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In twelve hours the ultimatum we gave my housemate last week ends and he will have to move his internet girlfriend out of the house. I'm asking E/N what my best course of action should be given the following circumstances. About four months ago my housemate (Paul) got into an internet relationship with a girl halfway across the country. She broke up with her boyfriend of four years to be in a "serious internet relationship" with my housemate Paul, while still living at her ex-boyfriend's house. They have spent every second online together, to the point where it has taken over Paul's life and effected his work performance and inhibited him from living his actual, non internet-relationship life. Over the last few months Paul has gone out there once and she's come out here once before The Move. They're "in love". Everything he has told us about her life is downright depressing. Most of her friends are dead from overdosing, she's overdosed before. Both her parents hate her and she has no where to go, cannot keep up in school/hold down a job, etc. The Thursday previous to Valentine's Day my housemate Paul gets a distressing call at work and leaves the meeting we are in to take her call. Turns out the internet girlfriend was in the hospital and her stomach was being pumped due to overdosing again -- apparently stress between her mom and aunt was the cause this time. Paul takes it upon himself to do whatever a good boyfriend would do and offers her a way out, that in his words "indirectly affects" everyone else in the house (another housemate and myself). My housemate and I stupidly agree to it, under the agreement that Paul would take responsibility for her as we're all trying to live our own lives and really do not want to be affected by a new housemate. We met her when she visited the last time and she did not seem like that bad of a person. Three days after the overdose Paul gets on a plane to rescue his princess like any nice guy would and they arrive on Valentine's Day. Everything was great, if a little awkward and she seemed to be settling in great. Paul was his normal internet-relationship secluded self and there was not a lot of stress to go around. She put in a effort to get everyone in the house to hang out together and I turned her offer down several times in leiu of hanging out with my own girlfriend and playing Torchlight II. Six days fourteen hours later poo poo hit the fan. That next Wednesday I'm up at 7am working from home debating whether or not to go into work, talking to Paul over IM about getting ready. I let him know we're gonna go in previous to our 9am meeting and he acknowledges we need to be there before 9. I get out of the shower at 8:50 and rush out the door yelling I'll be in the car. I wait for 10 minutes in the car in the garage, start it and give a light honk letting him know we're already late. Usually this is the other way around and he has to drag me out of the door. We eventually get to work, have a pretty decent day and I decide to head home around 2PM and was able to relax 5 minutes before The Event. Internet girlfriend appears after opening the garage door with the code no one was suppose to tell her. She asks if I have a moment to talk and I say sure, typing away on my computer like any normal person would half rear end a conversation like what I was expecting. Within a half sentence this girl went from saying Paul was having a very tough time getting out of the house this morning to yelling "IF YOU EVER DO THAT AGAIN I'M GOING TO SLASH YOUR TIRES AND NOT PAY FOR THEM AND gently caress YOUR LIFE UP". We had bets on how long she would last and everyone lost by weeks. I asked her to sit down and try to have a normal conversation with me as I closed my laptop. The screaming wouldn't stop and she would not listen to any explanation I had, completely unwilling to not stop screaming and started insulting me and how I live my life. Words were exchanged and I called Paul to let him know he had to come home and deal with his girlfriend. She ran up to his room and I awaited for him to return home, but not before she left the house after I told her to GTFO. Later that night we had The Talk. My other housemate and I sat down with Paul and his internet girlfriend with my other housemate leading the conversation explaining how we were all uncomfortable with her living in our house and she had to go. She gave some childish excuses and still was not listening to anything we had to say, my poor housemate Paul caught in the middle between us and his two good friends. We ended that conversation on the note that she had to leave ASAP but we had no issue with her visiting Paul as his girlfriend. This later had to be clarified with Paul the next day in an increasingly frustrated tone because he could not understand or see our point of view or what has happened to his life. We