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paulnewmanseyes posted:Problem is therapy rather presupposes the main problem, which is getting my head in order well enough to work out whether I need to freak out my girlfriend. But oh well. You're a perfect candidate for some quality therapy. Start looking in your area. You'll be glad you did!
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Went to my new therapist who specializes in gender stuff. It went well, she is a bit aggressive for my taste but that could be a good thing. Asked why I haven't taken more steps to do things like cross dress or present more feminine and got into my fears about that. Gave me a list of things I am to do before our next session which will push me to start taking action. I am to go shopping for girl clothes and do 3 things for myself and no one else. I was pleasantly surprised how positive and reassuring she was. 
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Raskolnikov posted:Yup. Campus healthcare can be pretty awesome. I think this is what I am going to do, schedule something with them tomorrow. All I want them to help with right now is why I out of nowhere had these thoughts and whether it is actually something or if it'll pass  e: Because that came out wrong, I'm OK if its something I want, its the not knowing that bugs me.
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I heard a funny little quip today on my mail run. A mother explaining to her daughter: 'Look girl, once upon a time postmen were boys, but that has changed now!' I didn't have the heart to explain how right she was, but I've been giggling about it all day.
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Anyone else here read Matt Kailey's stuff at tranifesto.com? I really enjoyed today's post on trans attraction. Ask Matt: The Problem of ‘Attracted to Trans’ on Dating Sites He talks about the difference between attraction and fetishization, etc. SOME of the reader comments were pretty good too.   Karma Monkey fucked around with this message at Aug 2, 2012 around 18:45 |
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Karma Monkey posted:Anyone else here read Matt Kailey's stuff at tranifesto.com? I really enjoyed today's post on trans attraction. The comments talk about "is it just a genital thing?" I think it can be just a genital thing to the people who aren't the one transitioning / transitioned, but to the transsexual, reducing it to a "genital thing" is pretty offensive. IMHO.
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Aleph Null posted:The comments talk about "is it just a genital thing?" Not all the comments are like that. Guess I didn't read enough of them. Oh well. Did you at least like Matt's post?
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Karma Monkey posted:Not all the comments are like that. Guess I didn't read enough of them. Oh well. I liked it all. Even the comments about genitals were thoughtfully written. The point of the post seemed to be "'trans' is just a descriptor like 'blond' or 'tall'" and that if someone says that he or she prefers dating trans people that does not mean that they are trying to fetishise trans people; it just means that the person like trans people for some reason. The comments brought up that maybe it's because, as long as you have your birth penis or vagina, you are still seen as really being mostly that sex to other people. So when someone who is normally a lesbian says she is attracted to trans men, perhaps it is because a trans man still has a vagina or something. My point is that, while that may be true, it is totally not how I would expect an actual trans person to feel. You can fully transition and keep your birth junk for many, many reasons and not consider yourself "trans woman except for ol' penis". Some trans folks may feel like having SRS is essential but plenty of us don't. That's all. Heck, maybe I should comment like this on the site itself instead of just putting it here. I didn't think I could word it up enough to be worth it.
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Aleph Null posted:I liked it all. Even the comments about genitals were thoughtfully written. The reason I liked Matt's article is twofold and related. Firstly, a lot of trans folks seem to have a level of self loathing that convinces them that if anyone is attracted to them, especially cis people, that there must be something wrong with that person for liking them. As in "What kind of freak would be attracted to me?" That's just a horrible way of thinking about yourself and whomever's attacted to you. Secondly, there are people who are especially attracted to trans folks, and they feel weird/bad about it because they worry they might be perceived as one of those fetishizing/objectifying assholes. Maybe they are, but not necessarily. What Matt was saying was that it's ok to prefer trans and that people who do are not automatically creeps. I like that Matt brought up the analogy of trans being kinda like blonde, brainy, or some other quality. It's a starting point. It doesn't mean you like every trans person or blonde or brainiac, and it isn't the only thing you see or like about them. I could really relate to the article because I love trans folks. That is to say, of all the "types" of people there are, they are what attract me the most, for a variety of reasons. It doesn't mean I find all trans folks attractive, and them being trans isn't enough on its own. As for the genitals thing... I don't know. Since I don't really have a genital preference, that doesn't speak to me. I understand people having a preference for one or the other set of genitals, but I really don't think that's a factor for me. I guess it must be for a lot of folks.  My girlfriend and I wasted a lot of time and had a lot of needless worry because both of us were afraid to admit to the other who we were and what we wanted out of fear of rejection and all that. We laugh about it now because it was all so freaking obvious in hindsight, but drat, wish we could've skipped all that.  Who knows? Maybe Matt's article will prevent that for someone else.Dating can be such a minefield, particularly the online variety. Ugh. If I ever have to go back to that, I don't know what I'll do. 
