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cool cool cool cool cool my OG OP was borked so now all we have is this Hi, is a relative harassing you via welfare checks? Kindly read the below! CuwiKhons posted:Here's what you're going to do: teen witch fucked around with this message at 01:54 on Aug 21, 2021 |
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this should be way up the threads alley http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/ i always dug the parent estranged PoV over the "child of narcissist" narratives cause theyre like nuggetized boomer madness
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Not gonna lie a few years ago I came across the issendai thing, maybe from another thread here, and it hit me how much it explained and matched a family members behavior and booooooy howdy does that mean I probably wont be back to this thread much since thinking about them causes a real skyrocket of the ol blood pressure.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 15:45 |
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I'm ready for more select posts!!
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 15:47 |
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The grand-kid thing is so hosed. These people simply have to place themselves in the role of victim and continue their pity party. They completely remove their own relationship with their child from the equation and make it completely about how their grandchild is being kept from them.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 15:48 |
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Barudak posted:Not gonna lie a few years ago I came across the issendai thing, maybe from another thread here, and it hit me how much it explained and matched a family members behavior and booooooy howdy does that mean I probably wont be back to this thread much since thinking about them causes a real skyrocket of the ol blood pressure. Totally understandable, I’ve been off and on estranged from my dad since I was a kid, so do what you need to. He isn’t as bad as the issendal link but still...there’s a reason why both my sister and I keep our distance.
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The_Continental posted:The grand-kid thing is so hosed. These people simply have to place themselves in the role of victim and continue their pity party. They completely remove their own relationship with their child from the equation and make it completely about how their grandchild is being kept from them. r/legaladvice always has a ton of grandparent's rights cases - and they aren't usually the first time the grandparent is acting out. Usually the actual legal question is prefaced with a mention of the abuse these people inflicted as parents. These cases never exist in a vacuum, ever.
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Its also because as much as I like to goof here on SA I dont like revealing particularly personal things about me. I will say to other folks these posts you see are basically form letters that they all do without realizing it, right down to how they want to get their revenge or what they feel they are owed, and is eerily exactly how they talk live in person in the coverup/gaslighting phase of the relationship.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 15:58 |
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Seems like a sad vein to mine for lulz.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:09 |
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I never got the whole "grandparents rights" thing. What rights? If your kid won't let you see their kids, it's probably because you were a lovely parent. It's like they have no concept of cutting toxic people out of their lives.
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MightyJoe36 posted:I never got the whole "grandparents rights" thing. What rights? If your kid won't let you see their kids, it's probably because you were a lovely parent. Did you know in some states you are legally required to pay for your parents retirement and that some estranged parents have already started exploiting this to get back at their children? Would you believe I know the states with these laws and wont ever live in them?
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:12 |
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Barudak posted:Did you know in some states you are legally required to pay for your parents retirement and that some estranged parents have already started exploiting this to get back at their children? Would you believe I know the states with these laws and wont ever live in them? Lol a generation of vampires. What garbo states are these?
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:15 |
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Barudak posted:Did you know in some states you are legally required to pay for your parents retirement and that some estranged parents have already started exploiting this to get back at their children? Would you believe I know the states with these laws and wont ever live in them? Source? I need to read this insanity.
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ArbitraryC posted:Lol a generation of vampires. What garbo states are these? Leon Einstein posted:Source? I need to read this insanity. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Filial_responsibility_laws The list of states is: Alaska, Arkansas, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Georgia, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada , New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, West Virginia. Now thats a big list but be aware not all have the same thresholds and boundary of obligations, nor are they all usually enforced, but seriously avoid Pennsylvania and it comes up with Estranged Parents now that they know about it.
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A woman who may have lost her daughter to an Irish cult posted:I am not sure if I am doing this correctly. I am trying to respond to the woman in Ireland. I am an American with dual citizenship. My daughter was acting crazy and I encouraged her to go for a study abroad program to Ireland thinking the warmth of the Irish people would be healing. Almost immediately she began acting like a stranger. I visited her 11 months later to see what the heck was going on and she had completely replaced me with another mother and a bizarre family. Everyone she introduced me to looked at me with hatred so I knew she was telling some horrible fabricated tales about me to justify the estrangement. I cried every day for about a year. Now, I am mad. I feel like the daughter i knew, who I lived with for 22 years died in Ireland. Not blaming the country, obviously this is going on everywhere. It would be nice to have an Irish friend to share this pain with. Sorry about your sister, seems to be an epidemic. I have certainly had the thought that I wish I had never had children. Tragic. I am sick of being lied about and of having unjustified rage directed at me. "The Warmth of the Irish People" led to this woman's daughter realizing her mother was insane.
