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Kimmalah posted:If you mean you can't just like stick it in there without using your hands or something, that's not exactly unusual. There's nothing wrong with guiding it in with your hand (or hers). No, I mean I have trouble even when using my hand.
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Vogler posted:No, I mean I have trouble even when using my hand. Ok, sorry that I misunderstood the question! 
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Vogler posted:No, I mean I have trouble even when using my hand. The hole is lower than you would first assume. If you keep missing, you're aiming too high (or low, in the case of doggy style). You can try starting with the head on her clit and sliding down until it goes in.
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Vogler posted:No, I mean I have trouble even when using my hand. Hit the doctor. Do you have high blood pressure?
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Herv posted:Hit the doctor. Do you have high blood pressure? Edit: Misread
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KillHour posted:The hole is lower than you would first assume. If you keep missing, you're aiming too high (or low, in the case of doggy style). Yup, there's an old trick of teasing by rubbing your dick up and down while secretly figuring out the angle you need, it works great. Play it smooth and use a little lube if need be and it shouldn't be a problem to find the V.
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mmm11105 posted:I have a condom sizing question. I have a rather girthy penis (just over 5.75" around the shaft), and therefore regular condoms are way too tight. Based on what I read online, the only real options for me that are available around store where I live (rural-ish Canada) are either the Magnum XL or possibly the regular Magnum. Just try them all, one at a time. Get single condoms from a sex store or a sample pack from eBay, or else just burn through a few packets for the sake of getting it right. Wank with them so you don't get stuck with a bad fit when you're about to have sex. You're probably a terrible judge of your own size. I didn't suspect I'd be anything above regular but I ended up settling on a XXL. You'll probably have to get in the habit of taking them places. Most of the places you can get last-minute condoms around here only do regular.
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mmm11105 posted:I have a condom sizing question. I have a rather girthy penis (just over 5.75" around the shaft), and therefore regular condoms are way too tight. Based on what I read online, the only real options for me that are available around store where I live (rural-ish Canada) are either the Magnum XL or possibly the regular Magnum. Buh posted:Just try them all, one at a time. Get single condoms from a sex store or a sample pack from eBay, or else just burn through a few packets for the sake of getting it right. Wank with them so you don't get stuck with a bad fit when you're about to have sex. I use the Magnum XXL due to girth, even though I don't justify it in length (7.5ish). Just roll them until you reach the base and don't worry if there is still some rolled up. Alternatively, you can order them online: http://www.coripa.com/
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What cardio exercises help the most for sexual stamina and endurance? I've been working on my planks and doing a lot of rowing lately, but I'm wondering if any of you guys have found any specific aerobic activities that utilize similar muscles required for sex? So far kettlebell swings seem to be the most appropriate, but unless you're using a lighter weight I'm guessing that verges more into anaerobic territory.
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The Dark Wind posted:What cardio exercises help the most for sexual stamina and endurance? I've been working on my planks and doing a lot of rowing lately, but I'm wondering if any of you guys have found any specific aerobic activities that utilize similar muscles required for sex? So far kettlebell swings seem to be the most appropriate, but unless you're using a lighter weight I'm guessing that verges more into anaerobic territory. Cock push-ups. Five sets of one three days a week.
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Masonity posted:Cock push-ups. Five sets of one three days a week. No cheating with your hands, kegels only (arms behind your back).
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The Dark Wind posted:What cardio exercises help the most for sexual stamina and endurance? I've been working on my planks and doing a lot of rowing lately, but I'm wondering if any of you guys have found any specific aerobic activities that utilize similar muscles required for sex? So far kettlebell swings seem to be the most appropriate, but unless you're using a lighter weight I'm guessing that verges more into anaerobic territory. I've never had a premature orgasm during kettlebell swings, so yeah that should work just fine, buddy.
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Need a recommendation for some good condoms. I had always used the trojan ultrathins in the past but they must have changed something. The last few packs I can't feel much of anything and they've been tight and uncomfortable. Also my girlfriend was complaining that they were chafing and hurting, which was never a complaint before. The last few times she's had to give me a handjob after loving for at least an hour and trying different positions because there's so little sensation through the condoms I can't orgasm.
