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Ah, a new Zaurg thread. I am savoring this like a nice cup of hot tea. Question about the "possible renting of your condo", who is going to manage it? It costs to get a professional management company, and sometimes even those are hit-or-miss. If you plan to do it yourself, do you have a fix-it go-to guy in mind that you could call for last-minute repairs? I speak as a townhouse renter that it seems like many people who have a townhouse/condo think, "Oh we'll just rent it!" and never think there will be anything past that in repairs or adjustments.
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| # ¿ Mar 5, 2012 21:00 |
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| # ¿ May 24, 2013 01:22 |
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cowofwar posted:You and your wife could easily do a lot of work on your condo yourselves and not only improve your living conditions but also improve the resale value of your condo. Replacing the carpet will help with the smell even if it isn't the source - carpet absorbs and releases odours. Please answer this question, Zaurg. Depending on what the smell's source is, your house insurance might cover it. I say this with only anecdotal evidence to back me up - a buddy of mine had black mold in her house and the clean-up was covered by her insurance.
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| # ¿ Mar 11, 2012 15:27 |
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CuddleChunks posted:if you have a general gross cat piss smell (in which case launch the cat into the nearest swamp and let the alligators handle it) or if it's a musty moldy smell. Don't do this, obviously. However, you do need to take your cat to the vet and have it put down if it's not urinating/defecating in its litter box and it's very old. It's time to consider your pet's quality of life and not just keep it around suffering because you and/or someone else in your family's very attached to it. You've got to do the right thing here, Zaurg. I know you don't like making difficult decisions, but this is something you've GOT to do. My SO and I had to put down two elderly, sick cats in the past two years. We miss them terribly but we had to do what was right and best for them. It would be wonderful if our pets lived forever but that is not the case (unless you have a tortoise, I guess). In regard to your wife - does she have any good, redeeming qualities? I know she supported you back in the day, and you've had a kid with her but it feels like you've both already checked out of the relationship. It's like you're just staying together for the kid and because divorce requires 
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| # ¿ Mar 17, 2012 22:20 |
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zaurg posted:No, I mean a bedroom / office combo would be nice. I currently usually sleep on the couch so that would be a nice upgrade. Okay you're not taking any advice from us and we're not feeling any schadenfreude from this thread because your situation is too depressing, so what is it that you want from us? I mean, at this point, I think you have to be trolling subconsciously for attention at least, or something. I'm just not sure what you want any of us to say or what you're hoping to get out of this thread.
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| # ¿ Mar 19, 2012 20:36 |
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Sign her up, Zaurg. Now then, what do you currently like about your wife? There surely must be something. Also what was it that attracted you to her early on? What were her good qualities then? At the very least, we know Zwife is a good, steady worker and is loyal to family. Zaurg can be a bit of a jerk sometimes (as can we all) so I am sure Zwife cannot be all bad in this situation. 80K is right.
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| # ¿ Mar 21, 2012 19:48 |
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UCS Hellmaker posted:Her account name better be zwife to make this even more insane at this point. How will we know for sure it's her posting and not Zaurg himself? Hmmm.... 
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| # ¿ Mar 21, 2012 19:55 |
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Zeta Buttforce posted:People who tell the truth and have integrity flourish in life. People who lie and think they can pull one over on the system end up failing in life. All bets are off at the CEO level.
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| # ¿ Mar 23, 2012 15:56 |
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zaurg posted:Yeah good point about the gift, 3 cookies for you, Trillian. You named yourself after a stupid IM client? Weird. The IM client, like the SA poster in the thread, are both named after a well-known literary character. Zaurg says he's smarter than Zwife. Well I'd expect that considering she has a degree from DeVry. 
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| # ¿ Mar 26, 2012 12:15 |
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YankeeAirPirate posted:So what odds do you guys give that this is not a troll per se, but rather some BFC regular who enjoys creating performance art? The willful stupidity and gleeful reversal of everything suggested is just too honey-coated to be real. I thought there was a troll component even with the last thread as Zaurg's posting style feels more like baiting or attention-seeking than advice-seeking. However, in the last thread, he did post a photo of the infamous pool table with the wonderhangers and MLM stuff on it plus his Miami hat. I believe that most BFCers would prefer Zaurg to be a troll. It would be better to know that someone is joking around rather than making terrible financial decisions.
