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I have never been in a relationship, and never felt the need for one. There were guys who courted me, but I have only felt fearful, avoidant, and repulsed by such attempts. I have no problems being friends with males, but once they express a desire to move beyond a platonic relationship, I break off all ties. I do find some males attractive, and I had several crushes in high school, but never once have I felt the need to date, sleep with, or have any form of romantic relationship with anyone. I never accept invites by male friends, single or not, to any kind of engagement outside of school or work. Despite my resistance to rl guys, I have fantasies of being with fictional characters from anime, and I indulge in virtual games, manga, and anime to fulfil my need for intimacy. I have only ever imagined myself together with an anime character in romantic and sexual contexts, and real people just put me off. Now that I'm 25 and fast approaching an age when I should be looking towards a committed relationship and marriage, I'm frequently questioned by curious family, relatives, friends, acquaintances, and pure strangers about my single status. Do I share with them what I said here, or will I be judged harshly for being unconventional (if that's the word)? Plus I am wondering how common my situation is. Anyone else experiences the same thing? tl;dr: I am repulsed by real men, and only crave intimacy with fictional characters.
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Hi, I posted this over at /r/sex but I think maybe here might have some better input, its not really about the sex I guess. I was hoping some of you might give me your opinion on the situation I am currently presented with. I'm not sure how much info to include but I think its all relevant to get a full moral picture... My family and a few others in my extended family will be vacationing together this summer. My cousin (18m) who I am rather close with and I (21f) are the only ones in our age range and will probably spend most of the month together. Four years ago our families went on a similar vacation and he and I being young, stupid, of Irish-descent, and way further south than either of us had ever been burnt the absolute crap out of ourselves. We ended up spending a week basically incapacitated and caring for each other while our families went off and had fun. By the nature of the extent and severity of the sunburns, having our own hotel room and clothing being very painful to wear, we spent almost the entire time naked. It didn't feel inappropriate, being family, and honestly I was in too much pain and at first sick to care, I'm sure he was too. There was absolutely nothing sexual about it but we were very familiar with each other's body by the end. Contorting oneself to wash or rub aloe and lotion everywhere a half dozen times a day was drat painful so we did each other. We were always close, our families did a lot together before the last couple years and everyone else was either 15+ years younger or older so by default we just kinda paired up. I feel like an older sister kinda but also not really... almost more like a good friend. I think thats mutual but we hadn't really spoken in 2 years or so... he's going to the university Im just leaving though so in the last few months we've chatted quite a bit more, and because we are both adults now, its been a pretty flirty at times... I would like to hook up with him, I'm 99% sure he does too, we aren't even blood cousins, and hormones being what they are... us sharing a room again etc. But I've been having a bit of a think about it and second guessing if its completely morally ok... Being that I was the "responsible" one between us... I was never like babysitting but for awhile I think it was understood that was kinda what was going on... With him being a virgin I think it will be up to me to make the first moves, I really want to, but I'm having pretty serious negative thoughts about the whole thing considering the past. I guess my primary moral concern is about our closeness being developed when I was in some kind of pseudo authority position, and that closeness being the catalyst for current sexual activities.... Any thoughts positive or negative would be welcomed, thanks! tl;dr: Would like a vacation hookup with cousin but am having a moral conundrum, thoughts?