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Karma Monkey posted:I like that Matt brought up the analogy of trans being kinda like blonde, brainy, or some other quality. It's a starting point. It doesn't mean you like every trans person or blonde or brainiac, and it isn't the only thing you see or like about them. An issue with this is it begs the question: what features do trans people share in common? All blond people share a physical feature and all intelligent people share a mental ability, but what is someone looking for if they "prefer" trans status? If we're going to try to characterize the largest number of trans people, it seems to indeed boil down to the shared issue of mismatched genitals and bodies. I think since many trans people have specific dysphoric feelings associated with their bodies or genitals, having someone dig that is likely to be problematic. You could maybe say, like Matt writes in the original article, that there's something about past experiences or socialization that trans people tend to have. While this kind of ignores the fact that you can be trans and not be socialized in your non-identified sex, again with at least some people you're going to have the same problem as with genital preferences: lots of people have specific negative associations with their sex socialization, and having someone prefer that is not great. Maybe the most defensible position would be to argue that trans people have some experience from "crossing sex and gender boundaries," but I still think that's questionable considering a) I'm not sure how likely it is that most trans people really have that much experience as opposed to just wanting to live their life in a way that is comfortable for them and b) it's kind of constructing a "magical trans" archetype in the same way that gender-studies scholars often do. Either way, for these and other reasons I would be wary about someone saying they prefer trans people, because it causes me to question what they think "being trans" is going to mean for me or anyone else. Helena P Blavatsky fucked around with this message at Aug 2, 2012 around 22:12 |
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Helena P Blavatsky posted:Either way, for these and other reasons I would be wary about someone saying they prefer trans people, because it causes me to question what they think "being trans" is going to mean for me or anyone else. Just like "being trans" is different for each person, I'm guessing this sort of preference has different reasons; I just fear that many of the reasons are things that a trans individual would find condescending or overly generalized. Edit: "trans" is not an aesthetic like short, tall, skinny, fat, blond, redhead. Would someone say, "I prefer diabetics" or "I prefer people who have had appendectomies?" If so, why? That's the question. Why would someone prefer a trans person with everything else being equal. Aleph Null fucked around with this message at Aug 2, 2012 around 22:20 |
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Helena P Blavatsky posted:Well, obviously, I can only speak for myself. And as I said before, trans is a starting point, and from there, I determine if there's more, or if we're incompatible, just like I would do with anyone else for friendship or romance. Trans people don't have anything universally in common except identity/body mismatch. But the qualities I like in a person are found more in that group than some other random group based on physical or mental traits. Part of what I like is that since I do not feel that my identity and body match, I want to be with someone who can understand or relate to it. I consider myself trans. Some agree, and some do not, mainly because I am not taking any medical steps to change my body. (Yet, anyway.) I enjoy a degree of gender fluidity and prefer partners that are the same. While not all trans folks are gender fluid, it is more prevalent than in the cis community. I did not specifically seek out trans partners to the exclusion of others, but it is a preference. It's a moot point now because I'm in a committed relationship and have found exactly what I want and need. I could tell you why she is specifically my ideal mate, but that wouldn't explain why other people are attracted to trans folks. I really don't care if people want to pathologize my preferences or the preferences of others. I just liked the article and thought it might be helpful to a few other people. VVV  All of those are examples of terrible people. I hope you told them to gently caress off. I think a big difference between affinity and fetish is that the former is attraction to simpatico mental and emotional qualities and the latter is just looking at the body parts. The person possessing the body parts is to them literally just a conveyance. I don't know how people can objectify someone that much and not be completed freaked out by their own creepiness. I can only assume they are greatly lacking in self awareness. 