tried explaining to him we're here for him but he was getting taken advantage of by some internet girl (monetarily, emotionally) And that's were we pretty much are. Our lease is up in August and we told Paul he can do whatever he wants with her after that time, we don't care, but for now she cannot live with us. Both Paul and I are on the lease with our other housemate living with us semi-illegally while contributing to the rent by a 1/3rd. I really don't know what to do about tomorrow or how to stand my ground without making Paul really depressed and frustrated, while preventing internet girlfriend from having another meltdown and possibly attempting to OD in our house for another cry of attention. Please help me E/N. tl;dr: Housemate being taken advantage of by internet girlfriend he moved in and I'm afraid of the consequences of trying to get her out of the house
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 07:13 |
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| # ? May 21, 2013 06:02 |
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Hahahha holy poo poo. Let Paul know junkie gf needs to be out the door by a particular time. Stand your ground and if she gives you any grief, call the cops and tell them there's an intruder at your house. Dial 911 right in front of her crazy face and ask for the cops to come by and help get this trespasser off your property. If she shrieks and freaks out, good, be sure and record it with your camera phones for later laughs. But if she touches any of you then when the friendly officer arrives you let them know you want to press assault charges against her. Go to the station, fill out the paperwork and goodbye junkie g/f. Paul may whine and cry but he's an idiot who is dating trash. For the safety and security of your house you need to cut this person out of your lives immediately. Oh, and don't immediately post videos, some states are fussy about that. You can still make the recording and delete it later but it's there for your own protection in case she becomes violent. No regrets, no mercy, get her out of your living space. Then you need to change the garage code, make sure any keys are accounted for and possibly change locks (with the landlord's knowledge). Feh. Later, consider smacking Paul around for bringing this into your mutual living space.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 07:23 |
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Call the police and have them remove her. That's pretty much it.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 07:24 |
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First of all, you're not responsible for Paul or his girlfriend's actions or emotions, only yours. You need to respond responsibly and maturely-- but that doesn't mean you're required to live with his choices. You tried to make it work, and it didn't. Now it's time to change. My suggestions: Tell Paul flatly, "This isn't working. Internet girlfriend cannot stay here. She needs to be out by X time, and she needs to take her personal belongings with her." Make it a solid time and date, in the very near future, and don't debate it. He'll want to discuss and debate and argue. Don't get sucked into "explaining"-- the reasons why she can't stay are obvious, but he isn't going to want to hear them, and neither is she. In her head (and maybe his) she's being persecuted & misunderstood. From what you're saying, this is not a situation where talking things through is going to work. Make it very clear that staying is not an option, and that screaming, threats, etc, will result in-- guess what?-- calling the authorities. Where will she go? That really isn't your responsibility. Her situation is a bad one, yes, but you didn't cause it, and you can't cure it. If Paul chooses to take it on, that's his right-- but he doesn't get to drag you into it. If she attempts to harm herself, call the local authorities immediately so she can get the help she needs. If she threatens you again (either during the "you're leaving" talk, or at any other time) give her the choice: stop it right now, or you will call the cops. (If she doesn't, call the cops.) On the date she's supposed to leave, she leaves. If she has a meltdown, call the cops. If she suddenly "gets sick" (not an impossibility), that's unfortunate-- she still needs to leave. If she has a change of heart and promises things will change, that's great-- but she still needs to leave. It's going to be very important to stay very calm during all this, and to not get dragged into a "discussion". Anything that isn't "IG gets to stay here and do whatever she wants" is going to be taken as an attack-- the time for talking this through is over with, unfortunately. (Consider also talking to your landlord about your third housemate, to make sure that isn't going to blow up in your face if Paul and/or IG decide to make it a thing.)
