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Evil Willow posted:AITA for being upset my husband "upgraded" my engagement ring and changing it back? Gimli's less-evil twin. AITA for not wanting to give my future half Hispanic kids a traditional Spanish name? quote:Over dinner, my parents and fiancé were talking about names for kids. We’re not pregnant, but we’re going to start trying right after the wedding. My fiancé had several names that were very traditional, like, Fernando, Jose, Maria. My fiancé has a very traditional name. I have an African/ Caribbean name. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 08:55 on May 4, 2021 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for being upset my husband "upgraded" my engagement ring and changing it back? But surely a simple gold band is traditional? Or is it different in America?
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Wolfsbane posted:But surely a simple gold band is traditional? Or is it different in America?
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Is it? Here we have engagement rings with stones and simple wedding bands with at most a small stone
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SneezeOfTheDecade posted:I(F22) believe my bestfriend(F22) is being cheated on by her boyfriend(M27). How should I approach her? "Oops, I didn't know I'm actually the side piece" vol. 47
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Jack-Off Lantern posted:Is it? Here we have engagement rings with stones and simple wedding bands with at most a small stone I'm pretty sure Invisible Clergy is saying that plain bands are traditional, not that it's different in America?
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Invisible Clergy posted:Gimli's less-evil twin. Do what some mixed parents do and give your kids two names! I use my colonizer name in white people society and my Chinese name wherever people speak Cantonese. Specifically though, for some folks, Spanish colonization was really awful and I respect not wanting to name your kid after the people who destroyed your culture, but, uh, that's something you should probably talk to your husband about, because it's proooobably gonna be a bit deeper-seeded than just beefing over naming your kid Jose.
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Do what some mixed parents do and give your kids two names! I use my colonizer name in white people society and my Chinese name wherever people speak Cantonese. Specifically though, for some folks, Spanish colonization was really awful and I respect not wanting to name your kid after the people who destroyed your culture, but, uh, that's something you should probably talk to your husband about, because it's proooobably gonna be a bit deeper-seeded than just beefing over naming your kid Jose. This. I don’t do it with my name (first name is excessively English, my second name is v Igbo), but I know quite a few other fellow mixed race people that do. It is a very tricky thing to contend with, especially with a child, and you gotta be careful because trauma linking with colonization can be intergenerational real fuckin quick and sucks to deal with.
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Evil Willow posted:I'm pretty sure Invisible Clergy is saying that plain bands are traditional, not that it's different in America? OH, I misune, my bad
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Do what some mixed parents do and give your kids two names! I use my colonizer name in white people society and my Chinese name wherever people speak Cantonese. Specifically though, for some folks, Spanish colonization was really awful and I respect not wanting to name your kid after the people who destroyed your culture, but, uh, that's something you should probably talk to your husband about, because it's proooobably gonna be a bit deeper-seeded than just beefing over naming your kid Jose. My wife is Miao, from Hunan, and the eldest of 3 kids which made her brother, the youngest, illegal for a while. As kids, she gave him the nickname of "Treasure Mountain" and when he finally had to get an ID and deal with the state or whatever, her parents couldn't figure out what the brother's actual name was so they wound up making "Treasure Mountain" his official name and he's always held a grudge against my wife for getting stuck with such a goofy name.
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Bǎoshān?
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Malcolm Excellent posted:I can't stop thinking about the weirdo that brought his own broth. You heathen goons need to try hai di lao’s tomato base. That stuff is so amazing that even their packaged diy at home version still tastes awesome.
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Jack-Off Lantern posted:Bǎoshān? I think so, yeah.
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mania posted:You heathen goons need to try hai di lao’s tomato base. That stuff is so amazing that even their packaged diy at home version still tastes awesome. You know the guy that didn't want to spend $16 on dinner with his girlfriend didn't make an amazing tomato base. He probably mixed a can of campbell's chunky with water.
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AITA for sending my partner's sister to a childfree doctor?quote:I am a childfree woman, and I've been with my partner for over a decade even though we're not married. I'm not super close to his siblings, but I generally like them. So far, none of them have kids.