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The issue I have run into (at least in my area is): Women see me as a feminine man, I don't want to be with a gay man and be thought of as being in a gay relationship, and any straight men I've met just see me as an object to satisfy their fetish. I literally got a message once on okcupid that said "So like, do you have boobs and a dick?" and another one (keep in mind I had never contacted this person once): "You seem pretty cool, unfortunately I am looking for something long term let me know if you ever get the right parts" All I want to have is a relationship with a nice person who sees me as a human being and not just some fantasy or freak. edit: also there was the guy who, during our first im chat said "I've only ever been with real women" Behold! A Elk! fucked around with this message at Aug 2, 2012 around 23:54 |
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I think my favourite okc message before i closed it was something like "Oh wow, you look great, I totally can't tell! I could never have a serious relationship with a transsexual, but there are some things i'd like to try!". lol. God. gently caress online dating. Glad I fell into something cool in the real world so I no longer have to hear from these people.
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My OKC low-point was a message from a random straight guy, "You gay, not into that, you're game is wrong.". I told him he was wasting his time, he responded with "my mistake, thought you were a skirt. Bye.". That's something else. Also I have been getting swamped by straight guys now that I have a feminine profile picture. It's increased visitors to my page tenfold. I would be happy except they're mostly really creepy looking older straight men.
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onecooldan posted:Also I have been getting swamped by straight guys now that I have a feminine profile picture. It's increased visitors to my page tenfold. I would be happy except they're mostly really creepy looking older straight men. I thought "creepy looking older straight men" was the majority of who's on OKC.  Once in a while I hear a nice story of people hooking up for a real relationship through OKC, but it's rare. Mostly it's horror stories and casual sex. And casual sex horror stories. I don't know why it still blows my mind, but it does - no matter how many times I hear stories of the poo poo people say on dating sites, I'm still just stunned at how stupid and/or horrible people can be. 
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Karma Monkey posted:I thought "creepy looking older straight men" was the majority of who's on OKC. I've had really positive experiences from dates on OKC but nothing long-term. I have also had big disappointments. Take the good with the bad, as with everything in life. There's a huge community of Trans-positive people looking for dates, I can't bring myself to feel bad about the site.
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I've met a couple of really cool people on OKC that I have formed friendships with but no long term dating. Unfortunately most of the messages I get are from straight white old cis guys who are married and want to try something "different" behind their wife's back.
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Here's a question for y'all. I only ever hear "tranny" as an insult in my part of the UK (Bristol and Oxford), but am aware that in places such as London it is used self-referentially, as well as by cis queer people and transvestites. Now, because I only ever hear it as an insult, and I know that it is very hurtful to people including myself in this part of the country, I tend to take umbrage with people who use it casually. Now, more often now I've heard people, including trans people, saying that taking offence from it is silly, and it needs to be "reclaimed", and who am I to say that cis transvestites shouldn't be allowed to call themselves that? This is all old news, but the trend I've seen is that younger trans people are more inclined to see the word as offensive, whereas older trans people, including transvestites, are more inclined to think that it isn't offensive. Do other people think that this is the trend? Why do people think this is?
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I'm ok with "tranny" being used by trans* people and mechanics. Every other instance is evaluated on a case-by-case basis. When I use the term in reference to myself, it is usually done with wry irony and not necessarily pride. No, "Tranny pride!" but definitely, "But then, why would you listen to me? I'm just a tranny."
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There also appears to be a lot of debate about trans men using the word, since historically, it's been used almost exclusively to demean trans women. I've seen quite a few Internet battles to that effect. Speaking personally, there have been times I've used it in a self-referential, self-deprecating manner. Overall, I avoid it, and I've never used it to describe another person.
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RumbleFish posted:There also appears to be a lot of debate about trans men using the word, since historically, it's been used almost exclusively to demean trans women. I've seen quite a few Internet battles to that effect. Am I the only one who isn't offended by it? It really is just a word, more often (in my experience) used in ignorance, rather than malice. Though if someone is actually trying to hurt my feelings with it, then yes I'll be offended, but that goes with every other word anyways.
