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A Bakers Cousin posted:Small personal vent here: Awful. This is a rigged game, for sure. If you had called her after she requested you leave her alone, she would've used that against you. "How dare you break my boundary when you give me a hard time about doing the exact same thing?"
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quote:I (26F) have not talked to my brother (31 M) and sister (33F) for 4 years because they left me to take care of our mother when I was 18, they now want to get back into contact
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So they waited to get married until after mom died, and are only asking OP to attend for the attention/gifts, right? Because that's how it reads to me.
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Dienes posted:So they waited to get married until after mom died, and are only asking OP to attend for the attention/gifts, right? Because that's how it reads to me. Could be, could also just be that they want to assuage their guilt over abandoning two of their family members to a four year stretch of hell. Or maybe it's an image thing, and older sis doesn't want to look bad in front of extended family when they ask "Where's OP?". Or maybe they actually like and miss OP. She does say they apologised, although she hasn't read their apologies. It doesn't matter of course, because ultimately it's up to OP and it sounds like there's too much bad blood and the pain is too raw. Also it sounds like older sis knew what OP was going through and still didn't help, so she can go to hell. OP should probably just .
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quote:My sister (30) asked me to never contact her again after i reached out to help her. What to do?
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# ? Mar 20, 2021 07:21 |
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Poor sod, his message was perfect, "here if you need, it's my fault", with no demand to reach out. Hopefully he realises it's part of her needing space and lets it lie til she's ready, being ready to walk away until it's on her terms. Hopefully he doesn't involve parents further. He's questioning himself, knows what it's like to struggle. It says a lot that he's worried about her, despite using phrases like "head held high" and "toxic" but having lost someone to suicide that's natural concern. simplefish fucked around with this message at 13:28 on Mar 20, 2021 |
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Eshettar posted:My sister (30) asked me to never contact her again after i reached out to help her. What to do?
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simplefish posted:Poor sod, his message was perfect, "here if you need, it's my fault" no demand to reach out. You may be leaning into his POV and taking him at face value a little much. She was an insignificant minor character in his life story, but I bet he is a major character in hers. He thinks her life was fine because they were expected to get good grades and she did. Every day he's blasting his "rage," his lovely music, his videogames and screaming fights with the parents through their shared wall. Oh, and sometimes fists or a dang chair. Through her wall. While she is trying to study because while he gets away with murder she can't bring home a C. She probably believes he made her childhood a living hell, meanwhile he barely remembers her. "Hey (sister) mum's just told me that youve been having a rough time lately and im sad to hear that. I know we're not very close and that's my fault but whether i'm your best friend or your worst enemy i'm still your brother and i'll always be there for you when you need me. I'm your family, you can count on me. You don't need to reply you just need to know that im here for you and always will be." That's not an apology, that's not even an acknowledgement. "We're not very close and that's my fault" is not going to soothe the years of bitterness. "You can count on me"? Hell, naw. She's never been able to rely on him for anything. She's furious with him and has been blatantly icing him out at every family event, and he's too self-absorbed to even notice. Of course that's not all his fault. His childhood emotional needs were not met. His cries for help were answered with screaming. He was never taught the emotional tools or empathy to notice if she was crying herself to sleep every night. But if at 26 he's still unable to view those events from another perspective and holds his head high for sending a single conciliatory text message, well, he probably shouldn't raise children himself.
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# ? Mar 20, 2021 13:38 |
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I'd just like to say that hearing everyone talk about how one's mom shouldn't prefer an inanimate candlestick in a wig that you can dress up to an actual living child with opinions has really helped me out. For a while I wasn't sure if I should just... be the candlestick. Turns out she'd also probably get mad at the candlestick. My girlfriend and I talked about whether she would enjoy a small dog to dress up because she's really good with animals but then I got worried she'd like, pass some complex on to the poor dog. I'm a mixed race person and my mom has been saying really awful poo poo because of Harry and Meghan lately, I'm not sure if she realizes she's getting eugenicsy on her own kid. I have limited contact and only speak to her when my dad is on the call but we've had to cut two calls short lately. Also, remember back in the thread where she was trying to get me to do contracting for free? She spends the weekly Dad-allotted phone call trying to get me to do that contracting over the phone. Like, if I was a plumber, her phone calls are now 80% "my sink doesn't work right" for 40 minutes and gets darkly scary if I joke that normally I charge for this poo poo. She just turns our limited family hour into Lieutenant Dan's Job Time. I'm so loving close to making it, I just need my dad to survive the next ten years to make it to my wedding and meet my future kid and then I never have to speak to that woman ever again. One day I'll type up a list of her crazy beliefs including "chipped fingernails make you look poor" and "Los Angeles turned you gay" and it'll be a fun laugh had by all.
