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Serifina posted:So, Zappos, Endless, and Barefoot Tess. Good to know, thanks folks. I have kind of despaired with my Giant Ugly Feet. (For a guy, they're not that bad, actually, I'm just shy of six feet, but they still make me despair.) There's been a lot of people despairing over their height and foot size recently. I wear a women's 13W and am safely over 6', and I used to have that same self conscious attitude. But I've come to the realization that being a tall woman can actually be pretty awesome, and since I'm going to be one if I like it or not, why not try and enjoy it? I've started wearing shoes with more of a heel to them, and I like how it makes me feel. It can turn heads, which is fun, and I've found it really isn't the huge negative I thought it was for so long. Being tall is awesome, male or female. Own it.
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DeadlyMuffin posted:There's been a lot of people despairing over their height and foot size recently. I wear a women's 13W and am safely over 6', and I used to have that same self conscious attitude. But I've come to the realization that being a tall woman can actually be pretty awesome, and since I'm going to be one if I like it or not, why not try and enjoy it? Yep. But It'd be better to own the clothes that go with it.  Pants are easy and all, but tops are hit and miss.
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Kiwi Ghost Chips posted:Wait, are you also at VT?   High five VT buddy.
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If you're awesome enough to be living in MN there's Long Tall Sally in MoA. They specialize in tall women's stuff(obviously), including shoes.
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DeadlyMuffin posted:There's been a lot of people despairing over their height and foot size recently. I wear a women's 13W and am safely over 6', and I used to have that same self conscious attitude. But I've come to the realization that being a tall woman can actually be pretty awesome, and since I'm going to be one if I like it or not, why not try and enjoy it? Haha... I, uh, plan to break in my feet (and ankles) slowly for that when it comes to it. I've never worn heels yet and my ankles aren't exactly the most trustworthy things in existence. The problem is that since I'm still pre... everything... I tend to feel retty drat ugly and ungainly and ugh hairy etc etc etc. You get the idea. This extends even to my feet, since they're a pretty important part of how to dress.
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With all the talk about shoes, I thought of another seemingly minor aspect of dress. Has anyone else had any issue with glasses? I've browsed now and then, but not for real, since I'm still regularly wearing a women's pair. In my experience, most men's frames are way too big for my head, boy's are much shoddier construction unless you pay mad money, and no one around here stocks decent unisex frames. Never been able to do contacts, and going without isn't an option. Curse being nearsighted.
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DeadlyMuffin posted:There is a DMV form to change gender: http://transgenderlawcenter.org/pdf/dl329.pdf This form is all my fault. When Obama was first elected, I went to one of those 'town hall' meetings people were holding where it was "guaranteed" that your concern would be addressed with Obama. DL-329 used to be DL-328. DL-328, you could actually change gender AND name on your ID and Drivers Licence. Catch? You had to surrender your old set of ID's right then and there. What I didn't realize was that If you did this BEFORE changing your name legally, you got stuck with two completely sets of identification (ID and SS), making it illegal to work for the United States. I could acquire hours, but I couldn't legally get paid. I was caught in a catch-22. The Transgender Law Center pulled me out. The end result of submitting that concern was DL-329 -- Change of gender on your ID and that's it. Two steps forward, one step back. At least you can't get caught in that legal trap anymore. Edit: On a side-note, these forms only work if you have CA/ID
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I am going to share a happy story, because I never do this. My brother is 10, lives with my father, I grew up with my mom, blah blah blah. My father explained what was going on with me, and he asked a few questions re: how girl parts become boy parts, and asked: how you would pee once youre finished becoming a boy (physically) since girls don't pee. (logic: boys use their weewees to pee, girls do not have weewees, therefore: girls don't pee. I found that adorable. Also, since you're back: MageMage, you need to quit all your talk about not passing because you look fabulous. (And I know you've already addressed this but from personal experience, jabbing with a needle as opposed to pushing is much less traumatic.)