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Most of the trans folks I know are older (40+) and among them, it doesn't seem to be a big deal. For many, it's more about context, how it's used, rather than the word itself. Generally, if it's used as a noun, it's tongue in cheek or self-deprecating/teasing humor. More often, it's used as an adjective, also jokingly. No one gets offended by that, but if an "outsider" uses the term in a derogatory way, people get offended. Language is always changing, and there are a million variations based on region, age group, social group, you name it. Some people embrace change; others do not. I was trying to explain the term trans* to a woman who had transitioned in the 70s (DISCO!) and she just laughed in my face and said, "Get the gently caress out of here!" (Not in anger, that's just how talks.) I told her about some of the other "new" terminology and she pretty much just devolved into a "kids these days" rant. LOL We've discussed the tranny/no tranny thing and I think she now makes a point of using the term more. She's contrary as hell.  It will bother some, but not others. If it bothers you, don't use it. If someone uses it in a way that is offensive, speak up. But don't go off on them just because someone decreed that you're supposed to be offended.
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Some positive news for this thread: in Illinois, you no longer have to get GRS to change your gender marker on your birth certificate.  Also in Alaska, now you only need letter from a physician, social worker, psychologist, professional counselor, physicians assistant, or certified nurse practitioner to change the gender marker on your drivers license, as opposed to the previous requirement of proof of surgery.
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Instant Sunrise posted:Some positive news for this thread: in Illinois, you no longer have to get GRS to change your gender marker on your birth certificate. It still looks like you are required to get surgery, just not a specific kind. Although I guess it could be up to the doctor's discretion, which could be pretty liberally applied. That's definitely a step in the right direction.
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Progress! Now, come on Texas...
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Howdy again thread, Just checking in again - last time I was really torn up and questioning my gender identity, and so I asked for help and advice on where I should turn. Got a lot of very good advice from assorted goons, and I'm sorry for not promptly saying thank you in the thread - the whole issue was so big and scary I think I kinda ran from it a bit. I tried out the University Counselling Service, who were pretty unhelpful: quote:What, WINNERSH TRIANGLE, you say it's your last term? Your finals term? Oh well then, can't be thinking about transgender issues. Yeah, you almost certainly are trans, but just lock all those feelings back in the box for the moment, you need to concentrate on getting a good degree right now! And anyway, if you're leaving soon, there's not much point in devoting so much time to this now, is there - not much we can do ... I mean I can understand why they approached it in this way - they don't necessarily want to allocate a lot of slots to people unloading their Massive Issues when they can probably carry out a sort of psychiatric triage by focusing on people with exam stress who can be dealt with much more quickly. Also, I can understand not wanting to dwell too much on feeling of gender-related discomfort and self-loathing (however extreme) if it's at all possible to shut it back in a box while you're dealing with the stress of Finals. Still, it felt a bit much to be essentially told, 'yeah, you have a genuine problem, but no, we're not going to do anything about it'. As such, I followed up with a psychiatrist (thanks for the PinkTherapy link btw!), who was really helpful in just talking things through with. Unburdening myself of all my worries and concerns - or at least vocalising them - was immensely helpful in terms of coming to terms with the fact that I'm trans, and what to do about it. I'm not sure that it was necessarily any great psychiatric skill on their part - it was mostly just me talking at them - but it was so helpful to have someone who I could just unload on, who helped point out that, yes, feeling wrong and self-loathing in one's own skin, not getting along well with traditionally assigned male gender roles in school etc., feeling deeply uncomfortable as a guy having sex, and cross-dressing would probably add some weight to my suspicion that, who'd have thought, my subconscious sex might not agree with my body. It's so hard to tell with a lot of it - I've been worrying a little that I've been subconsciously colouring my memories in a trans light - but that's been reassuring. Right now - well, I don't feel better, since talking this over with the therapist and making these sorts of admissions to myself opens the floodgates and brings everything up to the surface, and makes me feel all the more awful. But at least it's a different kind of feeling awful - an acute sense of anxiety and existential terror about how things are going to be received when I come out, and a much more pronounced sense of dysphoria and sensitivity to things that set it off. It's a change from what I'd been feeling for a couple of years before - an all-pervading, sapping lack of self-worth and a studious avoidance of anything that might trouble my fragile little world view. As a result of this change, and after a long few months spent thinking about things, doing research on trans stuff in the UK, and a steadily worsening sense of discomfort with myself, I've decided that the time's probably right to come out. I'm going on a long country walk tomorrow, and leaving a letter for my mum, explaining things - hopefully going to start with her and move on to the rest of the family depending on how that goes down. So, uh, wish me luck. And hi again TMT!
