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Hello, I am a 23 year old trans woman who's been on AAs for what I believe is near 2 years at this point, and hormones for near 5 months now(though I was for a brief while in the past as well). I am also among the most likely when I post to post an opinion everyone hates. I also enjoy history, cooking and cycling. Carry on thread.
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Might as well reintroduce myself... I'm a 24-year-old FtM in North Carolina. I'm part-time, with the only places I present female being at work and around my parents, though I've increasingly made less and less of an effort to do so even in those scenarios. Now that I live and work in a much more progressive area, I've been making efforts to start therapy and have also been thinking about how I'll come out to my employer. I'm hoping that within the next year, I'll have gotten a lot of this stuff out of the way and will be well on the road to hormones. It's been a frustratingly slow process for me, but I was also stuck in backwoods South Carolina for much of it, so I'm ready to make up for lost time.
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My name's Rachel, I'm a 26 year old transwoman. I started transitioning 3 years ago, been on HRT for 2.5 years, and went fulltime 4 months ago. Why so long? HRT took forever to give any visible results, I had a job that was outright hostile towards me transitioning, and when that was over I needed some of my friends to give me that last kick in the rear end towards realizing I passed.
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Oooh, intros. Might as well. Hi new thread! I'm dovetaile and I'm a 21-year old predominantly male-attracted trans guy with a cis male S/O. Started transitioning a year ago; parents are not exactly on-board but I have a great support system. Currently living in MD [in a suburb of DC] but going back to WV sometime in the future. No hormones but I am in therapy and I'm really knowledgeable about the name-change process in MD so there's that [took five months but mine's finally legal whoo!]. I lurk here mostly.
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| # ? Nov 7, 2011 19:14 |
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I wasn't going to go through the entire OP, but I did once I got sucked in trying to figure out what "Cis" means. I get that it means non-trans people, but I'm not entirely sure if that means binary, etc, people or all people that are not transgender or what. What does it stand for? It's not ok to use it, since I might "other" transgender people? I honestly can't figure out what the hell it means or when it's acceptable to use it.
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Might as well... Hello, I'm Anne. I'm a 27-year-old transwoman living in the Netherlands. I came out of the closet to myself 3 and a half months ago, and life has been hectic and joyful since. Most of the people I've told about my trans status are quite happy about it, except for my parents. They're not disowning me, but especially my mom has been very passive-aggressive in denial about it. Thankfully my sisters and my friends are very supportive. I've told my boss about it and he's fine with it (turns out I'm not the only one). Currently I'm telling various colleagues about myself, and for now it's gone well. Most of the time I present as female, and even without hormones I seem to be able to pass. I had my eyebrows trimmed a few days ago, got a new haircut today and everyone acted quite normal. I guess I'm just lucky. I'm on the waiting list for the national gender team, but that will take a year or more to even start diagnosis. I'm also going to a private therapist in January to see what they can offer. In the best scenario I'll be on hormones in 6 to 9 months, in the worst case in two years. I will be mostly lurking, but I'm always ready to answer most questions.
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| # ? Nov 7, 2011 19:32 |
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particle409 posted:I wasn't going to go through the entire OP, but I did once I got sucked in trying to figure out what "Cis" means. I get that it means non-trans people, but I'm not entirely sure if that means binary, etc, people or all people that are not transgender or what. What does it stand for? It's not ok to use it, since I might "other" transgender people? I honestly can't figure out what the hell it means or when it's acceptable to use it. Cis means binary, non-trans. I think you count as trans in some way if you are non-binary. It doesn't stand for anything. The terms cis and trans are from Latin, in which cis means "on the same side" and trans means "on the other side" or "across". it's used rather than non-trans so that there isn't an inequality of language.
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| # ? Nov 7, 2011 19:35 |
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particle409 posted:I wasn't going to go through the entire OP, but I did once I got sucked in trying to figure out what "Cis" means. I get that it means non-trans people, but I'm not entirely sure if that means binary, etc, people or all people that are not transgender or what. What does it stand for? It's not ok to use it, since I might "other" transgender people? I honestly can't figure out what the hell it means or when it's acceptable to use it.
