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I'll go first... Old girlfriend called me out of the blue moments ago after roughly 6 months of breakup with no contact. Horrific breakup, she liked to drink & then get physically violent. CHM: "What do you want?" HER: "I just wanted to talk." CHM: "I don't have anything to say to you." HER: "We can be platonic friends." CHM: "No, we can't, please stop calling me." Hang up 1. She called back 4 times in a row and I know from experience she will just set skype to redial on failed call. Skype to jump caller ID.  CHM: "Please stop calling me." HER: "Are you doing thing "x" which I find important?" CHM: "My life is going well. Please stop calling me." HER: "We can be platonic friend; we are both reasonable adults." CHM: "No we can't, neither of us are reasonable adults." HER: "That's just what your Mom said to me (during our prior breakup #2)." CHM: "Please stop calling me." HER: "Just talk to me." CHM: "You have 15 seconds to explain what you want." HER: "If you don't do "x" you will be a horrible failure at life and if you are talking to me it means your life isn't going well..." Hang up #2, phone plug removed from wall. And that's why you don't talk to your crazy ex, no matter how many times she calls. Even to tell her to stop calling.  So, I guess post those E/N success stories of how to deal with crazy without becoming crazy yourself.
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| # ? May 23, 2013 17:35 |
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I read the OP and went and got therapy.
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| # ? Jan 8, 2013 23:59 |
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You make me feel like a failure in life
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:00 |
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It's true, OP. Life is a horrible failure without ecstasy.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:03 |
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I got to eighteen therapy appointments a day and I workout in between my therapy appointments. Thanks E/N!
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:07 |
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I don't have a land line, what do you recommend I do to replicate your success?
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:09 |
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Do X.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:11 |
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Aralan posted:I don't have a land line, what do you recommend I do to replicate your success? Blacktoll posted:Do X. ^This. \/ New cell phone number, sadly But what you gonna do on that one?
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:13 |
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Where is the success story? How did you do anything to stop your ex from contacting you that didn't keep everyone else from contacting you?
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:13 |
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What was X? I must know.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:15 |
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Oggumogoggum posted:What was X? I must know. * X, E, or XTC * Adam * Beans * Candy * Dancing Shoes * Disco Biscuits * Doves * E-bomb * Egg Rolls * Happy Pill * Hug Drug * Love Drug * Malcolm (or Malcolm X) * Scooby Snacks * Smartees * Sweets * Skittles * Thizz * Vitamin E or Vitamin X * Vowels
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:16 |
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Sometimes I like to pretend that Unicorns are real and Two Worlds is a functional, healthy, happy adult now.
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NeurosisHead posted:Sometimes I like to pretend that Unicorns are real and Two Worlds is a functional, healthy, happy adult now.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:19 |
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Might as well c&p the email I just got from her. " HI CHHHM- I just wanted to discuss with you the end. I do not intent to cause any confusion. Anyways, I am dissapointed that you did not allow me to converse. But such is life. Stay well always, AND tell you mother "hello". Hope she loves your dick. HAHHA." (the joke is she's obviously drunk from her typing and hasn't moved on at all or gotten substance abuse treatment, shame the joke is on me)
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:19 |
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I'm not sure why you're sharing your troubled girlfriends e-mails to you, to us. Her demons have to stem from somewhere and maybe you ought to respect her a little bit if for any reason to show respect for yourself as the person who dated her.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:22 |
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Cozy Hemp Mines posted:Might as well c&p the email I just got from her. Dude. Stop.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:24 |
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Your mother should love everything about you
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:25 |
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So you hung up on an ex? How is this an E/N success? Can I piss on you in the well or not?
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:29 |
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superv0zz posted:So you hung up on an ex? How is this an E/N success? Can I piss on you in the well or not? Declining conversations with an abusive ex-partner is a pretty good E/N success story. Because it shows you have learned that their crazy attachment does not equal love.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:33 |
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X = "Me"
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 00:38 |
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I moved out of my crazy, sexually abusive mother's house and now have a paycheck-paying job and a support system. Ups and downs happen but I'm not in that awful place anymore. That's two threads worth of success. 
