BrigadierSensible posted:

This bloke looks like the famous old AUG pipe smoking smug goon.

I dunno his name.

bike tory posted:

He doesn't have a name.

BrigadierSensible posted:

I dunno his name.

EmmyOk posted:

Anyone have the links to that medium article about the dude who opens his marriage and his wife gets pregnant with a yoga teacher after a decade or the dude failing to dim properly in her. Burning man is involved ofc.

Or any other articles like that

SIGSEGV posted:

Can I convince her to be exclusive again?

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Ok. This is long but I have a lot to get off my chest.

How we met: We met about 2.5 years ago on OkCupid. She lived close, we met up and got on well. After a few months we decided to get together. We were not open at this point. The relationship was great emotionally. She was sweet, attentive, caring and supportive. We also had a lot in common and had fun together, which is what I lacked in previous relationships so I was keen to keep this one and still am.

Becoming open: Around 6-7 months ago give or take, I found myself feeling disconnected from her and the relationship. I was looking at other women quite a bit, and couldn't seem to stop even though I DID feel guilty. I ended up singing up to a sex-themed website (fetlife.com). This is NOT a dating website, I wasn't planning to cheat when I signed up, it's more a social network and I was mainly interested in looking at pictures posted there.

When I was on this website it was like I found what I thought I was missing. Loads of hot girls, who seemed happy to interact with me, mainly. I started commenting on pictures and girls started talking, flirting with me. I knew things were getting inappropriate for the relationship but I couldn't stop. I really wanted to hook up and date again, and experience these other women.

Not meaning offense to my girlfriend, but she's a big girl (had been since I dated her though so I didn't feel it was my place to say anything) and while I enjoyed her body, I can't deny that the draw of all the hotter women on the website who were seemingly interested in me was too much and I was feeling more and more disconnected from my relationship with this gaping hole in my needs not being met. I still loved my girlfriend and she fulfilled me emotionally, but physically my desires were completely elsewhere. Eventually I realised that the best thing for me to do would be to open up the relationship or break up with my girlfriend.

I spoke to her about this and, well, it broke her heart at the time. She was sobbing on me the whole night of me talking to her about it, saying she wanted to be monogamous and she didn't like the thought of an open relationship at all. She asked for a couple of weeks to think about it, which happened, but when we spoke about it again she told me she still didn't want to do it. I had to tell her at this point it was this or break up as I didn't feel fulfilled. At this, she said okay, she would try the open relationship.

So, in short, she agreed to the open relationship even though she hated the idea as she didn't want to break up. She wanted to know how an open relationship worked so I set down a few ground rules and boundaries which we both agreed to. Mainly things like.. sleep with whoever you want whenever you want, but always with protection. Casual dating is allowed as long as the person you're dating knows the situation (since it's hard to sleep with someone without a date first). Our relationship shouldn't suffer and we still need to be there for each other. etc.

My Problem. Less than two months later from this, she's signed up on FetLife too and now 100% enjoying herself. There are men crawling all over her, her profile, her pictures she's put up. I know for a fact that she's been on a heck of a lot of dates, both with people from the website and off it, and I also know she's been intimate with many of them too (I keep seeing comments on her pictures saying vulgar things like 'God I miss my mouth around those beautiful breasts' etc from other men who I know she has been on dates with..)

Me, on the other hand? I've not hooked up with anyone, and only had one date. All the women who seemed to be interested in me turned out to only want to flirt online and only wanted attention, and when I brought up meeting up with any of them I got rejected. The only women who wanted to at all meet me or go out with me I wasn't attracted to. I went out with one local girl from Fetlife just to give it a chance, because my own girlfriend had found so many dates/hookups, but I just couldn't bring myself to be attracted and nothing happened. I havn't been able to find anyone else who wants to sleep with me off the website either. Me and my girlfriend still date and sleep together of course, but besides that I'm completely dry. I don't think this is at all fair on me considering how many dates she's been on and I imagine how many guys she's hosed.

It got worse recently. Just this past Friday night I go out to the late night shop, and on the main road I find my girlfriend standing outside a pub with a guy, holding hands and making out. He was at least 6'4, muscles everywhere you look, arms covered in tattoos (which I know my girlfriend likes). I feel like poo poo. My girlfriend sees me, immediately breaks away from him and comes over smiling all over her face. She hugs me, kisses me, then the guy comes and introduces himself. It was awkward as gently caress honestly, but my girlfriend didn't seem to notice at all. After stupid chitchat I tell them I need to get going, at which my girlfriend tells me she loves me, kisses me and that she will text me the next day as she wanted a date with me the next night. She then says she's going to go into the pub to visit the bathroom, and asked her "date" to wait outside for her and then after they'll "get going" (back to her place I assume..).

