, or just bad to have one too wide? If it's too long I can just not unroll it all the way, which should still be safe, right? As long as I'm able to unroll it properly without sliding it up like I sometimes need to do. sorry for long rambling post I can't sleep tonight, thanks in advance for any help!!! MoosetheMooche fucked around with this message at Jul 4, 2011 around 07:20 |
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MoosetheMooche posted:condoms I had a very similar and frustrating problem- putting on condoms was uncomfortable and awkward. I had a difficult time getting them rolled down, and more than once it took long enough that I just lost wood, which of course made me feel self-conscious and would just kill the mood. I had always had this issue so naturally I just assumed "Well this is obviously why guys hate condoms so much I mean, god drat." but as it turns out all I needed to do was buy a pack of magnums and problem solved. They fit much, much more comfortably and while I'm no John Holmes by any stretch of the imagination, I've never had a problem with them being too loose. Plus you get to wear that great face (  ) when you're at the grocery store checkout with them.
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Hmm, maybe I'll give that a try. My concern is that the length will be too long though, would that be an issue? Since it'll just stop unrolling I can't see that being a problem but I'm not all that knowledgeable about this topic.
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| # ? Jul 4, 2011 18:09 |
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MoosetheMooche posted:Hmm, maybe I'll give that a try. My concern is that the length will be too long though, would that be an issue? Since it'll just stop unrolling I can't see that being a problem but I'm not all that knowledgeable about this topic. Magnums are wider, not longer. You'll be fine.
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| # ? Jul 4, 2011 18:31 |
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MoosetheMooche posted:Hmm, maybe I'll give that a try. My concern is that the length will be too long though, would that be an issue? Since it'll just stop unrolling I can't see that being a problem but I'm not all that knowledgeable about this topic. There isn't really such a thing as a condom too long. Most condoms are longer than the average erection. They're versatile in that you can unroll exactly how much you need with no hassle, so don't sweat it
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This is pretty tangential to your actual question, but I think it might be part of the answer. Your issue is that she can't relax enough to come, right? But at the same time you're really concerned about noise, even just a vibrator's noise, since you're right next to your parents' room. I think getting her somewhere she can actually relax could make a bigger difference than the type of toy. If half your concentration is on staying totally silent, and you're super busy worrying about that, then it's not surprising if you can't let go enough to come.
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Anne Whateley posted:This is pretty tangential to your actual question, but I think it might be part of the answer. Your issue is that she can't relax enough to come, right? But at the same time you're really concerned about noise, even just a vibrator's noise, since you're right next to your parents' room. I think getting her somewhere she can actually relax could make a bigger difference than the type of toy. If half your concentration is on staying totally silent, and you're super busy worrying about that, then it's not surprising if you can't let go enough to come. This is exactly why my housemate and I have a 'loud sex is fine' way of living. You need to be able to relax to have good sex, full stop.
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My refractory period is pretty high (like 4 or 5 hours). Any chance on getting that to shorten up? I used to be really really overweight but in the last year I've lost like 120 lbs and can bench more than I weigh now ,eat right, work out twice a day, etc. I'm male and 26.
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I'm curious. I was talking to someone who mentioned that he's going to be getting off a medication he's been on for almost a decade and as a result, he's expecting his penis size to get bigger. I don't remember the name of the medication, but is this even possible?
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Lackadaisical posted:I'm curious. I was talking to someone who mentioned that he's going to be getting off a medication he's been on for almost a decade and as a result, he's expecting his penis size to get bigger. I don't remember the name of the medication, but is this even possible?
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Orzo posted:if this were even remotely possible you'd see a huge spike in use of this medication and subsequent quitting I get the feeling it wasn't so much that he thinks quitting will make him bigger, but rather than being on them decreased his size.
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Lackadaisical posted:I get the feeling it wasn't so much that he thinks quitting will make him bigger, but rather than being on them decreased his size. Perhaps the medication was a vasoconstrictor? I don't know if that would actually decrease penis size but it would sort of make sense, at least in an erect state. Aren't most penis "enlargers" just vasodialators?