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I don't think a lot of you are going to think that great of me once I am done here. I am not exactly a model human being. I am trying to salvage a relationship with my daughter, and I am running my options with people online until the scheduled date for my first session with someone professional. I've always been a very sexual person. I messed around with my little sister and a younger cousin before. I never pushed them when they said no or were unsure, but I definitely took advantage of how shy and timid they both were. I was an rear end in a top hat, and it was very wrong of me. I have done a lot to have decent relationships with both of them, now. I had a lot of flings with shy, timid girls that were younger than me in high school. It usually ended in me cheating because the spark faded, or they realized all I wanted was kinky sex. I got one girl pregnant because sex was more important to me than protection. She was a Catholic girl with conservative parents, so she kept the kid. poo poo hit the fan, and they tried to force us to get married. They threatened to keep my daughter from my family if I didn't. Neither one of us wanted to get married, and her parents had adopted our daughter. My parents thankfully stepped up with my dad's union lawyer and made sure my daughter was a part of my life. I've gotten older, but my girlfriends have pretty much stayed the same age since after college. My parents and sister give me a lot of poo poo about that. I only get off doing daddy roleplay with younger women for the most part. I'm in my early thirties, and I don't think I've been with anyone old enough to legally drink when we started seeing each other. I have a huge hidden collection of daddy and daughter porn in my apartment and on my computers and phone. I have been careful to keep all of this away from my daughter. I usually lock poo poo up, and I don't bring girls home when I have her around. She's 17, so she has been old enough for a while for me to tell her I have girlfriends here and there, but I haven't felt comfortable having them around her. I recently got more serious with someone with potential to start living together. I was going to tell my daughter eventually. I just wanted everything figured out by then. This woman is only about 4 years older than my daughter and knows her. My daughter has always had problems with her mom and her mom's family, and she decided she needed to stay with me for a while. I had my phone on silent while I was involved with my girlfriend. We had porn and fetish stuff on and out about the house because we had the whole day to ourselves. My daughter had to listen to us for a while after she walked in without us hearing her, and there was a lot of vocal roleplay. My daughter was too embarrassed to interrupt us. My girlfriend was the first to leave the room, and both of them were pretty horrified. My girlfriend came back in, got dressed, told me my daughter was home and she would come back after I had a chance to talk with my daughter. I finally came out when I heard them say their good byes. I apologized, but my daughter kept saying it wasn't any of her business and shouldn't have come when I didn't answer my phone. It was late, and I told her we'd talk about it more after I got back from work the next day. I got home the next day, and I found my daughter sitting in the living room with all of my incest related materials out in the open that were not literally locked up. I forgot I gave her my password once to do an assignment for school when she forgot her laptop. My girlfriend has a similar look to my daughter, so my daughter blew up when she found everything. The previous night, she wanted to mind her own business, but she just couldn't resist looking into it. She asked me a ton of questions like if I looked at her that way, accusing me. I don't look at her that way. She doesn't believe me because of my girlfriend and some of the models in my porn. My daughter is very similar to a lot of them. She said she doesn't want her dad thinking about her in that way. I told her I don't, and I explained its just something I focus on with other women. She was frustrated, but she didn't want to go home either. She fought with me on it a few times over two days until I suggested I ask my parents if they'd like her to visit them for a few days. We settled on that, and I called my parents. My daughter is spending a few days with them. My sister still lives with my parents, so I talked to her to and warned her about what happened. My sister did accuse me of subconsciously leaving signals toward my daughter because of my past with my sister, but she came around when I explained a lot more. My sister lives with my parents because of mental health reasons, and she knew of someone that deals with family counseling where she sees someone. My sister pushed me to go talk to someone and eventually get my daughter to go too. My sister said she'd help smooth things over and told me I should date women my own age. I lurk incest all the time. I know a lot of people don't actually want to have sex with a lot of their family members. I've read comments with people saying that. I figure there has to be at least one other unlucky rear end in a top hat that got caught with incest porn and had to explain himself. I could use some advice on smoothing things over. I'm afraid my daughter might not trust me ever again.
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Y-Hat posted:for the most popular message board on the internet, reddit is surprisingly low on hilarious posts, unintentionally or otherwise. they need to welcome more irony into their lives
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I'm super type A and she's Type B. It mostly works out fine but I sometimes we set out to do something grand and she under-prepares to a point of danger. We are both very active individuals. I do triathlons and long-distance cycling; she is doing 5 half-marathons this year (without me) along with hiking and cycling. She adequately prepares for the half-marathons but just barely (20 miles / week-ish) and never sets out to do more than complete the event (2:10 ish). An example of danger is we signed up for a 62 mile bike ride and she basically didn't train. It was a super casual ride with food every 10-15 miles. We had to bail at the 50 mile mark because she got knee pain from being undertrained. I was trying to get her to do a long ride a week building up to it but she would grumble and we never went more than 30 miles. Now, we've got a long hike planned in two months which is strenuous and will require a solid 3-4 hour hike every week building to 6-8 hour hikes to get into shape for. I warned her about what we needed to do but she's already starting to not do what's necessary to complete the hike. We already have our gear and hotel for the hike, total cost of ~$700 and we'll need to spend another 300 or so.