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| # ? Nov 7, 2011 19:39 |
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particle409 posted:I wasn't going to go through the entire OP, but I did once I got sucked in trying to figure out what "Cis" means. I get that it means non-trans people, but I'm not entirely sure if that means binary, etc, people or all people that are not transgender or what. What does it stand for? It's not ok to use it, since I might "other" transgender people? I honestly can't figure out what the hell it means or when it's acceptable to use it. cis = not trans. in other words, a person who has never felt any discord with their assigned gender. it doesn't "stand" for anything, it's an actual term which is even etymologically correct. The entire purpose of the term is to diminish othering. You should use it in favor of terms like "natural", "natal", "genetic", "birth" and so on when speaking about someone who is not trans, when their trans status is relevant; i.e. "cis woman" instead of "genetic woman". This provides a balancing label to "trans" much like "hetero" vs homo/gay/whatever. It removes the implication that being cis is the natural state. e:f,b twice??
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particle409 posted:I wasn't going to go through the entire OP, but I did once I got sucked in trying to figure out what "Cis" means. I get that it means non-trans people, but I'm not entirely sure if that means binary, etc, people or all people that are not transgender or what. What does it stand for? It's not ok to use it, since I might "other" transgender people? I honestly can't figure out what the hell it means or when it's acceptable to use it. Trans = your subconcious sex and/or gender identity doesn't match your physical sex Cis = your subconscious sex and/or gender identity does match your physical sex It's quite similar to homosexual vs. heterosexual. It may not be perfect (are intersex people cis if they're genderqueer, what about bigendered people), but in general it's suitable. It's also a whole lot better than 'genetic' of 'bio' people, as that has some very denormalizing effects on trans people. edit: four times in a row!
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| # ? Nov 7, 2011 19:40 |
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Hi new thread! 31 year old FtM checking in from the sunny waters of Seattle! Been on the fast track to being the awesome person I didn't realize I wanted to be since January of this year. It only took a lil bit of questioning everything I had ever done and thought, no biggie. Self-delusion is a hell of a drug. Two months on T, never felt better, and working on being less of a wuss telling non-friends and family people that "she" is NOT the right pronoun. Also have no idea where I am gonna end up on that lovely orientation rainbow, so not really giving a poo poo till I get more things sorted out. Woo! Lexical, if you want to add another FtM name and contact to the super friends list, I am almost always on my Gmail chats, under the name shinichiki. I almost never get a chance to talk real-time about transitioning and am still in the new and sparkly mindset.
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Oh, right, introductions. I forgot. Ahem. I'm Amy, a 24 year old MtF, mostly lesbian, living in Indianapolis, pre-everything still because transitioning is expensive and I'm a poor. Now that WPATH's new SoC nixes the hard-and-fast therapy requirement, though, I'm hoping that I'll be able to afford it soon. I'm out to my mother and to all my friends online, and working up the courage to come out to my thankfully-liberalish grand-aunt and her children and grandchildren here and town, and then eventually, someday, maybe, the rest of my family, who are unfortunately almost all hyperconservative. I almost came out to my grandmother before I left Florida, since a previous conversation between her and my mother had given the impression that she would be fine with it if I were trans, but then another conversation shortly before leaving put the kibosh on that.
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| # ? Nov 7, 2011 19:43 |
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particle409 posted:I wasn't going to go through the entire OP, but I did once I got sucked in trying to figure out what "Cis" means. I get that it means non-trans people, but I'm not entirely sure if that means binary, etc, people or all people that are not transgender or what. What does it stand for? It's not ok to use it, since I might "other" transgender people? I honestly can't figure out what the hell it means or when it's acceptable to use it. Cisgendered means your gender identity matches the gender assigned to you at birth. E.g. If you identify as male and you were born with unambiguous male genetalia, you are a cisgendered man. It's greatly preferred to other terminology (commonly heard ones are "real", "normal", and "biological") for what I hope would be obvious reasons. Bluhhhhh, beaten. S'what I get for getting up before hitting Submit.