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 07:41 |
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Sounds like a good COPS episode in the making.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 08:11 |
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With goons, it plays out in line with the scenarios seen in Reno 911.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 09:28 |
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That was an awesome story. Fortunately, she didn't even live there long enough to likely (IANAL) qualify as a tenant, so feel free to call the cops to remove her for trespass. I'd jump on that horse quick, though.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 09:33 |
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Yeah be careful about letting her reside there for any length of time because she will gain tenancy rights in a shockingly short amount of time (to the tune of a week to ten days in many places). If she has tenancy rights she may be very hard to evict if she fights it. You need to get on this.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 11:02 |
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Have you tried being less spergin' Brad? You had plenty of chances to put a halt on this waaaaaay before anything went through. If the obvious answer here isn't to talk with all of your roommates about this situation then I just don't know what to do with you.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 12:05 |
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You have been locking your room while she's there yeah? I wonder how much stuff/money is already missing.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 12:05 |
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bowling 4 buttcoins posted:Both Paul and I are on the lease with our other housemate living with us semi-illegally while contributing to the rent by a 1/3rd. This may be why Paul has so much trouble seeing your point of view, especially when this guy is the one leading the conversation about how she needs to get out of 'our house'.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 14:14 |
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CuddleChunks posted:Let Paul know junkie gf needs to be out the door by a particular time. Stand your ground and if she gives you any grief, call the cops and tell them there's an intruder at your house. Dial 911 right in front of her crazy face and ask for the cops to come by and help get this trespasser off your property. We did. Today should be the day she leaves our house and I've made it quite clear I don't care where she goes as long as it isn't our house. I've already gotten to the point of calling the police when she went ballistic on me but out of respect for my housemate I called him first. EMcTrap posted:He'll want to discuss and debate and argue. Don't get sucked into "explaining"-- the reasons why she can't stay are obvious, but he isn't going to want to hear them, and neither is she. In her head (and maybe his) she's being persecuted & misunderstood. From what you're saying, this is not a situation where talking things through is going to work. This was basically the clarification chat, and we all walked around in circles about how we weren't prepared for this. I maintained that she was not responsible for herself and Paul should not take responsibility for her actions, but deal with them as a good boyfriend would. As part of her moving in I told Paul she should not be doing drugs, and our household was probably not the best place for her to get a fresh start at as we all enjoy a bit of  from time to time. He said she would handle herself, and turns out she's just smoking weed while we're all at work 9am-2pm.EMcTrap posted:If she attempts to harm herself, call the local authorities immediately so she can get the help she needs. If she threatens you again (either during the "you're leaving" talk, or at any other time) give her the choice: stop it right now, or you will call the cops. (If she doesn't, call the cops.) This is honestly what I'm most afraid of at this point. I think she used the latest OD to trigger a response out of her parents and Paul as some sort of plea for attention. I do not want to deal with this at all and I've made it quite clear. EMcTrap posted:(Consider also talking to your landlord about your third housemate, to make sure that isn't going to blow up in your face if Paul and/or IG decide to make it a thing.) This really isn't an issue at this current point in time, everything is cool between all three of the original tenants and we've known each other for years to make this not "a thing". Kiss Kiss Bang Bang posted:You have been locking your room while she's there yeah? I wonder how much stuff/money is already missing. After she flipped a poo poo I managed to lock myself out of my room (turns out the house doesn't have a key to my bedroom) and had to pay 65 bux just to deal with my own reaction. I would have never done this unless I didn't feel completely uncomfortable in my own house. She's already stolen all my rolling papers and some which I don't much care about as I consider it a household resource. Paul's really not helping the drug situation, and has already contributed to her drug abuse by buying her a half oz of  under the guise it was the "household" supply. He never initiates the procurement of green (usually asks me to pick up), and his bag has gone from the normal supply closet to completely missing -- making it obvious why she's chiefing almost 24*7 while she stays in our house. It's completely out of his character and really shows his friends how much help he needs.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 16:50 |
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Out of curiosity, what drug(s) did she OD on? Most of the harder ones are injected, smoked or snorted, so don't require stomach pumping, but I'm guessing it could be oxycodone? And has she shown signs of being on those or other hard drugs while at your house? If you're smoking on occasion, I'm guessing it might also be a good idea to sanitise the house before calling the cops in.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:11 |
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bowling 4 buttcoins posted:This really isn't an issue at this current point in time, everything is cool between all three of the original tenants and we've known each other for years to make this not "a thing". It can become an issue if the Internet girlfriend throws a fit/fights this/somehow lets the landlord know about the situation and the landlord isn't cool about it.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:13 |
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Yes I am also curious as to what kind of drugs she is on.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:19 |
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For your own sake do not have controlled substances in your house when you call the police.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:25 |
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Get your weed/glass out of the house ASAP, it is a liability if you are considering dealing with the police. Tell your second non-Paul housemate to do so as well. You need to operate quickly because she's on an express train to tenancy. No more waiting to see how things play out.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:27 |
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Lead out in cuffs posted:Out of curiosity, what drug(s) did she OD on? Most of the harder ones are injected, smoked or snorted, so don't require stomach pumping, but I'm guessing it could be oxycodone? I cannot get a straight answer out of Paul regarding what type of drug she managed to OD on, but I can only imagine it was within close reach and some OTC pills. She smokes weed and tobacco outside our house. We live in CA, land of the (almost) free  I attempted to have a conversation with Paul regarding how uncomfortable I feel in the house, the lack of trust and how much I don't care about her giving us rent money. I offered my assistance finding her someone to talk to about drugs and he said he did not need my help. Overall Paul did not take the conversation quite well and rage-quit our chat client saying last he was an "awful friend". Now I feel like a piece of poo poo, thanks E/N. bowling 4 buttcoins fucked around with this message at Feb 28, 2013 around 17:34 |
| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:32 |
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Your roommate brings a drug addict who flipped out on you into your home, which you now feel unsafe in, and you feel like poo poo. It's Paul. Paul should feel like poo poo.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:39 |
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You guys live together and you're using a chat client to talk? Jesus.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:53 |
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He isn't exactly being the greatest friend, he kinda has a point.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 17:56 |
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An online chat is not a conversation. Have an actual talk about this. I know you regret it now, but how could you not see this coming from a mile away? "Oh hey guys, my internet girlfriend of four months who can't hold down a job and attempts suicide regularly needs to move in for an indeterminate amount of time. I know there are already three of us in the apartment, including a guy who's not on the lease, but I'll handle it. Nothing worrisome about having her move into our house of weed." If you are old enough to hold down a regular job, you are far too old to believe that this could work out any way but the way it has. Also, Paul is not a good guy for "rescuing" her. Paul is a guy who has some broken ideas about women and his own self-esteem if he forms an obsessive online relationship with a totally damaged person he wants to "save."
