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InediblePenguin posted:Everybody look at this dumb post You’re not my mom!
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# ? Jul 27, 2019 15:31 |
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Saint Drogo posted:dude just keeps coincidentally flying into time vortexes when he leaves the US. This is like what happens every time I go home to visit the family. They call me the rain god.
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# ? Jul 27, 2019 15:34 |
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BrigadierSensible posted:Not defending the crazy abusive parents at all. But boxing up childhood stuff and keeping it long after it has any use is just a thing parents do. Normal parents don’t ship those boxes to their kids’ addresses without warning. Not trying to get in your rear end specifically, but: Why do people keep coming in this thread like “well this behavior isn’t that weird” when we are explicitly talking about people who make normal things weird? I don’t think anyone needed to be reminded that normal people store boxes of stuff they don’t use anymore in their garage.
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# ? Jul 27, 2019 18:17 |
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Dr. Video Games 0112 posted:This is mostly a "Only In America" thing, because there is no clear pre-defined role of a child in a family like in Europe or Asia: additional manual labor around the farm. Factually incorrect in every aspect, but okay
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# ? Jul 27, 2019 19:20 |
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Here's a twist: the rejected parent is not the abusive crazy one. quote:Hello, everyone, I am happy to be here but sad that I am at the same time. Mine is kind of a build up to walking away. quote:An update: She was confronted by her husband who demanded she show him paperwork and her tummy. She refused, screamed, cried, etc. Finally, she came clean. It was all a lie! Every bit of it. I am stunned, hurt, angry and even more convinced she has some type of mental health issue.
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# ? Jul 27, 2019 23:34 |
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Passive aggressively telling someone that all these things that remind them of you no longer hold any value for them while also freshly ripping open old wounds and hiding it under a layer of plausible deniability suggesting that you of all people are the rear end in a top hat here for not being grateful for it. That’s such a devious loving move that I’m not surprised people don’t catch the meaning of it at first glance, but that’s part of it, making your actions seem as innocuous as possible while cutting as deep as you can.
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# ? Jul 27, 2019 23:39 |
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Ebola Roulette posted:Here's a twist: the rejected parent is not the abusive crazy one. Yeeeeeeaaaah. That's a girl with a full-blown pathology. Poor woman. Fun to point out, though. Look at all the details in that story. She did this specific hosed up thing in this particular way. Let me describe some other people she's done these things to, and not just MEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEEEEEEEEE!!!!!
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 00:05 |
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Ebola Roulette posted:Here's a twist: the rejected parent is not the abusive crazy one. Good post. Also note this person has a whopping 2 posts on the board, in an intro thread. I googled it. I may check back and see how long she lasts.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 01:47 |
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Clitch posted:Yeeeeeeaaaah. That's a girl with a full-blown pathology. Poor woman. yuuup that's kinda the tell with the assholes, does anything in their stories ever come into clear focus except for their own emotional state and fantasies
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 02:38 |
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Sounds like something over what you could take your parents to a court of law.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 02:42 |
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I'm reminded of the guy in r/relationships who thought a woman having twins would have two consecutive pregnancies.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 03:05 |
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I'm reminded of the guy in r/relationships who thought a woman having twins would have two consecutive pregnancies. Well it takes 9 women one month to make a baby. It should take one woman 18 months to make two.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 03:46 |
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Turrurrurrurrrrrrr posted:Sounds like something over what you could take your parents to a court of law. That would require being in contact with them.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 04:13 |
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That one's solid, but I still love how many of these estranged parents say, "my daughter was wonderful but in her teenage years she turned super rebellious" SHOCKING AND UNIQUE
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 05:35 |
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Drunk Nerds posted:That one's solid, but I still love how many of these estranged parents say, "my daughter was wonderful but in her teenage years she turned super rebellious" What can you expect from a colicky baby?
