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thatdamnjew
Mar 17, 2005

by Fistgrrl


This is thatdamnjew's wife. Yes, I have cleared this with a mod.


Sadly, thatdamnjew passed away June 14. It was very sudden and unexpected despite his long-time battle with chronic neck and back pain.

Here is the short version as closely as I can relate it without the corroborating toxicology report which won't be available for another six weeks. Once toxicology comes back and cites a specific cause of death, I may be updating this thread with a relieved post or a very angry one. We shall see.

On Friday, thatdamnjew went to his normal pain medication refill appointment and picked up his prescriptions. He filled them at the store down the street, which was the only place in town that stocked everything he needed thanks to one very nice pharmacy tech. Anyway, as was his habit (and other chronic pain sufferers have seconded this as normal behaviour), he took one of his immediate-release pain pills before he drove off. (I verified with the Coroner that there was only one pill missing from his new 'scrip bottle.)

Now, usually when he picked up his prescriptions, he came straight home. This time he drove a little way down the road and picked up two Red Bulls, some cigarettes, and a grape soda.

I know the first pill of the bottle always gave him the nods, but he usually handled that safely at home. The effects of the pill must have kicked in about the time he pulled into the driveway; the keys were in his lap and his posture was relaxed when I found him.

The high temperature of that afternoon was 104 (F). You do not stay in a car in the afternoon sun out here or you'll die. What likely happened is that the nods caught him, he relaxed into the feeling of lowered pain, and he died of heatstroke. Heatstroke can occur at temperatures over 104 degrees (F) and if he was in the car for more than ten minutes, the temperature inside could easily have reached 120 or more. In that kind of temperature, with his shaky health... no chance.

When I found him, there was nothing anyone could do. I smashed the back window of the car with a sledgehammer and climbed in to try and save him but all I got out of it was a traumatic memory seared into my brain and a bloody foot. Our kids were elsewhere at the time, however, for which I am eternally thankful for.

If there are two things I can take from this experience, they are to make sure you and your family members have life insurance, and to pay attention to the ones you love because little things that you miss can turn into big things that can't be avoided.


-- thatdamnjew's widow

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Grakdesh
Jul 21, 2005

High-functioning otaku.


mannerup
Jan 11, 2004

Of Whales and Woe

If only someone could have seen this coming and stopped this tragedy from happening.

(USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)

Tuesday Morning
Apr 20, 2004

Staring directly into the collective Goatse.cx of the Internet’s soul.


That was quite rude.
He died of heatstroke because of a bad decision to detour from his usual routes.
He was being treated for chronic pain. He was on a lot of pain pills. He didn't overdose on them.

Nothing could have stopped this from happening short of a miraculous surgical procedure to fix his pain or having lived in someplace that wasn't 100+ degrees most of the year.

I take offense to the tone of your post.


-- thatdamnjew's widow

WaffleLove
Aug 15, 2007


That an horrible way too go. Condolences.

Warchicken
Jun 9, 2004



Really man? Really? gently caress you.

That is so awful. So sorry for your loss

black1abel
Aug 27, 2003
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drat, that is terrible. I hate to hear of anyone dying. That is certainly one unfortunate way to go, at least the pain is gone now. Sorry for you and your kids

bradzilla
Oct 15, 2004

THAT'S MY PURSE I DON'T KNOW YOU!

That boy ain't right...



So how long have you been lurking TCC just waiting to bust out a zinger like this? gently caress off you piece of loving poo poo.

My condolences to thatdamnjew's family and friends.

Beaters
Jun 27, 2004

SOWING SEEDS
OF MISERY SINCE 1937
FRYING LIKE A FRITO
IN THE SKILLET
OF HADES
SINCE 1975


Tuesday Morning posted:

That was quite rude.
[...]
I take offense to the tone of your post.


-- thatdamnjew's widow

So do I. Appropriate (IMO) action is in process.

Beaters
Jun 27, 2004

SOWING SEEDS
OF MISERY SINCE 1937
FRYING LIKE A FRITO
IN THE SKILLET
OF HADES
SINCE 1975


I offer my meager condolences as well.

Thank you for taking the trouble and time to relate this story to the rest of us. Perhaps it will give someone else a life-saving clue.

Regrettable
Jan 4, 2010



Couldn't resist the urge to kick a recent widow when she's down? How does it feel to be a worthless stinkyhole?

Studebaker Hawk
May 22, 2004



I guess this is why I randomly checked TCC this morning.

I knew Michael decently well a long time ago- he was part of a small group of TCCers struggling with heroin addiction in 04-06, and participated in our little support group. He was a good man, and I am saddened to hear of his passing.

FreshlyShaven
Sep 2, 2004
Je ne veux pas d'un monde où la certitude de mourir de faim s'échange contre le risque de mourir d'ennui

My condolences. I wish you and your family the best.

TMDTN
Oct 10, 2005
This Mixed Drink Tastes Nasty...