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General Dog posted:It got dark, but not as dark as I feared it would
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Snatch Duster posted:I got probated for making this exact same thread a few months back.
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Hi reddit, I have some questions about a recent situation in my life.. BACKGROUND: I coach basketball and have coached since I was 17. In 2007 I coached a girls team for my local elementary school. We did well and one of the moms, we'll call her April, asked if I would continue to coach for AAU (year round travel ball). I agreed and coached the majority of those girls for another 2 years. During this time April got divorced and during a night of midly inebriated texting she walked over to my house and we had sex. We didn't date and it only happened 2 times total. MODERN TIMES: I have moved on and live in a different city about 30 minutes away. I am a single man who does some light dating, no monogamous relationships though and have only slept with 3 women in the last 2 years. April's daughter Maria played for me 6-8th grade and is now 22 years old. She is a professional model and lives in her own place with a modeling friend. I have helped her with light toning and diet coaching once or twice in the last year. We are friends on social media as I keep up with most of my former players via various social media platforms. Randomly this week I received an IM from her stating that she "isn't a kid anymore. You should hit me up and take me out sometime, I think we'd have a great time." I asked her if she was serious and if this was really Maria. She then sent me a pic via IM that was of her scantily clad holding a paper saying "put me in coach." Reddit, this girl is a 10 and she was always one of my favorite players, very funny, smart and I think we actually would have a great time. I'm torn by the past and the age gap, what are your thoughts? Yes, no? Do I tell her about her mom and I first? Is the age gap or past relationship a trust violation? If her mom tries to hit me should I take it or run? TL;DR: former player (22f) is making advances at me. I had sex with her mom about 7 years ago. I'm 35, am I a creep if I do this?
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Y-Hat posted:i'm gonna let the OP rattle off his quotes first, it's his thread. but i have his post history bookmarked so i can get laughs from his post history
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loquacius posted:Naive answer is that what should be the kind of thing he runs by a friend quickly to eliminate questions of propriety (since he coached her as a teenager and hosed her mom) has to go on the Internet because as a Reddit addict the Internet is his only outlet for poo poo like this
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his thought process got really bizarre and he would repeat things like "can't stump the trump" and "i love making GBS threads inside trump assholes"
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Billmac posted:To be honest reddit is just way too easy to mock?
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My sister has been back from college for the summer and she's been picking on me nonstop. She pokes me, grabs me, makes fun of me and doesn't leave me alone. I don't know what her problem is. I haven't seen her for a year (she studied abroad and didn't come back for the summer), and all of a sudden she's super aggressive towards me. We used to actually have a good relationship, she looked out for me, and stuck up for me. She was touchy-feely but not inappropriate (she'd kiss me on the cheek, cuddle up to me on the couch etc.), but now she's trying to grab my dick when I walk by, she slaps my rear end, tries to pull my shorts down. She touches me all the time, rubs my chest, she even literally tried to lick me several times. She makes fun of me in front of her friends and my friends. She was the queen bee popular girl in high school and her friends are pretty hot (they're also in for the summer). When they're all hanging by the pool, I've learned to stay away. She yells for me to get my "virgin rear end" over there. Once when I was in the kitchen she got one of her friends to come get a drink completely naked. Her friend has an amazing body but I was more embarrassed than turned on. I pretty much turned super red and they all just laughed at me. I'm really starting to just hate her, but she does this thing where anytime she does anything really bad to me she apologizes and tells me how much she loves me. She tells me how good looking I've gotten and says all of her friends want to gently caress me. She follows me around and asks me about who I've been with and what I've done. She rubs her body against mine when I'm walking by or sitting down. She's flashed me a bunch, literally put her boobs in my face. If this sounds hot, it's not, it makes me feel embarrassed and ashamed. I'm too embarrassed to tell my parents, she never