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becyase it helps fill in the blanks of where they came from, etc. how many times do you say stuff like "oh yeah b lue eyes run in my family" or "yeah im a 32nd cherokee" or "im big into music because my granddad was" or "my bad posts are genetic"
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yeah but not knowing where you came from let's you cultivate a certain mystique that drives the ladies wild
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in all honesty its probably cuz they hope their parents are rich and guilty like obv its not worth it to go find someone who had the chance to raise you and decided not to but if theres some :tenbux: in it for you then you can put up with some lovely snobby rich people for a couple days
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Jan 16, 2015 00:56
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also its p common for lots of kids, during their teenage years, to feel angry or disconnected from their parents. and for adopted children, they sometimes think that they would "connect" better or "belong" more with their biological parents
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Jan 16, 2015 00:59
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Redkist posted:Why do they always have one eye man if you want to be edgy you can't just completely make things up!
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in the past, it society encouraged adoptive parents to not talk about adoption with their children, and keep it a secret to a certain extent. We know now that this does much more harm than good. Adoption is not a shameful thing and there is no reason to not talk about it. open and frank communication with your children is always a good thing. if at all possible, it is preferable to maintain contact between the child and the biological family. A child's biological family is very important, and these ties should not be severed unless absolutely necessary. This is especially true in cases where the adopted child is older than an infant.
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Jan 16, 2015 01:03
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but children are morons? they dont understand anyways what a waste of time
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Jan 16, 2015 01:05
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alternatively the kid could stop being a soft rear end bitch and appreciate that he has family that loves and cares for him unconditionally
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Jan 16, 2015 01:06
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"I'm only the biological father." -- my biological father
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Bolow posted:alternatively the kid could stop being a soft rear end bitch and appreciate that he has family that loves and cares for him unconditionally
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a starwar betamax posted:also its p common for lots of kids, during their teenage years, to feel angry or disconnected from their parents. and for adopted children, they sometimes think that they would "connect" better or "belong" more with their biological parents this is the best reasoning and i hope some kids actually rationalize it like this and then realize years later how stupid and illogical it is "hrmmmm i have two sets of parents, one of which created me by putting a dingdong into a hoohoo and then making GBS threads me out months later (cost: 0 dollars) and deciding that, ehhhhh babies arent so cool, and leaving me to be taken care of by someone else. the other parents paid thousands of dollars to legally adopt me, took me into their home despite no blood connection, raised and fed me for years spending thousands upon thousands of dollars on me and put up with my stupid bullshit whining about how they arent as cool as my jetpack marine biodad and smoking hot biomom yeah i sure as poo poo know who i would connect with better, bio parents it is!"
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Jan 16, 2015 01:10
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JiveHonky posted:but children are morons? they dont understand anyways what a waste of time yeah kids dont think about things rationally all the times it is almost as if they are ........................children!
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Jan 16, 2015 01:14
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a starwar betamax posted:yeah kids dont think about things rationally all the times it is almost as if they are ........................children! hosed up if true glad i wasnt like that as a kid
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Jan 16, 2015 01:18
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wc feilds knew how to deal with kids. you just tell them to get away and that they bother you. then you drink lots and get a gin blossom nose
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Jan 16, 2015 01:19
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Cursed Lumberjack posted:this is the best reasoning and i hope some kids actually rationalize it like this and then realize years later how stupid and illogical it is yeah. this whole thing gets even more complicated though when its kids who have been adopted later in their childhood after being back and forth in foster care in their early years. for them, they often have a very good picture of what their bio parents are like..... but they still often feel a strong affinity for them. Its never an easy question to answer and there is rarly a perfect solution. your dealing with a tragic and broken situation, so youve gotta be pragmatic.
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Jan 16, 2015 01:20
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Lol if your birth didn't cost 25k
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Your Dead Gay Son posted:Lol if your birth didn't cost 25k lol if it did, because it means your parents were poor and didnt have insurance
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Jan 16, 2015 01:54
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im adopted and i havent really made any effort but im also a pretty big hopeless loser irl
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Jan 16, 2015 01:57
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also if you adopt through the foster care system the cost of the adoption is totaly covered by the state
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i hide it wel
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Jan 16, 2015 01:57
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there are over 100k children awaiting adoption in the foster care system
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Trying to find the thing missing from their lives that has left them feeling hollow and unfilfilled inside, not realizing that that is not any tangible lack but rather the inescapable human condition, OP
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Jan 16, 2015 01:58
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a starwar betamax posted:also if you adopt through the foster care system the cost of the adoption is totaly covered by the state absolutely not true in many states
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Jan 16, 2015 01:58
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i had some info it said my dad was romanian and an artist so i guess my dad was a legit human being suck it nerds
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lonesomedwarf posted:i had some info it said my dad was romanian and an artist so i guess my dad was a legit human being suck it nerds well we all knew you had to have gotten it from somewhere
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Jan 16, 2015 02:01
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a starwar betamax posted:there are over 100k children awaiting adoption in the foster care system drat seriously? Cause there's no loving way all those kids are gonna get adopted.
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Jan 16, 2015 02:04
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I had a roommate who was a garbage baby, couldn't stand him.
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a starwar betamax posted:there are over 100k children awaiting adoption in the foster care system What are the odds of getting a young baby? This might be cruel, but I wouldn't want to raise a kid who was a basketcase from years of being a ward of the state.
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Jan 16, 2015 02:10
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Cursed Lumberjack posted:absolutely not true in many states Oh, i was told it was federal. but i might be wrong. I know in Texas and Missouri at least the legal fees for the adoption are covered. this is specifically for foster adoption. Adopting through a private agency is very expensive.
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Jan 16, 2015 02:10
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boom boom boom posted:drat seriously? Cause there's no loving way all those kids are gonna get adopted. yeah. the majority of them are older kids who will age out of the system
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Cursed Lumberjack posted:well we all knew you had to have gotten it from somewhere um, wow. thought this was a safe place to share and real talk....... didndt expect this from the commnuity here tbh...............
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I'm adopted, AMA
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a starwar betamax posted:yeah. the majority of them are older kids who will age out of the system They should run away and make their own society like in Peter Pan
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The Gay Bean posted:What are the odds of getting a young baby? This might be cruel, but I wouldn't want to raise a kid who was a basketcase from years of being a ward of the state. very, very slim. and yes, a lot of the kids have very serious problems. choosing to adopt and raise a child who has endured the foster system and and problems or abuse before that is not a small decision.
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Cursed Lumberjack posted:lol if it did, because it means your parents were poor and didnt have insurance I was also 2 months premature and had to live in the hyperbolic time chamber for a week
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it must've been pretty cool that you came out of the hospital at 7 years old though
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a starwar betamax posted:choosing to adopt and raise a child who has endured the foster system and and problems or abuse before that is not a smart decision.
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Your Dead Gay Son posted:I was also 2 months premature and had to live in the hyperbolic time chamber for a week but what level super saiyan can you become now
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its almost as if some people choose to live their lives for other instead of for themselves
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But seriously though, is it really the case that most adopted children try to find their biological parents? Cause it always seemed to me that it was a tired trope for easy emotional manipulation in Hallmark movies. I mean, I'm sure a significant portion of adopted kids do try, but do we have any hard stats on that?
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