So I start to walk away as she goes into the pub to the bathroom, and I hear the guy say "Hey" behind me. I swear he had the biggest poo poo eating grin all over his loving face. He said to me "Mate, you're a better guy than I am. If I had a lady like that I wouldn't let anyone else touch her. Lucky for me you guys have this open thing going on". He said it like he was pretending to be friendly, but obviously it was a dig because he could tell I wasn't happy right then. I just nodded and walked off.

My girlfriend rang me Saturday afternoon and I told her what happened and what the guy said, but she swears that he was just being complimentary/polite to me and that he's from FetLife, and knows all about our relationship and my own profile on there which is why he was chatting to me. I told her that I still thought his comment was inappropriate and that I didn't want her dating this guy again, to which she said 'Okay' but she obviously wasn't happy about it. I didn't ask if they had hooked up, because I could already tell they had with how she was all over him. I told her I didn't feel like I wanted to hangout that night. She hasn't contacted me since then.

I feel like utter poo poo. I'm going to be honest and say I have no idea why a guy like that is interested in my girlfriend and not out with a hot girl. I had no idea my girlfriend would get this much attention and it makes me feel like poo poo. I now realise if it's not this guy, it's going to be another with his hands all over my girlfriend. She has guys all over her, most likely just using her, but most of them more attractive than me and god knows what else............ and I only manage to get one date with someone I wasn't even attracted to. I still feel unfulfilled.

I'm on her FetLife profile now while writing this and I have to look at this poo poo every day, and her relishing in it without ANY thought to my lack of dates. Not once has she asked me about my dates or who I've met off FetLife, and it's obvious my profile is barren of any interaction compared to hers.

I can't really fault the relationship I have with my girlfriend if I'm honest. She's still her sweet, supportive self and she does make time for me, but I feel this open relationship has gotten really unfair now.

So that's it. I don't want to break up with her but I want it to stop, and to close the relationship again. But because it was my idea to open it, and we went through that difficulty before she started enjoying it, I don't know how to bring it up or what I say when I do. I just know it's got to stop now and this can't be healthy for either of us.

tl;dr: Asked my girlfriend for an open relationship so we could both date and sleep with other people. My girlfriend has been on way too many dates and I'm sure she's hooked up with a good few too. I havn't. Feel the open relationship has gotten way too unfair towards me and I want to close it, but because it was my idea I don't know how to bring it up to her. Need advice on how to do this and close the relationship again.

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Wife and i have been married for over 10 years with 2 children under 10. We recently opened our marriage to spice things up .

It had been going well and our rules were 1)be safe (protection) and 2) be honest about everything. I recently broke rule 2 and saw a person without telling her about it and thus broke her trust. She found out by looking at my phone and seeing texts back and forth with the person. She does not feel she can trust me and I am trying to rebuild that desperately. This occurred a week ago.

In the midst of this I accidentally uncovered a journal of hers that had names written in it. My name was at the top of the list and there were 45 additional names. I should point out that I was her first lover.

At the bottom of the list are 4 people that she has told me of from our open status. That leaves 40 people that i have no idea about. My question is 1)doesn't this appear to be a "conquest" list? and 2)where to go from here? I want things to work for the children, but i don't understand why she would intentionally hide this when we are both working to rebuild trust that I have broken. Maybe she prefers I am the martyr?

Tashilicious posted:

i see the fnord lol

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Does an open relationship work for most couples? Marriage can have its ups and downs, and for one couple who was going through some problems in their marriage, opening up their relationship to include other partners seemed like the solution they were hoping for. Open relationships and open marriages are growing in popularity, and have been for the past few years. For some, open relationships tend to work out, but for this couple however, their solution to their relationships problems backfired when this man's wife got pregnant with someone else's child. Keep reading to find out about this couple's open relationship nightmare right here.

What are your thoughts on this? Share them with us in the comments below!


