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Captain Candiru posted:Liars in GBS!?! HOLY poo poo. just stop dude
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Feb 22, 2015 19:48
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No. I don't need to "ask for permission" to take a bride.
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Feb 22, 2015 19:50
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Tujague posted:Oh, snap. I guess the "joke" is on me. ur the only child in the thread, autistic duder
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Feb 22, 2015 19:57
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so much anger in this thread about love 
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Feb 22, 2015 20:18
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Lmao no.
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Feb 22, 2015 20:26
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I cuck the dad hope this helps
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Feb 22, 2015 20:50
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Pon de Bundy posted:2 many idiots 2 quote but this isn't a gimmick, are you all retarded? lol you didnt even know the word for your own tradition you are a p good muslim
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Feb 22, 2015 21:18
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pondebundy as a muslim could you explain how it works: a woman becomes a mans property after marriage(as is right and good in all marriages in all religions) but the brideprice is paid to the wife and becomes her property, not her families? at least thats what the link you posted says, so once you marry her the money is yours again and it doesnt matter at all? sounds like a real trial man, you have to give your wife a fake wedding gift and then take it back right after the wedding night lol
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Feb 22, 2015 21:20
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I don't need to explain poo poo. I've been robbin' mother fuckers since the slave ships, with the same clip, and the same .45. Two point blank, a mother fucker sure to die. Also I'm pretty sure he would have laughed at me and suggested I would be happier marrying a man.
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Feb 22, 2015 21:28
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lol if you're not on great terms with your in-laws going all the way back to when you first started dating
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Feb 22, 2015 22:11
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Robo Reagan posted:lol if you're not on great terms with your in-laws going all the way back to when you first started dating
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Feb 22, 2015 23:13
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my moms in law is a great lady but pops in law is a terrible drunk whos mind is half demented from chronic alcoholism and he thinks its 1996 so i didnt have to worry too much
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Feb 22, 2015 23:15
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Cursed Lumberjack posted:pondebundy as a muslim could you explain how it works: a woman becomes a mans property after marriage(as is right and good in all marriages in all religions) but the brideprice is paid to the wife and becomes her property, not her families? at least thats what the link you posted says, so once you marry her the money is yours again and it doesnt matter at all? sounds like a real trial man, you have to give your wife a fake wedding gift and then take it back right after the wedding night lol basically it's their so if you get a divorce , it goes to her as a form of insurance because she's now been married and it'll be hard for her to get remarried . so you usually buy gold and it's kept by her family and then given to her if there is a divorce . That's super old school , usually you just have to buy a bunch of stuff for her now.
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Feb 22, 2015 23:48
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No because my father in law is a loving rear end in a top hat, and even if he said no I'd say "tough poo poo anyway then" and we'd still have gotten married.
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Feb 22, 2015 23:59
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Tujague posted:Once again, the only person who claims not to have ever heard of this quaint old custom that is widely discussed in every cultural medium on the topic is you shut the gently caress up
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Feb 23, 2015 00:01
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Pon de Bundy posted:uhh im muslim so yes you have to loving ask, not only do you have to ask, you have to pay a dowry based on: Do you have a price list handy? I know there is a price list. Just like for cars. But the price list for cars is for used cars soo.... Do you save money if you pay up with straight cash or i guess gold is worth more? And what about camels. Camels are expensive.
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Feb 23, 2015 00:05
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Tujague posted:I dunno I mean people might be fibbing about being married or engaged or telling stories about imaginary in-laws for comedy purposes in this thread but I don't think that's the same as you telling insecurity-fueled kiddie-pool porky pies about how you never heard of this thing and don't give a gently caress about it. wow you're 100x more annoying than that other human being 
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Feb 23, 2015 00:11
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I asked. I took him to lunch. I think he was a little surprised that I would ask but it was really great to have his blessing. He said she's never been happier. It made her really happy too, even though it's somewhat out of style now. I highly recommend it. It lets the important people in her life know that you're serious.
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Feb 23, 2015 00:15
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This thread rocks
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Feb 23, 2015 00:23
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FunkyFlashman posted:Do you have a price list handy? I know there is a price list. Just like for cars. But the price list for cars is for used cars soo.... Do you save money if you pay up with straight cash or i guess gold is worth more? And what about camels. Camels are expensive. it depends on her family and how traditional they are. 10k is the norm. it's why in muslim countries a lot of single guys are very angry because they can't have sex without a very expensive wedding /muhr
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Feb 23, 2015 03:41
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Didn't ask, seems sort of offensive to my wife. She's an adult, not a child or property.
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Feb 23, 2015 05:36
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no because he's dead mom's cool though
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Feb 23, 2015 06:10
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I didn't ask because her dad is a deadbeat and it is none of her step-dad or mother's business because like many others have said, we are adults. My father really pissed me off when he found out about my sister getting engaged. He phoned her up to raise poo poo about how her fiance didn't ask for his permission and he said to her "I know that Mettleramiel had the decency and common courtesy to ask his wife's step-dad first." Fun fact: we have been together since we were teenagers and got married after something like 15 years. That was three years ago and everyone in my family knows but noone on her side does because we eloped and my wife didn't want to hurt her mom's feelings.
