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Help - racist Dad making wedding a nightmarequote:Hi everyone, Happy MLK Day everyone!! Advice: Kill your dad
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Jan 17, 2017 00:14
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gentle pete posted:How can I [18f] tell my boyfriend [24m] that his beard and crotch are musky? Very carefully
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Jan 17, 2017 00:16
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Waterbed Wendy posted:Help - racist Dad making wedding a nightmare I mean yeah that's lovely but if he's paying for it what can you do
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Jan 17, 2017 00:18
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I'd respond to his financial manipulation stuff by telling him I'll hire who I drat well please and listen to the music I drat well want to listen to and if he has a problem with that I have 0 problem canceling the wedding and letting everyone know the reason why. I don't respond well to bullying myself so I typically go for the "scorched earth" approach  Ride The Gravitron posted:I mean yeah that's lovely but if he's paying for it what can you do It's manipulation. The parents are giving a gift: paying for the wedding. That doesn't now mean they get to decide how it is put on, unless they are some bullying assholes. It def doesn't mean you get to tell your daughter what music she can or can't dance to at her wedding in 2017. Sounds like their money has been used as a manipulative tool for a long time if she's even considering bending to this bullshit. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 00:23 on Jan 17, 2017 |
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Jan 17, 2017 00:20
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gentle pete posted:How can I [18f] tell my boyfriend [24m] that his beard and crotch are musky? "you need to wash your beard and crotch" is there really a reason to beat around the bush (  ) about this with your partner? this is like a band-aid, the faster you rip it off the less painful it's gonna be Waterbed Wendy posted:Help - racist Dad making wedding a nightmare jesus yes if I were them I'd tell my dad to gently caress off and if he didn't fund the wedding we wouldn't be on speaking terms anymore "donald trump might be president but I'm not your daughter if you're going to be a loving racist, dad"
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Jan 17, 2017 00:21
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Moridin920 posted:I'd respond to his financial manipulation stuff by telling him I'll hire who I drat well please and listen to the music I drat well want to listen to and if he has a problem with that I have 0 problem canceling the wedding and letting everyone know the reason why. Yes, same for me. I would just say ok forget the wedding we are getting married at the court house and when we have the money we will have a proper party instead of kowtowing to the nonsensical whims of a racist idiot. Waterbed Wendy fucked around with this message at 00:32 on Jan 17, 2017 |
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Jan 17, 2017 00:22
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Tiny Deer posted:You don't own someone else's body and nudity because they used to date the person you're with. Whether or not you feel entitled to it or it doesn't matter is your own problem, I guess, but it's still a violation of a third party's privacy. Now I'm now picturing some mega-goon being confronted by his wife about him keeping his gross sex tapes with his ex and firing back with 'how dare you violate my ex's privacy like that'. That would result in a wonderful trainwreck 
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Jan 17, 2017 00:29
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Moridin920 posted:I'd respond to his financial manipulation stuff by telling him I'll hire who I drat well please and listen to the music I drat well want to listen to and if he has a problem with that I have 0 problem canceling the wedding and letting everyone know the reason why. You're not wrong but again what can she do other than call off the wedding
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Jan 17, 2017 00:30
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Ride The Gravitron posted:You're not wrong but again what can she do other than call off the wedding Depends on how bad she wants to strain her relationship. If it were me I'd rather just call it off because I don't want to be thinking all about how I compromised my principles on my wedding day. Doesn't necessarily have to be a court house wedding, you can still have a decent ceremony with close friends and family for cheap. The whole concept of an expensive wedding is some bullshit anyway honestly. Alternatively she can just hire who she wants and lie to the dad about it and let him have a meltdown the day of. What's he gonna do, have a freak out in the middle of the reception because the DJ put a rap song on? He's gonna be the one looking like a lunatic. It's unreasonable to ask her to screen literally every employee anyway; if she hires a caterer she's gotta then make sure every single person on staff is white? Pff.
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Jan 17, 2017 00:32
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lazorexplosion posted:Now I'm now picturing some mega-goon being confronted by his wife about him keeping his gross sex tapes with his ex and firing back with 'how dare you violate my ex's privacy like that'. That would result in a wonderful trainwreck Okay, post your sex tapes.
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Jan 17, 2017 00:32
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Tiny Deer posted:Okay, post your sex tapes. This should take care of the doxxing problem.
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Jan 17, 2017 00:33
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Or alternatively she could go 'fine YOU plan it then' and watch him fold once she dumps like 10 folders full of slightly different color flower arrangement options on his desk.
