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GuyIncognito! posted:Besides all that, I still firmly believe as i posted before, that 99% of people can absolutely loving pass completely despite physical appearance, with enough work. Easy coming from YOU, some of us are not so lucky.
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| # ¿ May 22, 2013 16:58 |
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Didn't Social Security just recent stop reporting gender at all to get around having to deal with this kind of thing? I know they were changing their policies very recently when it came to gender markers.
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| # ¿ Nov 28, 2011 04:19 |
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GuyIncognito! posted:Only when it comes to your gender, juriko. Says you, and you are lame.
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| # ¿ Nov 29, 2011 15:28 |
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Install Gentoo posted:See, like, this reads to me as before it was "i'd like to be a girl (but I don't identify as such)" and after is "I am a girl/woman". The latter is your real identity, but the former was valid at the time and a different identity. The latter is really just an adult affirmation of the former. Puberty is the period where an individuals work to gain autonomy from their parents. When you are a kid it is about what you want to do, what you would like to do etc. where as a teen going into adulthood it turns into being about what you are. That is just normal child development. Maximusi posted:When I said "you" I meant a general you, not you specifically. Here is the thing, you are different simply by the nature of socialization. The fact that you are fighting against a stereotypical image and feel the need to means it is defining you, just in a different way.
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| # ¿ Dec 12, 2011 18:31 |
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I shoot unadulterated estrogen into my dick every morning because I want the prettiest cock possible.
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| # ¿ Mar 15, 2012 16:58 |
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Panties panties dress, thong panties skirt. Dresses panties skirt, thong string bikini girlmode.
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| # ¿ Mar 28, 2012 16:48 |
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Marshmallow Mayhem posted:The local trans expert endocrinologist at the LA GLC also doesn't do hormone testing til after six months on the same dosage, because your hormone levels fluctuate too much. But as far as I know not doing some baseline pre HRT bloodwork is sort of weird/maybe dangerous? My current doctor isn't considered a trans specialist but they do see a lot of trans patients, and do a lot of work with the queer community. They have been better than the "specialist" I saw who creeped me out. I did baseline bloodwork first thing, first appointment. Not doing that is nuts, since the results show a bunch of warning signs. After it came back flawless I got my starting dose, and was told to schedule an appointment for 1-3 months to mostly make sure I wasn't dying and to check efficacy. I had really clear signs by the end of the first month (visible breast growth, clear changes in complexion etc) so I held off since test cost is, between appointment and bloodwork, on the order of 500 dollars thanks to paying full cost. After that it is a 6 month appointment and, if all is going well, a regular checkup after that. While tons of doctors have different opinions on the course of treatment, a baseline is, like, what you always do. I have heard the same thing about waiting 6 months for a followup as well.
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| # ¿ Sep 6, 2012 23:18 |
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AbsoluteLlama posted:Drag shows are awful. Seattle rocks. It is a big city, so there are plenty of trans groups, though to be fair most will be terrible. That is just the nature of the beast. I can't think of many people who have amazing things to say about trans support groups anywhere. Plus, you don't go to an AA meeting to find people to party with. You are not going to be finding the most fun folks at a trans support group. If you are looking to meet folks it is better to just look for queer org's with a shared interest.
