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A recent survey found that approximately 9 out of 10 Americans, including strong majorities of all religious, believe that transgender people deserve the same rights and protections as other Americans.

The survey of more than 2,000 adults was conducted by Public Religion Research Institute in August and September.

"Three out of four Americans say Congress should pass employment nondiscrimination laws that protect transgender people," said Dr. Robert P. Jones, CEO of Public Religion Research Institute. "This strong support is also broad, persisting across party lines and the religious spectrum."

Guy Montag posted:

You can find the Survey results in PDF format here

Serifina posted:

Wow. Two thirds think they know and understand trans issues? Man, then why is it literally everyone I talk to that has no direct connection to a trans person has no friggin' clue?

Talk about way overestimation.

Plutoidmoon posted:

Out of curiosity, do you (successfully transitioned) guys ever have days where you don't think about gender and are just happy living your life?

Redwolf posted:

Queensland, the southeast somewhat less bogany area.

Serifina posted:

Wow. Two thirds think they know and understand trans issues? Man, then why is it literally everyone I talk to that has no direct connection to a trans person has no friggin' clue?

Talk about way overestimation.

map of the cat posted:

Redwolf, are you anywhere near Brisbane?

Octatonic posted:

Survey

Redwolf posted:

Not far away. The clinic's website doesn't mention anything about counseling though, plus getting a referral from my GP would involve actually telling her. What did they do for you exactly?

map of the cat posted:

Plutoidmoon posted:

Out of curiosity, do you (successfully transitioned) guys ever have days where you don't think about gender and are just happy living your life?

Bieeardo posted:

Go over his head to the school administration, if you can. If you can't, write the organization off. The LGBT organization at my alma mater was absolutely useless for anything the last year or so I was there-- I really have no idea how it managed to stay ratified when there was literally no-one interested in being on the executive when the only remaining members were going to be gone the next year.

GuyIncognito! posted:

All I can say to people is don't get so wrapped up in the physical minutia down to loving inches of stuff. Its incredibly stupid. Yes some physical things make it harder (a very masculine face for women, large hips for men etc.) but for the most part I still believe anyone at all can pass if they just work at it, especially all the the tiny tells, not in body but in actions and voice. Be a fantastic actor and physical issues for the most part become absolutely insignificant. Walk, talk, moving your arms, your hands, sitting, posture, speech patterns, facial expressions, cadence, gait, attitude, proper clothing etc. THESE are the things that will make or break passing, and they're things anyone can do with work, that have no baring on "oh god my shoulders are slightly bigger/smaller than would be average, oh god taller/shorter than average, oh god my hips are too small/big..." Be a great actor, and if that seems fake, eventually it won't feel like an act any more and, ta da, it stops becoming an act.

I have a horrifically masculine as poo poo body, awful, terrible even, makes people complaining about shoulders seem like nothing, yet I've never been clocked in all my time because I learned and pulled off what i talked about well enough. Stop thinking passing is all the mound of flesh around you, instead its 90% your brain.

Dr. Katie posted:

I posted a link to the blogpost Lexical suggested to my roommate, a cis white gay dude who was defending the transphobia being posted on his wall. He's the LGBT org pres and politically minded, but despite this fact he decided to defriend and block me from Facebook with no warning or explanation. One would think he would be more diplomatic. I have a really hard time talking to him because he is quick to raise his voice and has views himself as correct in every situation.

Does anyone have any advice? No one in the LGBT org is trans. I'm the only socially out trans person on campus. I'm afraid that this is going to polarize our mutual friends if I push this but the ongoing transphobia is too much.

Dawncloack posted:

Oh man, I needed to quote you because you are sooo right. One of my first girlfriends was a trans and she could pull this one off like a natural. It was only years down the road that I started noticing details and tying knots in my head (she didn't tell me, it was a hurtful topic to her). So yeah, I am not sure I have any practical advice, other than just forget about everything and be who you are. Self consciousness doesn't help in any situation (methinks).

Dawncloack posted:

Now if anyone wants to come out and say that I am blind and probably stupid... then I'll have to say yes. But please forgive me, I was young, it was my first long relationship... and drat did I love her.

Plutoidmoon posted:

How did you react when you figured it out? It seems quite dangerous on her part to have gone as far as having sex with you before telling you.