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Synesthesia Demon posted:I moved out of my crazy, sexually abusive mother's house and now have a paycheck-paying job and a support system. Ups and downs happen but I'm not in that awful place anymore. That's two threads worth of success. That's a pretty awesome E/N success story.
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Cozy Hemp Mines posted:Declining conversations with an abusive ex-partner is a pretty good E/N success story. You're opening her emails. That's just as bad as talking to her on the phone. Just delete them without reading them.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 01:23 |
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Floppy Dingo posted:You're opening her emails. That's just as bad as talking to her on the phone. Just delete them without reading them.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 01:54 |
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waffle posted:Also you posted this thread, another good indicator you aren't over it Obviously, I have a person who won't leave me alone despite my clearly communicated wishes to be left alone. This was out of the blue after 6 months of no contact, and her purpose was to bad-mouth myself and my family. How does one get "over it" in that case?
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 02:02 |
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You are reading and posting her emails and chatlogs or whatever - success story my rear end
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Cozy Hemp Mines posted:Obviously, I have a person who won't leave me alone despite my clearly communicated wishes to be left alone. This was out of the blue after 6 months of no contact, and her purpose was to bad-mouth myself and my family. Stop answering her calls and set her email as spam, dingus. Thanks brain. P.S. You guys all give terrible advice. Welp, that's the end of my story. Now it is up to you guys!
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 02:37 |
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Well, that's convinced me. Nothing says quite like "E/N success story", to my mind, like a dude posting his ex-girlfriend's emails and then talking to himself in the thread.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 02:39 |
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Ashenai posted:Well, that's convinced me. Nothing says quite like "E/N success story", to my mind, like a dude posting his ex-girlfriend's emails and then talking to himself in the thread. And it is still the best advice in the thread.  Now try the veal, it's great. Replaces mic on stand, walks off stage...
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 02:42 |
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Life was really lovely. It just sucked, bad. So I followed E/N's advice and smoked a weed. Everythings cool now bro. Success. 
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 03:51 |
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I prohibited Cozy Hemp Mines from posting on the first page of any E/N thread ever again, in order to help him better evaluate the priorities in his sad & miserable life.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 04:00 |
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I was good friends with a girl named Sam who had some family issues she didn't want to tell me about. Which would have been fine save she was acting extremely weird, to the point me asking if things were okay ended in a huge fight. She stopped talking to me for about three years, then reappeared and wanted to be friends again and play our old rpgs like before. Then she would disappear for a week, after agreeing to meet me somewhere to shoot the poo poo and just talk. Two weeks. A month. When she finally emailed me is was to say she was working at another friend's game store, and she was there 40-60 hours a week, working without pay. I told her that was illegal and she blew up because 'the store WILL SUCCEED you and my dad don't understand!' Her father wanted her to pay rent, she wanted to work nonstop for free. About August a year ago she disappeared again. And I haven't heard from her since. For a while I thought about calling her to see if things were okay, or emailing her...and I emailed her once to see if she was all right. No reply. Amazingly when I realized she was probably still working in that dead-end store for no money, probably moved in with her friend/owner because she couldn't pay any bills, and that she only contacted me after that huge fight because she wanted me to assure her she was a good player and a good person...when I realized my friendship meant so much to her she could come and go and never even call me to let me know she was alive (a valid worry since her sister was shot and almost died and her brother-in-law was shot and killed. They don't live in the safest area.), I still felt gutted. But then I realized she was using me. She had been using me at least from the second start, only as a person to bounce her lovely ideas off of, to tell her she was a good person, that she deserved better than working at a grocery store for life. She never once asked how I was doing, what I was doing, she only kept contact with me to keep herself feeling good. She talked nonstop about her new nephew and niece and ignored any of my talk about my own nephew. And like before, the conversations always went back to whatever she was interested in, and anything I mentioned was laughed at or outright ignored. I've deleted her from all my contacts and if I did see her again somehow, I'd just walk by.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 04:16 |
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Geeze. I'm learning that success is a relative term.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 05:29 |