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Facebook Aunt posted:You may be leaning into his POV and taking him at face value a little much. She was an insignificant minor character in his life story, but I bet he is a major character in hers. Was gonna say something similar. “Did my brotherly duty by sending a supportive text message to my sister to whom I rarely spoke in our childhood, but she should be happy to hear from me if I’m being honest, I’m a hero and I know you guys know I tried my best.” He admits their relationship was never close, much less warm and loving, yet expects a warmer response even though he tells readers he expected no response at all. He admits he was a poo poo head which, it’s nice that he’s at least somewhat self-aware, but being a poo poo head and apologizing to no one about it, then finally growing up and expecting everyone to just notice this and praise him for it without any apology from him or attempts to reconcile, is kind of oblivious and really puts any text message to an all-but-estranged sibling into context and explains why she basically sent him back the polite equivalent of “gently caress you.” Can’t be a poo poo head most of your life and affect your sister in such a way, but also barely speak to her and never apologize even when you profess to realize you were a poo poo head and it wasn’t a good path you were on. And then, text her out of loving nowhere and expect her to divine how you feel you’ve changed your life and expect a trite supportive family form letter/text to garner enthusiasm about hearing from you; with nary a word in between your rebellious, selfish youth and the recent text message wherein you tell your sister you know she’s been suffering mentally but you also fail to apologize, so it just sounds like you’re pitying her at best when she remembers you as the basket case
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Facebook Aunt posted:You may be leaning into his POV and taking him at face value a little much. She was an insignificant minor character in his life story, but I bet he is a major character in hers. Agreed. He's seriously dismissive of how painful he must have made her life. Things he admits to include what you posted, as well as going through her cabinets looking to steal pills to get high, which goes a little past smoking up last period. So she's in an emotionally vacant home, with a violent, drug addicted brother who physically punched his way into her space, and he can't even remember her. Even now his biggest concern isn't her, it's how contacting her makes him feel.
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# ? Mar 20, 2021 14:44 |
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There's a lot of reading in there. Does he expect praise? I didn't read it that way, nor would I give him it for simply growing as a person. Does he think one text fixes everything? Again I didn't read it that way and I hope not. It's a door to be opened if/when she's ready. Also 100% understandable and in her rights to reply "gently caress off, gently caress you". Really want to be clear on that, he doesn't "deserve" more, but sounded like he didn't think so. I would have loved a text that said "it's my fault" and not 100s of texts/calls bombarding putting pressure to reconnect, just speaking from my own situation. I do regard "it's my fault" as an apology. Obviously more in depth conversations have to follow to make anything of that, but that's her call not his and leaving it at a single text is the right move. And having dealt with a person who had addiction issues and succumbed to suicide, I needed to be told "you didn't actively cause this" even if the other part was "you didn't actively help". Can't change the past, all you can do is be ready for a better future. And not making things worse in the present. Like by hounding her saying it's time to make things right etc, which he doean't.
