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I suppose i might get in on the new thread too. If you are ever iffy about taking anti-depressants, don't be. 
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| # ¿ Nov 7, 2011 17:30 |
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Oh wow, Rah, you look fantastic! Was the before pic before hormones, because you seriously look androgynous in that. I've seen cisgirls that looked like you did. Even though I pass just fine, I still feel like I have to be careful with my hair, so it an hide the mannish jaw. Hopefully that will diminish some once I get back on hormones for longer.
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| # ¿ Nov 18, 2011 12:34 |
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LemonLimeTime posted:Correct me if I'm wrong, didn't you worry you would never pass in an earlier thread? Honestly, I'm just curious. Yeah.... I was wrong I guess.
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| # ¿ Nov 18, 2011 17:11 |
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WrathofKhan posted:So this would be a bad time to suggest that 'leveling up' be used to describe transition? Evolution. Congratulations! Your Nidoran(m) has evolved into Nidorina! On an unrelated note, where does everyone go for tall (womens) clothes? I don't really know of any B&M stores that have tall stuff, but there is a significant presence online at department stores, GAP and their stores, Zappos, etc. I got some henleys from Old Navy that were talls, but the sleeves are still way too short (3/4 at elbow, and full length at 3/4). I could try going a size up, but its kinda silly to have XL tops with size 6-8 jeans. Could it be my shoulders? Oh, and what are you guys doing for socks? Guy's socks?
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| # ¿ Nov 26, 2011 00:27 |
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Endless and Barefoot Tess also have some good selection (Barefoot Tess is all large women's shoes). Endless also has the advantage of free amazon prime-style shipping for their customers, so for 4 dollars more, you can get next day air.  e: Yeah, mine are 12-13 ish and theres a pretty good selection overall (but obviously not as much as smaller sizes).
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| # ¿ Nov 26, 2011 01:02 |
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DeadlyMuffin posted:There's been a lot of people despairing over their height and foot size recently. I wear a women's 13W and am safely over 6', and I used to have that same self conscious attitude. But I've come to the realization that being a tall woman can actually be pretty awesome, and since I'm going to be one if I like it or not, why not try and enjoy it? Yep. But It'd be better to own the clothes that go with it. Pants are easy and all, but tops are hit and miss.
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| # ¿ Nov 26, 2011 04:57 |
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Teabiscuit posted:Only post pictures if you are 100% sure you don't look like a lizard Oh dear, really?  Whats the best concealer for covering up scales?
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| # ¿ Nov 29, 2011 17:39 |
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Try explaining it to them this way: Who are they to say it is God's 'will' so to speak for you to be female? It works in mysterious ways, etc, etc... I don't know exactly how effective of an argument it would be, but it sounds logically consistent in my head For an unrelated question, how exactly would name changes work? Does it change the name on your birth certificate or just the driver's license? If it affects the birth certificate, does that mean that I need to do the name change in the state I was born in?
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| # ¿ Dec 5, 2011 01:35 |
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Thanks dovetaile and deut, that makes sense. I guess I just didn't think of it like that because of how decentralized everything is. 
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| # ¿ Dec 5, 2011 03:12 |
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FYAD is basically the hangout of all those annoying high school teens that you see in theaters and malls that spout memes and are just a general disturbance. Ignore them. No better than 4chan.
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| # ¿ Dec 6, 2011 01:26 |
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Teabiscuit posted:Fyad just want's to help us through our troubled time we should Fixed. (What's with the airplane planker thing?) Have people really expressed a belief in a 'grand medical conspiracy' or whatever? fake edit: ^^ Ooh, thanks for that Olga
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| # ¿ Dec 6, 2011 01:49 |
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Well, you have to keep in mind that friends/family have built up an idea of you and attached it mentally to your identifying features (face etc.). It's a habit for them to use a particular set of pronouns/names and like all habits it needs to be broken. As for the memory thing, my experience has been a lot like Showcase shodan's.
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| # ¿ Dec 11, 2011 20:14 |
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Also you need to have the right aetna plan, ie something like choice pos ii. According to them, not every plan covers it.
