SCROTO TURBOSPERG posted:

i was born a full grown man, hatched from a really big egg. laying it must have completely destroyed my mom's situation, though.

MasBrillante posted:

At first I thought by situation you meant your mom’s like life but then I realized you meant vagina.

Cloaca?

RoboRodent posted:

I was accused of BEING RUDE but I'm not going to say what I specifically was called out for doing because if I just say "being rude" it makes my accusers look irrational.

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She told Dan that my mom was rude to her and when he asked how, she said that my mom asked her if she wanted sweet tea, since they were both southern girls, and she told Dan that my mom was looking down on her for being from the South. Which is crazy since my mom is as well. Truth be told my mom was just trying to find some neutral ground with her but I don't think that exists.

alphabettitouretti posted:

This is from the daughter in law of that Sheri woman who wrote that book:


wow rude

SweetWillyRollbar posted:

Did she stick her fingers in her nose when asking?
https://youtu.be/-x068o6Wtw4

teen witch posted:

See, these ungrateful kids should have been under the tutelage of Randy Tutelage - then they’d respect their mom more should they wish for sweet tea.

LyonsLions posted:

The stepmother sounds nice, so obviously that means she’s horribly flawed and desperate for attention, because there’s no way someone could just, you know, be a nice person.

SweetWillyRollbar posted:

*Furiously posts an itemized list of things I've bought my child like I'm being audited.*

ArtIsResistance posted:

This thread has enough projecting to start a planetarium. Y'all need therapy not a forum

an extremely normal healthy woman posted:

What was the final straw for me, and what brought me here, was not getting a reply to a phone call for over five weeks. I don’t phone very often – hardly at all – mainly for the same reason as the rest of us here – I never know if he’s going to bother to pick up. So, after I called and left a message, I checked my phone every hour, then every couple of hours, then every day for an answer, a text, anything. and I realised that the tension this was producing in me every time I turned the phone over to see if there was a message was making me ill. It was even putting me off using my mobile phone at all, because I couldn’t cope with the constant disappointment.

So, I had a great idea…I got another phone, with a new number, and I transferred all the people I’m in touch with over to the new phone and I left the ES on the old phone (along with a couple of old friends who have also gone AWOL) I felt really guilty for doing this at first and wondered if I was over-reacting but do you know what – it’s been brilliant so far! The ES is literally in a drawer – at first I got the phone out and switched it on once a day, just in case he’d been in touch, now it’s every couple of days and I hope to graduate to once a week or even further apart.

I am enjoying using my phone without all that old anxiety and I feel that I have gained a bit of control over the emotional upset his non-contact causes me. I’m going away with my boyfriend for a couple of days next week and I’ve decided to leave the old phone behind completely so, for once, I’ll be uncontactable from him! (not that he’ll call but you know what I mean – it’s the principle of the thing.)

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After waiting and waiting for an answer to my phone call a couple of months back, I decided to go through all the stuff in the loft that I had been holding on to, just in case he wanted it. It was cathartic! I split stuff into keep, give to charity, throw out and, best pile of all – burn …there is something truly satisfying about burning things and I probably got more pleasure out of setting the incinerator going than I should have 🙂

I’ve still kept plenty of his things but they are now boxed, sealed and labelled and stuck in the furthest corner of the loft, well out of sight and out of mind.

THOT PATROL posted:

crazy people

SweetWillyRollbar posted:

*Furiously posts an itemized list of things I've bought my child like I'm being audited.*

LabyaMynora posted:

Facebook will go down as the death of America.

THOT PATROL posted:

the son is 32 years old, btw

big cummers ONLY posted:

Binged through the thread in a couple sit-downs. Read the issendai posts. Went back and re-read the emails I exchanged with my mom before I cut off contact with her earlier this year. It's extremely hosed up. I am probably a lot more hosed up than I thought. It is crazy how identical she sounds to all this. Like I don't even want to vent in e/n about her actions and behaviors because they are carbon copies of the actions and behaviors described on every page of this thread.