does it in front of them, I just told them she's been bothering me and they told her to leave me alone (as you can imagine that didn't do much). I actually sat her down and asked her to stop, she apologized but that night after I dozed off she got on top of me and dry humped me, making moaning noises, I pushed her off and she just laughed and told me "not to be such a pussy". She's pretty much an adult and about to leave college, I don't know how she thinks it's okay to be like this. I feel like she's not mentally healthy. I have no idea what to do. I don't feel comfortable in my own home. I'm anxious all the time, I avoid being home when she's around and even when she's not I'm afraid of her walking in any minute and abusing me. Now I also have to worry about next week when my parents are leaving for a couples vacation with their friends and they're gone for the whole week. So I'm alone with her for eight days. She's told me how she's looking forward to us being together and tells my parents she'll take good care of me. My plan is just to crash at my friends place but I don't know if I'll be able to do that for eight straight days. Sorry for the rant but I can't take her anymore. She laughs everything off likes it's a joke and no big deal. Just now she took a shower with the door open and then came out in a towel and flashed me. For anyone wondering, yes she's attractive, pretty much all my friends want to gently caress her. The only friend I told about this situation keeps telling me how awesome it must be. Let me make it clear, it's really not, AT ALL. My summer is pretty much ruined, I only work 3 days a week and I could be playing video games and hanging by the pool most of the time, but instead I spend all my time trying to avoid a pyscho who happens to be my sister. I'm too embarrassed to tell my parents the full extent of it. Talking to her hasn't worked so pretty much my only option is to avoid her as much as possible and wait for summer to be over and her to leave. Sorry for the rant, but I'm really loving pissed. I'm not a violent guy and despite it all, I'll never hurt her but I wish I could just punch her in face. What am I supposed to do at this point? tl;dr my sister is constantly picking on me and being sexual. It's really bothering me and I don't know what to do.
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One of my favorite E/N threads was something like "I'm going to get fired because of my farts" where the OP described that he was getting complaints about them, people avoid him at work, and his boss laid down a threat if he didn't do something about it. Awhile was spent tracking down the cause. He cut out cheese/milk for a day or two and they stopped, indicating he was lactose intolerant. "Oh good", thought e/n, he fixed his farting problem. Nah, he says something like "I love cheese and eat every meal with cheese and I'm not going to stop". Lactose intolerance is a medical issue, he concludes, and the union won't let him be fired for a medical issue. This all sounded pretty fake at this point, so the OP wraps it all up with pictures of the 10 different varieties of cheese sitting in his fridge.
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I know some incest came up but let's not link to other stuff on reddit - we should stick to /r/relationships for our collective sanity.
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BONGHITZ posted:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4rlpeu/me_22f_with_my_fiance_23m_caught_fil_early_50s/
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My daughter is suicidal, and worse, she lied to me about being totally okay with my girlfriend of 2 months moving in!quote:Met my current gf 3 months ago, she moved in a little over a month ago. 3 weeks ago my daughters lies about liking her and being happy with our relationship came out when she attempted suicide. She stayed in the hospital for a week and come to find out she lied to her social worker that she wanted to work things out. Things were fine after that, it looked liked gf and daughter were connecting. That's until gf's niece came over this weekend (another compulsive liar). They have been hanging out for the past couple days and told us that they were staying at her parents house. Gf was on the phone with her sister in law and found out that was not the case. We told my daughter to get back to our house and then the lying started all over again, saying like the sister in law didn't want her at her house because she was my gf's bf kid. It is now bad enough that I have kicked my kid out of my house. It's tearing me up, I love my kid but she needs tough love to hopefully get her life on track. I can't tell what is the truth or anything with her anymore. I know this sounds more like a vent but any advice, Questions, etc. Will help. Jeffnote: This guy deleted this post quickly but I'm fast. His post history is full of him insulting people in the "roastme" subreddit, and before 3 months ago, posting in some "forever alone" subreddit.