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:04 |
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Jeffrey posted:He isn't exactly being the greatest friend, he kinda has a point. How? He didn't call the cops on her, has given her time to move out, offered to help find her help for her problems. Sounds like he's being pretty reasonable given the situation.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:05 |
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Pope Mobile posted:How? He didn't call the cops on her, has given her time to move out, offered to help find her help for her problems. Sounds like he's being pretty reasonable given the situation. No, Paul said he was being an awful friend. Which he is.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:05 |
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Pope Mobile posted:How? He didn't call the cops on her, has given her time to move out, offered to help find her help for her problems. Sounds like he's being pretty reasonable given the situation. I was under the impression from that sentence that Paul was referring to himself. I don't think the OP has done wrong at all.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:06 |
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bowling 4 buttcoins posted:I cannot get a straight answer out of Paul regarding what type of drug she managed to OD on, but I can only imagine it was within close reach and some OTC pills. She smokes weed and tobacco outside our house. It sounds like it could have just been acetaminophen, and that she could just be a very mentally unwell woman who smokes a lot of weed? You still need to get her out of your house, but at least it lower the likelihood that she'll be fencing your appliances on Craigslist to fuel her next heroine/meth hit (which is probably the impression the thread was getting). bowling 4 buttcoins posted:
You still need to sanitise the gently caress out of your house before getting the police involved. California may be permissive, but as far as I know it's still not exactly legal. Also, although I am not a lawyer and not familiar with California law specifically, in most places, buying on behalf of friends is legally the same thing as dealing, and can land you in
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:09 |
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Never you mind posted:No, Paul said he was being an awful friend. Which he is. I may have confused myself. OP said this: bowling 4 buttcoins posted:Now I feel like a piece of poo poo, thanks E/N. And I thought that this: Jeffrey posted:He isn't exactly being the greatest friend, he kinda has a point. Was in response to my post, but it's probably in response to Paul saying he's being awful.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:18 |
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Maximusi posted:You guys live together and you're using a chat client to talk? Jesus. I'm at work and it's near impossible to talk about this at home without IG overhearing everything we're saying. I spoke loud enough at the previous clarification conversation that she could overhear how much we respect Paul for the friend that he is and how much we wanted to help him find a way out. Paul is at home right now maybe, or trying to figure out what he's suppose to do with IG. He has not come back online as of yet or into work. Never you mind posted:I know you regret it now, but how could you not see this coming from a mile away? "Oh hey guys, my internet girlfriend of four months who can't hold down a job and attempts suicide regularly needs to move in for an indeterminate amount of time. I know there are already three of us in the apartment, including a guy who's not on the lease, but I'll handle it. Nothing worrisome about having her move into our house of weed." If you are old enough to hold down a regular job, you are far too old to believe that this could work out any way but the way it has. Also, Paul is not a good guy for "rescuing" her. Paul is a guy who has some broken ideas about women and his own self-esteem if he forms an obsessive online relationship with a totally damaged person he wants to "save." I saw it coming a mile away, I saw it coming as soon as they became internet boyfriend and girlfriend and made it Facebook official before they even met IRL. She's still taking online classes at her previous school according to Paul, and they just found a place for her to live but she cannot move in until next Thursday. My reaction to this information was to stand my ground, causing Paul to rage quit our chat. I don't know how I'm suppose to fix my friend. He has some sort of tunnel vision or is stubborn as poo poo about this relationship working out. He is taking it upon himself to "help" her, which is mostly monetarily as far as I can tell. He provides substances for her to abuse and for her to continue her destructive habits easily, while destroying our household relationship (between the three of us) in the process.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:20 |
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bowling 4 buttcoins posted:This really isn't an issue at this current point in time, everything is cool between all three of the original tenants and we've known each other for years to make this not "a thing". Are you crazy? It is very much "a thing" because you are demanding Paul remove his girlfriend from your house. Spoiler: he's going to side with his girlfriend and against the two of you. And you know full drat well you can't call the cops, because of the drugs and because of one guy illegally living there. That's why you have a problem. You can tell her to leave, but since you can't get the police involved you can't make her leave. And she knows it too, so she probably won't.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:24 |
