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sullat: Jan 9, 2012

MagusofStars posted:

NTA of course because it�s their kid, but just wondering: Is this a common thing?

Just thinking of my friends and family who had kids (pre-Covid) and it felt like they�d invite literally everyone to come see how great and cute their new baby is. Either immediately at the hospital or shortly after leaving, never mind for two months afterwards.

I think the justification of �we�ll be tired and trying to figure poo poo out� sounds pretty good, just never really heard of this before.

When I had my kids we were just like, 'open er up, come on over' but at the same time one of my coworkers said that in her country it was traditional to keep everyone from seeing the baby for like 40 days. Parents can do what they want, it's their kid.

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sullat: Jan 9, 2012

ghost emoji posted:

N.K. Jemisin weighs in, and now I want her to work an /r/amitheasshole post in one of her next books.

https://twitter.com/nkjemisin/status/1379955227806347264

The whole broken earth trilogy is one long aita story

# ? Apr 8, 2021 01:55

Bright Bart: Apr 27, 2020; False. There is only one electron and it has never stopped

cumshitter posted:

If its a dress shirt and he tucks it he definitely is going for the retail manager look.

What? For one, not sure I've seen a retail manager wear the look. For two, a dress shirt with khakis is pretty much the day-to-day wear of any adult with a normal job. Aside from engineers who are cooler than us.

I agree with you that pleated pants are cringe though.

cumshitter posted:

I actually have a pair of pleated khaki overalls that I use when I want to infiltrate heterosexual spaces. I wear them with Vibrams worn inside a pair of Crocs. Nobody has ever questioned my heterosexuality in this getup.

Really? I'd figure one of the fun parts of being a gay man is you can wear frumpy getups while having everyone think it's a bold fashion statement.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:02

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

I'm [29f] tired of my boyfriend [33m] calling me an "evil, untrustworthy," woman.

quote:

I've been with my boyfriend for two months. We were committed right away. He came over and spent time with my family and told me he wanted a serious relationship right away.

He was very sweet, charming, has a great job and seemed like 10/10. Great guy.

However, I found out he was talking to an ex when a notification popped up on his phone. It became a really long, drawn out argument with lots of tears. I thought we had cleared it up when his ex texted him again the next week. He deleted the whole chat before I could see it. Super shady.

I took a step back and told my boyfriend to mail me my things and that I need some time to think. We have been talking every day to work things out. This is when the crazy starting coming out. He has some outlandish complaints.

1- He tells me I am an evil, untrustworthy woman who "rips through men." (because I texted him asking to mail my stuff back because I was pissed.)

2- He tells me he had accepted me and all my problems, even though I am "his little Lindsay Lohan." (Referencing the fact that I am now sober?)

3- Because I had my Linkedin profile hidden, he told me this was also a sign of me being deeply untrustworthy.

He accused me of "gathering information," about him to really hurt him.

He told me I have to show that I am a changed woman, that I can't fake it, and I have to be prepared to do the deep work to get there.

Because I left him and met a girlfriend for a beer one afternoon, he says this is "proof," that I am being shady. He said this girlfriend probably influenced my decision to notice the notification on his phone and break up with him..

When I mention the fact he had texted his ex he says "oh it wasn't a big deal," and brushes it off completely. I'm at a total loss what to do, besides just cut contact.

TL;DR boyfriend says I'm deeply troubled/untrustworthy.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:06

SneezeOfTheDecade: Feb 6, 2011; gettin' covid all
over your posts

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I'm [29f] tired of my boyfriend [33m] calling me an "evil, untrustworthy," woman.

Don't date incels!

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:08

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I'm [29f] tired of my boyfriend [33m] calling me an "evil, untrustworthy," woman.

You are already broken up.

What�s the issue?

Move on.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:09

Quackles: Aug 11, 2018; Pixels of Light.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I'm [29f] tired of my boyfriend [33m] calling me an "evil, untrustworthy," woman.

I think there's a reaction image that encapsulates my feelings on this one.

Fortunately, the OP and the guy are already separated, so I'd chalk it up as :confuoot:

and move on.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:10

Tarkus: Aug 27, 2000

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I'm [29f] tired of my boyfriend [33m] calling me an "evil, untrustworthy," woman.

Wow, she better go apologize and kowtow to him so she can salvage this 2 month long relationship. He sounds like such a Nice Guy(tm)!

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:12

Barudak: May 7, 2007

LadyPictureShow posted:

AITA For no longer making my husband sandwiches to take to work after discovering he was selling them?