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MageMage posted:This form is all my fault. Well thanks for making me pay an extra fee, jerk.  No, really, that's awesome. It was seriously no hassle at all. I feel lucky I live in a state where it's so easy to get through this stuff. Related question: does anyone know if that birth certificate stuff is in effect? Supposedly you can get it changed in the same way they do DL gender changes now and that is awesome.
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RabbitMage posted:Well thanks for making me pay an extra fee, jerk. I'm looking into it myself. The process basically sounds like doing a name change - i.e. file for a legal gender change in the court, wait until the court date and then stamp all your papers with the right gender marker - except now there's less restrictions on what qualifies as "appropriate treatment" for transitioning. Kind of like how the DL-329 works except you can use it to change your birth certificate, and that I am pretty sure trickles down into Social Security and other things. Maybe.
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MageMage posted:This form is all my fault. Fascinating! It's always interesting to see how these things work. I think it makes more sense this way though, changing a name is no different than changing a name for any other reason and requires the same paperwork, and changing gender has its own form. Very cool though, and I'm glad the transgender law center helped you out. I asked them a few questions as I was putting everything together to do name changes and whatnot and they were great.
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Duet posted:I'm looking into it myself. The process basically sounds like doing a name change - i.e. file for a legal gender change in the court, wait until the court date and then stamp all your papers with the right gender marker - except now there's less restrictions on what qualifies as "appropriate treatment" for transitioning. Kind of like how the DL-329 works except you can use it to change your birth certificate, and that I am pretty sure trickles down into Social Security and other things. Maybe. Social Security is federally run, and I believe its used the "appropriate medical treatment" standard for a while now, which is the same as CA birth certificates
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Kiwi Ghost Chips posted:Social Security is federally run, and I believe its used the "appropriate medical treatment" standard for a while now, which is the same as CA birth certificates I thought you needed surgery to get your social security gender changed... has that changed in like the last yearish?
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Boten Anna posted:I thought you needed surgery to get your social security gender changed... has that changed in like the last yearish? Whoops, I was thinking of passports. However, the SSA doesn't send no-match letters to your job when the gender is mismatched anymore, so it's no longer an issue. http://www.metroweekly.com/poliglot...-gender-no.html
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Boten Anna posted:I thought you needed surgery to get your social security gender changed... has that changed in like the last yearish?  V
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Boten Anna posted:I thought you needed surgery to get your social security gender changed... has that changed in like the last yearish? Nah, like lexical said, i got that changed the same time i got my name changed no hastle. Though the poor lady working there was terribly confused and didn't seem to be able to put 2 and 2 together and just kept asking if the ss number i gave her was right. 
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Ok, I have another question. How do I deal with an idiot coworker that claims that bisexuality is not real, and that people are just faking it to be socially accepted. He has this idea in his head that you're either gay or not, due to some birth defect or whatever. People who are bi seem to prefer one gender over the other, but that doesn't mean that they're faking it. I'm sorry if this seems like a dumb question, but I really don't know who else to ask. I don't even know how these topics come up at work, really. It seems kind of bizarre to me. Anyways, I realize this is the trans thread, but hopefully you can answer this easily too.
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Maximusi posted:Ok, I have another question. How do I deal with an idiot coworker that claims that bisexuality is not real, and that people are just faking it to be socially accepted. He has this idea in his head that you're either gay or not, due to some birth defect or whatever. People who are bi seem to prefer one gender over the other, but that doesn't mean that they're faking it. I'm sorry if this seems like a dumb question, but I really don't know who else to ask. I don't even know how these topics come up at work, really. It seems kind of bizarre to me. Anyways, I realize this is the trans thread, but hopefully you can answer this easily too. Ask the LGB thread this is the T thread.