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| # ¿ Sep 21, 2012 13:35 |
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Anne Frankenstein posted:When I say content, I mean that I can look past it/not let it bring me down. When things come up that are specifically gendering, that's when I have issues. I can find happiness away from that whole issue. I guess saying I'm content with my gender was poor phrasing on my part, more that I can feel content without the dysphoria making my life hell. I agree on the contradictory nature of it, and I think that's why I'm so honestly confused. It's more of a "I think I can deal" kind of thing than a "I'm happy with my gender now". And that may sound pretty unfulfilling, but I never realized until recently how terrified I am of all the medical stuff. So I put off pursuing HRT because, basically, I wasn't unhappy where I was. Now that doesn't mean I wasn't bothered by things, it was more that I was in a good place, and had learned how to control my overall dysphoria extremely well. Early this year I decided to finally get HRT for a bunch of reasons. I was 30, not getting any younger, and had very few reasons not to. I have to say, while I was happy before, the whole thing has been massively positive for me. The fact is, as time marches on your life will become more complex, and you will find more reasons to convince yourself not to do it. I regret putting my career and education ahead of everything at this point. I could have found a way to do all of it, and I will always get to wonder if I could have benefited even more from it. As it stands I am way happier now than I was. Of all the benefits I have to say, don't discount the simple power of feeling satisfied that you are doing something about it. Don't undersell your happiness, it just isn't worth it. You might not need to pursue HRT. That is cool, no one should feel they have to do anything, but don't let a temporary rush stop you. Make sure you won't find yourself in 6 months or a year unhappy again and feeling like you wasted more time. Being happy is a pretty good motivator to get stuff done. Really, I could have probably made it without HRT and lived with a bit of regret concerning it, but I am glad I didn't.
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| # ¿ Sep 24, 2012 11:15 |
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Directorman posted:This is a super long thread, so apologies if this has been talked about somewhere, but I'd be interested in hearing from folks who have transitioned slightly later in life (24, 25, etc) I had a lot of body issues that, in retrospect, were very much me attempting to maintain some semblance of control over a body I disliked and felt a certain level of betrayal towards growing up. The worst of that was having what was a pretty bad eating disorder. I just never ate, and it was easy to pass it off as something other than what it was. Boys didn't have those when I was growing up, so no one ever said anything about it. I was in denial about things. I told myself my experience wasn't the same as other trans people. I didn't despise my body, or hate my life enough so I couldn't really be trans. The list goes on. A lot of excuses were lies I had learned to tell myself over the years that, again, began to fall apart as I really looked at them. Even with all the denial though I had tacit knowledge of my situation. My approach to getting over it was to stay busy and attempt to maintain a lot of control over my life. I worked a lot, kept a very busy schedule, and focused on my education and career. That kind of started to implode after a while as I had less and less to distract me. So I would go talk to a therapist, and also really evaluate some of the things you said. See if they are really true. It can be surprisingly simple to gloss over things like depression. At some point you adjust to your version of "normal" and it can be hard to see past it until faced with it.
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| # ¿ Oct 8, 2012 19:27 |
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SmileShot! posted:I have a question. I live in Washington (the state, not DC) and here the term tranny seems to be offensive. To me it sounds more cute then anything. Being a queer trans myself If someone were to call me faggy I'd think it was just as cute. Ok, I am going to be honest. The thing that annoys me the most about it is usage. I am not "a tranny" I am a person that happens to be trans. I get just as annoyed by people that saying things like "I know a gay."
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| # ¿ Oct 21, 2012 05:01 |
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Kevin Bacon posted:@Thuryl That is, generally speaking, the max recommended dosages. You can go higher, and people do, but you are probably going to need to go to someone with more experience to get them to push the dosage up or offer alternatives.
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| # ¿ Nov 22, 2012 17:17 |
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I did mention it to my doctor, but she claims I am already on the maximum dosage and she will not increase it because of the increased risk of blood clotting. She's a GP -- not an endocrinologist -- and doesn't seem very experienced. 
But I'll talk to her some more during my next appointment.
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King Bowflexious posted:My name is Sophie and I recently came out to myself (and subsequently my friends) as a transwoman at the ripe old age of 25. I'm very lucky in that every single one of my friends has been supportive and happy for me and I'm very grateful for that! ... E will have a minimal effect on bodyhair. If you are very hairy do not expect miracles, you will want to start planning out the minimum amount of laser/electro you could live with. Making a long story short, I know what you are talking about. For a long time I identified primarily as genderqueer, but presented as a woman. It was this year, at 30, that I finally decided to seriously take the plunge and begin HRT and transition. There was denial early on, then a lot of working out my feelings about my identity and what I was comfortable with. It is a pretty exciting and frustrating time.
