STR posted:

Ultimately, I guess stability may mean moving back in with her mother. She's STILL trying to pretend we can make a 2 bedroom apt work. That's a hell to the loving no. I'm not putting myself through that (I've tried that song and dance before, it doesn't end well), and definitely not putting her through that. It would be nothing but heartache for her anytime I actually wound up dating, and it would just be awkward all the way around. I've tried living with ex's before after a breakup, and out of every ex I've tried to live with after a breakup, I speak to exactly zero of them. It hurts really bad to inflict this kind of pain on someone, I'm usually the one getting dumped, but... damnit.

If the best thing for her mental health means leaving a job of 18 years and moving to the other end of the state, so be it, and I'll support her in that decision. Hell, I'll drive the drat moving truck across the state for her pulling her car behind it (just like I drove a moving truck halfway across the state pulling my car behind it to move in with her), so long as I can find a way back home. I'll load and unload the drat thing myself, so long as her mother isn't waiting with a shotgun. I just want her to at least try to explore other options outside of "gently caress everything, moving back in with mom at 42 and throwing away a nearly 20 year career". She's had a little over 2 months to prepare for the loss of apartment at this point (we're just shy of 2 weeks left), and I've been splitting my time between sleeping on a friend's couch, at our place, and occasionally in my car as it is.

TBH I think taking a 1-2 month leave of absence and going into some kind of psychiatric treatment (maybe a week inside a private facility, the rest outside, but still off of work) would be better. She has more than enough PTO (she's grandfathered in under a plan that isn't "use it or lose it", I think she has like 6 months saved up), she's enrolled in short and long term disability, her insurance will cover mental health... we have almost identical medical benefits aside from deductibles, right down to the insurance company.

STR posted:

Ultimately, I guess stability may mean moving back in with her mother. She's STILL trying to pretend we can make a 2 bedroom apt work. That's a hell to the loving no. I'm not putting myself through that (I've tried that song and dance before, it doesn't end well), and definitely not putting her through that. It would be nothing but heartache for her anytime I actually wound up dating, and it would just be awkward all the way around. I've tried living with ex's before after a breakup, and out of every ex I've tried to live with after a breakup, I speak to exactly zero of them. It hurts really bad to inflict this kind of pain on someone, I'm usually the one getting dumped, but... damnit.

If the best thing for her mental health means leaving a job of 18 years and moving to the other end of the state, so be it, and I'll support her in that decision. Hell, I'll drive the drat moving truck across the state for her pulling her car behind it (just like I drove a moving truck halfway across the state pulling my car behind it to move in with her), so long as I can find a way back home. I'll load and unload the drat thing myself, so long as her mother isn't waiting with a shotgun. I just want her to at least try to explore other options outside of "gently caress everything, moving back in with mom at 42 and throwing away a nearly 20 year career". She's had a little over 2 months to prepare for the loss of apartment at this point (we're just shy of 2 weeks left), and I've been splitting my time between sleeping on a friend's couch, at our place, and occasionally in my car as it is.

TBH I think taking a 1-2 month leave of absence and going into some kind of psychiatric treatment (maybe a week inside a private facility, the rest outside, but still off of work) would be better. She has more than enough PTO (she's grandfathered in under a plan that isn't "use it or lose it", I think she has like 6 months saved up), she's enrolled in short and long term disability, her insurance will cover mental health... we have almost identical medical benefits aside from deductibles, right down to the insurance company.

STR posted:

Jesus loving Tapdancing Christ.

So whenever anyone moves out of an "old" apartment in my complex, they spend 2 months tearing it apart to remodel it (and speaking of, my current apt is listed as being available in late July to early August, my move-out date is late May). I just woke up from a nice nap to sledgehammers.

Opened my door. They're demoing the apt across from this one. With the front door wide open. I went over to ask if they can just close the door - the doors are insulated fire doors, and kill sound pretty well. I have a nearly deaf neighbor next door that has his TV cranked to 11 24/7, to the point that I can hear it a bit inside the car while in the parking lot, and can make out words once I'm out of the car (and definitely figure out what he's watching once I'm in the breezeway) - I DON'T HEAR A loving THING INSIDE THIS APARTMENT. I knocked and just asked nicely "can you please close the door?"