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Haier posted:Can we also post Red Pill stories where 99% of it is made up and people are lying about how big and alpha they are with their humongous bank accounts and ability to lift things all within a year of going "red"?
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Ahaha the secret hotdog guy was actually taking hotdog breaks because he was chatting with an ex who worked at the hotdog convenience store. He admitted this tearfully after his girl bought him vienna sausages to apologize and showed him the reddit thread.
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Doctor Schnabel posted:Jesus. Does nobody know how to cheat anymore?!
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My boyfriend Tim and I have been together a year. We are very different. I was a sorority sister and now I own a bakery. Tim is a tattoo artist who collects comic books and has thousands of action figures/toys whatever, still in their boxes. Despite our differences outwardly we get along perfectly and have the same hopes goals dreams beliefs all of that stuff. Here is the problem. I think it is because of the new movie coming out but he has become obsessed with the Joker and Harley Quinn. I know the Batman story as much as I can from the movies but I remember the cartoon too and I saw Tim play the games so I know who the Joker and Harley Quinn are. More importantly I get the gist and appeal of their relationship. It is very abusive, in my opinion, and that is the appeal. About a month ago Tim asked if we could roleplay the Joker and Harley as the doctor in bed, and I admit that was a lot of fun. But after that it steadily increased. He wants me to call him "Mr T" (Tim isn't his real first name). He calls me Puddin, despite me hating that name and telling him so (He says I will catch on and come around and like it eventually). Then last weekend we were at a bar and he was ordering me around to get him things, and mocking me and making fun of what I wear wearing. We were with my sister and BIL, and they were like what is up with Tim? And he told them we "do a bit", like a comedy routine, where he's the Joker. They were like "Ohhkay", and I was so uncomfortable with it. We had never discussed that. When we got home I blew up. I said I hated this stupid obsession and he was taking it too far. He said it was just a phase and he would lose interest soon but asked me to indulge him just until it passes. Reddit what do I do? I'll admit there are parts that are fun, but his being an rear end in a top hat isn't one of them. But in a broader sense: Is this not totally weird?? Is there maybe something wrong with him that he's an adult obsessed with the Joker and Harley Quinn? Help! TLDR: Boyfriend is recently becoming obsessed with the Joker and Harley Quinn and wants our relationship to mimic theirs, just while he goes through this "phase". wait it out or dump him?
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So today while chatting with one of my friends on Facebook, she asked me what my ex and I will be doing tomorrow. I tell her that my ex and I will not be heading downtown. Instead, we'll be staying around the area. My friend does not take this too well and instead makes this immature comment about it was pathetic for my ex and I to not be able to go downtown. This really offends me. How should I respond especially since both my parents and my ex's parents won't allow us to go downtown? tl;dr: Friend makes a rude remark about how pathetic it is for me and my ex to not go downtown. Any advice as to how to respond?
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CharlestonJew posted:Is this slang for blowjobs or what
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Moon Atari posted:Yeah, between all the sad and weird stuff there is usually teenagers posting standard teen drama. If only it were possible to filter by the age of the couple.
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thank you and welcome to the forums! I admire that guy's commitment to his character - it made me laugh.
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Moon Atari posted:Those are the funny ones where someone gets what they deserve. The sadder cases are when a selfish and more confident partner basically talks an insecure partner who fears losing them into letting them cheat under the guise of opening the relationship up. Especially sad if they use all the open relationship books and lingo to gaslight them into feeling guilty about feeling jealous and hurt rather than happy for their partner getting down with other people.