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Eric the Mauve posted:Are you crazy? It is very much "a thing" because you are demanding Paul remove his girlfriend from your house. Spoiler: he's going to side with his girlfriend and against the two of you. Just because the guy isn't on the lease doesn't make it "illegal". It isn't a police matter if there's been no notice served, and he has tenant rights either way. The drugs are the only issue so he should just get rid of those/the paraphernalia while this goes down. Better yet, get rid of your and your roommates stuff but leave hers. It is kind of cruel to subject someone to the legal system like that but she has to go one way or the other. PS Don't admit to crimes like sharing your medical weed on the internet.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:30 |
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bowling 4 buttcoins posted:I saw it coming a mile away, I saw it coming as soon as they became internet boyfriend and girlfriend and made it Facebook official before they even met IRL. She's still taking online classes at her previous school according to Paul, and they just found a place for her to live but she cannot move in until next Thursday. My reaction to this information was to stand my ground, causing Paul to rage quit our chat. Stand your ground, she threatened to wreck your vehicle, which is how you get to work. She's right in that it will directly gently caress up your life. gently caress this stupid junkie and hold your ground. DO NOT let her stay until Thursday. Thursday will fall through, she'll need another week, the person will flake out...she'll never leave.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:33 |
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Jeffrey posted:Just because the guy isn't on the lease doesn't make it "illegal". It isn't a police matter if there's been no notice served, and he has tenant rights either way. The OP described the arrangement as "semi-illegal". Obviously there's no such thing as semi-illegal, so based on experience I'm concluding that the arrangement is in fact illegal. This is why it's already been suggested that the OP talk to the owner about this and make sure the third resident is OK with them--but based on OP's description of it OP probably knows it isn't. OP, please correct me if any of this is wrong.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:37 |
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Dude no more chat clients... Have an actual sit down conversation about this. Be firm in that you don't feel safe in your own home. I would stay away from her drug issues and anything that be can construed to an "Us vs them" attitude to Paul and his GF. Paul wants to protect her from all this bad stuff, but what it may take him a long time to learn is that it isn't al the external things like drugs or her parents that this girl needs protection from, this girl is crazy and needs protection from herself.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:46 |
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You need to put the responsibility for all this on Paul, and if he doesn't step up then you need to find somewhere else to live with housemates who respect each other.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 18:57 |
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Eric the Mauve posted:The OP described the arrangement as "semi-illegal". Obviously there's no such thing as semi-illegal, so based on experience I'm concluding that the arrangement is in fact illegal. This is why it's already been suggested that the OP talk to the owner about this and make sure the third resident is OK with them--but based on OP's description of it OP probably knows it isn't. The IRS might take issue with the 3rd housemate's living arrangements, but the cops that get called in to get rid of a trespasser won't give half a gently caress. That said, being invited into OP's den of recreational ganja will be like a wet dream for them. Put that poo poo in a lock box and scrub the place clean before you even think about calling the authorities, OP.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 19:03 |
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Eric the Mauve posted:The OP described the arrangement as "semi-illegal". Obviously there's no such thing as semi-illegal, so based on experience I'm concluding that the arrangement is in fact illegal. This is why it's already been suggested that the OP talk to the owner about this and make sure the third resident is OK with them--but based on OP's description of it OP probably knows it isn't. Based on experience dealing with fake internet knowitalls I'm concluding you don't know what the hell you're talking about and are reading too much into a dumb figure of speech on the OP's part. LEGALLY speaking, people have tenant rights once they've lived somewhere x amount of time, regardless of leasing. Leases are a CIVIL contract matter between landlord and tenants/occupants; being on the premises doesn't become a CRIMINAL matter until an eviction happens or unless the occupant fails to establish they are a tenant. If the third roommate has old mail lying around with his name and that address, he's a tenant as far as the cops care. OP you need to get this girl out of there before she gets some mail sent to her at your house.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 19:04 |
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Wow, that's some crazy poo poo there OP. I agree with the others that you should stand your ground and do not compromise on the end date of this agreement. Paul can find some place for her of he cares so much and you may want to look at getting him out too because he may do something stupid as "Revenge," for making him abandon his sweet pure crazy internet princess. He's obviously got blinders on big time (or is super desperate for a girlfriend.) Either way, it means he might do something unpredictable as well.