E: lol

I am unreasonably mad at this person who is so loving stupid he didn't immediately rush home and tell his wife "we need to make more sandwiches, these fuckin idiots are giving me 15 bucks a pop"

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:28

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No joke my first thought on reading that was "how do we get my partner's co-workers to buy sandwiches for even ten bux a pop?"

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:38

Owlspiracy: Nov 4, 2020

how in the gently caress is he selling homemade sandwiches for $15/each to his coworkers lol

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:39

oh jay: Oct 15, 2012

He says something about making more than 2, so he's selling them for 5 bucks a pop, which is I guess roughly market price if they have more than a single slice of bologna in them.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 02:43

Invisible Clergy: Sep 25, 2015; "Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

cumshitter posted:

I think the real deal breaker for khaki boy is what he does with the button up shirt. If its a dress shirt and he tucks it he definitely is going for the retail manager look. The only worse option is if he buys those Untuckit shirts. Absolute worst case scenario: Untuckit + pleated khakis.

I actually have a pair of pleated khaki overalls that I use when I want to infiltrate heterosexual spaces. I wear them with Vibrams worn inside a pair of Crocs. Nobody has ever questioned my heterosexuality in this getup.

Untuckit shirt + pleated khakis and a pair of black rockports is what they wear in the next pod people remake.

That sounds like a much better getup than my carhartts, denim work shirt, red wings, and curved brim baseball cap with a crying eagle on a camouflage background.

oh jay posted:

I stopped wearing jeans around 5 years ago because I got too fat for them and already wasted my new clothes budget and slacks and chinos. When I had a little more money to spare, it had been so long I didn't miss them.

I've lost like 20 pounds since then, so my old pairs might fit again.

I'm pretty fat and had thought for a while jeans were out of consideration, but I just needed to find some that fit better and change how I wore them. I put them an inch or two above my navel when standing and if I need to sit in a chair I'll pull the waistline under my stomach and then readjust when standing, like buttoning and unbuttoning a jacket. They make tapered leg jeans in very large sizes which was a real game changer for me, since I'd thought the legs needed to be as big as the thigh all the way down which makes your torso look short. Check out the selection of jeans at DXL, they're where I buy most of my clothes.

Everett False posted:

I think depending on your anatomy (I've heard it given as a male/female dichotomy but eh), it's possible for your waist to be a significantly different size depending on whether you're sitting or standing. So if you wear your jeans at your waist, that can make them pretty uncomfortable compared to garments with a greater stretch. The sturdiness of denim means they tend to dig in more painfully than pants made of a thinner fabric even without stretch.

I'm a big fan of dresses, but that's because I'm lazy and don't like having to match things.

100% this. You can also buy jeans with 2-3% spandex in them. You don't need to go all the way to jeggings if you don't want to.

oh jay posted:

Maybe they've got a big head and need the buttons. The alternative is henleys and that's an entirely different life decision you have to meditate on.

Henleys are indeed good for that purpose. They are great for larger guys as well. I love the opportunity to wear them during the winter with an open waxed cotton jacket or puffer and looking like an LL Bean model or the non-threatening lead in a hallmark movie. Have they become some kind of dogwhistle for something I haven't heard about? Or are they regarded as underwear in the north and not appropriate to wear out?

AITA for reporting a doordash driver for asking me for more money on top of the tip I gave?

quote:

Hey everyone, this happened last week and I'm still really torn about it. Last week, right before my doordash driver pulled up to my house she asked if she could have more money on top of the 25% tip I gave her. She said there was no way for her to cash out the money she made on doordash same day and would need to wait until the next day to receive her funds. A quick google by my husband found out that this was a lie and that door dash allows it's drivers to cash out once per day. I respectfully declined saying that I had no cash, and once my food was dropped off I reported her to doordash. Something about a stranger asking me for money and knowing where I live didn't sit right with me. To add insult to injury, she pulled up in a new looking BMW SUV. I just feel bad because I know what it's like to be on the struggle bus. For a long time it was pretty common for me to have a negative balance more often than a positive one in my bank account. I don't want to be the reason she loses her job, but I also hate being put into situations like this. So, AITA?