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Feb 23, 2015 06:57
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blessing and permission are very different of course like yeah permission is kind of antiquated and misogynistic cuz it treats women as property but blessing is basically asking your dad in law "yo are you cool w me marrying your daughter?" where like you're still going to do it regardless of what he says but you are tactfully acknowledging that it would be better overall if he liked you and the fact that you are marrying his daughter like if your prospective in laws are terrible assholes and/or pieces of human poo poo then yeah no reason to give a gently caress about what they think of your marriage, but if they are good people it seems polite and wise to get some sort of official approval of your joining their family and marrying their daughter this honestly should apply to women as well. in fact it should be a new tradition that both parties have a sit down chat with their prospective in-laws prior to an engagement although this is easier for men to do because in western culture men usually propose marriage, not women, so
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Feb 23, 2015 06:59
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Robo Reagan posted:lol if you're not on great terms with your in-laws going all the way back to when you first started dating
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Feb 23, 2015 11:17
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I've been prepping to ask. I know I have to- he's very traditional and kind of insane so it's better to include him and not make a stir.. But, for a short man he is extremely intimidating. He is a born North Korean who escaped to the south by himself as an adolescent, went to university and eventually became a successful physicist in the United States. Talking to him about marrying his only daughter is going to be really important to him, he knows it's coming soon, and I just hope he isn't armed when it finally happens. He's smart, sociopathic, and has a huge ego due to his incredible success against odds and meanwhile I'm just some middle class white dude. Donovan Trip fucked around with this message at 11:41 on Feb 23, 2015 |
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Feb 23, 2015 11:35
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I had it in reverse. Father in law invited now-wife and me to dinner, then in the middle of eating drops "so you've been dating my daughter for two years. That seems like it should be long enough for you to decide if you're going to marry her. You are going to marry her' right?"KiddieGrinder posted:No because my father in law is a loving rear end in a top hat, and even if he said no I'd say "tough poo poo anyway then" and we'd still have gotten married. Why he gotta be so rude
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Feb 23, 2015 11:46
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havent tied the knot but i will def not ask for his permission when and if i do, cos why the hell would she need her dads approval? retarded and dated concept congrats op. what if he'd said no? would you have broken up like a pussy and let someone dictate what you or your wife can do?
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Feb 23, 2015 11:52
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Zippy the Bummer posted:blessing and permission are very different of course
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Feb 23, 2015 15:58
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No I didn't. I asked my wife and she said yes and that was the entirety of the transaction.
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Feb 23, 2015 16:10
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Zippy the Bummer posted:blessing and permission are very different of course nah man it's a bullshit tradition, a relic of the past that needs to die. ppl won't ask the mother in law b/v it's a chauvinistic bromance thing. and honestly i couldn't care less about asking anyone permission to do anything. naturally you're gonna tell the in laws you've decided to get married and they can say their mind then, but why the hell should there be a talk before you've decided to do it? Dyna Soar fucked around with this message at 16:27 on Feb 23, 2015 |
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Feb 23, 2015 16:23
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Yeah I asked for his blessing to marry his daughter. It scored me major points since he is old school. Let me drive his souped up 1955 chevy apache after the wedding reception. Just need to become a big game hunter to be in his will to get his classic car collection.
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Feb 23, 2015 16:44
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we were engaged before meeting the folks. her dad probably would have made fun of me for the rest of his life if i had asked, he's a cool guy. moms a total piece of idiot garbage but they're divorced so its all good.
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Feb 23, 2015 17:50
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She asked me
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Feb 23, 2015 17:53
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Korranus posted:She asked me did she ask your mother's blessing? pod6isjerks fucked around with this message at 18:58 on Feb 23, 2015 |
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Feb 23, 2015 18:31
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good day sir. here is a quarter oz of some stinky kush and a cooler of freshly caught trout. I would like your blessing to make your curvy gamer daughter my curvy gamer wife
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Feb 23, 2015 18:33
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if muslim girl has been divorced she moves back in with her parents , then her dad is more than happy to give her away. divorced muslim chick =so e z even a goon could do it .
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Feb 23, 2015 18:35
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People asked permission in the past because they were children.
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Feb 23, 2015 19:19
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Zippy the Bummer posted:in fact it should be a new tradition that both parties have a sit down chat with their prospective in-laws prior to an engagement although this is easier for men to do because in western culture men usually propose marriage, not women, so That sounds terrible, tbh, unless you're in the tiny minority of people who have good in-laws on both sides of the family. Easier and better to just do away with a tradition that fits very poorly in a modern society, instead of trying to awkwardly make it less sexist.
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I informed him I was going to ask from the perspective that he's been married to her mom for 35 years and I was seeking insights on what makes a marriage work, seeing if he had any advice or encouragement. Thought it might be a nice moment since we got along well. He was super super awkward about it and didn't even really look up from his fantasy football website. Then he didn't tell her mom about it and she got mega butt hurt that we posted our engagement news to Facebook at 11pm (1 am for them) instead of calling her first. what a disaster.
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