This is tragic. My father in law has a huge pain medicine regiment and just the other day he completely blacked out for a minute in the car, thankfully I was driving. I had to shake him pretty hard saying his name and then he just started being in the middle of the conversation we were having.... 20 minutes before he blacked out.

WaffleLove posted:

That an horrible way too go. Condolences.

Just started drinking and poured one out for our fallen brethren Burnout.


mannerup posted:

hey FYAD am i cool yet????
(USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)

gently caress you, there are so many other things you could have spent that effort on, like loving yourself to death.

TMDTN fucked around with this message at Jul 1, 2013 around 03:00

sneakymango
Apr 28, 2004

BLAMMO


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salisbury shake
Dec 27, 2011



how apt

Sorry for your and your kids' loss. I'm interested in what the toxicology report has to say, though.

epsilon-6
Dec 25, 2002


I am so sorry to hear about this. I've always enjoyed thatdamnjew's posts. Also, I'd like to say thank you for taking the time to update us internet forumgoers as to what happened, I could only imagine the trouble you're going through, and it's very nice of you to let us know

the black husserl
Feb 25, 2005



I'm so sorry, I will miss him too. And now I am educated on the dangers of heatstroke and nodding and will be informing my friends as well.

God, at least it was as peaceful as it could be

Devyl
Mar 27, 2005

It slices!

It dices!

It makes Julienne fries!


That is horrible. I'm sorry for your loss Thank you for taking time out of your grieving to inform us of what happened. I, too, will be spreading the knowledge of nodding off and heatstroke. It's an unfortunate circumstance, but I hope your family can heal as best as possible after this.

A SWEATY FATBEARD
Oct 6, 2012


I don't know why but goon' passing always makes me sad somehow. If I don't take it easy with painkillers I too could be a goner soon (edit: due to APAP induced liver/kidney failure). I am truely sorry for your lots.

A SWEATY FATBEARD fucked around with this message at Jul 1, 2013 around 22:32

happyflurple
Oct 31, 2006



Condolences to you and your family, and thanks for taking the time to make this post. Much love <3

Dogen
May 5, 2002

Bury my body down by the highwayside, so that my old evil spirit can get a Greyhound bus and ride


Thank you for sharing this story, and sincerest condolences to you and your family.

barfbagmcfartbombs
Aug 26, 2011

by T. Finninho


The man is in a better place. And if he was suffering from pain already? Atleast we know he will no longer suffer, and for this we should be grateful. I also just came on to TCC after a 4 year hiatus. Oddly enough I came right here, and recognized his username, and I can't believe that this happened to him. Many goons have gone over the years, and every time it is a sad loss, not just for us, but all of society. But being a fellow Crackhead there definitely is a bond to the people on this subforum, and being not only intelligent people, but also free thinkers, unique thinkers, rebels, and philosophers in our own right... It means that we have truly lost an important person. My sincerest condolences.

Dark Weasel
Sep 1, 2006

I don't know what it is but it's getting louder

This happened to my stepdad, bizarrely enough. I thought it was insanely unlikely then—a freak accident if ever there was one. Never thought I'd hear of someone else going the same way.

rip thatdamnjew.

A SWEATY FATBEARD
Oct 6, 2012


Dark Weasel posted:

This happened to my stepdad, bizarrely enough. I thought it was insanely unlikely then—a freak accident if ever there was one. Never thought I'd hear of someone else going the same way.

A friend pointed out that I almost got killed the same way roughly a week ago; due to heat stroke. I went to granny's to do some plumbing repairs in her apartment, and I spent several hours lugging a heavy bag of tools through public transport in scorching summer heat. I was seriously high on heroin and haven't noticed that I've completely dehydrated. I started feeling woozy and horribly sick on the bus ride back. I barely staggered home, and then the splitting headache and vomiting started. It took me most of the last week to recover. Folks, drink plenty of water and remember to stay safe in this heat. RIP thatdamnjew, I'm gonna pour one out for ya.

Cicatrez
Jun 5, 2006

With much clown love and a pile of fucking nut-kicking paperwork.


For whatever it's worth I sincerely extend my condolences to you and your kids. He was an important part of our TCC community, always full of information. I think he helped a lot of people here. RIP

Tuesday Morning
Apr 20, 2004

Staring directly into the collective Goatse.cx of the Internet’s soul.

I just wanted to say that I read every post in this thread at least once a day. Thank you all for your words. I wish I could respond to each one of you but these days thinking and typing are a lot harder than they should be, so just know that all the posts here are comforting (except one, although I did get to read over some of my husband's old posts, which was nice, so it wasn't entirely bad) and that I really appreciate the thoughts.

A CRUNK BIRD
Sep 29, 2004


everyone knows that you are fucked up.
and everyone knows that i am fucked up.
but does everyone know that you are more fucked up than me


RIP.

Previa_fun
Nov 10, 2004

Aww, so I had my slant on. Lay off me!


My condolences. RIP thatdamnjew

Also not to backseat mod but mannerup is deserving of a ban, imo. Checked post history and dude doesn't even ever post in TCC, he just came in to poo poo on thatdamjew.