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Might as well introduce myself :v I'm an 18 year old bi Transgirl from Vancouver. Started posting in this thread maybe two months ago? I realized I was trans over this summer and it definitely explained a lot of issues I had when I was in elementary/highschool. I've been going to therapy for two months now at my university. My therapist is very kind and supportive and she's worked with other trans people before, she just gave me the name of a sympathetic doctor in my university clinic so I'll probably be sorting out how to get medication over the next few months. I'm out to my close friends and S/O, as well as my parents. I feel like I need to come out to my brother before I can start going part-time but god drat the prospect terrifies me far more than I should @_@. Edit: forgot to put my name, it's Adelaide, but I go by Addie as well ^^
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I guess I should post an introduction... Hi, I'm Amy. Currently I'm a 29 year old trans woman living in Austin, Texas. I started transitioning at 27 after years of depression and denial. I used to think that I was just a guy who wished he had been born a woman, as opposed to one of those people who change their sex — Welp! I've spent the last five years of my life with my loving gay cis male boyfriend who stuck with me through transition. I've been on HRT for nearly two years, full time for over a year, and I just recently had sex reassignment surgery.
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I have been avoiding these threads every time they pop up, but this one so far seems much less hostile than the previous iterations. So, hell: Gonna give this one a go. So hey, Name's Robin. I'm a twenty-seven year old pansexual trans girl from Minneapolis, and I've been on Hormone Replacement Therapy since March 1st of this year. I've been living full-time female since June and I can't fully express how amazing it feels to actually live as my true self. I also live with Adnap because she is a badass chick! You can add me to the list if you like, I'm Tybaar on AIM. Feel free to hit me up, I'm always happy to chat about whatever.
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Lyesh posted:I just wanted to say that I am so happy for you Thanks a bunch! Things have definitely gotten better for me, if through no fault of my own. 
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I have no idea where I'm going with this, but I figured asking a bunch of strangers on a forum might help me start talking to my loved ones. I haven't really been keeping up with Trans terms or anything, so please forgive me, I've just started looking into it again. I was 'diagnosed' with GID when I was 22 or so and subsequently went on hormone replacement therapy. I grew my hair out, started voice training, started wearing girls clothes, etc etc. Then my then girlfriend and I moved back to my home state; I gave it all up, stopped taking my pills, stopped dressing as a female, and cut my hair short. Why? I'm not sure. When I think back on it it's a jumble of reasons. I felt more confident in myself as a person, so attributed the whole gender thing to low self confidence. I was terrified of coming out to my parents, would I have to start tip-toeing around it and only dress as a guy when I went to visit? Would have been hard because I had started developing breasts already! I was breaking up with my then girlfriend, who was trans herself, and I had it in my head that she had pushed me into being trans. Nearly 10 years later and here I am, everything is fine in my life; I'm in a good relationship, I'm in another state far away from my (loving, really. I love my family and they are wonderful) parents, and well, I'm doing ok. poo poo still sucks occasionally, but hey, life. Except for this one thing. It keeps nagging at me. I still don't feel right being male, but what do I do? Where does this all leave me?
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Hooray, introduction time. I am xov. 30 y/o transman, been on T 2.5 years. I am one of the world's few happy introverts and I tend to keep up with this thread just to get an outsider's perspective. I'm not usually active in discussion, though sometimes, I will offer odd insight or ask some odd questions requesting clarification of something that should seem obvious. Otherwise, I am usually posting from work, where I play the role of cheerful help desk savior for a very small, very Christian IT outsourcer. I look at it as an acting role that I play in order to collect a paycheck. All in all, I'm in no big rush. Having my body slowly catch up to what it should have been doing 15+ years ago is amusing in its own right.
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Hi I'm a poly genderqueer wiccan , my fetishes include pooping in diapers and having my poly coven all pee on me in a bathtub.