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 05:45 |
Ugh, all this stuff just reminds me of my mom. She's not completely horrible all the time but probably only because me, my sisters, and my dad have all learned to push back and not allow her to easily get away with her bullshit narcissism/guilt trip tantrums. It really does help if you have the rest of your family to back you up and circle the wagons. My dad is a loving saint, I've never met anyone remotely as patient as he is, it's incredible. The most level headed guy possible married to the most taxing person I've ever met. Which in a way sucks because it's impossible to cut out my mom when she's being a lunatic without also punishing my dad somewhat. Still not remotely as bad as a lot of people have it. I have no idea how you could retain your sanity if both of your parents were monsters.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 06:08 |
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my kinda ape posted:My dad is a loving saint, I've never met anyone remotely as patient as he is, it's incredible. The most level headed guy possible married to the most taxing person I've ever met.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 06:10 |
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my kinda ape posted:Ugh, all this stuff just reminds me of my mom. She's not completely horrible all the time but probably only because me, my sisters, and my dad have all learned to push back and not allow her to easily get away with her bullshit narcissism/guilt trip tantrums. It really does help if you have the rest of your family to back you up and circle the wagons. My dad is a loving saint, I've never met anyone remotely as patient as he is, it's incredible. The most level headed guy possible married to the most taxing person I've ever met. Which in a way sucks because it's impossible to cut out my mom when she's being a lunatic without also punishing my dad somewhat. Divorce is a magical thing
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 06:20 |
Barudak posted:Divorce is a magical thing I'd sure as hell have divorced her but I'm not about to tell him how he has to live his life and I don't think he'd particularly appreciate that suggestion. It does kind of puzzle me though, to be honest. He's definitely not under her thumb or an enabler by any means.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 06:30 |
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InediblePenguin posted:Everybody look at this dumb post Sorry. No time to! I have to go work in the rice fields to make sure I have enough stored away for the winter! This is probably be a lot easier if I married and had kids.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 06:39 |
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quote:Hello Dee, I’m a newbie here too, but want to say hi and send you a big hug. Our stories are similar, and I feel for you, and resonate with a lot of what you are going through. Internally preparing to sabotage my relationship with one child because I’m dissatisfied with the other. Healthy thinking.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 07:41 |
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my kinda ape posted:Still not remotely as bad as a lot of people have it. I have no idea how you could retain your sanity if both of your parents were monsters. As long as you recognize they're monsters you can come out of it okay, I guess. It can be a lot of work to get through it if you manage to escape it.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 13:21 |
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my kinda ape posted:Still not remotely as bad as a lot of people have it. I have no idea how you could retain your sanity if both of your parents were monsters. At that point you probably have none left to retain.
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my kinda ape posted:Still not remotely as bad as a lot of people have it. I have no idea how you could retain your sanity if both of your parents were monsters.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 14:49 |
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my kinda ape posted:I'd sure as hell have divorced her but I'm not about to tell him how he has to live his life and I don't think he'd particularly appreciate that suggestion. It does kind of puzzle me though, to be honest. He's definitely not under her thumb or an enabler by any means. You're probably not the only person she's terrorized. Fun fact! Us kids had no idea that our father was being manipulated and abused by our mother, and our father thought that she saved the worst of her behavior for him.
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 18:37 |
Bobbie Wickham posted:You're probably not the only person she's terrorized. Fun fact! Us kids had no idea that our father was being manipulated and abused by our mother, and our father thought that she saved the worst of her behavior for him. Oh she's a huge pain in the rear end for him too, I'm definitely aware of that, but he doesn't just sit there and take it and neither do me and my siblings. I mean sometimes you just gotta know when to pick your battles but we tend to back each other up and not let her get away with being too egregious. He does not let her easily manipulate him is what I'm trying to say. Saint Drogo posted:tbh that is what produced most of these parents. Yeah that's probably true. My mom was actually estranged from her extremely abusive father until he died a few years back. She refused to let him see us except for 1-2 times when I was younger and she never let us out of her sight during those times. She's still estranged from her only sister because her sister was on good terms and insisted he was a changed man. So I guess as far as being far less abusive than her father goes she's doing loving great. my kinda ape fucked around with this message at 19:47 on Jul 28, 2019 |
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# ? Jul 28, 2019 19:38 |
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Picnic Princess posted:As long as you recognize they're monsters you can come out of it okay, I guess. It can be a lot of work to get through it if you manage to escape it. That takes a lot of luck to not come out deeply damaged
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 04:04 |
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epsilon posted:That takes a lot of luck to not come out deeply damaged I thought I got lucky and had it easy for the longest time. My therapist had to explain "Not only did you get suckered into a cult, you constantly berate yourself, you left a trail of destroyed lives, and every time I see you you clearly check the windows, exits, and the corners of every room you enter every 15 minutes. You are not okay" Only it was over 25 sessions and phrased much more gently. What I am saying is, even if you come out deeply damaged, you can get help and start recovering. It is just, like she said, a lot of work. My PTSD has been on remission since April Dr. Stab posted:Well it takes 9 women one month to make a baby. It should take one woman 18 months to make two. Call me crazy but I begin to suspect that your doctorate is not in medicine.