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| # ¿ Dec 5, 2012 12:08 |
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Wow please don't shame people for butt candling.
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| # ¿ Dec 8, 2012 02:53 |
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Serifina posted:It took that long? Mine did that after about three. Everyone is different. Mine started feeling like hell in the first couple of weeks. Hugs sucked.
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| # ¿ Dec 23, 2012 07:55 |
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Nephielle posted:My mom and dad did something really amazing recently. Families can own. I was really worried my parents would be unsupportive, or say they were supportive but not really be. Instead they ended up being the most awesome people on earth, and I have never in my life wanted to spend more time with them. At Christmas my mom gifted me some bracelets that were my grandmothers(who had passed a few years back) with my name engraved on it. My parents also took me shopping which was awesome. My dad has been handling our extended family who is pretty conservative, basically letting them know as they find out that they can either deal with it or be cut off. I ended up feeling really stupid that I worried so much about telling them in the first place, because they blew away my expectations. Everyone in my life has been really supportive so far from my family and friends to my employer. They are mostly just glad to see me happier and more comfortable with myself.
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| # ¿ Jan 1, 2013 21:42 |
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It will completely depend on where you live and what is available to you and where you go. I think it took me all of a week. I just went in, had bloodwork done, and had a prescription when the results came in. Of course this was after the first doctor I saw refused to start HRT until I had another 6-12 months of counseling.
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| # ¿ Jan 3, 2013 00:26 |
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Sociopastry posted:I'm thinking Gabriel. I've always thought it was a nice name and I think it fits me. I don't have a before and after at all. I would have to move to even make that possible and that isn't desirable at all. I have just came to terms with the fact a LOT of people will know my history, and find solace in the fact everyone I know has been awesome as heck about it. I think that the reason a lot of people have that cutoff is it can be a lot easier to start clean if you don't have deep roots, and many people tend to have less friends pre transition due to their personal discomfort.
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| # ¿ Jan 10, 2013 04:44 |
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Waffles Inc. posted:Well without getting into the details, after many tests and a bunch of other medical-related things, hormones aren't going to be possible. Did you get a second opinion, or was it already a possibility you where aware of due to a pre existing condition?
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| # ¿ Jan 28, 2013 17:16 |
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TerraGoetia posted:-Who do you tell about your gender identity? (Just family, just friends, some mix? Do you only express privately? Do you try to blend in and not announce your trans status? Or are you completely open about it?) -I told people I already knew, since it wasn't something I could hide, and potential partners. Outside of that unless someone meets me through some kind of channel where it is pertinent information it isn't anyone's business. -If I think it will go anywhere I disclose right off. The fact is I have a past, and there is a solid chance it could come up at some point, so I would rather get it out of the way in those kinds of cases. I know a lot of people just want to get SRS and go total stealth, but I don't plan on completely rebooting my life so I don't even consider that a possibility.
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| # ¿ Feb 13, 2013 00:51 |
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quiggy posted:Well, today I finally got follow-up. I got contacted by a girl from the LGBT club and was told that the person wants to meet me. Basically, they're male-bodied but questioning their gender and wants to meet someone who has mostly figured all of this stuff out. I got their number, we've been texting for a little bit, and now we're gonna meet up on Friday for lunch. So, um, has anyone else done something like this? What the gently caress do I say? I really, really want to help this person out since I know firsthand how hard this can be to figure out but I'm an awkward person and don't even know what to say. Anybody have any advice A couple of times. Just let them ask you questions, and be frank. A huge amount of the information out there is either wrong, overly supportive without being realistic, or just completely crazy. Be prepared to possibly be this person first therapy session more or less, because if they get comfortable they will most likely unload a ton of repressed feelings on you in the discussion. Expect a lot of really dumb questions.