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I lurk this thread and occasionally post when somebody says something wrong on the internet. I'm pursuing my degree in Sociology, almost finished and soon to be moving onto my masters. I do a lot of work in matters of identity, often surrounding gender and sexuality. My interests include social activism around queer rights, videogames, talking a lot irl and plastic bugmen. This image sums up my life pretty well. I don't post in this thread too often but if you ever want my input on something you're posting, please consult THIS image. Rei_ fucked around with this message at Nov 7, 2011 around 21:34 |
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LemonLimeTime posted:Mage when you say you've been on HRT for over a decade and "nothing else can be done" what exactly do you mean? In terms of passing or what? Well, when you are younger, you have illusions of grandeur. You think things are going to turn out a certain way, but they don't. You wait your whole life for more and more steps to try and attain something that never be attained. I feel like even if I get surgery, it's just going to be an inverted penis, and at that point there is nothing left. The illusion is gone, "the tranny" will always stick, you know what I mean? It's not a vagina, it never will be. I have so much trouble accepting this shell anymore. I need to be reborn. Disreputable Dog posted:It's hard to be transitioned for a long time. There are some really unique challenges there that no one really discusses, and fewer professionals know how to deal with. Thank you. I also started at 16. It's hard being silent so long, but it feels good knowing somebody is going through the exact same thing I am (no offence). Esselbei posted:Mage, you are doing something incredibly difficult. You're really brave! I know that sounds like some meaningless platitude, but you took these steps so you could be true to yourself. Talk to the other girls in here, you're definitely not alone. Try and work towards moving to a better city. Don't give up on therapy. Definitely don't start thinking it's hopeless, it's really, really not. Thank you. I will make it a priority to find a way to relocate. I didn't realize there were so many transgendered people here. Edit: Could I shamelessly plug in here that, if I could get to SF, would anyone have any recommendations for income? MageMage fucked around with this message at Nov 7, 2011 around 21:34 |
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AngstPenguin posted:I have no idea where I'm going with this, but I figured asking a bunch of strangers on a forum might help me start talking to my loved ones. I haven't really been keeping up with Trans terms or anything, so please forgive me, I've just started looking into it again. Have you spoken to a counselor or therapist about this? I think some psychological therapy might be in order to help you sort this out. For my part, I know it was a lot easier to fool myself into thinking I was cismale if I was focusing all of my energy on relationships with women and the pursuit thereof. Mind you, even in those relationships I had a number of significant signs and clues that were slapping me in the face, but I was only able to recognize those in retrospect. While they were going on, I was completely oblivious and very good at ignoring them and rationalizing them for myself. I'm not trying to project my experience onto you, but it may give you something to consider.
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Oh, I need to vent about something. In the Netherlands almost all transgender medical therapy is centralized in one clinic. Waiting lists are long (more than a year), my only talk with them was quite objectifying and sexualizing and I've heard quite a lot of horror stories about their administration. I'm willing to put up with that. But last week I met a transwoman who was denied treatment because she didn't 'suffer' enough. She was too happy and was clearly not trans enough to waste the doctor's time. This is the main gender clinic in the Netherlands. Most people don't know alternatives exist, and I'm not sure what the private sector can even offer. The Netherlands may be a tolerant society (though it's never as tolerant as you think), but it really does fall behind on trans issues.
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My name is Kas. I am a twenty seven year-old trans woman from the north of England. I've been under the care of the Sheffield gender identity clinic, the Porterbrook Clinic. I began self-acceptance when I was fourteen, and transition been slow and steady due to a combination of being a young transitioner, little family support, a late attempt at gamete storage, full-time education and only recently coming up above a reasonable living wage. I have both of my references for GRS, which come into effect in December when my fertility treatment is due to end. I expect GRS to follow sometime in 2012. My state of mind at present is one of exhaustion of waiting. Formula One, MotoGP, the 24 Hours of Le Mans, videogames, computer hardware & software, astronomy, human & robotic space exploration (particularly the Space Shuttle), drawing, swimming and cycling are all things that I count as interests.
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Oh I forgot, my major is in cybernetics. So if anyone wants a teledildonic(actual term that appears in my textbooks) dick/vagina I'm the girl to come to.
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Oh, since it seems to be trend around here, cycling is an interest for me too. Both watching cycling and doing it on my own. I don't have the time to train as well as I used to do, but I'm still in decent shape. In top shape I re-enacted a Tour de France once (and got a nice bike from an ex-Tour de France winner!). If you have questions about cycling, you can always ask me.