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 06:30 |
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quote:Alexandra, it is an epidemic! I have a friend at work who, like us, has a crazy meddlesome narcissistic mother who takes the opportunity to “help” her out by trashing her and her husband to her teenage daughter and two younger sons when they are at her mother’s house!
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 07:03 |
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quote:I went to see a lawyer yesterday about grandparents rights…I would love visitation with my son’s now 1 year old who has been withheld from me. In my state, the court is very generous regarding the bond between grandparents and grandchildren, but certain criteria need to be met. Right now I don’t meet the criteria, but there is hope as legislation. keeps changing. My point is, like Morgana, I don’t think a relationship is possible nor do I want one with my adult son and DIL. I would be cordial, I would never trash them, but I would never characterize what I have with them as a relationship. quote:Aussiemom, regarding visitation with my grandson, the state I live in is very supportive of grandparent grandchildren bonding. New legislation is adapted all of the time. It may not be this year or next year, but there is hope that at some point we will be able to petition the courts for visitation. There was a time when women couldn’t vote….now we can. I plan on working with legislators this summer to see what can be done! If any of this had not happened, I wouldn’t be on this journey!
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 07:16 |
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Wanna read the meltdowns if/when they get such a law passed and they petition for visitation but get eviscerated in court.
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 07:20 |
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I don’t want anything to do with them but I do want access to their one year old who I have never met, hopefully I can get the law to force them to let me do this.
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 07:25 |
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Chairman Mao posted:I don’t want anything to do with them but I do want access to their one year old who I have never met, hopefully I can get the law to force them to let me do this. Use this one simple trick (DILs HATE HER!) https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/community/miami-dade/article206139429.html
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 17:09 |
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Chairman Mao posted:I don’t want anything to do with them but I do want access to their one year old who I have never met, hopefully I can get the law to force them to let me do this.
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 17:42 |
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quote:Ann, my bio grandson just turned 1. I am also right now not allowed to see him as my dilfh has rules I must follow. Long story short, after my narcissistic mother offended a friend of mine of fb and I defended my friend, my dil….one of my mother’s flying monkeys….said I can no longer see him. Also I couldn’t figure out what DILFH was so I went to my old pal Google where I found the following in a “Daughter in Law from Hell” Facebook page: quote:Mentally Ill control freaks or DILFH have no faith in their spouse! Sadly the husband or our sons, failed to see this until they are wrapped up in the web of deceit the DILFH is spinning. Faith means letting family members come around and having his friends over. Faith means going out with the guys and not having her call 10 times to check on him! Faith means understanding that there are others who love him just as much and want to spend time with him also. If your son has married a DILFH God help you!
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 18:21 |
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...are they imagining the one-year-old putting together and mailing this card on the DL without his parents' knowledge?
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 18:42 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:...are they imagining the one-year-old putting together and mailing this card on the DL without his parents' knowledge? Lol, no, they are just glossing over the parents doing anything what they said they wanted done because it was never about that in the first place. I think part of the thank you card thing is actually setting a standard they think their child won’t meet (because millennials are so ungrateful!!!) so they can be mad about it later.
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 18:47 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:...are they imagining the one-year-old putting together and mailing this card on the DL without his parents' knowledge? One of those Brazilian super babies.
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 19:24 |
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quote:Even though we still can’t see him, sending the gift gave us a sense of power in this situation that dilfh can’t order us to stay out of his life. We will not beg her to see him. He has never even been to our house and he lives an hour away. It just gives us hope and leverage that some day he will put our faces to the cards and gifts. Jfc
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# ? Jul 29, 2019 20:04 |
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MasBrillante posted:I went to see a lawyer yesterday about grandparents rights…I would love visitation with my son’s now 1 year old who has been withheld from me. In my state, the court is very generous regarding the bond between grandparents and grandchildren, but certain criteria need to be met. Right now I don’t meet the criteria, but there is hope as legislation. keeps changing. My point is, like Morgana, I don’t think a relationship is possible nor do I want one with my adult son and DIL. I would be cordial, I would never trash them, but I would never characterize what I have with them as a relationship. This one's interesting with a little peak inside as she says that the whole thing has made her feel ashamed and she can't take it. Maybe if they target that shame and figure out where it's coming from, as opposed to blindly lashing out against their estranged family members, they might get somewhere. Maybe their shame is trying to tell them something
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