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Jan 17, 2017 00:34
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zakharov posted:This should take care of the doxxing problem. dixxing
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Jan 17, 2017 00:34
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Moridin920 posted:Depends on how bad she wants to strain her relationship. If it were me I'd rather just call it off because I don't want to be thinking all about how I compromised my principles on my wedding day. Doesn't necessarily have to be a court house wedding, you can still have a decent ceremony with close friends and family for cheap. The whole concept of an expensive wedding is some bullshit anyway honestly. yeah i'm pretty sure the people who came up with the "the average wedding costs $25,000" statistic were heavily involved in the wedding planning industry in some capacity there's people who've gotten married in taco bell and had the ceremony officiated by the regional manager, i'm not saying that should be anyone's ideal wedding, but if you're going to spend 25,000 on something to officiate your marriage, make it a down payment on a house. lazorexplosion posted:Now I'm now picturing some mega-goon being confronted by his wife about him keeping his gross sex tapes with his ex and firing back with 'how dare you violate my ex's privacy like that'. That would result in a wonderful trainwreck right? it's absolutely insane. it's the most callous and unempathetic thing you could possibly do, lol, how loving goony and weird "well, honey, i know you're hurt, but you really should think about how you've violated the person who i was loving in that video and how you've wronged us both" getting mad about your own privacy is one thing and i understand it completely but jesus christ don't bring the person (s)he's mad about's feelings into this, they shouldn't really be involved in the fight you're going to have about this topic in the first place in anything but the abstract sense. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 00:40 on Jan 17, 2017 |
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Jan 17, 2017 00:37
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Whenever I imagine my dream wedding it always ends up just being my dream vacation and I'm more excited by the fact that I'm in the world's frog biodiversity hotspot than I'm getting married which, to be fair, is probably a considerable contributing factor to why I have never been engaged
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Jan 17, 2017 00:45
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also the whole insect/spider thing
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Jan 17, 2017 00:46
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Pick posted:Whenever I imagine my dream wedding it always ends up just being my dream vacation and I'm more excited by the fact that I'm in the world's frog biodiversity hotspot than I'm getting married which, to be fair, is probably a considerable contributing factor to why I have never been engaged a weird international vacation honeymoon is also a better way to spend $25,000 than a god drat wedding
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Jan 17, 2017 00:47
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Not to derail into wedding chat but as someone in the midst of planning a wedding that's low on fanciness but still a big party, the costs add up incredibly fast.
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Jan 17, 2017 00:48
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zakharov posted:Not to derail into wedding chat but as someone in the midst of planning a wedding that's low on fanciness but still a big party, the costs add up incredibly fast. tbh i feel like it should not only be culturally acceptable to charge people to come to your wedding, it should be the norm and it should be taboo to refuse c'mon people, you shouldn't have to start a lifetime together with 5 digits in credit card debt
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Jan 17, 2017 00:50
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zakharov posted:Not to derail into wedding chat but as someone in the midst of planning a wedding that's low on fanciness but still a big party, the costs add up incredibly fast. Did you really have to post this, just starting the wedding planning stuff and all I can think is "What the gently caress have I done to myself and my bank account" another frequent thought is "Let's just go hit the courthouse please"
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Jan 17, 2017 00:58
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zakharov posted:Not to derail into wedding chat but as someone in the midst of planning a wedding that's low on fanciness but still a big party, the costs add up incredibly fast. Weddings are insanely expensive, I had a friend who had a $15,000 wedding (as in, I know specifically because she was discussing this with me) that ultimately felt really bare-bones and kind of crummy. Frankly I'd have gone Full lovely (like "in a park and each person brings a plush frog and nothing else") or gone up to like $30,000 for exactly what I wanted (lots of frogs).
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Jan 17, 2017 00:59
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Mirthless posted:tbh i feel like it should not only be culturally acceptable to charge people to come to your wedding, it should be the norm and it should be taboo to refuse if you do this then don't expect gifts.