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Teabiscuit posted:YMMV , I ended up attempting suicide a few times just after I was put on anti-depressants. I also starting taking anti-depressants as soon as I discovered the trans, and despite the fact my therapist has been switching my meds every time I go through an major dysphoric episode, I can't say I've ever once felt suicidal due to the meds. If anything, they've help to take the edge off a little. Again though, YMMV. MageMage posted:I feel like even if I get surgery, it's just going to be an inverted penis, and at that point there is nothing left. The illusion is gone, "the tranny" will always stick, you know what I mean? It's not a vagina, it never will be. That's an extremely grim way of looking at it and I'm sure most transwomen would agree. LemonLimeTime fucked around with this message at Nov 7, 2011 around 22:56 |
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Rei_ posted:My interests include social activism around queer rights, videogames, talking a lot irl and plastic bugmen. This image sums up my life pretty well.  Um. I'm a 22-year-old cismale who lurks this thread after bored clicking in E/N brought me to the previous thread and caused me to accidentally out a real life friend of mine. I've since made friends with another transwoman via the thread after I tried to get her in touch with some resources in her city (I graduated there and know some people in the local LGBT groups), though I'm not sure how much help I was. I wish everyone here the best of luck in making the life they want. Cheers!
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Mike/Michele, 23 year old androgyne bisexual anthropologist (top that!  ). Currently in senior year of undergrad in Akron, planning on going to grad school pretty soon in Europe. Started out about a year and a half ago looking into my gender identity issues, came out to friends and family last summer. I find my gender identity is not static, and shifts along the spectrum from masculine, non-gendered, and feminine. Currently in a femme period, sometimes out in full girl-mode, sometimes wearing boy clothes with full makeup. Will probably go in girl-mode fulltime when I lose another 10 pounds and my hair grows out a little more, provided I'm still in a femme period.
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I'm Vesna, I am a pansexual part-time MtF and I turn 30 this month. I have been on HRT since August, and with the help of two very good friends I just recently moved to Chicago and started a new job. I like cooking, making computer music, and metal gear. I need a haircut really bad. Things are good and getting better all the time. I think that relocating has done as much good for my psyche as starting HRT.
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MageMage posted:if I could get to SF, would anyone have any recommendations for income? My ex-bf used to live in SF (about 10 yrs ago) and he said that he got by during his college years doing work for temp agencies, particularly in the word-processing/legal fields. I'm not sure if this still holds true, but if you have experience with using Styles in MS Word, lots of places there could use your skills. Probably they would have secretary type positions available too if you have any general office skills. You wont get paid much, but at least it's a start. I would also look into LGBT friendly shelters, I don't know of any myself but I can take a crack at hunting some down if you want. I can completely relate to the whole "I'll never really be a girl" feeling. It drove me to swallowing a bunch of pills and booze once; and though I have a pretty decent handle on my emotions now, I still get those pangs of hopelessness. I also haven't had SRS yet and I've only been on HRT for two years. Like a phantom itch that drives you crazy, these thoughts gently caress with your head: "I'll never have the pleasure of a real vagina; I can never bear children, therefore I'm a fake woman; I'll always have to take these loving blue pills..."; etc. The only thing that keeps me going really is the silly notion that I'll eventually find someone that loves me despite all my shortcomings, and that maybe through the things I do in this world, I'll be able to make someone who's suffered like me enjoy life for a moment. Corny right? Maybe it wont be enough. But I've also got friends that make me happy, and I don't feel like letting them down right now. Find some local people you can relate to, find some friends near you - go to a tranny/chaser/creeper meeting or whatever. There are cool folks out there (especially in SF). -- Mandatory re-intro season? Let's hope I don't gently caress it up like my first time  [Mod note: Don't do this poo poo.] Somebody fucked around with this message at Nov 8, 2011 around 23:25 |
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Suppose its about time to introduce myself as well. Hello, my name is Amelie, but my friends call me Ami. I'm a 25 year old pansexual trans-woman, am full-time and just over 9 months HRT. I live in downtown portland with my girlfriend, and hope to some day in the future continue college, which I put on hold quite a while ago. Transition has been going amazingly smooth for me. I started HRT, went full-time within a few months and came out to pretty much everyone important to me (save for distant relatives). Progress has been stagnant since then but I suppose the next step would be getting my name legally changed. I really really want to get a new ID.