TLDR: food delivery driver asked me for an additional cash tip on top of the tip I already gave through the app. I reported her and have a lot of mixed feelings about the situation.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 03:24

The Bramble: Mar 16, 2004

ghost emoji posted:

N.K. Jemisin weighs in, and now I want her to work an /r/amitheasshole post in one of her next books.

https://twitter.com/nkjemisin/status/1379955227806347264

Ha, that's awesome. Love her books.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 04:09

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; I LITERALLY SLEEP IN A RACING CAR. DO YOU?
p.s. ask me about my subscription mattress; Ultra Carp

Barudak posted:

I am unreasonably mad at this person who is so loving stupid he didn't immediately rush home and tell his wife "we need to make more sandwiches, these fuckin idiots are giving me 15 bucks a pop"

# ? Apr 8, 2021 04:18

The Maroon Hawk: May 10, 2008

Turns out the "I'm gonna license my Innovative Sandwich Recipe" guy was a married woman all along, and her sandwich recipe really is that good!!!

# ? Apr 8, 2021 05:21

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

WIBTA if I end a friendship over a scone?

quote:

TLDR: my friend accused me of messing with his scone. I did not. He calls me a liar and won�t let it go.

I apologize for how long this is. It is VERY dumb.

My (36F) friend (of 10+ years) we�ll call Jonah (34M) got dumped by his partner that he was living with. They gave him only a day to move out, assuming Jonah would go live with his religious nut of a mother. After literally talking him off a ledge, I offer to come pick him up (driving out of state and back) and let him stay at my place for the weekend while he gets his head on straight.

Jonah spends the weekend complaining about his ex and the state his life is in. I show him empathy and encourage him to seek therapy to deal with his onslaught of emotions. I tell him about my time in therapy for my binge eating disorder. This will be important later. He agrees to seek help and even has a nice long call with a therapist who validates his feelings.

Sunday comes and Jonah heads to the corner caf� for breakfast. He comes back to my place with a box of assorted pastries including a mixed berry scone. He opens it up in my kitchen, checks the merchandise, and places it back in the bag. He then goes to change in my bedroom while I eat my own food in the kitchen. Jonah comes back and checks his pastry box once more, only to find the scone broken into three pieces.

Glancing at the scone in question, I see that there is a large strawberry on one piece right where the break is and the dough was likely very thin in the center surrounding it. I tell him as much as he tries, unsuccessfully, to put the pieces back together. He then asked me if I messed with his scone while he was out of the room. I tell him no and say that it probably broke when he put the box back in the bag. He claims that there is a chunk missing from the center and it was obviously tampered with. Jonah goes on to say that he is very good at putting things back together but these pieces don�t fit so I must have messed with his food. Again I tell him I did no such thing but would be happy to walk to the caf� and get him another scone. He says he doesn�t believe me. I ask if he is calling me a liar to which he replies that he highly doubts I am telling the truth because the scone breaking makes no �scientific� sense. I respond by saying something along the lines of �what makes more sense, a scone being crumbly or your good friend messing with it and lying about it.�

He says to forget about it and asks me to drive him home. I oblige.

On the drive back, he clearly hasn�t let this go. I state my case again, he states his. We are at an impasse. He then says that he can accept that I didn�t mess with his food �for the sake of our friendship.� The subject is dropped.

Then, this morning, we have the following conversation via text:

Jonah: Too bad we didn�t get to watch that movie on Sunday.

Me: I was quite upset

Jonah: Ok Jonah: You deal with that

Me: I have, wrote out my feelings and trying to release any lingering sadness

Jonah: I hope that works for you

Me: Usually does. It�s a good habit for me. I�ll write things out then go over it in therapy

Jonah: So you�re gonna tell your therapist that I was bugging even though I didn�t go on a roller coaster with that bag of pastries lol. And it didn�t make physical sense according to like science and poo poo lol

Me: I�m gonna deal with my hurt feelings over being called a liar in a situation where I wasn�t lying. Brought up a lot of feelings about my last relationship that I need to process.

Jonah: I�ve gotten those items many times also and that�s the first time that happened so it seems weird Jonah: Call it what you want Jonah: The one that I had the day before didn�t magically break apart into pieces that can�t be put back together lol

Me: I thought you were over this. I don�t see the need to rehash something that we can�t agree on.

Jonah: I just want to tell you that I am a person who can put almost anything back together. If you give me all of the pieces Jonah: I don�t feel like all of the prices are being given here

Me: I understand and validate your position. I, however, know that I am not lying.

Jonah: Ok. So this has nothing to do with the things that you�ve been seeking help for? Jonah: I feel like there�s something that you�re not willing to tell me

Me: Are you implying that my eating disorder made me take a piece of your scone? Me: Stealing food is not something I have ever done. I binge eat. That means I consume large amounts of food in one sitting. I don�t pick at the center of another person�s pastry and leave the rest. I buy four of my own and eat them all. Me: My eating disorder leads me to purchase large amounts of food for my own consumption. It does not push me to eat the food off other people�s plates or anything like that.