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| # ¿ Feb 14, 2013 04:16 |
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I never had a defining moment. It was really a long, meandering journey. I was pretty hard core sure by the time I hit middle school that I wanted to be a girl, and gender was something I had been seriously struggling with since elementary school to the point my "behavior" was a topic of conversation with my teachers. 95% of all my friends up till college were girls. I had a hard time socializing with guys, I just did not identify at all with other boys growing up, and they had pretty much branded me the gay kid so early on I was more or less a total pariah. Where I grew up there was no visible GLBT community at all. I had never even heard of gay let alone trans people until almost highschool when we got our first computer. None of it seemed achievable and my teens through my early twenties were one giant funk marked by a huge antisocial streak and a lot of anger. I also by then had developed a pretty bad eating disorder that took me till my second year of college to really start getting over. About the only decent thing in my life during that time was a close friend of mine who actually will probably see this and laugh. We kept each other going. My real turning point was college. By 23/24 I got into university and that was a big change for me. I finally started dating guys, I began seriously presenting androgynous, and met a lot of people that where important to me growing more comfortable with myself. A lot of embarrassing, highschool level growth occurred since I was finally in a safe environment. It wasn't until this last year that I realized transition was a thing I could really do. It was something available to me, and also something I wanted. I had finally gotten to a point where I was comfortable enough and had enough outside support to make the leap. Juriko fucked around with this message at Mar 2, 2013 around 07:50 |
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Must be cool passing and not getting misgendered. I basically get misgenderd by everyone which is par for the course really.
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| # ¿ Mar 7, 2013 04:29 |
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I am probably the most confident person I know, it only gets you so far.
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| # ¿ Mar 7, 2013 07:51 |
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Gestalt Intellect posted:The process is very long and awkward in America compared to the UK. You have to get the name change published in a legal newspaper at some incredibly specific length of time before a court date and some other things. Not really, it varies. In Washington state all it took me was an afternoon. I filed out some paper work, gave them 130 bucks, and went before a judge to swear I wasn't trying to defraud anyone, and got official court orders for the name change. Gender marker change was just a half page form filled out by a doctor or therapist. It all took about a day (well the latter took a couple weeks to process I guess). At that point I can just reorder my id/license, or go in with the paperwork so I can get a new picture. Its really easy though, the hardest part has been finding the time to actually go do the license, because I need a new picture as I look absolutely nothing like my old one.
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| # ¿ Mar 7, 2013 23:41 |
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That isn't a troll. Seriously, how was that remotely trolling?
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| # ¿ Mar 9, 2013 00:31 |
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RumbleFish posted:Finally picked up my name change paperwork this morning, which is a load off my mind. I've looked over it pretty thoroughly, and to my relief, it's really quite easy. The only downside is how much running around it requires -- fingerprinting, mailing requests for background checks, getting forms notarized, etc. I definitely wish I had gotten the ball rolling on this sooner, but it was going to be a pain in the rear end no matter when I got started. I just put down gender transition flat out, and so when I came up the judge actually never announced my old name (I believe they simply said Ms. Lastname) and didn't announce the reason as anything other than personal preference, as opposed to other cases where they call you out by your previous name, swear you to it, then announce the name change and the reason. This was a Seattle courthouse in Washington though and I am sure it is a YMMV kind of thing.
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| # ¿ Mar 12, 2013 18:31 |
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I started middle of last year, at 30, and by most accounts I would say it has went great for me, and much better than any number of younger folks. Age is just one factor and 22 is not that old at all.
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Espy posted:I'm near top 50 for women's names for my birth year, so it works. Dosages seem to vary a lot on doctor tbh. I am only on 3mg of estradiol, and I started on e. It hasn't exactly hurt my results as far as I can tell.
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| # ¿ Mar 13, 2013 23:07 |
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Nutmeg posted:I'm getting bored of my useless dick If you're having girl problems I feel bad for you son I got 99 problems but my dick ain't one.