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merrilyx4 posted:I can completely relate to the whole "I'll never really be a girl" feeling. It drove me to swallowing a bunch of pills and booze once; and though I have a pretty decent handle on my emotions now, I still get those pangs of hopelessness. I also haven't had SRS yet and I've only been on HRT for two years. Like a phantom itch that drives you crazy, these thoughts gently caress with your head: "I'll never have the pleasure of a real vagina; I can never bear children, therefore I'm a fake woman; I'll always have to take these loving blue pills..."; etc.
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Today's E/N trans bullshit post: Today I went to a workshop that was supposed to help me pick out a major and figure out what classes to take (after 12 years, I'm going back to college). The workshop itself was alright, but the advisor that was presenting managed to piss me off by repeatedly using the wrong pronouns to me despite me correcting her (kindly at first, but I almost got to the point of growling it). Messing up a pronoun once is an honest mistake. Two, I get it: I'm taller than the guys are, and I look a little strange. 6 times in a workshop of 5 people? gently caress you and the horse you rode in on. Magneto was right.
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Rei_ posted:I'm pursuing my degree in Sociology, almost finished and soon to be moving onto my masters. I do a lot of work in matters of identity, often surrounding gender and sexuality. Hey social science buddy! What research have you done/are doing? I'd be really interested in reading anything you've written. I'm interested in doing research on gender identity myself, but I'm not sure where to begin.
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I mostly lurk here, but I should probably introduce myself. I'm a 34 year old bi cischick living in Arizona. I met Sudden Consequences via a online play by post game a couple of years ago, back when she was still presenting as male. I actually wondered if she was trans awhile before she said anything, but that is another story Anyway, shortly after she came out, Sudden Consequences pointed me to the previous thread, which I read with great interest, because I wanted to learn more so that I could be supportive during her transition. I'd known transpeople before, but I hadn't been close enough to any of them that I could really ask questions about meds and so on without seeming like a prying jerk, so there was a lot I didn't know. Eventually, I got an account on SA, and here I am. If anyone needs to talk, I'm avaliable via email or skype, or if any AZ goonettes need help with voice, hair, makeup or clothes shopping I'd be totally down with that.
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lonelywurm posted:I've since made friends with another transwoman via the thread after I tried to get her in touch with some resources in her city (I graduated there and know some people in the local LGBT groups), though I'm not sure how much help I was.
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re/intro: I'm a 50-year-old "transgender individual". I say it that way because I will not be transitioning into the woman I am / should have been. I was born intersexed; from the scant details I could pry from Mom before she died, I was surgically modified three days after my birth, to appear male -- despite the fact that my chromosomes were ordered XXY, not XYX. In my puberty, I was fed hormones to help me along my way to being a guy ... but was told the meds were for my slight acne. Four pills, twice a day, for "acne". Anyway, the hormones and the surgery did the trick -- outwardly. I am a guy; fat in all the guy places, ugly of face, etc. Do you get the feeling I'm bitter? Lemme tell ya .. bitterness is pointless. There is nothing I could have done, back in 1961, to change the minds of my father, mother, or doctors. I have always known there was something "wrong", although it took me for-fricken-EVER to figure out that I was a girl trapped in this body; I'm slow that way. Since it took me so long to figure out what was wrong ... I ended up fathering two kids, and being successfully married for ... 28 years now. I am "out" to my wife, who has been unwillingly thrust into this cauldron; when we were introduced, I was in a very "manly" military specialty, and she assumed as would be natural that I was a Man. When I came out to her, it was .. difficult. We've managed to grow past some of the difficulties, but it still pains her from time to time that she's married to a (now old) woman. I only get to reflect my inner self outwardly on occasion. I am a bit feminine every day, but only dress up as the pretty girl I wish I was on a once-a-week basis. I mostly lurk these transgender threads, and once in a while you may see me stepping in to comment from an old man's (woman's) point of view.
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Another lurker checking in! Hi, I'm Julia. I'm a 31 year old transgirl from SoCal. Like so many others, I put my inner feelings aside to try and be "normal". It wasn't until the original megathread that it all came together, so thanks goons! I have no chance of passing yet, but just started HRT a week ago , so here's hoping.Gonna 2nd antidepressants too, been on them for 6 months now and while they don't stop the down periods from happening, for the first time in 20 years I'm not suicidal once a month. And yes, my username is incredibly inaccurate now.
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