I searched her known usernames on Google to see if she was posting on one of these. Didn't find anything but it did take me to her eBay store where she has every single childhood toy of mine up for sale. Including broken toys from Christmas of '93 at full price. Godspeed, bitch-rear end mom

I don't even know why I'm posting but this was an extreme bummer that probably needs to be addressed by a professional

Panfilo posted:

People were saying that these estranged parents deliberately make their posts vague though they all seem so collectively deluded you'd think they could be transparent yet still get the same sympathy.

Bobbie Wickham posted:

We got a therapy subforum, now it's time for fun!

Beachcomber posted:

don't actually remember transgressing in any way.

Beachcomber posted:

Some evidence points to the idea that they don't actually remember transgressing in any way.

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Sphinx, I think you hit the nail on the head. But most parents don’t want to admit it or see it. Probably is part of the problem with us loving parents, we ignore our children’s bad behavior or faults. Everyone has them and I don’t want to make others on this forum mad. We loving parents tend to ignore these faults in our children and then they grow up and those same faults bite us in the hind end. I guess I no longer have those rose colored glasses on. Too many hateful things have been done to me or others and its not a happy relationship with any of the EC of mine.

My ED, the meanest one, was always having conflict with friends or boyfriends and tried to manipulate her father into allowing her to break the rules, which he always fell for. (He started the estrangement or encouraged it or whatever you want to say.) My other, nicer, ED just wanted to be babied and have someone else take care of her but with all the fun of an adult. She married early to a guy who is very controlling with her abut who clings to his mommy. The ES (my step son), well he started in puberty to lie and manipulate, do drugs, etc. He also had guys over while we were at work and he left the evidence of their sexual acts and drug use all over his bedroom. He just flat out didn’t care what we saw or how this impacted us. My point is all of this shows a pattern of who they really are. I might not like who they really are and I did my darnedest to be a good mother and help them grow up into mature, emotionally healthy young adults but it didn’t work out that way. People are who they are.

Beachcomber posted:

Some evidence points to the idea that they don't actually remember transgressing in any way.

LabyaMynora posted:

Please elaborate on this, I'm intrigued.

another totally stable lady posted:

Hello, I have two daughters from which I have become estranged.
They became adults and everything changed (I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one this has happened to)
I thought I had overcome the estrangement now that I’ve been divorced for 5 years and have a boyfriend.
I have not seen my oldest daughter (27 years old) for 2 years. Her dad lives a couple of miles from me and she has visited him multiple times. Before this last mother’s day she had contacted me because she said in her text she wanted to celebrate mother’s day with me. I was happy but cautious. She had texted me in february letting me know she was pregnant and due in july. I had bought hundreds of dollars in baby stuff because I knew from her dad she is not in the best financial situation and I do not want the baby to go without the basic things and some other not so basic ones I really liked for the baby to have. The morning of mother’s day she texted me saying her boyfriend had taken her car and she couldn’t see me. I was so devastated it took me hours to stop crying. I told her I would bring the baby stuff to her dad and she could pick them up at his house. I did not want to know anything else. I gave her dad all the things I had bought. Father’s day came around and she texted me from her dad’s house thanking me for the baby things I gave her. That was another knife to the heart.
I am so sad. I feel I lost my daughter and just pray her son who will be born next week, does not steal from her all the moments she will want to share with him in his life.