He has not replied.

This is probably the dumbest thing two adults in their 30s could fight over. I�m at the point of ending the friendship because he trusts his own scone assembling skills more than he trusts me. I feel like it�s up to him to either believe me or let it go. He seems unwilling to do either.

Would I be the rear end in a top hat if I ended our friendship over a scone? Should I just chalk it up to him being upset by his breakup?

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:02

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I end a friendship over a scone?

How TF do you put a scone back together?

Like those things are pretty crumbly.

This guy is fuckin insane and she needs to cut contact.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:07

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

look buddy, I didn't get a degree in pasty forensics for nothing

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:11

big dyke energy: Jul 29, 2006; Football? Yaaaay

I understand why his partner kicked up out so abruptly.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:11

The Lone Badger: Sep 24, 2007

MarcusSA posted:

How TF do you put a scone back together?

Like those things are pretty crumbly.

This guy is fuckin insane and she needs to cut contact.

You make a mould by dipping it in liquid rubber, then cast it in plaster.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:13

Bruceski: Aug 21, 2007; The tools of a hero mean nothing without a solid core.

The Lone Badger posted:

You make a mould by dipping it in liquid rubber, then cast it in plaster.

I understood that reference.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:23

Barudak: May 7, 2007

big dyke energy posted:

I understand why his partner kicked up out so abruptly.

Yeah, they're the real scone killer

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:33

ben shapino: Nov 22, 2020

Hughlander posted:

I (29F) incorrectly thought my BF (31M) was cheating, and I ruined everything

what i like about this is like.. there's not even any advice to give.

"what can i do to just make him understand i only said all of that stuff because i knew those were his specific insecurities and they would be exactly what would hurt him the most even i was making things up i didnt believe? he'll take me back once he understands that, right?"

if you even care about this person in the slightest you'd realize that the best thing for him is to get far far away from you forever and for you to get therapy pronto

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:33

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I end a friendship over a scone?

"I apologize for how long this is. It is VERY dumb" is probably too bland for a thread title, but it really encapsulates your average r/AITA post

# ? Apr 8, 2021 06:58

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Bruceski posted:

I understood that reference.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 07:47

Martman: Nov 20, 2006

Ladies, never let a man put you in the scone zone. Once you're in you can never get out, at best you'll be a pastry orbiter

# ? Apr 8, 2021 07:57

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

Short and sweet!

My friends bf masturbated in my bathroom and left it

quote:

This is so disgusting

My friend and her boyfriend came over for dinner last night and after they left, I saw that there was semen on a hand towel. I was so disgusted and asked my boyfriend if that was him and he was horrified and said no. I think my friends boyfriend did it and I�m so disgusted and embarrassed to even tell her that her boyfriends a loving weirdo

r/relationships: her boyfriends a loving weirdo

# ? Apr 8, 2021 08:11

Martman: Nov 20, 2006

Short and sweet and...... sticky. Really though that's pretty horrifying. Real psycho poo poo, I would expect him to escalate if given the chance.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 08:13

ilmucche: Mar 16, 2016

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I end a friendship over a scone?

Jonah goes on to say that he is very good at putting things back together but these pieces don’t fit so I must have messed with his food

C'mon lady, "If you're a master at putting things back together then stop worrying about the drat scone and put your relationship back together" Is the correct response to this.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 10:19

cumshitter: Sep 27, 2005; by Fluffdaddy

Redditor posted:

I�ll be honest, I find it pretty odd a stranger came into your house went to the bathroom to masturbate whole at a dinner party then cleaned himself up with your towel then returned to dinner. I think it�s more likely it was your bf, it�s not like your bf would own up to accident leaving his bodily fluid on your hand towel. *Unless you�re leaving out that your friends bf was in the bathroom for awhile?

OP posted:

He wasn�t in the bathroom for a while, I think he went to the bathroom before they left home but he wasn�t gone for a suspiciously long time. And my boyfriend is weird but he is not the type to cum on a towel and then blame it on someone else

# ? Apr 8, 2021 10:25

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

�In the case of the bathroom towel....friend�s boyfriend, you ARE the phantom cum!�

# ? Apr 8, 2021 10:30

cumshitter: Sep 27, 2005; by Fluffdaddy

As a professional cum splatter forensics expert I have to say: cumming into the hand towel when the toilet bowl is readily available indicates a high level of aggression and animosity. It's personal. And from there it's just basic victimology to determine that the people closest to the girlfriend would be the most likely perpetrators, or perps.

# ? Apr 8, 2021 10:36