"No habla pandeja, maricon!" REALLY? (google "maricon" if you want to know why this pisses me off so much, but "pandeja" isn't too nice either)

I just had a polite chat with the property manager. Well... polite in that I didn't yell or curse at them. About 1/3 of the population in this place works "essential jobs", and a decent chunk of those either work at my store on overnights, or work at a neighboring store (mostly also on overnights). Up until they started doing remodels, it was one of the more affordable apt complexes nearby. It's now one of the most expensive...and the oldest apt complex in this part of town.

All they had to do was close the loving door. They're not going in and out until they've knocked out all of the kitchen, the bathroom, a few walls, and a few ceiling fans. That's gonna be at least a few days.

STR posted:

TBH I think taking a 1-2 month leave of absence and going into some kind of psychiatric treatment (maybe a week inside a private facility, the rest outside, but still off of work) would be better. She has more than enough PTO (she's grandfathered in under a plan that isn't "use it or lose it", I think she has like 6 months saved up), she's enrolled in short and long term disability, her insurance will cover mental health... we have almost identical medical benefits aside from deductibles, right down to the insurance company.

STR posted:

Jesus loving Tapdancing Christ.

So whenever anyone moves out of an "old" apartment in my complex, they spend 2 months tearing it apart to remodel it (and speaking of, my current apt is listed as being available in late July to early August, my move-out date is late May). I just woke up from a nice nap to sledgehammers.

Opened my door. They're demoing the apt across from this one. With the front door wide open. I went over to ask if they can just close the door - the doors are insulated fire doors, and kill sound pretty well. I have a nearly deaf neighbor next door that has his TV cranked to 11 24/7, to the point that I can hear it a bit inside the car while in the parking lot, and can make out words once I'm out of the car (and definitely figure out what he's watching once I'm in the breezeway) - I DON'T HEAR A loving THING INSIDE THIS APARTMENT. I knocked and just asked nicely "can you please close the door?"

"No habla pandeja, maricon!" REALLY? (google "maricon" if you want to know why this pisses me off so much, but "pandeja" isn't too nice either)

I just had a polite chat with the property manager. Well... polite in that I didn't yell or curse at them. About 1/3 of the population in this place works "essential jobs", and a decent chunk of those either work at my store on overnights, or work at a neighboring store (mostly also on overnights). Up until they started doing remodels, it was one of the more affordable apt complexes nearby. It's now one of the most expensive...and the oldest apt complex in this part of town.

All they had to do was close the loving door. They're not going in and out until they've knocked out all of the kitchen, the bathroom, a few walls, and a few ceiling fans. That's gonna be at least a few days.

Safety Dance posted:

My wife started playing Animal Crossing, which is awesome because she really seems to get into it. Apr-June was supposed to be her chunk of time to go to medical conferences, etc. and that's not happening any time soon. She's also "on vacation" this week, which is an incredibly meaningless term. A few of my friends from college have been playing since it came out and I need to figure out how to introduce them so they can give each other stuff.

I'm a little jealous that she finishes all the quests on our island before I can get to them though!

Tomarse posted:

Yeah, try and convince her to take her PTO and take a leave of absence so it leaves her options open. She can go stay with her mom - Sounds like a good place for her to be right now and means that it is not your problem and wont become it. If she has that much PTO stored up she might as well use it up and then at the end of it she can either leave or come back to the job

Darchangel posted:

My wife wants to get a Switch, for that and a couple other games, think. I'm not *completely* opposed, but we already have an Xbox One, 360, and PS3 connected to the TV. Minde you, only the One gets used with any regularity. The PS3 can probably come out and jut be connected if I get a wild hair to play Uncharted, Gran Turismo, or God Of War. Or not. I think I still have inputs on the receiver. If she wants to spend the $300, I'd rather spend it on an Xbox One X. Not sure I want to until I see what the Series X will do and cost, though. So I guess she can get a Switch if it's her money and she can find one. I bought all the other consoles.
I want to play Splatoon

Applebees Appetizer posted:

I'm still playing my PS3 and refuse to get another console until the PS5 comes out although now I'm hearing it's backwards compatible with everything BUT the PS3....