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Love the new thread title. There is just something so wholesome and relatable about an 18 year old kid thinking he has hacked the system and is extremely clever while the rest of us watch in horror as every civil convention of our society is ripped apart carelessly.Sisal Two-Step posted:A saga: I remember learning the statistic years ago that in cases of domestic violence, it can take the abused partner an average of seven attempts to leave their abuser before it finally sticks and they don't go back. It really shocked me at the time, but as I've gotten older and more experienced I can see how that dynamic is in play with all kinds of dysfunctional and toxic domestic and familial relationships, even if it doesn't qualify as violence. It was clear from the very first post that this poor woman has been used as her family's scapegoat for most of her life and has become accustomed to it. And it's maddening to watch her go back and forth between giving her family an opportunity to hurt her again, and then going low-contact and admitting to feeling happier for it before she lets them repeat the cycle again. I hope she's in therapy and talking about her family dynamic and able to finally make a break for the good of herself and her daughter.
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AITA for telling my sister that I don't like her and leaving?quote:Edit: my sister is 52. I am 25. The meeting was about how to handle our dad's estate. quote:She's always been the favorite for whatever reason. She was the baby before I was born and I guess my existence took the spotlight away from her. Idk, I just really don't like her. Note, they're half sisters which probably explains a lot. quote:She offered to babysit after I was born and put me on the floor next to a door because she "didn't want me peeing on her couch" quote:Yeah, once all the legal stuff is settled and over with, I'm going NC. She's dead to me. I'm currently homeless because of her. quote:When my dad passed, she told me not to worry about finances, bills, food, etc because she'd take care of me since that's what big sisters do. Being unable to think clearly, I trusted her. She ignored me for 2 months. Then went to the utility company and had the power shut off on me while I was at work (I lived with dad before his passing, sister lives in her own apartment). quote:Thank you, I do too. I have an attorney who is working on this with me. He said she could even face jail time as she was acting as power of attorney when she wasn't appointed as such. And there was another post about that earlier, too bad the shunning didn't stick. AITA for telling my family the truth about the things my sister has done, causing her to be shunned? quote:This whole thing is a train wreck so please bear with me.
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Feed that sister feet first to fire ants.
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An unusual take on a story where an easily missed (and edited into the OP) age gap puts everything into perspective.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my sister that I don't like her and leaving? It's like bizarro younger version of my life. Well except for the poo poo sister. My sister is a poo poo. Always have beneficiaries on your accounts folks. Always.
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Jack-Off Lantern posted:Is it? Here we have engagement rings with stones and simple wedding bands with at most a small stone Wedding sets
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kntfkr posted:I think so, yeah. It's not too bad. Some people might just think it's Conserving the mountains. Tho maybe the pronunciations don't work out in Miao. Ches Neckbeard posted:Always have beneficiaries on your accounts folks. Always. Would that help here, if the older sister were added to the accounts? kimbo305 fucked around with this message at 16:42 on May 4, 2021 |
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The Bramble posted:I hope she's in therapy and talking about her family dynamic and able to finally make a break for the good of herself and her daughter. Much like in many abuse situations, there seems to be an element of her not really having anyone else in her life, and so a little bit of distance starts convincing her something is better than nothing, no matter how bad, and then it is... until it isn't.
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Dazerbeams posted:All sympathy for that single mom evaporated when I got to the second update where she revealed her addiction to abuse. Very cool and good to victim blame people who have been abused
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AITA because I didnt wash wife's dishes right when she asked? (self.AmItheAsshole)quote:on mobile forgive format From the comments: quote:I was playing an online game with my friends/people. But it's not like I could just get up and leave in the middle. quote:Thank you I did not know it's the person who has more spare time. It's always been the women who take care of a household for me. She never explained this just got mad and started banging stuff together
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Despite two paternity tests, my husband is still not bonding with our children because they don’t look like him.quote:I’ve been with my husband for four years, married for three. We have a two year old and an eight month old. When our eldest son came out with dark brown hair we were both shocked because I have light brown hair, almost golden and he has ginger hair. I didn’t think much of it but it bothered my husband and he always brought it up. Our son also has hazel eyes that look almost brown while I have blue and my husband has a green/grey color. He never bonded with our son and when he turned eight months old I badgered him into getting a DNA test so he could get it over with. To my shock he told me he already tested our son when he was a few months younger. I was so confused because he had still not bonded with our son but he told me he was going to. He just said he didn’t like that our son doesn’t look like either of us. I told him to give him time to actually grow into his features.