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Jan 17, 2017 00:59
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MF_James posted:Did you really have to post this, just starting the wedding planning stuff and all I can think is "What the gently caress have I done to myself and my bank account" another frequent thought is "Let's just go hit the courthouse please" Hahaha sorry man. It really helped us to make lists of what was important to us and what we would be willing to compromise on, and stick to it. It's very easy to wind up spending way more than you planned.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:13
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Waterbed Wendy posted:if you do this then don't expect gifts. you can buy yourself a lot of gifts with $25,000
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Jan 17, 2017 01:15
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Moridin920 posted:It's unreasonable to ask her to screen literally every employee anyway; if she hires a caterer she's gotta then make sure every single person on staff is white? Pff. do you know any racists? it is perfectly acceptable, and in fact expected, that The Help are black/Hispanic/Romani/whatever
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Jan 17, 2017 01:17
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zakharov posted:Hahaha sorry man. Yeah that's basically going to be our first big talk, we did an initial chat and looked at checklists online and decided we'll figure out what's important to each of us individually and then get back together and go from there. Honestly, I could loving care less, I just want to be married at the end of the day, anyone that comes needs to leave with a full belly of food and/or alcohol, and a good time had by all.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:17
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quote:I [27f] just found my husband [31m] sniffing my mother's used underwear.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:18
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What the gently caress is it with men smelling women's underwear? I had a cat that did this.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:19
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Pick posted:What the gently caress is it with men smelling women's underwear? I had a cat that did this. I have had a lot of dogs that LOVE getting all up in the underwear (whether it's loose or currently being worn) but yeah, never really understood the panty-sniffing, especially ones that are all sweaty.....
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Jan 17, 2017 01:23
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Pick posted:What the gently caress is it with men smelling women's underwear? I had a cat that did this. Did your cat only smell women's underwear or also men's? If only women's then your cat is clearly just trying to sniff out its own kind.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:34
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MF_James posted:Yeah that's basically going to be our first big talk, we did an initial chat and looked at checklists online and decided we'll figure out what's important to each of us individually and then get back together and go from there. That was our main wish list too. Now wait til you get your first catering quote 
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Jan 17, 2017 01:34
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MF_James posted:I have had a lot of dogs that LOVE getting all up in the underwear (whether it's loose or currently being worn) but yeah, never really understood the panty-sniffing, especially ones that are all sweaty..... a friend of mine had a tiny chihuaha that had the run of the house, whenever guests came over it would grab dirty ladies underwear from ?? and drag it into whatever room everyone was in.The underwear was bigger than the dog, which dragged it backwards. It was adorable, and embarrassing.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:35
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Pick posted:What the gently caress is it with men smelling women's underwear? I had a cat that did this. I guess it's sort of sweet, in a way? Like smelling a boyfriend's shirt or something when he's away? Obviously not in the context of 'I'm just going to whack off in my in-laws bedroom using my MIL's panties, no way this could go wrOH HEY HONEY UHHH JUST JERKING OFF IN YOUR PARENTS' BEDROOM! BUT NOT WITH YOUR MOM'S PANTIES!' I get that trying to hide the panties was an instinctual move but lmao dude you're already jerking off in her parents' bedroom, the time to hide your creeping has passed.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:37
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Waterbed Wendy posted:Did your cat only smell women's underwear or also men's? Exclusively pussy-on-pussy.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:37
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froward posted:a friend of mine had a tiny chihuaha that had the run of the house, whenever guests came over it would grab dirty ladies underwear from ?? and drag it into whatever room everyone was in.The underwear was bigger than the dog, which dragged it backwards. Good god, how fat was the rear end that belonged to that lady? Unless it was a teacup chihuahua or something or she shat herself constantly and the dog couldn't bear the load.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:38
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MF_James posted:I have had a lot of dogs that LOVE getting all up in the underwear (whether it's loose or currently being worn) but yeah, never really understood the panty-sniffing, especially ones that are all sweaty..... i don't know, i find my partner's scent very appealing most of the time, maybe it's a hormonal thing? though invariably the dudes with a fetish for this are always weirdly predatory like the guy in the post, so lol, i have no loving idea where they're coming from. his excuse is dumb as hell and i doubt this is the first time he's done something like this or the last time he will. is it something to end a marriage over?  maybe?
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Jan 17, 2017 01:38
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Pick posted:Exclusively pussy-on-pussy. niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiccccccccccccce
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Jan 17, 2017 01:39
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Waterbed Wendy posted:niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiccccccccccccce Not my current orange cat though. It's an invariable fact of nature that orange cats are gay, just ask Trig Discipline.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:39
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Pick posted:Not my current orange cat though. It's an invariable fact of nature that orange cats are gay, just ask Trig Discipline. The G in Garfield stands for Gay
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Jan 17, 2017 01:43
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Pick posted:What the gently caress is it with men smelling women's underwear? I had a cat that did this. Whoa there, slow your roll dude. Yeah, it might be a little weird on paper, but my girlfriend has told me before that she sniffs my clothing when the mood strikes on occasion. I'm sure she did it much more when we were long distance for a long while too! It's completely nuts if OP's husband is sniffing his MIL's underwear though. I agree. I don't get full-blown panty fetishes either, which are real weird.
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Jan 17, 2017 01:44
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