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The Dark Wind posted:What cardio exercises help the most for sexual stamina and endurance? Tried weighted hip thrusts? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOnbakeElAQ&t=120s
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So being a major-league slut, I am totally up for the open relationship and/or allowed kink questions if people have them. Currently I am engaged and have a regular fuckbuddy, don't really got time for anything else. Does anybody have links to the shitshow? Kinda interested to see how it went down to make the title of the thread be shut up about you kink. Anyways, people who were asking about openness/finding people: Yeah, bisexual girls on OKC get unicorn hunters 24/7. You'e probably better off finding someone who explicitly is into that sort of thing - I mention my openness and so on on my OKC profile, and there are other people who do. Fetlife is also doable - it has its weirdos but they are pretty drat easy to spot, and you may be able to find a Fetlife group for open/swingers in your area. I have also had success in finding a casual dude to gently caress as a girl in a relationship on OKC, but I think that one is difficult to generalise. Non-uggo girl looking for guy would not be the same as couple looking for girl. I really think the key is to meet people who do this thing in real life, even if they are not your type, because a lot of it goes on via friend-of-a-friend secret squirrel bullshit. Hell, I've given guys recommendations to other people thinking of loving them before.
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loki k zen posted:Does anybody have links to the shitshow? Kinda interested to see how it went down to make the title of the thread be shut up about you kink. The TL;DR is some troll from FYAD started posting about having a slave/master relationship with his black girlfriend and it just kind of snowballed from there, with goons not being able to resist feeding the troll and the troll piling on increasingly offensive acts that he did with his "girlfriend."
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Geoj posted:The TL;DR is some troll from FYAD started posting about having a slave/master relationship with his black girlfriend and it just kind of snowballed from there, with goons not being able to resist feeding the troll and the troll piling on increasingly offensive acts that he did with his "girlfriend." And the kink thread getting closed by another troll who asked for all the humiliation goons could muster, and then goons not being able to stop feeding the troll and fighting with each other. Speaking of which, I can't quite get the lady to watch porn with me to show her what I am into, are there any good S&M primer books out there?
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I dunno about books but I find The Pervocracy to be a pretty good woman-friendly kink site. But it all depends exactly what you mean by S&M, imho you aren't going to get better results showing her what somebody else thinks about kink, because what you want is to show her what you want, and that's individual to you. But if you check out that site's 'BDSM 101' posts you might find some examples dealing with what you do or don't like to do. Also have you tried kink worksheets?
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If she isn't even comfortable watching porn, having her fill out workbooks so she can learn to fulfill each one of her boyfriend's fantasies is probably not the thing. If you've talked about it and she won't even watch porn with it, it's a pretty safe bet she isn't into it.
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The Door Frame posted:And the kink thread getting closed by another troll who asked for all the humiliation goons could muster, and then goons not being able to stop feeding the troll and fighting with each other. EDIT: late post, different situation going on. Have you tried finding e-lit or illustrations about what you're talking about, as a means of illustration? hoobajoo fucked around with this message at 21:19 on May 2, 2014 |
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The Door Frame posted:We definitely have talked about it and she is up for trying it, she just isn't comfortable with porn in general. I have tried explaining what I'm looking for to her, but as you can tell, I'm not the best at communication and am looking for help with a sex thing that requires a lot of good communication. Seeing it made the most sense to me, but since she's not that comfortable with watching other people, I'm trying to find another way to convey that information Well they can be petty grognardy, if you accept the idea that kinks and perverts are just geeks who geek about sex, which I do, so you need to take them not all that seriously. The initial idea was that you get a list of things like (dumb examples for funzies): Pet-play, dog, receiving Pet-play, dog, giving Pet-play, horse, giving Pet-play, horse, carrot-eating ... and you mark off whether that's a 'like' 'like a lot' 'don't like/hard limit', 'meh', 'have never tried but would be willing to' or 'have never tried and don't want to.' Then you return the sheet to your partner like some kind of school teacher, which I guess can work if you are the kind of couple that just cannot talk to one another about this stuff. The better way of