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Relationship. Ian MacKenzie writes via The Huffington Post about how his seemingly perfect relationship with his wife Katherine fell apart after they decided on an open relationship.
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Family. While their relationship seemed to be going well, just like any other couple, MacKenzie and his wife were looking to expand their family.
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Pregnancy. However, they soon learned that starting a family wasn’t as easy as they’d hoped it would be. After a series of fertility treatments, nothing seemed to work, and his wife’s inability to get pregnant was putting a strain on their relationship.
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Fail. "Not only did conception fail to arise, without the aid of birth control my wife mysteriously had no menstrual cycle at all. Thus began the odyssey of doctor’s visits, diets, supplements and hormone therapies, AKA 'Trying to Get Pregnant,’” writes MacKenzie, via the Huffington Post.
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Kiss. Things started to fall apart one night when MacKenzie and Katherine were at a party. While Katherine disappeared into the crowd of people at the party, MacKenzie found himself talking to a woman, eventually leading up to a kiss.
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Surprise. "She kisses me, hard. Surprised, I let it happen. When it’s over, we lean back,” writes MacKenzie, via the Huffington Post.
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Open relationship. For months, they were unsure about what to do in this situation, until one day, MacKenzie proposed that he and Katherine try being in an open relationship.
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Explore. Eventually, the couple begins to explore their newfound polyamorous relationship, and Katherine begins frequently seeing a co worker named Cameron, spending more and more time with him than with MacKenzie. He too, begins seeing a new woman named Mya.
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Desires. "Katherine and I practice regular communication, though mostly I don’t see her. She embraces the openness with a vigor I’d never seen."
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Suddenly, she is free to entertain the secret desires she’d never confessed, perhaps even to herself,” writes MacKenzie, via the Huffington Post.
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Change. As time goes on, MacKenzie begins to notice that they are drifting apart. Then at a BBQ that both he and Cameron are at, Katherine drops the bombshell that would change their relationship forever— she’s pregnant, and it’s Cameron’s baby.
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Disbelief. "I scream, louder than I’ve ever been. I can’t look at her, I stare at the grass, as if I could stare hard enough so she would take back her words. I don’t believe it. It’s not possible,” writes MacKenzie, via the Huffington Post.
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Separation. Finally, the couple decide they’ve made it work for as long as possible, but it’s time to put an end to things, and they decide to separate, amicably and without a fight.
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Equal. "I spent the rest of the month on the road, returning only to pack my share of the belongings. No battle. No lawyers. Katherine finds the paperwork online and we fill it out on the kitchen table. We agree to split the mortgage equity,” writes MacKenzie, via the Huffington Post.
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Peace. MacKenzie and Katherine were able to keep to keep their friendship intact, even after the divorce, with MacKenzie even meeting Katherine’s new daughter, Leila, and making peace with Cameron.

gey muckle mowser posted:

wanting to open up a relationship is generally code for "I am cheating on you and want to continue doing so without feeling guilty about it"

Solice Kirsk posted:

I tremble at the thought of what an AUG thread gang tag would look like. Neck fungus? Weird foot? Cum sock?

Sandwich Anarchist posted:

Horsey McHorseface posted:

As a person who has done this, can confirm.

I'm the homegrown AUG folks.

Basebf555 posted:

I'll never understand that, its easier to cut your nails than it is to even like shower or get a haircut or wash your clothes. It's the easiest thing in the world you can do to put forth some sort of effort to blend in with wider society.

chitoryu12 posted:

A guy who used to work for us had really long nails and bragged on his Instagram “I probably have better nails than you.”

He was a big douchebag who wanted to be a pro gamer. After he got fired for being really incompetent, he sent an “anonymous” letter accusing the manager of trying to populate the office with “minions”.

Pigsfeet on Rye posted:

I want to try to concentrate on his pipe or his pretentious expression or his stubble or anything, but my gaze is drawn inexorably into his gaping nostril

Kaethela posted:

Why is the smoke emanating directly from his head?

Kaethela posted:

Why is the smoke emanating directly from his head?

EmmyOk posted:

I can dm me the existing tag you want. Or if someone invent food pyf or aug tag I get this added

The Saddest Rhino posted:

https://www.ign.com/boards/threads/my-open-relationship-nightmare-my-wife-got-pregnant-by-someone-else.455023168/

SIGSEGV posted:

I'm taking the cockteeth fox vore giant tag, please.



It's just going to jog many good memories at random wherever I will shitpost.

SIGSEGV posted:

After a few days I asked out NG, and this is where it falls apart. She’s a loving lesbian, a femme or lipstick or whatever. She’s just a friendly person. But she is mortified that I would do this to E. Eventually it spreads through the whole company, and I am an office joke.

DicktheCat posted:

Are you the single success story, or did it go the same way for you, too?
E: as the other stories, I mean. I haven't done anything dumb like that.

RoboRodent posted:

That is a gang tag I absolutely, 100%, do not want.


I like this ("like") this because there's this weird implication that how dare this woman not be visibly lesbian and butch, and fool him like this. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but something about his phrasing just screams "resentment" to me.