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Maximusi posted:Ok, I have another question. How do I deal with an idiot coworker that claims that bisexuality is not real, and that people are just faking it to be socially accepted. He has this idea in his head that you're either gay or not, due to some birth defect or whatever. People who are bi seem to prefer one gender over the other, but that doesn't mean that they're faking it. I'm sorry if this seems like a dumb question, but I really don't know who else to ask. I don't even know how these topics come up at work, really. It seems kind of bizarre to me. Anyways, I realize this is the trans thread, but hopefully you can answer this easily too. Nono, we can work this in to a Trans issue. ask him about Trans people. Are they bi, straight, or gay? Blow his mind.
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Maximusi posted:Ok, I have another question. How do I deal with an idiot coworker that claims that bisexuality is not real, and that people are just faking it to be socially accepted. He has this idea in his head that you're either gay or not, due to some birth defect or whatever. People who are bi seem to prefer one gender over the other, but that doesn't mean that they're faking it. I'm sorry if this seems like a dumb question, but I really don't know who else to ask. I don't even know how these topics come up at work, really. It seems kind of bizarre to me. Anyways, I realize this is the trans thread, but hopefully you can answer this easily too. Tell him to suck a dick and smile like he likes it. Who the gently caress controls who they are attracted to? (Nobody, that's who.) I like penis and vagina and muscles and boobs and I don't have any goddamn birth defects.
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Maximusi posted:Ok, I have another question. How do I deal with an idiot coworker that claims that bisexuality is not real, and that people are just faking it to be socially accepted. He has this idea in his head that you're either gay or not, due to some birth defect or whatever. People who are bi seem to prefer one gender over the other, but that doesn't mean that they're faking it. I'm sorry if this seems like a dumb question, but I really don't know who else to ask. I don't even know how these topics come up at work, really. It seems kind of bizarre to me. Anyways, I realize this is the trans thread, but hopefully you can answer this easily too. Is this the same co-worker as before? Start by establishing that being gay is not a genetic defect. From there, the logical leap to "bisexuality means being simultaneously attracted to typically masculine and feminine traits" shouldn't be too much of a stretch.
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Didn't Social Security just recent stop reporting gender at all to get around having to deal with this kind of thing? I know they were changing their policies very recently when it came to gender markers.
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For those of you who don't follow soccer, American Samoa recently won their first game. Ever. To make it even cooler, the "Man of the Match", Jayieh Saelua is a fa'afafine. Thus proving that soccer is the most gender-queer sport. http://www.towleroad.com/2011/11/tr...ing-streak.html
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Juriko posted:Didn't Social Security just recent stop reporting gender at all to get around having to deal with this kind of thing? I know they were changing their policies very recently when it came to gender markers. Only when it comes to your gender, juriko. (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST)
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Hey all. I was recently interviewed by someone from a magazine at my school, and the article is online. It's a mostly trans-positive piece, but there were a few issues with it (I just mentioned them to the author and she accepts she made some mistakes). Anyway if anyone is interested here it is. http://www.northbynorthwestern.com/...rachel-hoffman/ e: Should intro myself for the new thread, I'm a 23 yo transwoman living in the Chicago area in a co-op, taking a break from grad school in math, possibly temporarily. Confused about life, not about transitioning though. But life's just perpetually strange and difficult, in my mind. I'm lucky transitioning has been relatively painless so far. If anyone wants to talk to me, you can put me in the OP, my AIM name is TheSTEVEWolf (I haven't bothered to change it because I talk to my friends more on gchat these days. I may eventually though). Lupus Rufus fucked around with this message at Nov 29, 2011 around 07:14 |
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I wish people would interview me. I would love to read about me. I like me.