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| # ¿ Mar 27, 2012 01:29 |
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Pillowpants posted:I'm pretty sure it's not an elaborate troll. I talked to zaurg one or two times over gchat between the thread 18 months ago and this one, and he seemed to be in the same miserable situation between the thread. That's a shame then. One thing that's stood out in my mind is the "I don't have friends" thing. It's got to seem overwhelming when you don't have a social network to fall back on or even bounce ideas off of. No wonder Zaurg refuses to leave his wife. This is all very sad. Edit: I feel most sad for the poor renter that will be moving into Z's old townhouse. I hope he realizes what his rights are as a renter because if Zaurg and Zwife are as lazy on maintenance and fixing things as they have been, they'll be in court soon enough.
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| # ¿ Mar 27, 2012 16:07 |
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skipdogg posted:It's just loving money at this point. Who cares if you don't follow the BFC approved method of living your life. I sure as poo poo don't. My debts make yours look like nothing. Hell I even lease a brand new SUV. It's not worth ruining your marriage and losing time with your kid over. I would like to see a BFC thread from this^^^ guy. Zaurg, if you buy the house, I hope you at least have a shorter commute.
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| # ¿ Mar 28, 2012 01:54 |
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clockworx posted:I would also suggest reading a couple of decluttering and home organization books. Holding on to tons of junk you don't ever use can cause the anxiety that makes people go "We need a bigger place!" despite the fact that that will never fix the problem for those types of people. Getting rid of junk and putting some thought into what you're unhappy about (and possible solutions) can go a long way for potentially very little money. Yeah, if you haven't used it in the past three years, you're not going to. Donate it, recycle it, sell it, or throw it out. If you're saving stuff for sentimental purposes, allow yourself one box and put keepsakes in there. Past that, you have to emotionally let go. Americans are very bad about equating stuff with wealth. People and Experiences > Stuff Also it's no use telling yourself "well if I'd only done this last year" or whatever. That was last year, and this is now. Our choices now are what matters, not what could have or should have been. Learn from your mistakes and go forth to victory! 
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| # ¿ Mar 28, 2012 15:53 |
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spog posted:I dunno. I would have initially agreed but the email she sent to the realtor shows she's really considering it. If it was an ultimatum-type move she would have told Zaurg otherwise. However, she told Zaurg she'd agree to go to counseling. THAT right there is the bluff. I think she is lawyering up and preparing for divorce. The promise of counseling is a stall to keep Zaurg from acting as fast as she does.
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| # ¿ Mar 30, 2012 20:03 |
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Orange_Lazarus posted:drat your bathroom was nasty! Or bleach, but still ventilate well. The smell makes me nauseous as hell if I'm exposed to it too long but it cleans like nothing else.
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| # ¿ Apr 1, 2012 14:26 |
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sheri posted:But definitely DO NOT MIX ammonia and bleach. Those fumes are toxic. This is true! You get hydrazine.
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| # ¿ Apr 1, 2012 14:29 |
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Orange_Lazarus posted:Damages incurred? Bullshit. I agree. How could damages even be incurred in this situation? Is it the whole "oh since we were planning to sell it to you so we took it off the market" thing? I don't understand.
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| # ¿ Apr 2, 2012 16:16 |
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Trilineatus posted:One of the best/worst parts of this is remembering that Zwife has been working as an Accountant this whole time. This point hasn't been emphasized enough, in my opinion. There's always the joke that accountants and bookkeepers are the worst when it comes to their own finances, but it seems to ring true here. Zaurg, remember you're master of your own universe here. Go with your gut instinct, and not the reaction to what your wife's actions are.
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| # ¿ Apr 3, 2012 02:57 |
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spog posted:And get rid of that pool table. Also get rid of the boat. Why do you have a boat? Do you go out on the water frequently or do you guys have it because that is what people in Florida do? (Not trying to be facetious here - I don't know if this is a common FL thing or what.)
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| # ¿ Apr 3, 2012 15:48 |
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zaurg posted:I have more pictures. There are a couple on the previous page. Not 18 lbs but a lot. You're supposed to clean your dryer vent after every load.
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| # ¿ Apr 3, 2012 21:31 |
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Nocheez posted:NPR actually showed a nice graphic today on what Americans buy today versus 1949: It's interesting to see that clothes are one of the things that people spent more on back in in the 1940s. I also suspect the quality of clothing was higher as well. On the topic of housing, I read that the new trend was moving back towards a more reasonably-sized home. People are tired of having these great rooms in their houses that they rarely use and have to pay a shitload to heat and cool.
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| # ¿ Apr 5, 2012 18:25 |
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Goldmund posted:I actually think it's not a bad idea, assuming your mom wouldn't be putting her retirement in jeopardy. Of course, you'd want to have your lawyer draw up some legally binding loan papers, and put everything in her name. And maybe add in a penalty rate in the event of divorce. Would this even hold up in a court of law?