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MoosetheMooche posted:She always gets a strong urge to pee, just as I feel like I'm getting her very close. But the thing is, she seems to dislike it and insists that she genuinely needs to urinate. She's read up on it and knows that that's what squirting/orgasming can feel like, but she still can't get over that feeling Probably hard since you said you live with family, but when you get some alone time, one piece of advice I've heard about this to get over that mental block is to do the deed in the bathtub. You can let her know that whether she squirts or actually does pee, you don't care either way, and it also makes for really easy cleanup. Also vibrator advice, maybe she would like something such as this. It is basically a bullet on a stick. Easily used for the clit stimulation, and insertable for g-spot attempts. Yeah I mean an empty one. V Myrmidongs fucked around with this message at Jul 6, 2011 around 03:47 |
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Myrmidongs posted:Probably hard since you said you live with family, but when you get some alone time, one piece of advice I've heard about this to get over that mental block is to do the deed in the bathtub. You can let her know that whether she squirts or actually does pee, you don't care either way, and it also makes for really easy cleanup.
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If she's really that paranoid about it make a night of it and surprise her. Get a shower liner from the dollar store and put it underneath some sheets you don't care about. Mood lighting with some candles, nice bottle of wine, sexy music.... She'll have no good reason to not let go and a romantic evening that appeals to her female side letting her know you care about her comfort. Win/win! Side note: If your boyfriend states that 'sex while covered in lube would be sooo hot' and you go to the dollar store to get a shower curtain liner to place on the bed and a bottle of lube, be prepared for hilarity. Zip! *thud*
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Thanks for all the suggestions, everyone. I definitely agree that being around family can add some tension and make it not as fun as it could be. However we have had many times with just the two of us (I recently moved back home, used to be living on my own). Still didn't have any luck making her come. Also, I don't think she's afraid to make a mess or anything - I told her it would be a huge turn on for me. I think it's more a physical thing, she feels like she needs to pee and maybe it takes away from the pleasure for her? I'm not sure. I think something that I'm doing ends up making her feel weird rather than pleasured. Other times, she seems to have a lot of pleasure but I just can't get her to come. I'll be sweating and cramping up horribly from fingering so fast and deep for so long and she'll be at the same level as before. I know that she's started masturbating now which will hopefully only help the situation, cause she'll be able to tell me how I can do a better job. Plus, I'll try one of the vibrators you've all kindly suggested. Thanks! Also, we tried fooling around in a tub before (with water in it) and it was fun but only for a little foreplay, I don't think deep fingering or anything like that would be that pleasurable cuz of the friction and all. And I have to agree with the earlier poster that an empty tub sounds uncomfortable.. thanks for the suggestion anyway but I don't think the mess is what's holding her back. It's my first real sexual partner also so I'm not sure about my technique or anything. It's hard to tell what the problem is. We've been together almost a year though and I haven't made her come yet, which really frustrates me because she turns me on like no other. I don't want sex or fooling around to feel like a chore for her. Sometimes it seems like I'm the only one getting that much pleasure out of it. Also, thanks for the condom recommendations! Awesome thread. e: Anyone in Toronto know a good sex shop? She wants to take a look at some vibrators before buying if possible. The only one that isn't horribly sleazy and dirty that I know of would be condom shack, and I don't think they have a huge selection of vibrators. MoosetheMooche fucked around with this message at Jul 6, 2011 around 04:08 |
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My girlfriend and I are both virgins in our first real intimate relationship(we're 25 and 19) and we both wanted to go slow on getting intimate. We're up to handjobs and fingering now. My problem is that she has a rather...musky smell down there. Thanks to this thread I know that it's normal for ladybits to smell a bit odd. I can deal with it when it's just fingering and I can wash my hands afterwards, but I've put my head down there a couple times and it can be rather overpowering. Is there anything I can do about this? If it matters, both times we've done it were just a week/days before her normal period cycle - she had a hormonal IUD inserted about a month ago, partially because of us and partially because she has (had?) heavy periods.
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