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simplefish posted:There's a lot of reading in there. Yeah it was just the “head held high” in addition to the general tone and obliviousness that came with the text message itself, that suggests he expected their familial relationship to be the driving force in his out-of-the-blue contact attempt. It’s the thing where they weren’t close before, he made no attempt to be close with his sister by his own admission, he also admits he likely drove a wedge between them and made life harder on her, and then finally sends a text out of nowhere as if they had merely had a rough patch without an overt apology. She doesn’t hear from him for many years probably, until he sends a text only at their mother’s urging. Clearly she doesn’t consider his text an apology. I’d also submit that perhaps he should have called, even under the notion that she probably wouldn’t pick up because it’s likely she doesn’t have his number in her phone anyway, and left a VM expressing much more remorse than he did, or that comes across in a text message where tone can be read. I’d also posit that perhaps he should have left out his secondhand knowledge of her alleged mental state as told by their mother who can only offer her perception, not reality, and who only knows what her daughter chooses to tell her. Instead it should have been a pure apologetic contact, leaving out her alleged difficulties as an obvious crutch/reason to contact her in the first place. In her mind it’s possible he only contacted her because he was asked to, not because he genuinely wanted to reconnect. He may indeed have been genuine in his feelings, but text and timing do not get that across in this case so it could be inferred that she did not pick up on the genuineness and who could blame her? You can’t say, “we are family, you can rely on me” all of a sudden after years of your family knowing they could do anything but, after years of treating your sister like she barely exists as a sibling, and then skate with a simple, “it’s my fault” without being specific in how it’s your fault and offering no further remorseful words and actions.
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# ? Mar 20, 2021 15:54 |
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Really shouldn't be surprising the guy's got no idea how to communicate or empathise with other people, because he clearly wasn't taught or shown how at home. Just me or is that a common theme? Girls get more attention and intense social education, at least relatively, while boys are basically raised like neglected pets complete with the parents gormlessly wondering why they've gone feral and having no solution but to tell them to try harder.
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# ? Mar 20, 2021 16:01 |
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Right now, there's an active abduction case of two little kids by their maternal grandma. The kid's parents had split up, and the mom was deemed unfit so full custody was awarded to the father, and now their grandma has kidnapped them. Comments on Facebook include: "That man has no right to deny a mother and grandmother from seeing those kids!" and "I bet the judge was wrong" gently caress all these people who think only women can be parents, I feel so horrible for the dad.
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# ? Mar 20, 2021 20:57 |
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Really shouldn't be surprising the guy's got no idea how to communicate or empathise with other people, because he clearly wasn't taught or shown how at home. Girls get more active instruction, but it's often actively harmful (stuff like "being 'nice' is more important than anything" which eventually morphs into "you can't tell me to stop abusing you, because that's not nice". Or just general messaging of "the way to get along in life is to never object, never state boundaries, and never put yourself first". Women get taught empathy as a way of enforcing subservience, not because their parents value genuine healthy connections between people. Men have it bad and women have it bad and both ways are sides of the same coin.
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 00:03 |
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Really shouldn't be surprising the guy's got no idea how to communicate or empathise with other people, because he clearly wasn't taught or shown how at home. I don't know if this is in a similar vein, but: Last Sunday was UK mother's Day. I had planned on calling my mum to give her my regards but then at around 11 o'clock I get a text saying "what's this day my son?" So I call her and she says "yeah, maybe I shouldn't have such a strong opinion on it but men are really bad at remembering things like this...". Well, gee, if you wanted me to remember then maybe you should have given me a chance to remember and at least waited until sometime after midday instead of being an impatient brat about it. But then let's be honest, you don't actually want men to do better because that would begrudge you of your self satisfied "ugh, men" moments. Sorry, I know it's such a little thing and maybe it doesn't belong here since she's not bad enough to be estranged. but her passive aggressiveness really cuts at times. Maybe I wouldn't be so sensitive to little things like that if it wasn't for the essentialist misandrist* stuff she used to throw at me when I was younger. Don't burn photos of my dad in front of me when I'm 8 years old please and don't treat me as a confidant at 12 when your partner breaks up with you (assuming that's even what happened rather than it all being in her head) *Not blaming feminism. She's a tradcath.
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 01:37 |
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Picnic Princess posted:gently caress all these people who think only women can be parents, I feel so horrible for the dad. Being real what I hate is that stories like this reinforce "that guys" on reddit that hate groups loving love to ply with propaganda. Also feeling bad for that dad. It does happen.
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 02:27 |
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Benny Harvey posted:She's a tradcath. Gross. The 8th Sacrament for those people is bitterness.
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 02:53 |
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I work as a clinical therapist and just got assigned an estranged mother as a client. Tradcath, plandemic, doesn't understand why her kids went nc. We are just establishing a therapeutic relationship, but so far seems very interesting! I sometimes don't understand the ideas she is referencing from her information echo chamber, like using Megan Markle as a verb, but she patiently educates me.