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| # ¿ Apr 5, 2012 19:41 |
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zaurg posted:You save up a few years in advance for a Disney trip? That's unheard of in our household. Well for you, a Disney trip would be a couple hundred bucks since you're so close by. Or do you mean that just saving up for a trip in general is unheard of in your household?
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| # ¿ Apr 6, 2012 19:38 |
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Is it common for married couples with young children to go this long without sex? I could see it happening, what with schedules and the baby/toddler and stress and exhaustion. I guess that's what "date night" is for.toby posted:That depends on the definition of "work." It's always frustrated me when people say "oh you've gotta work to make it last" and so forth. That's just so amorphous that it lacks any meaning and direction to me personally.
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| # ¿ Apr 10, 2012 20:42 |
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Maybe a nice weekend away would take Zwife's mind off of OMG HOUSE IDEA. When was the last time you and your wife took a vacation together, Zaurg? Leave your kid with her parents or your mom and just have a nice time in the Keys. Spend some time to get to know each other again.
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| # ¿ Apr 11, 2012 02:46 |
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zaurg posted:Master bathroom update Have you tried a plumber's snake? They are super cheap. Also here is some info that might help: http://www.thisoldhouse.com/toh/art...93799-3,00.html
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| # ¿ Apr 16, 2012 16:16 |
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zaurg posted:I'm going to do mouth stuff on her Zaurg, you are a poet and a romantic. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
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| # ¿ Apr 16, 2012 23:20 |
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zaurg posted:HOLEY MOLEY GOOD QUESTION On that note, whatever happened with regard to the laser  hair removal credit card charges?
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| # ¿ Apr 23, 2012 22:43 |
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Zaurg, what goals (financial or otherwise) are you and your wife currently working toward, now that there's been a positive upswing in your marriage?
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| # ¿ May 3, 2012 00:08 |
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ExtrudeAlongCurve posted:I generally do not shop at designer/department stores, but if I end up in one I always wonder, "What sucker pays this much for clothes?" The same clothes that inevitably will end up on clearance somewhere else for a quarter of the price. My size seems to always be sold out by the time something I want gets to clearance.  Zaurg, are you going to answer my goal question from earlier? I wanted to know if you two had verbally agreed on goals to work toward or if things hadn't been discussed yet.
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| # ¿ May 5, 2012 15:51 |
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The fact that Zaurg snoops around in his wife's email is a fatal flaw in this relationship. At that point, whether or not Zwife can be trusted really doesn't matter. The trust is gone and so is the respect. 
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| # ¿ May 6, 2012 12:18 |
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Zaurg, your wife's current life goals are a house and a second child. What are yours? edit: spelling
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| # ¿ May 6, 2012 23:21 |
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Broken Dictionary posted:Why would his wife, of any woman for that matter, have consensual sex with someone they are not attracted to or respect without money being involved? Some people feel obligated to because they are married, even though there might not be any love or real affection. I assume this happens in a lot of arranged marriages.
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| # ¿ May 7, 2012 00:46 |
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Breetai posted:So how many years out of school are you that you're still bitter about that one time a sports jock shoved you in a locker? He might be obliquely referring to this topic. Or he could just be making a sweeping, wildly inaccurate generalization. El_Elegante posted:Hey zaurg did you attend U of Miami, or did you just grow up a fan? I did not go to a big football school, so I was just wondering why that's your single biggest rest and relaxation expenditure. I would like to know this too. I did not go to a big football school but my SO went to an SEC school so I can understand the meaningfulness of having season tickets to the games. (Though we do not as we live too far away.)
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| # ¿ May 19, 2012 18:13 |
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CuddleChunks posted:$700 worth of lingerie shipped to her mom's house? Panic attacks on the way home from her job? Denying affection as a matter of course with her husband? If we are assuming that Zwife cheated, how do the panic attacks play in? The only reason I could think of would be guilt. However, she didn't feel guilty after she did other things behind Zaurg's back (shopping, etc.) so I don't think it's that. Zaurg, what did your wife say when you confronted her about the topless photos? If this isn't kosher to ask please disregard it, but it seems pertinent to the current direction of this thread.
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| # ¿ May 21, 2012 19:18 |
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| # ¿ May 24, 2013 01:22 |
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Jealous Cow posted:No no no... the good lord commands that the woman not work while raising the children (or not at all!) and that they provide their children with ample space to run around unsupervised while their mother fornicates with the hot neighbor in the 8th bedroom. To be fair, Zwife has never asked not to work. Edit: The best outcome for this situation is for Zwife to be pregnant with twins.
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| # ¿ May 22, 2012 00:08 |
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