doing it is that you go through it together, you can explain or google anything one of you doesn't know what it is, and talk about any that come up and how you might feel about them and whether you might want to do them. Also, if it is an exhaustive list, feel free to mock the people who are into some of the things listed. It's kind of a kink-world no-no but so long as you don't do it to their face who gives a crap. This is an 'oh god, just list everything' checklist: http://latches.webslaves.com/checklist.htm ...and this is one that is actually useful, but will require more actual communication: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IzLNjh26l2Pi31xxeb071GawB6NZsTRbRi9pb0z9HVI/edit I would also second erotica as a thing to check out to see if she would be willing to read a story that turned you on for ideas. Maybe you could even write one for her, idk. ETA: Link number one is not endorsed by me and contains whacked-out poo poo. loki k zen fucked around with this message at 21:42 on May 2, 2014 |
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loki k zen posted:I dunno about books but I find The Pervocracy to be a pretty good woman-friendly kink site. Funny. I was actually going to recommend the GF read 50 Shades of Grey, since bodice rippers tend to be popular with women who don't care for actual porn, and lo and behold that website is going chapter by chapter. God love the blogger for slogging through it enough to give a [very funny] breakdown. But, if your [The Door Frame] GF is porn squeamish, those wretched books may spark her BDSM imagination. It is an easy to digest overview on hard/soft limits, equipment, safe words, and even has a kink worksheet. If she likes Twilight, she'll love them. Shudders (The books are very bad; I read all three of them on a bit of a dare/challenge.) Since you said she liked some power play already with her being submissive, keep rolling with that and she may be open to eventually being a switch.
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AlistairCookie posted:Funny. I was actually going to recommend the GF read 50 Shades of Grey, since bodice rippers tend to be popular with women who don't care for actual porn, and lo and behold that website is going chapter by chapter. God love the blogger for slogging through it enough to give a [very funny] breakdown. But, if your [The Door Frame] GF is porn squeamish, those wretched books may spark her BDSM imagination. It is an easy to digest overview on hard/soft limits, equipment, safe words, and even has a kink worksheet. It is that, but the whole thing is entangled with Grey's abusiveness and honestly reads more like psychological horror than sexy time ravishment. The deviant art comic "Sunstone" and the manga "Nana to Kaoru" are much better fictional lead ins, I recommend them both.
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AlistairCookie posted:Funny. I was actually going to recommend the GF read 50 Shades of Grey, since bodice rippers tend to be popular with women who don't care for actual porn, and lo and behold that website is going chapter by chapter. God love the blogger for slogging through it enough to give a [very funny] breakdown. But, if your [The Door Frame] GF is porn squeamish, those wretched books may spark her BDSM imagination. It is an easy to digest overview on hard/soft limits, equipment, safe words, and even has a kink worksheet. If she likes Twilight, she'll love them. Shudders (The books are very bad; I read all three of them on a bit of a dare/challenge.) As hoobajaboo said; 50SoG *sucks* as any kind of an intro to kink. The guy says most of the right words but then shits all over the concepts as far as 'limits' are concerned, and is basically a great big rapey stalker who would put anyone in their right mind off of BDSM for life if it weren't for the saving grace of the story also being painfully unrealistic.
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Fortunately, she's already read all of the 50 Shades books, and if I recall correctly a few months afterwards was about when she started to talk about power play, so erotica might actually help here. Oh, those worksheets are a predone want/will/won't list
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Well there's a lot of kink erotica out there, most of it is godawful but there's gotta be some good stuff. Can't really recommend you any femdom though, I don't read it.
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Look on Amazon for any anthology by Rachel Kramer Bussel or anything in general with Tristan Taramino's name on it. Rachel has She's on Top and Yes Ma'am for femdom ones and others aimed at various kinks like Peep Show for voyeurism/exhibitionism. Tristan is just all-around awesome.
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hoobajoo posted:The deviant art comic "Sunstone" and the manga "Nana to Kaoru" are much better fictional lead ins, I recommend them both. This thread is getting good
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So, uh, this is probably naive as hell, but... My partner says they're allergic to semen. Like, they can't even stand precum without retching. They say it's just on a chemical level and they're completely cool with flavor etc. Is this a thing? Is it common? I've tried googling semen allergies, but they seem to involve skin rashes and stuff, which don't affect my partner at all.
