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So this is like the nice guy version of the BFC Bad With Money thread? A guy I used to be friends with was everything nice guy, except for the fedora. No education, no interests outside of metal, weed, video games, MMA, and drinking. Rage quitting one food delivery job after another, living at home. 28 years old. He still thinks he deserves a "hot chick." Gets upset at his friends when they wind up with the girl he was creeping on, gets used for free weed and rides by clearly uninterested girls. I got to see a complete meltdown once. Some young and cute girl at one of his sub shop jobs was offering him money to marry her for a green card. He asked me to advise him and meet up with her and her friends. He would actually go through with it.... as long as she would sleep with him X times a week and share an apartment. She wanted no part of that. We go out at a bar one night and he's trying to push his idea of what he wants on her, she's deflecting it, and he decides he's had enough and makes me give him a ride home. I was having a good time  While he sends her a flood of angry texts, he reads them out to me. "Should I send that?" "Yeah... go for it" The standards: I'm a nice guy, I would treat you so well, I'm not an rear end in a top hat, etc, but the one that stood out was "I got a big dick, you're missing out" Poetic.He turned his sights on me sometime last year, with a dozen angry facebook messages, and haven't talked to him since. I've been the overemotional, overreacting guy before in the past, but some of the things I've seen here and on reddit are unsettling.
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Pick posted:as someone who has known me for a good while irl, yes, you have chided me many many many times about my excessive patience and undeserved kindness for mans lmao...'for mans'... just lol. Okay, you womyns... That being said, I actually don't find pick or troposphere half as bad as trex.
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Aug 30, 2016 00:15
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This is why goons should never talk about themselves.
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Aug 30, 2016 00:15
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Alright enough about Pick, I want to hear more about her one legged friend.
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Aug 30, 2016 00:15
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Pick posted:they do, i just need to find one who will date me nice girls finish last pick
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Aug 30, 2016 00:17
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MikeyLikesIt posted:Alright enough about Pick, I want to hear more about her one legged friend. she is awesome and i give her materials for her spells because she is a witch
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Aug 30, 2016 00:19
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Ratjaculation posted:No point in getting a nice yacht mate, whore bitches will just jump on the first rusty tug that has cash Oh I'm just getting it so I can call myself the captain.
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Aug 30, 2016 00:23
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lazorexplosion posted:This is why goons should never talk about themselves. Amen brother preach it.
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Aug 30, 2016 00:25
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Azuth0667 posted:Oh I'm just getting it so I can call myself the captain. m'cap'n
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Aug 30, 2016 00:27
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Ratjaculation posted:m'cap'n No fedoras, katannas, trenchcoats, or lovely booze allowed on board  .
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Aug 30, 2016 00:35
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Travis343 posted:tha share z0ne is a really good web page gently caress you beat me to it lol
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Aug 30, 2016 00:38
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CrazyLoon posted:lmao...'for mans'... Come at me,
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Aug 30, 2016 00:42
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Pick posted:she is awesome and i give her materials for her spells because she is a witch I like her already... you have some good material for that! one time one of my bf's friends was dumped, and he told people he was dumped for "a lesbian magician" I was like, "that owns" but it turns out that she was just Wiccan, which is way less cool. she doesn't even know one card trick. mystery the pua would never do this to me.
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Aug 30, 2016 00:51
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be good and try hard! 
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I don't think there's that much between a regular guy and a moderately hosed up nice guy, just experience with women or people in general. I know that kinda hosed up stance to take, but sometimes it helps to compartmentalize the world for me in that way. I mean most people could flip between the two by changing a few things, that's why it so hard to get a good reading on folks.