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HazCat posted:Girls get more active instruction, but it's often actively harmful (stuff like "being 'nice' is more important than anything" which eventually morphs into "you can't tell me to stop abusing you, because that's not nice". Or just general messaging of "the way to get along in life is to never object, never state boundaries, and never put yourself first". Sometimes boys are taught the same thing too! That's all fair, I just mean that even most neglectful and abusive parents have some understanding that girls need to be taught acceptable social behaviour while boys are more likely to be thrown into the world with absolutely no support to fulfil what's expected of them. Basically the same experience when you're told to play sports but no one ever explains the rules to you and just yells at you because you're expected to already know. Also comes to mind since it's been theorised why autism is so heavily under diagnosed in girls. As well as a girl being neat and quiet being considered well behaved rather than unusual, girls seem to get far more intense social conditioning at a young age which boys don't usually get. Ghost Leviathan fucked around with this message at 05:00 on Mar 21, 2021 |
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Sometimes boys are taught the same thing too! That's all fair, I just mean that even most neglectful and abusive parents have some understanding that girls need to be taught acceptable social behaviour while boys are more likely to be thrown into the world with absolutely no support to fulfil what's expected of them. Yeah we basically agree 100% I just think you're phrasing (still) implies women are getting the better side of the bargain while I think men and women are both getting hosed in equal but opposite ways. And I'd argue that what abusive parents teach women is 'how to be good abuse victims', not 'appropriate social behaviour', and the fact that society sees those as similar things is really hosed up. Also, plenty of women get the same 'throw them to the wolves and let them sink or swim' upbringing, it's just less common, the same way it's less common for men to get raised into desperate people pleasers. Autism and ADHD are both underdiagnosed in women due to masking ability that is definitely at least partially due to gendered socialisation, but it's a mistake to frame that as a positive, because it carries a bunch of downsides in and of itself (and also means women who are bad at masking get double hosed because they aren't able to hide it but also can't get an official diagnosis to 'excuse' their behaviour). Again, it's not better or worse on the whole, it's just a different kind of lovely experience.
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WrenP-Complete posted:I work as a clinical therapist and just got assigned an estranged mother as a client. Tradcath, plandemic, doesn't understand why her kids went nc. We are just establishing a therapeutic relationship, but so far seems very interesting! From your tone I am guessing, it means to be a wanton hussy of "not the right sort for this family", that steals away a previously nice boy of a son/grandchild with evil lies, and twistings of the truth. BrigadierSensible fucked around with this message at 05:47 on Mar 21, 2021 |
# ? Mar 21, 2021 05:44 |
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Told my dad, bluntly and directly, that I’ve seen him choose to be kind and empathetic to others so I know he’s capable. I told him that, in the aftermath of him screaming at me last month, I realized the depths of his contempt for me, personally, as a human being. If he does it again, estrangement is absolutely on the table. Told him I had had to parent up my whole life because he chose not to step the gently caress up, and either he does it now, or I walk just like I walked from my other lovely, abusive parent. Told him I’m happy to rebuild the relationship, but he has spent so long not being accountable that he has a LOT to be accountable for. Told him he has to be accountable without tantrums, making excuses, or making me manage HIS emotions, no matter how triggered he gets that his lovely actions have consequences. And how frustrated he gets that he isn’t as far along as he thinks he is. I told him I’m past the point of giving a poo poo whether he thinks it’s “fair.” And instead of asking ‘does that sound fair?’ Like I usually do when I ask for something or set a boundary, I asked “Am I understood?” instead. His response: “I got it. Crystal clear. Talk next week?” So... probably good news. Either I get a dad who doesn’t act like a fuckhead, or the trash takes itself out. And he knows I’m not loving around because I cut my shithead mom out at 13 and I drew a direct parallel to that. At least my grandma rules. And my fiancé stands behind me 100%. And my therapist says she’s really really proud of me. I don’t want to be a stand up comedian, ever, but part of me wants to write a Chris Titus- style comedy routine about this poo poo. On some level this is loving hilarious.