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So while the past month of starting a hormone raise has seen a much more significant body hair decrease and the fact I'm probably already at an AA cup now, the rest of my body still hasn't caught up and it's sort of annoying. :/ (muscle mass is pretty much the exact same, fat hasn't noticeably redistributed, still dudely looking face and body type, etc) Boobs are awesome and all, but I just feel like a fat dude when the rest of my body isn't there yet. Also no crying fits yet, but I am super irritable a lot more! I could actually get pretty easily irritated before hormones too, so this should be fun! Also best of luck, WINNERSH TRIANGLE! LemonLimeTime fucked around with this message at Aug 4, 2012 around 02:40 |
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Good luck, WINNERSH! And, LemonLimeTime, we started HRT about the same time, and I've gotten muscle mass reduction (not much to start with, but I was never really muscular) and my breasts are developing really slowly even though I've gotten a bit more slender. Everybody's different, and the only advice I've gotten is to be patient- the mind outpaces the body AND the body goes at all sorts of different paces...
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Probably it's best to focus on the changes that you do see happening than dwell on the ones that you don't. These things take time.
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Yeah, I'll be coming up on my first month on T pretty soon, and there are times I feel really, ridiculously impatient about it. Everyone always talks about how fast-acting T is, and I waited so long to get here that it feels like I should be seeing everything rightfuckingnow. But's a process, everyone's bodies are different, etc. A month is only a drop in the bucket when you consider how long I'll be on T (e.g., the rest of my life, which is hopefully many years). It's not like I went through my first puberty in a nanosecond. So, I feel your pain, LemonLimeTime. I just try to keep those things in mind whenever I get in a dumb mental loop about this.
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Demerine posted:Good luck, WINNERSH! Yeah I know in puberty different things develop at different rates for different people so I'm trying to be patient, I just get worried sometimes stuff isn't working. Thanks, though. RumbleFish posted:Yeah, I'll be coming up on my first month on T pretty soon, and there are times I feel really, ridiculously impatient about it. Everyone always talks about how fast-acting T is, and I waited so long to get here that it feels like I should be seeing everything rightfuckingnow. But's a process, everyone's bodies are different, etc. A month is only a drop in the bucket when you consider how long I'll be on T (e.g., the rest of my life, which is hopefully many years). It's not like I went through my first puberty in a nanosecond. Yeah. Somehow reddit is this wellspring of trans women who start out as super femme pretty boys and are not only passing with flying colors but basically looking like American Apparel models within like 2-6 months, which is really not good for me to be looking at. LemonLimeTime fucked around with this message at Aug 4, 2012 around 02:40 |
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LemonLimeTime posted:Yeah. Somehow reddit is this wellspring of trans women who start out as super femme pretty boys and are not only passing with flying colors but basically looking like American Apparel models within like 2-6 months, which is really not good for me to be looking at. You aren't them. You are you, and you are pretty awesome!