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Aug 30, 2016 01:05
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It seems that for some mysterious reason every goon posting in this thread has extensive personal experience with gross nerdy misogynists 
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Aug 30, 2016 01:07
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The world is full of assholes are you really that dense
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Aug 30, 2016 01:08
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Stinky_Pete posted:the takeaway from that book is that you have to think about what the other person wants and truly give a poo poo, there is no game Faking that you give a poo poo is just as good as giving a poo poo. It's all in the other person's head. The whole point is that you can affect other peoples' behavior via your own and that the idea of being genuine is in and of itself a sham. Because if you are actively prompting yourself to take a genuine interest then is that interest genuine? So the whole house of cards fall down, and you realize you have to behave in a way that is expedient to your goals while maintaining the integrity of yourself and those you're dealing with. Which is manipulative and akin to bartering, yet it is the heart of all social interaction.
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Aug 30, 2016 01:16
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It works because a lot of people are actually pretty cool, and when you take the time to see the good in them you love them.
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Aug 30, 2016 01:20
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Whatever town that guy lives in looks lovely, but in a beautiful way.
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Aug 30, 2016 01:22
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Mr. Belding posted:Faking that you give a poo poo is just as good as giving a poo poo. It's all in the other person's head. The whole point is that you can affect other peoples' behavior via your own and that the idea of being genuine is in and of itself a sham. Because if you are actively prompting yourself to take a genuine interest then is that interest genuine? So the whole house of cards fall down, and you realize you have to behave in a way that is expedient to your goals while maintaining the integrity of yourself and those you're dealing with. Cool expert on social interaction, over here.
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Pick posted:It works because a lot of people are actually pretty cool, and when you take the time to see the good in them you love them. I absolutely agree. Yet if someone didn't feel a genuine desire to give people that chance, your advice to them (and mine) would still be to give them that chance. Now they aren't being genuine in order to achieve an end, which is the definition of manipulative. And yet, it is the right call, and is the best way to live that I know of. Mr. Belding fucked around with this message at 02:04 on Aug 30, 2016 |
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Rondette posted:It was done in response to this btw And you still didn't fix the spelling of neutral ><
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Aug 30, 2016 01:59
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i'm a man and i came to this thread to find out if i am bad.
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NomChompsky posted:i'm a man and i came to this thread to find out if i am bad. 
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NomChompsky posted:i'm a man and i came to this thread to find out if i am bad. You are. And if you're white, well, you've got another thing coming pal
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Aug 30, 2016 02:32
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a double whammy! i'm EXTREMELY white.
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NomChompsky posted:a double whammy! i'm EXTREMELY white. Finally. 
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i'm a nice straight white guy though
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edit: some things arent worth dying for
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Playing video games online can be a pretty annoying experience. Video games should be a relaxing and enjoyable escape, but as soon as people know you are a girl you get: 1. Dudes griefing you about every mistake you make. Accusations of being a fake gamer girl as you concurrently play a video game. 2. Dudes telling you about the mechanics of a game you've been playing for years and have already demonstrated in that current game that you know how to do what they are telling you. 3. Dudes talking about sandwiches (this trite poo poo STILL happens) or other extremely hip 80s era sexist jokes. They use gendered insults. 4. Nice Guy tells other dudes to shut up, geeeeeeeze and then follows you around the rest of the time, making sure he is paired off with you to do activities if the game calls for it. 5. Nice Guys who say the sexist jokes Ironically to demonstrate that they "get it" and aren't the sort of person who would actually believe that. (great for you, but please just stop) 6. Dudes are actually cool and don't treat you any differently because they are as focused as you are on game objectives and not just trying to find an empty inbox to cram their dick pics into. These are the people you friend for later. 7. Dude wants to date you simply because you are a video game lover and of his preferred gender. No other personality traits are required. This is the most pathetic. When you politely tell them to go gently caress themselves they get VERY mad and soon after your chat window is filled with "BITCH" and "oval office". After a while you learn though. Maybe you choose a gender neutral username. Or maybe you just avoid all voice chat unless with friends. Either way, it's going to get out that you have a vagina and there are a lot of video game boyz who have opinions about that and missy, you're gonna hear them.
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I completely sympathize with your position and I bet it's all kinds of annoying to be condescended to by people who aren't even as good at said game as you are. It's only become clear to me in the last few years just how creepy dudes can be (like, I've been creeped on at gay/straight bars and stuff, but never e-stalked). And seeing what girl friends have to put up with is a mix of pathetic and despicable. That said, you should probably get used to insensitive, dumb and just plain rude jokes because you sure as hell can't stop them. And yes, always turn off voice chat with anyone you don't know irl. Voice chat is just how people with low wpm say stupid poo poo faster.
