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It happened yet again. As I was sitting at the table for dinner with my children, I noticed my daughter's hand fishing around under her skirt.

"We don't play with our vulvas at the table. Go wash your hands and finish your food," I scolded. She nodded, ran off to wash her hands, and resumed picking at her dinner instead.

...

"Sweetie, we don't play with our vulvas in the living room," I said. Which sounded ridiculous and strange, but nonetheless true. Why is everything with little kids "we" statements? "It's OK to touch your vulva, but people are private, and it's a private thing. The only places where you should touch your vulva are in the bathroom or in your bedroom. If you want to play with your vulva, please go to the bedroom."

And she smiled and did, without question, because compartmentalizing where you do certain activities makes sense to little kids.

"We don't eat in the bathroom, and we don't touch our vulvas in the living room," became the new mantra. And yes, eventually it became, "We don't touch our vulvas at the table."


And that's what sex-positive parenting really is. Not telling my kids lies about sex to keep them from behaviors I don't think are healthy. It's telling them the truth, the whole truth, and letting it sink in so they can make their own good choices.

It's telling them that sex is good, but that it's dangerous if you're not careful. It's teaching them to require their partners to use condoms, to buy their own condoms if they're planning on having sex. It's teaching them that while sex feels good, they can feel good on their own too. (Just not at the table.) That while sex combined with love is often the best sex -- transcendent sex -- that grows the bond of love and builds a closeness that is almost impossible to find otherwise, sex isn't always like that, even with people you love. That sex can lead to pregnancy, even with protection, so engaging in it is a commitment to deal with any consequences.

I don't get to tell my daughters they have to have sex, but I also don't get to tell them they can't. They're in charge. Your body, your decision.

facebook jihad posted:

Like, what it would be considered sexist and misogynistic if I told my son to quit beating it at the dinner table and take it to his room because I'm advocating rape culture or some poo poo

GROVER CURES HOUSE posted:

if it involves women being outside the kitchen, its feminism

because its edgy, see

Fandyien posted:

haha gently caress feminism am i right? anyone else narwhal baconing at midnight?

GROVER CURES HOUSE posted:

you sayin' feminism is millenia old or something

Fandyien posted:

this article is retarded but feminism and sex positivity aren't and you're dumb if you can't distinguish between fat stupid bourgeoisie mommy bloggers and a wider important movement

Spanish Manlove posted:

normally takes three pages, this is ahead of schedule.

icantfindaname posted:

ahahaha goddamn effectronica who did you piss off for that AV? in any case keep it up

Maoist Pussy posted:

How the gently caress has a 7yo figured out how to jack off anyway?

Fandyien posted:

this is the lady and her dumb family lol

Fandyien posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgR-k03SYOs

lmao she claims to have lost weight by dancing with her stupid loving kids

Fandyien posted:

lmao this is pretty hosed up actually

" rape, porn and the utter fakeness thereof, polyamory, jealousy, prostitution, how sex is a huge emotional lever/amplifier and the related risks, various attitudes and hangups in society, intersections with religion,"

this is not appropriate for a seven year old

Cardiovorax posted:

That is pretty much when my class had our first detailed sex-ed class (with illustrations and videos) and nobody turned into a crazy sex obsessed maniac over it, so yeah, I can confidently say that most of this stuff is perfectly OK to teach children in an age-appropriate fashion.

Cardiovorax posted:

Not all those things, just most of it. Rape/consent (no means no) yes and porn (don't believe it's real)

RedMage129 posted:

Children should be taught to fear and revile their genitalia from day 1.

Race Realists posted:

Filippo Corridoni posted:

You used 'friend of the family' as a basic synonym for black people. i can't really see the humor in that, it wasn't even a joke. It wasn't shock humor, it was "I love niggers" fullstop. That's literally what 4chan does.(hint: not funny there either) plus, there's nothing wrong with helldumping if its just posting the horrible poo poo in your leper colony. If you don't want to get helldumped don't say racist garbage that gets you probated.






your still a good poster though

Race Realists posted:

no



you do not get to play master manipulator here

Snodgrass Supreme posted:

I'm the goon that goes through an OP's rap sheet in the hopes of finding some nonsense to start pointless shitflinging about in a GBS thread about vulva touching

please poo poo on my face

Race Realists posted:

i imagine this is the op in real life

Moridin920 posted:

the puppetmaster

Moridin920 posted:

no I think that post came and went long ago