But thanks anyway, I should say about 20 minutes before reading this post i was thinking of a way to kill myself with the items in my bedroom, now i have hope again, for tonight at least. The fact you fell in love with her without knowing her status and with her having a large build, has helped me with my fear of never having someone who loves me and dying alone. So yeah thanks a lot.

One more thing i forgot to ask, how old was were you both and when did she transition?

Plutoidmoon posted:

Out of curiosity, do you (successfully transitioned) guys ever have days where you don't think about gender and are just happy living your life?

Dawncloack posted:

poo poo, you just made me feel the weight of responsability there.

This might surprise you, but I never reacted at all. Thing is, I figured out, but I realized it was an important and thorny subject, and that it would be best to wait until she broached it. In the meantime, I just didn't care, you know? She was my girl, we were having fun times, she was amazing, etc.etc. Years down the road we broke up, and the topic was never mentioned. And after the break up, well, mentioning it would have been even worse. So we never got around discussing that.

We met when I was 22 and she was 27, and it lasted around 3.5 years. I think she transitioned at 18, as soon as she was allowed to by the law. She also had it paid up by the national healthcare system (she's from Italy). All that, of course, are extrapolations from things I was told, but without going into details I think that information is reliable.

Hey, sincerely I hope you are ok. How are you hanging on?

Plutoidmoon posted:

How did you react when you figured it out? It seems quite dangerous on her part to have gone as far as having sex with you before telling you.

But thanks anyway, I should say about 20 minutes before reading this post i was thinking of a way to kill myself with the items in my bedroom, now i have hope again, for tonight at least. The fact you fell in love with her without knowing her status and with her having a large build, has helped me with my fear of never having someone who loves me and dying alone. So yeah thanks a lot.

One more thing i forgot to ask, how old was were you both and when did she transition?

Plutoidmoon posted:

How did you react when you figured it out? It seems quite dangerous on her part to have gone as far as having sex with you before telling you.

But thanks anyway, I should say about 20 minutes before reading this post i was thinking of a way to kill myself with the items in my bedroom, now i have hope again, for tonight at least. The fact you fell in love with her without knowing her status and with her having a large build, has helped me with my fear of never having someone who loves me and dying alone. So yeah thanks a lot.

Kiwi Ghost Chips posted:

Please see a therapist.

Plutoidmoon posted:

Don't worry everyone i do have an appointment for counseling on the 24th, its just waiting for it thats hard.

I think the reason I'm so rapped up in passing is that when i first realized i might be trans (12) i already passed as a girl and sort of placed my happiness on that. Now that i know that i probably won't, i'm really scared of the whole thing. I always thought i would be able to look in the mirror one day and see the person i really am staring back but that seems very unlikely now. I can't help but blame myself for not acting sooner.

I really don't want a bearable life, i just want to be happy.

Plutoidmoon posted:

I think the reason I'm so rapped up in passing is that when i first realized i might be trans (12) i already passed as a girl and sort of placed my happiness on that. Now that i know that i probably won't, i'm really scared of the whole thing. I always thought i would be able to look in the mirror one day and see the person i really am staring back but that seems very unlikely now. I can't help but blame myself for not acting sooner.

LemonLimeTime posted:

For me, it's not so much avoiding mirrors at all times. I don't really look up in the mirror if I've just woken up and look like a mess, because I'm going to look my worst. But I often stand in front of my bedroom mirror for a few minutes looking at my build, looking at my face and saying..."ok, is there ANY way I could look like a girl?" And sort of trying my damndest to look at what I have and say "ok maybe I'm not that bad off." (yeah right) It's when I see my reflection in public...next to cis women and myself in comparison....what's when I get depressed.

Plutoidmoon posted:

This is pretty much exactly what i do except i try and push my shoulder muscles down to see if maybe they atrophied slightly, what they would look like. I don't think shoulder muscles really do get smaller on hrt do they.

Plutoidmoon posted:

This is pretty much exactly what i do except i try and push my shoulder muscles down to see if maybe they atrophied slightly, what they would look like. I don't think shoulder muscles really do get smaller on hrt do they?

LemonLimeTime posted:

Couldn't tell ya, since I'm not on HRT yet, but it honestly varies from person to person. The whole YMMV bag of poo poo and bricks that makes the whole thing seem like a goddamn game of craps rather than something that will actually help.

That, and the fact I'm basically a human rail, so I doubt there's much muscle there to begin with, so I'm pretty hosed in that department.