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phasmid posted:I completely sympathize with your position and I bet it's all kinds of annoying to be condescended to by people who aren't even as good at said game as you are. It's only become clear to me in the last few years just how creepy dudes can be (like, I've been creeped on at gay/straight bars and stuff, but never e-stalked). And seeing what girl friends have to put up with is a mix of pathetic and despicable. That said, you should probably get used to insensitive, dumb and just plain rude jokes because you sure as hell can't stop them. I honestly think less of anyone who can't type at better than 30 wpm. I can maintain 50+ wpm with zero errors, faster if I allow the occasional typo. 
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phasmid posted:I completely sympathize with your position and I bet it's all kinds of annoying to be condescended to by people who aren't even as good at said game as you are. It's only become clear to me in the last few years just how creepy dudes can be (like, I've been creeped on at gay/straight bars and stuff, but never e-stalked). And seeing what girl friends have to put up with is a mix of pathetic and despicable. That said, you should probably get used to insensitive, dumb and just plain rude jokes because you sure as hell can't stop them. Oh bud, believe me, I've gotten used to the onslaught as much as one can. I play many different video games and have kept my gender to myself in so many that I know that no matter what people will say rude things, but do you see how this thread is about sharing experiences of nice guys?
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CaptainSarcastic posted:I honestly think less of anyone who can't type at better than 30 wpm. I can maintain 50+ wpm with zero errors, faster if I allow the occasional typo. Pot Of Shoe posted:Oh bud, believe me, I've gotten used to the onslaught as much as one can. I play many different video games and have kept my gender to myself in so many that I know that no matter what people will say rude things, but do you see how this thread is about sharing experiences of nice guys? phasmid fucked around with this message at 04:11 on Aug 30, 2016 |
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phasmid posted:I can do spelling, but caps and punctuation trip me up like a bible villain in a chariot race. I even text with proper spelling and grammar, barring those occasions when autocorrect seems to have been drinking especially hard that day.
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CaptainSarcastic posted:I even text with proper spelling and grammar, barring those occasions when autocorrect seems to have been drinking especially hard that day. vvv Cmon dude. I made the primate case pages ago. vvv phasmid fucked around with this message at 04:20 on Aug 30, 2016 |
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Lets face it, men are pretty much apes still knuckling around. Sometimes you land a silver back who is an alpha at everything he does. This silver back may be a genuine good hearted gorilla or a huge pieces of poo poo. Then you have the other gorillas who follow the silver back in the hopes that he may falter for a second and you can finally fight him, beat the gently caress outta him and take his stuff. Then there are the "other" gorillas who were born socially inept, primitively speaking, and who are also physically incapable of protecting themselves let alone the group -- these are the gorillas that will never sire offspring. The saddest thing is that their legacy dies with them. Sure, they may have other redeeming qualities. Some of them make tools, others forage, some even exhibit human tendencies in building a shelter to live in but the reality is, no one wants to procreate with them.
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I thought it was pretty funny when some chick talking on the mic in CS GO chewed out some nerdy sounding guy that was being a spaz.
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Wicker Man posted:I thought it was pretty funny when some chick talking on the mic in CS GO chewed out some nerdy sounding guy that was being a spaz. Some chick huh? And some nerd being a spaz.... Acting out to catch her attention is probably the worst thing he could do. Second worst thing is white knighting. If I had a nerdy rear end voice and poor social skills I would just stay quiet. Oh wait...
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Salty Josh posted:Lets face it, men are pretty much apes still knuckling around. Sometimes you land a silver back who is an alpha at everything he does. This silver back may be a genuine good hearted gorilla or a huge pieces of poo poo. Gorillas are not even close to a human societal structure, though. They also have tiny penises. Now that I think of it, maybe there is some kind of analogy there for nice guys.
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