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Buddhist thought has really helped me ascend to a new level. I have come to realize that the ultimate reality is EMPTINESS and IMPERMANENCE. Everything is fundamentally empty of inherent existence. That is, things don't exist independently and completely separately from other things. Instead, everything depends on everything else in order to exist. Take the example of a table. A table is nothing more than a combination of other things and causes (wood, nails, glue, trees, a carpenter, etc.) which have temporarily come together to form a table. The table is nothing more than the coming together of these things; the table itself has no essential nature in and of itself. The table is not a static object, it's just an event that arises because of those causes. And each of those prior causes is itself nothing more than a combination of other prior causes, empty of independent reality. And you can keep going with this investigation, and if you go far enough you will see that the table contains the whole universe. The table IS the whole universe. The whole universe had a hand in the creation of the table, and the whole universe facilitates the existence of the table. And the same is true of everything else, including ourselves. And when you combine this with the principle of impermanence, the fact that things are always changing and nothing is the same from one moment to the next, and you see that things are not nouns but verbs. Again, they're events. And the table is an event or an activity that the whole universe is partaking in. And so are you. You have no eternal unchanging self. You have no fixed identity. You are not a "thing" that is separate and detached from everything else. You, like everything else, are a pattern in the great weave of reality, like a whirlpool in a river or a wave on an ocean. The wave is not separate from the ocean; it's what the ocean is doing, and even when the wave ceases, the ocean remains. You are an event that arises from the combination of other events that act serendipituously and you grow out of that. And during your existence you are constantly changing from one instant to the next, constantly affecting and being affected by the outside world, until eventually you age and die and decay, and the aggregates that compose you disperse to become the parts of new events. So, knowing this, you come to realize that there is nothing whatsoever to be afraid of. You may fear pain, or loneliness, or humiliation, or death, but I ask you, who is it that suffers during all of this? The truth is that there is no one who is suffering. There is only the arising of emotion and experience, but there is no identity for these things to be stuck to, and thus they fall away just as quickly if you let them. With the right mindfulness, nothing bothers you, not even the idea of death and non-existence. Who is it that stops existing? The "me" that is typing this is not the "me" who will die one day, and it is not the "me" who took a massive five-pound dump earlier, for there is no "me" that carries over for even one instance. The only "me" that exists, the only ANYTHING that exists, is that which is in the Eternal Now. The past and present are just ideas, memories, hopes, fears, etc., but Now is always right here. That's the real Eternity. Things arise and then fall, but there is always Now. And if you meditate on this, you will see that Now is Empty.
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Quality_Guaranteed posted:Buddhist thought has really helped me ascend to a new level. I have come to realize that the ultimate reality is EMPTINESS and IMPERMANENCE. Everything is fundamentally empty of inherent existence. That is, things don't exist independently and completely separately from other things. Instead, everything depends on everything else in order to exist. Take the example of a table. A table is nothing more than a combination of other things and causes (wood, nails, glue, trees, a carpenter, etc.) which have temporarily come together to form a table. The table is nothing more than the coming together of these things; the table itself has no essential nature in and of itself. The table is not a static object, it's just an event that arises because of those causes. And each of those prior causes is itself nothing more than a combination of other prior causes, empty of independent reality. And you can keep going with this investigation, and if you go far enough you will see that the table contains the whole universe. The table IS the whole universe. The whole universe had a hand in the creation of the table, and the whole universe facilitates the existence of the table. And the same is true of everything else, including ourselves. And when you combine this with the principle of impermanence, the fact that things are always changing and nothing is the same from one moment to the next, and you see that things are not nouns but verbs. Again, they're events. And the table is an event or an activity that the whole universe is partaking in. And so are you. I love stuff like this, and to be honest examining life from different religious philosophies and really from just different philosophies in general (don't have to be religious) is fascinating for me, enough that I'm contemplating taking more philosophy classes.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 06:57 |
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gently caress you, OP
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DUNCAN DONUTS posted:gently caress you, OP can i empty quote in his thread
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Call Me Abey posted:I prohibited Cozy Hemp Mines from posting on the first page of any E/N thread ever again, in order to help him better evaluate the priorities in his sad & miserable life.
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| # ? Jan 9, 2013 07:54 |
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Please keep this thread on page one forever.
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My success story is i stopped reading this thread.
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