Darchangel posted:

My wife wants to get a Switch, for that and a couple other games, think. I'm not *completely* opposed, but we already have an Xbox One, 360, and PS3 connected to the TV. Minde you, only the One gets used with any regularity. The PS3 can probably come out and jut be connected if I get a wild hair to play Uncharted, Gran Turismo, or God Of War. Or not. I think I still have inputs on the receiver. If she wants to spend the $300, I'd rather spend it on an Xbox One X. Not sure I want to until I see what the Series X will do and cost, though. So I guess she can get a Switch if it's her money and she can find one. I bought all the other consoles.
I want to play Splatoon

Safety Dance posted:

Well there you go, all your bases are covered!

bolind posted:

That looks delish and I'm tempted to try those myself.

I've been trying to get on the Bon Apetit, and Brad is entertaining, but I just can't deal with the stupid speech bubbles and animations all the time. It's way overdone. Maybe I'll give it another shot.

Beach Bum posted:

Bro, if you try to fix every broken wing, you're never going to fly yourself. Sometimes you gotta say "My work here is done" and move on.

STR posted:

I knocked and just asked nicely "can you please close the door?"

"No habla pandeja, maricon!" REALLY? (google "maricon" if you want to know why this pisses me off so much, but "pandeja" isn't too nice either)

LloydDobler posted:

Shoulda just smiled and said "Gracias!" and closed it on your way out.

Applebees Appetizer posted:

Well I have a PS2 as well for Tony Hawk and was hoping I could have just one console to play everything and store the old ones

The Door Frame posted:

I'm officially an apprentice carpenter now. I have the same job, same pay (for now), but at least I can hang my head high and I don't have to say that I'm el pinche anymore

Pham Nuwen posted:

Hey,



you'll always be el pinche to us

Darchangel posted:

Playing with fire assuming that someone in Texas doesn't speak Spanish, there, pendejo. We tend to pick up a lot by necessity - especially the insults.
Insulting the residents of the property you're working for ain't terribly smart, neither.

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My wife wants to get a Switch, for that and a couple other games, think. I'm not *completely* opposed, but we already have an Xbox One, 360, and PS3 connected to the TV. Minde you, only the One gets used with any regularity. The PS3 can probably come out and jut be connected if I get a wild hair to play Uncharted, Gran Turismo, or God Of War. Or not. I think I still have inputs on the receiver. If she wants to spend the $300, I'd rather spend it on an Xbox One X. Not sure I want to until I see what the Series X will do and cost, though. So I guess she can get a Switch if it's her money and she can find one. I bought all the other consoles.
I want to play Splatoon

slidebite posted:

slidebite posted:

Thought of putting this in the failure thread but figured here. Sat through an internal company web presentation today, developed from our American head office. Something jumped out at me immediately as soon as I saw this page. I can't believe I was the first person to notice this but I told them afterwards and they had absolutely zero clue. Tell me what I saw (slightly obfuscated to remove identifying company stuff).

slidebite posted:

Thought of putting this in the failure thread but figured here. Sat through an internal company web presentation today, developed from our American head office. Something jumped out at me immediately as soon as I saw this page. I can't believe I was the first person to notice this but I told them afterwards and they had absolutely zero clue. Tell me what I saw (slightly obfuscated to remove identifying company stuff).

Safety Dance posted:

The other day my wife wasn't really sure if she was going to get into Animal Crossing. Today she explained to me that she was going to use some iron to fix her axe, but she wants to focus on getting the bookshop open.

I think she's enjoying herself! That makes me happy!

slidebite posted:

Coredump posted:

Which site did we use to make these? I need an update for 2020.

freelop posted:

I love the steering wheel

Humphreys posted:

And before someone mentions it - yes a chain guard does exist.

Beach Bum posted:

We know they exist, yes, but do you have one

Tomarse posted:

Did someone in this thread recommend this youtube video? Thanks for doing so if it was you!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRs-4AXb9_U

I've had it open in a tab on my PC for days and finally watched it tonight and was captivated by his stop motion skills and how everything moves around.