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| # ¿ Mar 14, 2013 20:14 |
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Got Moloko posted:Ya, the only other mtf person I know IRL claims her male body hair all just dropped out within the first year of hormones, but she started reasonably young and has thin light hair anyway. While my body hair didn't exactly drop out what little body hair I did have thinned out, becoming finer and mostly blond. I can go out w/o having shaved my legs for weeks and unless you are right up in there you can't tell, but I had very little body hair to start with. The downside to all that is what little facial hair I have isn't affected by laser, so I either have to wax it or get electrolysis. It is a similar situation to my legs though, it takes a good amount of growth before it is visibly noticeable.
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| # ¿ Mar 15, 2013 20:17 |
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Stroop There It Is posted:The Latin roots "cis-" and "trans-" are used commonly in chemistry. They mean "on the same side" and "across" respectively, so "cisgender" and "transgender" make perfect sense as English words and have transparent meanings. Maybe these offended people didn't pass high school chemistry... quote:tiny minority of women of working-class origin How classist of you.
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| # ¿ Mar 20, 2013 19:43 |
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A lot of terfs like to pull the "it's just a bunch of pie in the sky academics using their knowledge privilege to oppress real women" line of thought (ignoring that the vast, vast amount of trans people do not have that kind of privilege) so I found it really funny how that all got lined up.
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LemonLimeTime posted:May seem like a dumb question but: I'm considering whether to go to grad school or not and strongly thinking about somewhere on the west coast, preferably San Francisco or generally CA. I'm going for animation/illustration and have heard certain schools cover HRT and SRS expenses. I sort of have my sights set on Academy of Art University in SF, as I have a friend about to graduate and hearing about it from him the curriculum sounds perfect for me. I haven't seen them listed as covering any trans related expenses such as these when doing a quick Google search, and ideally if and when I do go off to grad school in about a year or two I'd like to hit a few birds with one stone. (getting my art to the level I want it to be, ensuring a career, being able to integrate into my life and society as female so I can get on with it) Obviously having HRT covered is a must but I'd ideally rather FFS be covered over SRS (for me anyways) since SRS isn't an urgent thing, at least right now. FFS, for me at the moment, is a much higher priority in the foreseeable future. Wondering if anybody knew about grad schools that would cover these, especially Academy of Art. Thanks. Almost no insurance anywhere will cover FFS, some but not a lot cover SRS, HRT is not that much better. Also often graduate students do not have the same insurance as undergraduates so you cannot assume one both are covered if one is. You pretty much have to ask the school.
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| # ¿ Mar 22, 2013 18:41 |
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They should just outlaw public restrooms, it would simplify all these issues.
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| # ¿ Mar 22, 2013 23:19 |
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Boot boots, shoes boots boots BOOTS boots shoes.
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| # ¿ Mar 24, 2013 23:53 |
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Pi Soup posted:I walked by a group of 7-8 guys at a bus stop today and they started yelling poo poo at me, now I'm sad and angry and want to vent. I'm glad it was day time and there were quite a few people around because that situation was absolutely terrifying as it was. Seattlite here, and we are about as chill as it gets so I am voting bad luck.
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| # ¿ Mar 29, 2013 13:40 |
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Medical insurance/billing is extremely complex and convoluted so I recommend you call them about it. Plans and there actual coverage vary by business so any answer you get here is just someone guessing at it. There is a very good chance it was never covered, and your previous doctor purposefully miscoded the treatment so your insurance would not flag it. edit: What I mean is even two plans, with the same names, can have different coverage depending on employer. I know someone on the exact same health plan I have, theirs covers HRT and mine doesn't. They make it very difficult to find this stuff out. Juriko fucked around with this message at Mar 29, 2013 around 22:07 |
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While that is a good start it is worth calling because sometimes a benefits sheet will be for a basic plan they offer but additional riders to the policy might contradict the restrictions laid out in the benefits.
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| # ¿ May 22, 2013 16:58 |
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Karma Monkey posted:This is pure awesome. I might have to hit you up for an art commission. The weird hypotheticals are the worst. Like, sorry dude not only did my dad not care neither of my parents were surprised at all. My dad was referring to me is his daughter the next week. But you know, way to try and read into my psychology.
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