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PlatinumJukebox posted:So, uh, this is probably naive as hell, but... Semen allergy is the wrong word for it, but it's entirely possible there's a chemical in there that triggers a nauseous reaction. If it were an "according to Hoyle" semen allergy, it would affect all skin tissue and mucous membranes and would show at least mild inflammation or redness. My Internet guess just based on that would be they're calling it the wrong thing, but it's real. After all, you should be able to wear a condom and do whatever, so it's not like this is a sneaky ticket out of a sex act. If they give an elaborate reason why (non-latex) condoms won't solve the problem, then the chance it is flim-flam greatly increases in my mind.
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It entirely depends on the person. I've been with people who swallow, deepthroat, don't swallow, or say "don't cum on me!".
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Old Man Pants posted:It entirely depends on the person. I've been with people who swallow, deepthroat, don't swallow, or say "don't cum on me!". Right, and of course every person has the right to not do any kind of sex act for any reason, and that's good and healthy. I think the issue Jukebox has is if his partner's being honest in their reason for not doing something, and if there really is a medical condition like what he is describing versus someone feeling that they have to have an excuse to say no. Which is not a good outlook to approach sex with.
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Tasting honey makes me instantly want to hurl, though it has no genuine ill effects on me if I eat it anyway. It's called a taste aversion rather than an allergy and it's unpleasant enough that a reasonable person would try and avoid it forever, even though it won't harm them. Mine was learned, from my parents using honey in an unsuccessful attempt to get me to swallow tablets without hurling. Lord knows how you'd get there with semen but I'd buy it.
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My boyfriend has recently expressed to me that he wants to be on the receiving end of some anal play. I have had some experience with this before with previous partners, but the effort was clumsy and not really pleasurable for anyone. So I do have some questions about the logistics of it, but they're a little secondary. My main concern is that he's one of those "is this gay" guys, and I'm really not sure how to convincingly tell him that it isn't without just being like "nah man i'mma girl it's cool." What can I do to ease his mind about this, and how can I ease him into doing the act itself? I told him that he should probably experiment with doing it himself for a little while as well, but I'm not sure if that was the proper thing to say. 
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Experimenting with himself is totes the way to ease into it. As for the 'it's not gay' I guess all you can do is be like, 'are you gay? No? Do you like this thing? Then it can't make you gay, cause you like it and aren't gay.' But wevs, it's your butt, you can do what you like with it, and gay is about who you shag not how. Read this. http://pervocracy.blogspot.co.uk/2011/11/buttsex-post.html Then do the things in it. But the main things are lube and communication. Use plenty of both and things'll be fine.
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hoobajoo posted:Right, and of course every person has the right to not do any kind of sex act for any reason, and that's good and healthy. I think the issue Jukebox has is if his partner's being honest in their reason for not doing something, and if there really is a medical condition like what he is describing versus someone feeling that they have to have an excuse to say no. Which is not a good outlook to approach sex with. Yeah, pretty much this. She's also saying that 1) it's an issue with her body chemistry - something to do with stomach acidity - so it's not a psychological aversion, and 2) a large number of women have the same issue, i.e. they might be okay with tasting, swallowing etc, but they will end up just throwing it back up. I don't really have a whole lot of close female friends who I can ask about this, and again, Google isn't coming up with anything concrete. Would be nice to know if any goons have experience with similar issues.
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MNSNTZR posted:My boyfriend has recently expressed to me that he wants to be on the receiving end of some anal play. I have had some experience with this before with previous partners, but the effort was clumsy and not really pleasurable for anyone. So I do have some questions about the logistics of it, but they're a little secondary. If you're a dude who's into dudes, then you're gay. That's about it. But everyone - queer, straight, male, female, cis or trans - has nerve endings in their butthole which feel good when they're played with. And yes, telling him to give it a go himself is the way to do it. Also: tell him if he's going to stick anything up there other than his fingers to only use something designed specifically for the purpose. Particularly a toy with a flared base. Otherwise you risk losing the object in your arsehole and needing to go to the hospital to get it removed, which is something that happens literally all the time. Hydrolith fucked around with this message at 04:21 on May 5, 2014 |
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