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Jeffnote: this one is long and not very funny but the person is quite delusional in a way that left me scratching my head, so I thought I'd share I've been with my fiance [24/M] for 3 years, and our wedding is set in a few months. It's going to be a big, beautiful wedding at the most gorgeous church in town. My parents are mostly paying for it, which they've also done for my 2 other sisters. My fiance's family on the other hand have made no contributions to the wedding, or to the house we moved into 7 months ago. It was my parents that gave us money for the down payment; his didn't even bother to congratulate him. My fiance comes from a poor and dysfunctional background, but I swear you'd never know it if you met him. I certainly didn't suspect an unconventional upbringing when we were set up by mutual friends, and it took him a year of dating to open up even a little about his childhood. He is intelligent, friendly, and good-looking—he will be the perfect husband aside from his past. He even has an above-average income for his age, mostly due to lucky circumstances and the type of career he is in. With both of our incomes combined we already live quite comfortably. I've never been close to my fiance's family. His mom [late 40s/F] has always been sweet to me, but she's a major alcoholic and a bit of a drama queen so we try to avoid her as much as possible. Her husband [60s/M] has been nothing but an rear end in a top hat to me. I don't know much else about him because I've only met him a handful of times. However, it sounds like he was abusive to my fiance and my fiance's only brother [26/M] when they were kids. I just know him as this angry, drunk man that I'd rather pretend doesn't exist. Which brings us to the present: A couple months ago my fiance's brother was released from jail. He was in prison for about 1.5 years for a bunch of different charges that were stacking up on him over time (a few drug possession charges, and later, a much more serious one: assault). My fiance has never explained too much about what happened, but from what I understand, my FBIL got in a drunk violent fight with their step-father. The injuries were bad enough that their step-father was able to successfully charge my FBIL, and they went through a year or so of fighting in court. Eventually he was put in prison. No one except for my fiance visited my FBIL while he was locked up, not even my FMIL. She took her husband's side throughout this whole thing. I mean, obviously. You can't just assault your parents. Personally, I've never really met my FBIL a lot before this. He was distant and agitated around any of the few family gatherings we attended. All I knew was that he had some problems himself before he went to prison, so I've avoided him like the plague. My fiance, however, loves his brother. He has occasionally told me some happy stories from his childhood, and they always involved his brother and his biological dad (who sadly committed suicide when they were 9 and 12). I never pressed for more details about their past because it's all very depressing and makes me uncomfortable. These types of emotions should be dealt with his therapist. As his fiancee, there's nothing I can do to change his past. Anyway, my fiance was adamant to let his brother live with us for a while after he was released from prison. We argued about this a lot, with my fiance even saying he would temporarily move out to support his brother until he got his life back together again. I was 100% against that idea, so I reluctantly agreed to let his brother live with us for a maximum of 6 months. Unfortunately, I didn't think my FBIL would be living with us while planning our wedding, but he was released early on good behavior. So now I am living with an ex-convict while I am preparing for the biggest day of my life. Yep, this is what my life has become. Up until recently, he's been okay to live with. He's gotten a lot of counseling since being in prison (anger management) and doesn't seem to do drugs or drink anymore. He keeps the house clean, does the yard work for us, picks up some of our groceries, and generally keeps to himself, but I still want him out asap. My fiance is aware of that, and has spoken to his brother about it. My FBIL has managed to find a job, and he's currently saving up money to move out on his own. I was mostly okay with this, until just this weekend, when my FBIL made a huge scene in front of my parents. My fiance and me were hosting a dinner for my parents. My FBIL was supposed to be working late that day, so I figured we wouldn't have to see him. All was well until my fiance's mother suddenly showed up at our front door, drunk and crying. She explained to us that her husband was severely sick with cancer (which we already knew) and was going to be hospitalized soon (again, we already knew this). She was so distraught that her husband was going to miss our wedding, but we never even invited my fiance's step-father to our wedding in the first place. We gave my FMIL an invitation without a plus one. In her drunken state, though, we decided not to say anything. It's not like he'd be able to attend anyway. My parents were in the dining room and my FMIL was hysteric at the front door; I knew they could hear her crying about how she would have to sit alone at the wedding. We dropped a few hints about needing to get back to my parents, but she didn't seem to pick up on them. To hopefully calm her down, I offered that she sit with my FBIL at the ceremony and reception, since he is out of prison now. My fiance gave me a seriously dark look for suggesting that, but didn't say anything. This did seem to make my FMIL stop crying for a moment and