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HazCat posted:Yeah we basically agree 100% I just think you're phrasing (still) implies women are getting the better side of the bargain while I think men and women are both getting hosed in equal but opposite ways. And I'd argue that what abusive parents teach women is 'how to be good abuse victims', not 'appropriate social behaviour', and the fact that society sees those as similar things is really hosed up. That's fair, and I get ya, especially that going undiagnosed til way too late is no fun at all. Probably a bit of 'grass is always greener' there, though I find there's plenty of comorbidity- after all, nothing like having no sense of confidence and boundaries when you've spent your formative years being punished and abused at random while not knowing any of the rules you're supposed to be following. Like, pretty sure the whole deal of basement dwelling NEETs and incels who prefer imaginary relationships to real ones is the likely outcome of 'thrown to the wolves' parenting, where being given no useful preparation or support for emotional or social development rather logically results in retreating to the only place you feel remotely safe and secure, with the parents having no idea what to do when their children aren't able to follow the life script they expected would happen automatically.
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Crossposted from relationship thread. Seems to be an estranged parent in the making. AITA for wearing a tux to my son’s wedding? quote:My (49M) son (24M) got married to his wife (23F) yesterday night. My son is really angry with me from last night and I don’t know why. I can only assume he is going to have stronger opinions about his son's family life going forward.
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 09:17 |
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Zil posted:Crossposted from relationship thread. Seems to be an estranged parent in the making. I feel so old now. Patrick Bateman's son is getting married?
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ElHuevoGrande posted:Gross. The 8th Sacrament for those people is bitterness. Not for her- it's obedience. She's really worried and wants me to go back to church "because of all the stuff that's going on". Their religion isn't about love of God, it's about saving their own skin (from a loving God who will punish us with eternal torture for not being loyal enough).
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 09:37 |
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Axqu posted:Told my dad, bluntly and directly, that I’ve seen him choose to be kind and empathetic to others so I know he’s capable. I told him that, in the aftermath of him screaming at me last month, I realized the depths of his contempt for me, personally, as a human being. If he does it again, estrangement is absolutely on the table. Told him I had had to parent up my whole life because he chose not to step the gently caress up, and either he does it now, or I walk just like I walked from my other lovely, abusive parent. Told him I’m happy to rebuild the relationship, but he has spent so long not being accountable that he has a LOT to be accountable for. Told him he has to be accountable without tantrums, making excuses, or making me manage HIS emotions, no matter how triggered he gets that his lovely actions have consequences. And how frustrated he gets that he isn’t as far along as he thinks he is. I told him I’m past the point of giving a poo poo whether he thinks it’s “fair.” And instead of asking ‘does that sound fair?’ Like I usually do when I ask for something or set a boundary, I asked “Am I understood?” instead. I appreciate your updates in this thread (and I love your frog avatar. Reminds me of my own African clawed frogs)
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 14:28 |
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Welp, got another call from my mom where she screamed for 40 minutes about how she's done being my mom and she never wants to see me again and I'm ungrateful and mean and manipulative, ever since I was a kid, and if I was happier and had a positive attitude I wouldn't have a tumor. Deleted her number, my entire texting app, blocked her on email, I'm done. I get the loving picture.
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 14:46 |
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Zil posted:Crossposted from relationship thread. Seems to be an estranged parent in the making. This one got called out as fake and I can see why, but does sound like a gender flipped version of the MILs who wear snow white dresses to their children's weddings. Lieutenant Dan posted:Welp, got another call from my mom where she screamed for 40 minutes about how she's done being my mom and she never wants to see me again and I'm ungrateful and mean and manipulative, ever since I was a kid, and if I was happier and had a positive attitude I wouldn't have a tumor. You did the right thing to cut her off. Let her die.
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Welp, got another call from my mom where she screamed for 40 minutes about how she's done being my mom and she never wants to see me again and I'm ungrateful and mean and manipulative, ever since I was a kid, and if I was happier and had a positive attitude I wouldn't have a tumor. good.