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| # ¿ Dec 21, 2011 20:30 |
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http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanad...lgbt-employees/ Well, at least citi is good for something, thankfully.
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| # ¿ Dec 23, 2011 07:03 |
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I'll be whatever they want me to be if they'll pay for it, though.
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| # ¿ Dec 23, 2011 19:58 |
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Its seems to be useless to despair over the terms. After all, any doctor would just go by what you tell them, right? I mean, they won't be able to implicitly know what you feel. Thats kind of what the rle is for for the surgery. It seems to me that its supposed to be a self reflection period for you so you can find out what works for you. The only thing is the use of the term 'true' but really that is just a thoughtless classification. Besides, its not 'true women' just transgender. I dont really care what kind of transgender label is applied to me as long as woman is there without modifiers.
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| # ¿ Dec 24, 2011 03:35 |
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Am i over reacting here? My brother and his girlfriend are visiting for a few days during thier winter break. Ive been full time and have had my mother using my new name for a few months now. The thing is, she doesnt want to use it in the company of my brothers girlfriend, so all i hear is 'old name' and he/him/his all the time from her and my brothers (who both know). I am also just being a giant pussy and only correcting them in a soft voice, if at all. This really hurts, and ive been crying myself to sleep for the first time in months because of it, as it seems to me that my mother is only accepting of me when it is convienent for her. Am i being selfish and overreacting here?
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| # ¿ Jan 4, 2012 04:53 |
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IPL is pulsed [incoherent] light, whereas laser is laser (of a single wavelength). The theory is, as laser is light of single wavelength, they can specifically 'target' hair, and reduce the trauma to the skin and other areas versus IPL. I don't know if it varies by state, but there doesn't seem to be any regulation on what can be called "Laser Hair Removal." You pretty much just have to check web sites or call them and ask the brand of laser they use. Oh, and if anyone doesn't really have that much facial hair, it might be more cost effective to just do electrolysis.
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| # ¿ Jan 4, 2012 21:49 |
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I don't know if its usable for laser, but there is an anesthetic called EMLA that you can put on before hand that numbs the area. Again, it might be viable for laser, but electrolysis uses it.
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| # ¿ Jan 4, 2012 23:47 |
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Thanks for the responses, everyone. While it was a bit late as my brother and his girlfriend are heading back early tomorrow, I explicitly told the girlfriend earlier tonight, so that removed all reasons not to use my name and P.G.P.s. Now its all up to whether they want to (in front of her, at least for my mom). Also, name changes are seriously expensive...
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| # ¿ Jan 5, 2012 04:32 |
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Kakumei posted:Well, poo poo. I'll ask him about that next time I go in, then (which is two months from now, but whatever!) Thanks. Just call him up and ask him. The 2 month thing is just a check up right? I'm sure he would be willing to do a new script real quick.
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| # ¿ Jan 6, 2012 03:33 |
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So I'm returning to school for the first time in over a year, and I'm full time. I haven't had the name change yet, so I'm a bit apprehensive about attendance. What's the protocol for this? Should I go up to the teacher before class and talk it over with them? What if the teacher is late, and I don't get that chance to correct the roll?
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| # ¿ Jan 9, 2012 03:02 |
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Well, one of my classes only has 7 people in it, so it might be obvious if I don't say 'here' and besides, it makes it a lot easier for the teacher to put names with faces. I found her email, so hopefully she can get it before class tomorrow, and she is reasonable.
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| # ¿ Jan 9, 2012 04:50 |
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I know a lot of jobs have "PLEASE LIST ALL PREVIOUS NAMES USED" on applications...
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| # ¿ Jan 9, 2012 16:55 |
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Something you could do is search insurance companies' web sites for gay/lesbian counseling. While that doesn't necessarily mean they are gender-affirming, its still something. Here's a link to aetna's search engine for gainesville. If you do a new search, the provider category is behavioral health, the type is behavioral health providers, and the insurance plan doesn't matter, just choose one like HMO or choice POS. Click on more options to get a list of specializations. I know there is a Gender Identity specialization, but I wouldn't be surprised if there were only a handful in the entire country on there.