I thought that everything was going to finally calm down, but of course my FBIL returned home from work early. It was storming outside, so I guess the work they had planned for the day was going to be held off until the next. As soon as he came in and seen his mom standing there, I could tell by the look on his face that this wasn't going to be good. They haven't seen each other since before he was sent to prison. When she recognized him, she immediately tried hugging him and was calling him "her boy" and "give your mom a hug". My FBIL looked like he wanted to explode, and my fiance and me were very uncomfortable. But then all hell broke loose when she said something like: "I'm going to sit next to my son at the wedding. The son I haven't seen in 3 years. My baby boy." (I guess she forgot how many years he was actually in jail.) My FBIL was pretty silent throughout this whole exchange, just looking at my fiance as if to ask "what the is going on here?". But his calm facade finally cracked at what his mother said. He exploded about how it's been "1.5 years since he was in prison, not 3" and that she might have known that if she actually ever came to visit him. He also said: "God forbid you have to sit alone at a wedding for a couple hours while I had to sit in prison alone for over a year". I was terrified that things were going to get violent, but his mom started screaming/crying about "what he did", and my FBIL just walked out the door and didn't return until later. My fiance bluntly told his mother to leave after that and she finally left after some more sobbing. It was heartbreaking. We returned back to our parents, but the whole night was ruined. I felt humiliated for having my parents witness that, and my fiance was in a sour mood the rest of the night. After my parents left we had a huge fight about his brother. He has basically shut down on me since. At this point I just don't know what to do. His ungrateful, disrespectful brother has ruined my whole wedding. I just want the criminal out of my house. I would never dream of treating my parents the way he treated his. I have absolutely no respect for the man. I don't even want him to attend the wedding, but my fiance loves his brother so much that this would destroy him, especially now that they've grown so close after my FBIL's release. tl;dr: My fiance loves his ex-convict brother and has allowed him to stay with us for a maximum of 6 months, but his brother treats his mother like dirt and made a scene which humiliated me in front of my parents. I want him out of the house, if not out of our life for good! What can I do to make my fiance realize that his brother is toxic? [Edit: typos] Jeffrey of YOSPOS fucked around with this message at 23:18 on Jul 12, 2016 |
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Jul 12, 2016 23:11
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I'm going to write a 150 page novella telling the tale of the man not being allowed to go downtown. Spoilers: it will refer to both the hip part of his small midwestern city and taking the next step in his coming of age.
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Jul 13, 2016 15:12
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My husband [34M] bought a house without telling me [27F] and now expects us to live in it
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Jul 13, 2016 15:33
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loquacius posted:No but seriously I hope she's just angsting about moving out of the big city, because with her in her late 20s and him in his mid 30s that kind of makes sense 
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Jul 13, 2016 16:32
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Nazzadan posted:Are there any other sad, pathetic subreddits to scour for good posts? I did cheat and get one from /r/incest_relationships - that one is pretty much what you'd expect.
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Jul 14, 2016 04:39
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my boyfriend wet the bed
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Jul 15, 2016 15:59
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let me be clear, my boyfriend wet the bed
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Jul 15, 2016 15:59
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what do I do
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Jul 15, 2016 15:59
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Found my wife's goodreads account and every book she reads is a romance between a white man and black woman. We're both Asian (29F, 28M)
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Jul 15, 2016 16:19
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Please don't upvote, I don't want this going anywhere, I just need advice. I just found out my wife pawned the wedding ring I gave her. She doesn't know I know. I also know that she lied to me (at least partially) about where she was a few days ago when she was out hiking with "a friend" who just so happens to be a man. I found a food receipt. I want to blow up on her, but I think I should ask for advice. It should also be noted that I was under the impression she was not taking birth control right now (we WERE trying to conceive a few months ago) I found a contraceptive container with empty punch outs. I don't know what she is planning. But I know you don't pawn your wedding ring if you intend to stay with that person. I know she doesn't make enough money to make the payments on it. Please give me your take on this. tl;dr: My loving wife is lying to me and pawned the motherfucking $2000+ ring I gave her barely 2 years ago.
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