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Noreaus posted:This is all old news, but the trend I've seen is that younger trans people are more inclined to see the word as offensive, whereas older trans people, including transvestites, are more inclined to think that it isn't offensive. I might be full of it here, but I've noticed this too and chalked it up to how insults change over time. I'm in my mid/late 20s and "tranny" was definitely used as a slur directed at trans women when I was growing up. I've also never found "queer" particularly upsetting, having only rarely heard it as an insult. The flipside of that is an older trans woman I know who doesn't have much of a problem with "tranny", but is still uncomfortable about "queer" since it was the insult of choice during her childhood, when apparently trannies were only car parts in her neck of the woods. In general though, I think people who have never been on the receiving end of those words should give a bit of weight to the feelings of those that have. edit: LemonLimeTime posted:Yeah. Somehow reddit is this wellspring of trans women who start out as super femme pretty boys and are not only passing with flying colors but basically looking like American Apparel models within like 2-6 months, which is really not good for me to be looking at. I used to be interested in timelines until I transitioned, and now they simply make me cringe. It seems like reddit has a tiny group of transwomen who really enjoy putting up their pictures and patting each other on the back. Not unlike some other online trans communities outside of SA. DeadlyMuffin fucked around with this message at Aug 4, 2012 around 02:55 |
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Update on my stupid crappy life: I'm at "strike two" of three at work, meaning next time a manager or HR person sees me using the women's room at work I get fired. I've slapped mountains of paperwork on the HR's lady desk and she just stares at it with glazed-over eyes and goes "Nope." EEOC has told me "The transgender law stuff is too new and we don't know what the gently caress we're doing so we can't help," and Lambda Legal said my case is a little weak and they don't want to risk losing and setting bad precedent. None of this would be an issue if I had the court order (for name/gender change), but it keeps getting pushed back either because my attorney is on vacation or the judge they need to get isn't going to be in. So basically, my job is going to fire me completely legally (or illegally but nobody's going to do anything about it) and most of the people I know are just telling me to give in and go use the men's room. Basically give up being fulltime and the fact that I came out to all 130+ people at my job and just go be a dude again for an undetermined amount of time. And the fact that just using the men's room the week before vacationing at work was making me hyperventilate on a daily basis, and I quit taking hormones so I don't have to use the bathroom as much. I already dart around the hallway and pretend to be texting on my phone so I can slip in when nobody is around. And the idea of backtracking at this stage just because some woman in HR has a vendetta makes me seriously want to kill myself. In addition to my job, I'm going to miss the Fall enrollment. It was my intention to just quit this job and go back to school, get grants/loans, and study instead. I know for a fact the school I'm looking at is strict on legal gender because it's a women's school. I can't apply before I have things changed or they'll force me to use the men's room, assign a male roomate, and whatever else they feel like tying to gender. And since my hearing keeps getting pushed back I'm going to completely miss registration until Spring. So pretty soon I'm going to be unemployed with no backup plan for several months. The only thing that's currently going well for me is the fact that I have a girlfriend now. Who's really sweet and wishes the best for me, but can't do much but watch me burn.
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Why don't you just go into the men's bathroom while full time? I mean, it will be your third strike anyways.. You might have more of a case if they completely deny you the use of rest rooms, as I'm sure restroom usage is part of federal work law. I assume you are talking about TWU -- are they really that pissy about gender stuff? Why don't you ask your attorney what the hell he's doing?
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Yes I'm talking about TWU. I have a trans friend who's attending RIGHT NOW and they already told her she has to use the men's room. Other people I know have been told the same thing historically. There's no way I can will myself back into a men's room. For many reasons including the fact that I would probably burst into tears immediately. What's going on with the court is outside my attorney's control. She's a good person.
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WINNERSH TRIANGLE posted:As a result of this change, and after a long few months spent thinking about things, doing research on trans stuff in the UK, and a steadily worsening sense of discomfort with myself, I've decided that the time's probably right to come out. I'm going on a long country walk tomorrow, and leaving a letter for my mum, explaining things - hopefully going to start with her and move on to the rest of the family depending on how that goes down. So, uh, wish me luck. It sounds like I might be you three months ago (well, and a year in the future; I graduated last summer). I'm SW London, too, and your first post reads a lot like what I would have written as mine if I'd actually sat down to write one. Would you be OK with sharing a little more how you got from there to here, or emailing me at paulnewmanseyes@gmail.com? LemonLimeTime posted:Yeah. Somehow reddit is this wellspring of trans women who start out as super femme pretty boys and are not only passing with flying colors but basically looking like American Apparel models within like 2-6 months, which is really not good for me to be looking at.
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Yeah there are a few. r/transgender, r/asktransgender, and r/transspace are the most populated.
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