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That woman is a grown adult and knows what the problem is AND the solution for it. But sometimes people just can’t bring themselves to walk away. SIL broke into her Amazon account and she’s only flirting with the idea of cutting them out of her life. I’m still pretty amused by the dude who didn’t care about his girlfriend being topless. Most stories in here are about men who go crazy possessive but that he was comfortable just letting her do her thing.
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As I lay down to sleep And pray the lord my broth to keep If I should serve tomato paste I pray the lord my soul to waste
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my family the truth about the things my sister has done, causing her to be shunned? Incredible. This lady was somehow able to get control over her father's banking accounts and keep the younger sister strung along and quiet about it, but was just too greedy. Granted that's the kind of thing that gets resolved later when the rest of the family starts asking about the estate. But it sounds like she could have kept the grift going for a while.
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Dazerbeams posted:That woman is a grown adult and knows what the problem is AND the solution for it. But sometimes people just can’t bring themselves to walk away. SIL broke into her Amazon account and she’s only flirting with the idea of cutting them out of her life. How often do you think she posts "tired of all the drama" statuses on facebook but never elaborates when people ask what's up
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Scaevolus posted:Despite two paternity tests, my husband is still not bonding with our children because they don’t look like him. This might be the dumbest, most picky man alive. His children at birth have different eye colors or hair colors than him or his wife and he's full out rejecting them after DNA tests confirm they are his. Even goddamn animals aren't that picky. gently caress's sake, give a few years and calm down. Maybe just be ecstatic your weird ginger genes didn't dominate.
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Scaevolus posted:Despite two paternity tests, my husband is still not bonding with our children because they don’t look like him. Using your recessive genes (which is a pretty common thing for ginger characteristics if I'm not mistaken) to justify being a lovely dad is a new one to me.
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henkman posted:How often do you think she posts "tired of all the drama" statuses on facebook but never elaborates when people ask what's up Not a single person who posts "tired of all the drama" more than once is in the least tired of it. They desire it and refuse to get away from it. Even vaguebook statuses like that are part of the whole game.
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quote:My (25m) friend (24m) 'broke up' with me because I'm financially stable I'n always interested in these sort of wealth dynamics. I've been in several different places on the wealth scale throughout my life (currently at my peak of "if I keep this up I'll have enough for a downpayment on a house in a few years and might get to be a homeowner by the time I'm 40!"), but never particularly precarious because my extended family has always been there for each other when someone falls down, and I knew if I ever truly needed them they would be there for me. I also always felt like if I was gonna invite someone to something they'd have difficulty affording, and I could afford to, I should pay their way - after all, I'm inviting them primarily for myself! I'm doing it because I think I would have a better time if they were there, so I want to make them being there as easy and likely as possible, and I've always appreciated it when friends have done the same thing for me because it's meant I've gotten to do a lot of fun stuff I wouldn't otherwise have been able to (I absolutely loved having a friend in college whose family was loaded, we got up to much great stuff on their dime). But that has definitely caused friction with friends without me realizing it was going to. Sometimes, I suspect, because they were planning on using the cost as an excuse not to go even though they didn't want to go for an unrelated reason... but sometimes because apparently the offer alone made them unhappy and made them feel bad about their financial situation. And it's something I have trouble really understanding, although I have since modified my behaviour in response to their concerns. GlyphGryph fucked around with this message at 18:23 on May 4, 2021 |
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Husband (28m) is planning on hiring a homeless “black” man to go to our 10 year HS reunion this summer. I’m (28f) a little crossed out at his racism, he says I need to “lighten up.”quote:So obviously knew my husband in high school but we didn’t date until college and now have been married 5 years. Our 10 year HS reunion is coming up this summer.
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not stuck up enough to stop taking money for years tho
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I kinda doubt those homeless dudes are really his friends
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Scaevolus posted:Despite two paternity tests, my husband is still not bonding with our children because they don’t look like him. It's shocking the OP would have have another child with this idiot.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Husband (28m) is planning on hiring a homeless “black” man to go to our 10 year HS reunion this summer. I’m (28f) a little crossed out at his racism, he says I need to “lighten up.” So you put a ring on this because?
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hawowanlawow posted:I kinda doubt those homeless dudes are really his friends Sounds like he give them lunchtime weed, I bet they like having him around.
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