FYAD SECRETARY
Aug 14, 2003




RIP. Sorry for your loss, he was a good poster.

droey
Dec 8, 2009


I always enjoyed his posts. My condolences, I know this must be a rough time for you.

The-Mole
Aug 5, 2003

Don't tempt fate
Fate isn't real, of course.
But she can be tempted to become real for a few seconds.
And that's all it takes.


That's a drat shame. He was a helpful and informative poster and one of the most level-headed people here.

So sorry for your loss. May he find some respite from pain that may not have been possible in life.

I hope you have some people (family, friends, loved ones ) to talk to. I've found (and seen many others find)that taking a few minutes a day, if possible, to journal can be of some use while sorting through all the different emotions and changes of losing someone so close.

The only thing I ever found truly helpful when losing loved ones is to just appreciate all that there was about them to appreciate. And to try to live in a way informed by that.

The-Mole fucked around with this message at Jul 4, 2013 around 23:06

ghostslinger
Feb 13, 2010


Tuesday Morning,

I never knew your husband as a person; I knew him as thatdamnjew on a forum. Just because we never met face-to-face doesn't mean I knew jack poo poo about him though. His posts were very helpful to me and got me into a better place with my life. He was a great man and will always be one to me.

I know my words won't make the pain go away, but I want you to know that he had a major impact on my life and helped me become a better person. If you need help in some way or just want someone to talk to, I'll do my best.

_____________________________

mannerup,

You're the special kind of person I want to lock up in solitary confinement for a week or so. Maybe then you'll rediscover your humanity you loving piece of poo poo.

(mods, punish me if you see fit, but I'm doing this on principle)

soylent_green
Nov 5, 2004

We're not going to Guam, are we?


bradzilla posted:

So how long have you been lurking TCC just waiting to bust out a zinger like this? gently caress off you piece of loving poo poo.

My condolences to thatdamnjew's family and friends.

Bing the Noize
Dec 21, 2008



As another poster who only knew him through his postings... I'm extremely sorry to hear this, it always legitimately pains me to hear of the passing of fellow TCC members. My heart goes out to you and I hope the best for you during these lovely times.

Beaters
Jun 27, 2004

SOWING SEEDS
OF MISERY SINCE 1937
FRYING LIKE A FRITO
IN THE SKILLET
OF HADES
SINCE 1975


Tuesday Morning posted:

I just wanted to say that I read every post in this thread at least once a day. Thank you all for your words. I wish I could respond to each one of you but these days thinking and typing are a lot harder than they should be, so just know that all the posts here are comforting (except one, although I did get to read over some of my husband's old posts, which was nice, so it wasn't entirely bad) and that I really appreciate the thoughts.

Your late husband's contributions here were and are appreciated. So are yours, now. Despite the occasional moronic outbursts from the peanut gallery we hope you feel welcome here.

Tuesday Morning
Apr 20, 2004

Staring directly into the collective Goatse.cx of the Internet’s soul.

Beaters posted:

Your late husband's contributions here were and are appreciated. So are yours, now. Despite the occasional moronic outbursts from the peanut gallery we hope you feel welcome here.

I may need help identifying some of the things I'm finding around the house, so I'll stick around for a bit. Most of the words on the vials I can't even pronounce, let alone research and retain information about.

Also, gently caress phenazepam. If I could find out who he got that stuff from I would hold that person down and light them on fire and then run over them with a truck. There's more to that story there but I have a lot to do today and I can't get lost in grief because I wouldn't get any of it done.

Edit: As an adult I fully realize that my husband's decisions were his own and the consequences just happened to leak over into not-just-his-life in this situation, and I want to take my anger out on the person who sold him the stuff that ultimately contributed to his death, but that person was just running a business and was not out to be malicious in any way. I shouldn't blame them or want to light them on fire. Still, it is extremely negligent to sell research chemicals when you have a pretty fair idea that they are going to be used in a manner in which they are not intended.

Tuesday Morning fucked around with this message at Jul 5, 2013 around 23:11

onemanlan
Oct 4, 2006
I HAVE A MAN CRUSH ON YOU TOO, YOU LOVABLE FAGGOT!

Sorry to hear about your loss.

RIP thatdamnjew

sneakymango
Apr 28, 2004

BLAMMO


Tuesday Morning posted:

Also, gently caress phenazepam. If I could find out who he got that stuff from I would hold that person down and light them on fire and then run over them with a truck. There's more to that story there but I have a lot to do today and I can't get lost in grief because I wouldn't get any of it done.

Yeah, we like to laugh about it but phenazepam is definitely the most life-loving drug to mosey through TCC... so far.

e: Not being on TCC when it was really popular probably saved my life. I have still never tried it. When I was in college I got a gram of alprazolam and lost about three weeks of my life (and still passed the classes, which boggles the mind). Had that been phen it would have been 3 months and I'm sure I would have destroyed my life.

sneakymango fucked around with this message at Jul 6, 2013 around 00:39

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Warchicken
Jun 9, 2004


Phenazepam is the devil's drug. Of all drugs it fits that description the best.

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