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As I spent the 4th of July thinking about my daughter having her child (he was due yesterday) I felt I needed peace. Last week my daughter had asked me to see me. She said she was coming to the cities and wanted to meet. I told her I was hurt already so many times I could not expose myself to the same thing again. If if she wanted to see me for coffee she could let me know when she was around and I’d consider it, otherwise, I asked her, not to hurt me again. She said she was sorry and that she did not hurt me on purpose and she wanted my forgiveness. I have heard that before so I am very cautious. At around 8:00pm she texted me saying she was leaving her dad’s house (who lives just 2 miles from me). I thought that by saying that it meant she was coming over. I didn’t get at all excited. I was just surprised. 1 hour later I texted her and told her I thought she wanted to meet and she said that she and her boyfriend had left her dad’s house and werwere on their way back home and didn’t have time to see me.
I have not seen my daughter in almost 3 years and this was the last straw. I cannot say I didn’t cry. I was watching a movie with my boyfriend and hadn’t told him anything about her contacting me. I held his hand tight and started crying. He asked me what was going in and I told him. He said something that made me realize all human beings are not made the same. He read the texts and said “she has no conscience. You don’t do that to a mom like you”
I sent a text to her and her father telling them after 5 years I have fought hard to be happy again and have a man in my life who makes me extremely happy. I also told them I gave up and unless there was an emergency, I would rather they do not call me, text me, email me or show up at my house. My daughter texted me saying she will be induced if the baby doesn’t come by July 9th and I did not respond. That was July 2nd. I am too heartbroken to care right now.
I really thank everyone who replied to my initial post. Your words and support have made me realize I am not the only one and although it is sad that so many of us are going through the same thing, it is comforting to know we have each other to count on for virtual hugs. I appreciate all of you. Thank you.

MasBrillante posted:

And there it is...
(This is the person who posted 2000 times)

The Saucer Hovers posted:

disassociating from the fact you deeply traumatized anyone, especially your children, is naked self preservation and a glowing example of how ego will always be the only motivator for these folks

Clitch posted:

In the minds of fellow delusional parents:
A dripping black dildo as big as a man's forearm affixed to a coke dusted mirror with a heroin needle plunged into the frenelum.

Reality:
She searched his trash while he wasn't home every day for a month, turning up a roach and a used condom.


My teacher nominated me for a test in third grade, and based on the result, I was recommended for the GT program. (I won't go into the merits of GT. I'm sure related stories from other goons would support their own thread.)

My father refused consent for me to enter the program based on a conspiracy theory that he described to 8yo me as GT being a recruiting tool for the New World Order orchestrated by the NEA. I remember the book he got this idea from. I remember its place on the bookshelf in our living room. I remember the cracks in its spine.

I don't think GT would have turned me into a rich celebrity intellectual with a bigger dick, but I went to a small school in a small town where teachers did not respect a student's privacy. I wound up being heavily stigmatized over it. There was a distinct before and after in how teachers treated me, and the kids picked up on that quick. It also probably delayed my diagnosis for a handful of cognitive and mood disorders by a couple of decades. It was another roadblock to social confidence for a kid who'd watched his mother(a whole different set of problems) walk out less than a year earlier, leaving him with a man she knew to be abusive and manipulative. In her words, she didn't feel strong enough to get both of us away from him.

I've recounted this story in detail to the man, only to have him look me dead in the eye and tell me none of it happened.

LabyaMynora posted:

Please elaborate on this, I'm intrigued.

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I feel I should make it clear that we only have sporadic contact with any of the EC. Over the last five years, I have seen the EDs maybe three times (we live a few hours drive away). The ES goes through the extended family to use and abuse them and then comes back to us only when he is mad at everyone else and needs us. We might see them and they behave ugly and that makes me choose to pull away. Or they get mad at us for some BS reason, like the Christmas gift wasn’t of high enough monetary value. Its no win. There are no grandchildren yet. So it varies year to year whether or not we are full on no contact, being ignored, being treated badly or whatever. And I vary my gift giving based on how they act and whether or not they send us birthday or Christmas gifts.

MasBrillante posted:

Clark Nova posted:

I'm deeply envious of the people who wander into this thread and don't immediately recognize the voice in those estranged parent posts

Beekeeping and You posted:

The secret is to pay attention to what they aren't saying, because if what they did painted them in a good light, they would have said it.

Like if one of these parents say "I can't believe they estranged me over an email!!" there was some loving crazy poo poo in that email.

Beekeeping and You posted:

The secret to deciphering these posts is to pay attention to what they aren't saying, because if what they did painted them in a good light, they would have said it.