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 15:45 |
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Welp, got another call from my mom where she screamed for 40 minutes about how she's done being my mom and she never wants to see me again and I'm ungrateful and mean and manipulative, ever since I was a kid, and if I was happier and had a positive attitude I wouldn't have a tumor. leave her in the misery she's created for herself op, and never look back
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 16:25 |
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Something that's been really difficult for me especially lately now that it's finally attainable for me is the fact that when i start transitioning, i will become completely estranged from my mother (who i have limited contact with atm), likely also my older sister, and potentially also my younger brother (though he has the biggest chance of coming around eventually, especially since his gf seems very cool). i've already been estranged from my dad for years, but it wasn't something that was an emotional decision at all. he was an rear end in a top hat and i never loved him, i was just afraid of him. so cutting him off wasn't really that hard. but i do love my mom a lot, even though she has a ton of issues and has never accepted my queerness. she's someone i don't want to completely cut off unless i absolutely have to. really, i guess i don't know whether i should jump right into hrt or if i should like, have a therapist along with it so i have extra support in dealing with my mom. taking a step that would largely improve my quality of life but also cut off basically the rest of my family is still mildly terrifying for me because of the lack of support i have at the moment (i DO have a very supportive partner and his family isn't the most aware of trans stuff but aren't zealously right-wing catholics so that'll probably be a lot easier to deal with. but yeah).
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# ? Mar 21, 2021 16:54 |
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Welp, got another call from my mom where she screamed for 40 minutes about how she's done being my mom and she never wants to see me again and I'm ungrateful and mean and manipulative, ever since I was a kid, and if I was happier and had a positive attitude I wouldn't have a tumor. Your mom's not a real mother. Good riddance. Not everyone you're related to is family.
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jemand posted:Glad to hear you putting a clear boundary, and I hope your dad can do the work on himself he needs to in order to reach it. If not though, it sounds like you already have a lot of people in your corner and you are standing up for yourself. Ayyy, thank you so much! I had a hell of a breakdown to precipitate it but I am 100% very well loved by a ton of excellent people. Which tbh is a LOT of why I bounce back so well and why I can (often) support such tough stances and big confidence in this stuff. ACFs are SO underrated as pets, aren't they? My girls can recognize me on sight, and they'll happily let me pick them up and move them around the tank without even so much as wiggling. They'll kick the hell out of anyone else who tries, but other folks haven't built that kind of trust with them. Just goes to show that even a tiny prey animal with a pea-sized brain can understand compassionate treatment and care. I might start training them to swim through a hoop. Lieutenant Dan posted:Welp, got another call from my mom where she screamed for 40 minutes about how she's done being my mom and she never wants to see me again and I'm ungrateful and mean and manipulative, ever since I was a kid, and if I was happier and had a positive attitude I wouldn't have a tumor. j e s u s . What a cruel human being. I'm so sorry. Good on you for taking the steps not to expose yourself to her fuckery any more, but good god that has to hurt. I have no idea how much this means, but based on how you present yourself here, you've always come across as a good dude. My uneducated opinion: she's projecting her self-hatred onto you. Her reaction is about her being broken, not an indictment of your character, as much as she seems to want it to be. Classic Comrade posted:Something that's been really difficult for me especially lately now that it's finally attainable for me is the fact that when i start transitioning, i will become completely estranged from my mother (who i have limited contact with atm), likely also my older sister, and potentially also my younger brother (though he has the biggest chance of coming around eventually, especially since his gf seems very cool). Your queerness is a huge component of your authentic self. If your family doesn't love you because you're physically transitioning to the person you really are inside, it sounds like they love the version of you that they've built around your deadname, not you as a person. One of my exes was in a similar situation and he said therapeutic support was helpful, but it can also take a ton of tries to find the right therapist and a lot of them are lovely. (He also says now, with some distance, that one of the funniest moments of his life was the first time he came to easter dinner with a full beard and his lovely family went from dead silence to chaos, but he has kind of a messed up sense of humor.)
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# ? Mar 22, 2021 02:06 |
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BrigadierSensible posted:Sorry for my ignorance. But what does "to Megan Markle" entail? To Megan Markle, according to her, is to emasculate a man to the point where the qualities that you admired in him in the first place are gone.
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# ? Mar 22, 2021 06:13 |
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Are the Daily Mail and friends still giving Meghan Markle’s horrible estranged father a platform? Every time I see him getting interviewed I feel sick to my stomach.
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They literally interviewed her eighth-removed cousin, there's literally no depths they won't stoop to.
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WrenP-Complete posted:To Megan Markle, according to her, is to emasculate a man to the point where the qualities that you admired in him in the first place are gone.
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