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 19:07 |
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All I'm seeing is one seriously pussy whipped guy refusing to see what's wrong with his "true love over the internet." Yeah, if she tries something crazy there is always the cops. No need to get physically involved, that's just a can of worms you don't need. Oh and something to watch out for: She sounds spiteful. If the police show up, I wouldn't put it past her to go "THEY'VE GOT WEED! OVER THERE OFFICER!."
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| # ? Feb 28, 2013 19:10 |
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Attempted to continue to have dialogue with Paul over IM because he refuses to answer the phone. I told him I would cover him at work so he could get her out by the end of the business day, otherwise I'd have to deal with it once I got home, involving the police. He told me to call the police and he will "handle it accordingly", calling my bluff. He said he was more afraid of what I would do rather than what she could possibly do to our home. I've tried to explain how everything about how he is handling this situation is completely out of character right now. As much as I hate ~chat logs~, this is the last I'll talk to him about this subject today as I have to do my job. quote:I know that you are uncomfortable, I know you want immediate attention to that, and I told you that she will be out by next Thursday. I am requesting as a friend to wait one more week, and if you were actually a friend you wouldn't doubt me that I would keep my word. But if you want her out of the house by 5:00pm today please call the police or do whatever you wish to do. I am on the lease as well, so it is my household just as it is yours. So I am done for today for what I have to say. I am watching the queue and doing what I need to do to continue on with my life. As your friend b4b, I can't tell you what to do nor do you have to listen to me. I am telling you upfront, IG will be staying in my room, in the house until next Thursday, March 7 and she will be out of your life forever. I don't know what to do. Update: Gave her until next thursday as an act of good will. gently caress my stupid sappy self for being such a good person. Also what the hell do you guys take me for? Some TCC trash? all the weed is in a cabinet and you can't even tell we smoke because we're all clean cut IT workers. Police won't give a single poo poo about weed. bowling 4 buttcoins fucked around with this message at Feb 28, 2013 around 19:32 |
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Just put the glass/weed away when the cops come. Don't freak out about the smell or the ashtray or whatever the gently caress. As long as it isn't in plain visible sight the cops in CA aren't going to care. They know what's up and they aren't concerned with giving you a ticket while they are trying to get crazy roommate to leave. I've had cops come to my house/apartment a few times here in CA and they don't care about weed unless you have fat sacks just sitting on the table. Wicker Man posted:I wouldn't put it past her to go "THEY'VE GOT WEED! OVER THERE OFFICER!." Then they'll laugh and cart her away anyway. Getting caught with weed in CA is the equivalent of a traffic ticket, they just aren't going to care about searching through your house and causing a whole big deal over it in the middle of trying to take away an uncooperative trespasser, when they know at least a good third of the calls they go out to have weed in the house somewhere  If it were me I'd let her stay the week as a favor to my friend but only if it was a really good friend and only because I can lock my poo poo up and not really be at home much for a week. I wouldn't really recommend that, though. If you don't want her there any longer just say "Look dude, I know you're asking me as a friend but I just can't let IG stay, she threatened my car which is how I get to work and me personally with physical violence and I just don't feel safe. Hopefully, as a friend you'll understand." bowling 4 buttcoins posted:Gave her until next thursday as an act of good will. gently caress my stupid sappy self for being such a good person. Nah, just make sure she doesn't have access to your stuff (laptop, bedroom, whatever) and stand firm on the Thursday thing since you've both now agreed to it. I'm sure your friend appreciates it and in a few years hopefully you can laugh about this crazy girl he met on the internet instead of causing a rift. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at Feb 28, 2013 around 19:33 |
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