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Barudak posted:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Filial_responsibility_laws
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:25 |
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A Fancy Hat posted:"The Warmth of the Irish People" led to this woman's daughter realizing her mother was insane.
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I would bet my bottom dollar that my mom is on that site somewhere.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:28 |
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Ouch some of these hittin a little close to home
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:42 |
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Boomers are a loving plague
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When I was a teenager I was in a program that paired us with various public officials as a sort of educational mentorship on how government works. My favorite pairing was with a family court judge in my small town. My first time ever in a courtroom and witnessing a real proceeding was an older married couple suing their own children for visitation rights over their grandchildren. I don't remember many of the specifics as this had been seen by the judge a few times and it's not like the whole thing got laid out like on TV. I do remember it was their final hearing and the judge denied their application. What stuck out for me was how outraged the grandmother was. She scolded the judge and went on and on about how this was immoral, this was evil, she deserves to see her grandkids, etc. Like she just lost it. The judge was a nice and patient guy and had to deal with literal scum abusers and deadbeats all day long, but this lady and her behavior was the only time I witnessed him raising his voice and getting angry. The entitlement this woman had was unbelievable, and when she finally left she spit out something along the lines of "I don't know how you can live with yourself". She almost got arrested for contempt lol but was so sure she was right she didn't care.
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This is the part where we all make fake accounts and get real funny and then give lowtax another thing for the front page, right?
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:55 |
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Giant_Pupils posted:I would bet my bottom dollar that my mom is on that site somewhere. Willfrey posted:Ouch some of these hittin a little close to home
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 16:57 |
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I found a super depressing and really poorly spelled one where parents sent their slightly autistic teenage son to spend a weekend with the grandparents. That could be a really nice and heartwarming weekend, right? Not if you're this grandma, who complained that the kid "needed constant attention" and "was too full of energy for this old body". What kind of attention did he need, you might ask? He liked playing hockey and asked twice if they could take him to the local hockey rink. The grandparents then cut off contact with the parents until they "learn" to control their completely well-behaved and polite teenage son.
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Captain Yossarian posted:Boomers are a loving plague A huge number of them are Gen X.
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A Fancy Hat posted:"The Warmth of the Irish People" led to this woman's daughter realizing her mother was insane. "My daughter was acting crazy so I sent her out of the country" - a rational and totally blameless mom
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:10 |
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ElGroucho posted:This is the part where we all make fake accounts and get real funny and then give lowtax another thing for the front page, right? this seems like the kind of mental illness that'd give you a few problems of you own if you spend too long in contact with it there's uh a lot of rhetorical overlap with incels goin on here A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 17:14 on Jul 12, 2019 |
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This forum.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:12 |
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I cut off contact with mine. Sometimes it makes me sad.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:13 |
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Can't wait to read my moms posts. Seriously.. all these people sound exactly like my parents.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:19 |
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this poo poo is depressing, not entertaining.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:19 |
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Literally A Person posted:This forum. her grandson is probably 8 years old
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:22 |
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poo poo, i barely talk to my parents and they were decent
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:22 |
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Yeah, I think I might be done after this.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:23 |
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They're always talking about their kids or their in-laws being arrogant and not having respect. I'm guessing this is just code for "believes they are my equal" and are upset their asses aren't sufficiently kissed.
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Literally A Person posted:This forum. "If my child would only put up with me, they could save $100." - a well-adjusted and not opportunistic parent
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:30 |
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it's interesting how an adult child's partner is seen as this awful, corrupting influence. almost always the partner makes them realize "holy poo poo what my abusive parent does/did is not normal and i want nothing to do with them anymore". just being around my partner's mother (who is a lovely woman) and hearing stories about what childhood was like made me understand just how loving shortchanged i was
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:30 |
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I can't wait to see my dad find this website.
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# ? Jul 12, 2019 17:33 |
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fist4jesus posted:I cut off contact with mine. Sometimes it makes me sad. despite everything i've been through, on holidays when i get drunk and sentimental, i still get the desire to reconcile. it's just not possible; there's no getting through to pathological cases like that. it gets easier as time goes on and you realize the world won't explode if you keep no contact. despite what they'd want you to believe.
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I think my wife's aunt is pretty much one bad decision away from going down this path. She posts on facebook stuff like "A MOM AND DAUGHTER ARE BEST FRIENDS FOREVER - NO MATTER WHAT MEN COME BETWEEN THEM" and "Keep hoping for my daughter to get married and have a grandbaby, maybe one day! Her boyfriend is "nice" enough, I guess!" Her daughter has been dating the same guy for over a decade and they've both said they don't believe in marriage or having kids.
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