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Is it okay to post pictures of ourselves in this thread for pointers in dressing/ makeup/hair? I'm relatively new to actually dressing, and I'm really considering a decent wig, or at least a more androgynous hairstyle. I'd love where goons think I should go to appear more femme. VVVVV I've seen one other person in the thread doing the same so I didn't know whether it was alright or not. As for why I want advice, well I'm new to actually being comfortable enough to do this, so I feel I have a long way to go and I'm sure some goons must have some good advice or pointers! Edit: goons posted:dont Solid. As I'm part lizard I guess I won't (it's certainly not because of fyad)! RedHotKick fucked around with this message at Nov 29, 2011 around 19:35 |
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Why in the hell would you ever want appearance advice from troooons?!  When I first posted to TMT I included pictures and got a custom title for my efforts, but I guess now it's OK as long as you give fair warning. Maybe we should add some brief guidelines about this in the OP?
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GuyIncognito! posted:Only when it comes to your gender, juriko. Says you, and you are lame.
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Only post pictures if you are 100% sure you don't look like a lizard
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Teabiscuit posted:Only post pictures if you are 100% sure you don't look like a lizard Oh dear, really?  Whats the best concealer for covering up scales?
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Lilli posted:
My partner is a VT student taking a bit off. The two of us were on the LGBTA Trans 101 panel at the end of October. Hell seems everyone on campus has heard about my partner (the queer, poly, trans Indian computer science student.) Maybe there should be a trans get together up there. There are a ton of trans people at VT and in the area.
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Only post pictures if you are 100% sure you are OK with them ending up in fyad and laughed at You are almost assuredly not 100% sure of this, and by the time you find out you're not, there will be nothing you can do about it.
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Boten Anna posted:Only post pictures if you are 100% sure you are OK with them ending up in fyad and laughed at  Tips?
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Lexical Unit posted:Ok. This is what I normally wear for a casual look. You will be fine if you stay within the confines of that fencing.
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Lexical Unit posted:Ok. This is what I normally wear for a casual look. It's OK but you should really work to get your point across. Use a whiter foundation and maybe use some lipstick to draw blood drops on your face. It's also never a bad time to straighten your hair and dye it raven pitch black.
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Uh....heh, wow, guess this is my first. I'm 23 (biologically male), and have been more or less dealing with my gender dysphoria my entire life since...well, I was really, really young, and only recently have I actually had it hit me that a good majority of my "issues", in the form of self-destructive behavior and general discontent, have been a result of me trying to kill that feeling of being "wrong" for the sake of my loved ones. Obviously, this is no way to live. Kind of feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, but I recently came clean to my ex GF/Current best friend about all of this, and she was a total sweetheart about it and was there to comfort me . She knew, somehow. Part of me just really hates myself and wants to pretend everything is okay, but I know that, at this point, that'll just end with me miserable. I plan on potentially looking around my area for a therapist who specializes in such issues so I can get on the path to my brain not being rejected by everything else.Is it normal to feel this damned guilty/torn between wanting to be yourself and wanting to be who your loved ones expect you to be? I'm kind of regretting that it took me this many years to stop, well, surpressing my thoughts, but I do want to ideally be happy .
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KryonikMessiah posted:Is it normal to feel this damned guilty/torn between wanting to be yourself and wanting to be who your loved ones expect you to be? I'm kind of regretting that it took me this many years to stop, well, surpressing my thoughts, but I do want to ideally be happy Oh god, yes, it's normal. Every time I tell my mom a new step I'm taking in my transition, I literally forget that I'm happy about it and just feel so guilty because she just gets so drat sad.
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So out of the blue my flatmate wants me to leave because he isn't comfortable with some of the things I do in my private life. He didn't come out and say it, and I was too upset to press him on it, but its almost certainly because he found out about me being trans. Odds are one of the little Judas' I came out to told him, though I have no idea why save wanting to screw with my life for some reason. People really do just hate us, don't they? I guess because i'm too ugly and too much of a goddamn coward to be publicly out I haven't experienced any of this firsthand aside from my friends ditching me. I've never had any problems with this guy, we don't see each other much at all because he's working or away all the time but we get along well enough. But as soon as he finds out about this his response is to throw me out on my arse because suddenly i'm just this freak he can't stand to be around. gently caress this life so hard.
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