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| # ¿ Jan 12, 2012 21:19 |
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I don't know about everyone else, but I was like that for a long time. I've gotten over it some by basically realizing that my lower body is size 8 and my upper body is size 10. My shoulders still are overly large, but I compensate some by going a size up. I don't exactly what your situation is like, but thars what it sounds like to me.
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| # ¿ Jan 15, 2012 22:06 |
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I really don't think it would be a problem. Just ask her if she wants to look through some of your old clothes that don't fit before you give them to good will or something. (I, at least, would be excited. All the fun of consignment stores without paying money!)
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| # ¿ Jan 16, 2012 03:42 |
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Cityinthesea posted:Is there a good place to check for trans friendly doctors (specifically one that can write up hormone prescriptions) in areas? I'm moving in a couple months and I want to know where to check before I move up there. Well, one thing you could do is ask in trans-related online forums and similar (like this thread!) if anyone knows anything. Another is to just google '[place name] transgender' and go from there.
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| # ¿ Jan 18, 2012 20:36 |
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Life saved? What do you mean?
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| # ¿ Jan 30, 2012 22:48 |
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I have a question for everyone who has had srs -- Who was the surgeon that you went to? I've been looking at Dr. Reed down in Miami (as hes the closest), but I don't know how insurance would deal with his 50% down payment policy. Is there anyone close to Dallas or Houston that's good?
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| # ¿ Feb 12, 2012 13:19 |
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Thanks for the replies. I might have to check out Dr. Bowers then, and look at travel and lodging prices.
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| # ¿ Feb 12, 2012 18:23 |
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Teabiscuit posted:Haven't you been fulltime for years how have you not had a script. The internet is a magical place, i bet.
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| # ¿ Feb 19, 2012 00:27 |
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People are going to Orlando? That's only an hour away from me...
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| # ¿ Mar 1, 2012 21:13 |
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The only reason women's underwear is better is because I don't like briefs and boxers are too bulky (especially in tight pants, dresses and skirts). e: Qorean BBQ posted:I'm trans and all and not trying to be mean but this is the most embarrassing thread, I seriously can't believe what the words you people are typing. have some loving dignity. While I might be oversensitive, focusing on underwear gives off a kind of creepy vibe to me. Watermelon Daiquiri fucked around with this message at Mar 1, 2012 around 23:23 |
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Kakumei posted:I don't think anyone said it was their focus (it certainly isn't mine!) The question was posed, I responded, what's the deal? I'm sorry, I didn't really mean to disparage anyone; I just get reminded of the fetishists out there, and it gives an almost involuntary response of "No, I'm getting off by wearing women's clothes, I am a woman." I guess this is something I have to get through?
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| # ¿ Mar 2, 2012 00:05 |
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So I have a bit of a (1st world) conundrum. Me and my mom are looking to go on a cruise in a couple weeks. The thing is, my name hasn't been legally changed yet, so that means I have to register with my guy name (and gender) and that has really upset me. I really want to go on this cruise (even if I only have the confidence for a one piece swimsuit); but I don't want my guy name (and maybe gender) displayed around my neck on those lanyards you have to use. Should I just suck it up and get over it?
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| # ¿ Mar 3, 2012 15:26 |
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Yeah, I am full time. I should call the cruise line, but you need the name badge and a photo Id to re-board the ship at a port, so I don't know how much can be done...
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| # ¿ Mar 3, 2012 16:17 |
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Something that a lot of religious people love to throw around is "God Works in Mysterious Ways." Anyone trying to explain that away would be rather egotistical in their faith...
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| # ¿ Mar 6, 2012 16:57 |
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AbsoluteLlama posted:One of the panelists was in the Autostraddle calendar: :shakefist: Genetics!! E: whatever that emote is...
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LemonLimeTime posted:Benedict Cumberbatch (he's not even that cute!) You did not just write that. 
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