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Effexxor
May 26, 2008



Has anyone thought about what to teach to their kids in temrs of sexual health? I haven't given birth yet and don't plan to till my wallet and my uterus are damned well ready, but I have a basic timeline set up mentally of what I'd want to tell.

Age 6: Explain that if someone touches your genitals, you should tell an adult immediately. If they say that you'll get introuble or that your parents will get in trouble, it isn't true and that you should tell us immediately.

Age 10: The basic anatomy, what a penis and vagina look like.

Age 12: Masturbation, and a more indepth description of anatomy, i.e. the clitoris and G spot. Explain what feels good, that it's normal and a very good thing, and to do it in your room alone.

Age 14: What actually happens during gay, lesbian and heterosexual intercourse, i.e. the actual practice of entering and how it all works. Explain anal sex, oral sex on male and female and fingering. Also say that I'd prefer that they wait until they're 19 and in a situation where they trust their partner. Explain how to keep from getting pressured into anything, and that everyone deserves pleasure during sex and that if your partner won't do that, it's time to get another one. Also, explain all forms of birth control, teach them how to put a condom on a banana and let them be aware that I will buy morning after pills and condoms no questions asked for them or their friends, and ask a girl if she'd like to get onto birth control.

Anyone else thought about this?

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Effexxor
May 26, 2008



That PP website is awesome. I did learn most of what I learned from scouring the internet for porn, I'll admit. The masturbation part is something I wish someone had told me about though, especially the clitoris and g spot part, being a female. I thought the only had to masturbate was through penetration for a long time, and my parents were very liberal. The best thing they probably did for my sexual health was enrolling me in Our Whole lives (http://www.uua.org/religiouseducati...icula/ourwhole/) the unitarian universalist sex education program. The two teachers I had were a gay man and a lesbian, and it was awesome. The main thing behind it is 'Abstinence is the best way to be safe, but not everyone will do it. So we're going to give you tools to have safe, happy consensual sex with the person you choose to have it with.' It was great, we learned about pressure and sexuality, and the Nebraska Aids Project came in to talk to us twice, to demonstrate how to put condoms on and to let us talk to someone who actually had Aids. At the end, we watched this series of 'tasteful' charcoal drawings from 'The Joy of Sex' of couples having sex, ranging from gay men to lesbians to straight couples. It was great, and it taught me a hell of a lot more than my high school, that spent 40 minutes on all birth control and then 40 minutes of a slide show of diseased genitals.

Effexxor
May 26, 2008



Quail Butter posted:

Hey goons,

I have a potentially awkward question: What exactly constitutes sexual assault? If, say, a partner was willing at first and things get weird, and they say "Slow down/stop/no", and the other keeps going, that's assault right?
If there's no physical evidence, how can it be proven?

I had the same kind of thing. My first real boyfriend was making out with me, then he started on my breasts and the whole time I was thinking 'It has to get better, if I just let it continue it'll feel good eventually' and it didn't. I've struggled alot with whether it was sexual assault or not because I let it happen, but finally I've gotten to the point where I feel that even if he didn't mean to do anything harmful, I felt that it was, and that's okay. I don't talk to him anymore and after that experience I broke it off, but I still have lingering feelings of disassociation during sex because of it. I can only suggest Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, so that you can recognise when you have those feelings of panic and how to deal with them. If you wanna talk more, my email is dulsinayae@gmail.com, feel free to email me if you want to talk about it.

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