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Barudak posted:So you put a ring on this because? op posted:He’s actually a very smart, funny, sweet and good looking guy. It wasn’t hard to fall for him when we hooked up in college. He does a lot of things I’m not a fan of but all relationships are about compromise
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Husband (28m) is planning on hiring a homeless “black” man to go to our 10 year HS reunion this summer. I’m (28f) a little crossed out at his racism, he says I need to “lighten up.” Lol that this woman doesn't understand what an "eighth of cocaine" means. This guy is an idiot of course but I love his generous offer of not just $500 but cocaine roo. No wonder the homeless people like him.
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May 4, 2021 18:28
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AITA for not going to a wedding after my platonic SO ("Boston Marriage") of 18 years wasn't invited?quote:I am currently 42F as is platonic soulmate Betty. Not going to lie, looked at this one just for seeing Boston Marriage in TYOOL 2021
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May 4, 2021 18:32
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May 4, 2021 18:38
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So a Boston Marriage is what the asexuals call marriage now or is it in reference to they'd be common law married in any state that recognized it but decided rather than get married they'd just buy a house together.
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May 4, 2021 18:46
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empty sea posted:This might be the dumbest, most picky man alive. His children at birth have different eye colors or hair colors than him or his wife and he's full out rejecting them after DNA tests confirm they are his. Even goddamn animals aren't that picky. gently caress's sake, give a few years and calm down. Maybe just be ecstatic your weird ginger genes didn't dominate. I thought kids only got darker eyes/hair as they got older? Like it’s common for a baby to be blonde and blue-eyed, and then grow into hazel eyes and brown hair, but I’ve never heard of it going the other way. Dude will never love his kids.
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May 4, 2021 18:49
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Barudak posted:So a Boston Marriage is what the asexuals call marriage now or is it in reference to they'd be common law married in any state that recognized it but decided rather than get married they'd just buy a house together. It means long term platonic (well, sometimes romantic, but not in a romantic relationship) domestic partners. No more, no less. Similar to the "heterosexual life partner" or "bromance" trope for guys, except they don't need to be heterosexual, and they definitely don't need to be asexual, but they do need to live together. I think?
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May 4, 2021 18:52
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Malcolm Excellent posted:You know the guy that didn't want to spend $16 on dinner with his girlfriend didn't make an amazing tomato base. All I'll say is that once you reach a certain level of home cook brain, you start looking at restaurant menus like you're wearing the sunglasses from They Live. Then you either resign yourself to the idea that you're paying 'extra' for a nice night out where you can relax & don't have to cook or clean dishes, or you go fully demented and wind up buying dried legumes by the pallet in order to shave two cents off the cost per serving
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May 4, 2021 18:54
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I thought kids only got darker eyes/hair as they got older? Like it’s common for a baby to be blonde and blue-eyed, and then grow into hazel eyes and brown hair, but I’ve never heard of it going the other way. My kid's eyes turned ice blue from dark blue a couple of months after being born. Looks nothing like my eyes but I don't care because 1) I'm not a monster, and 2) that colour is kick rear end and brings much glory to the family.
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May 4, 2021 18:57
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GlyphGryph posted:It means long term platonic (well, sometimes romantic, but not in a romantic relationship) domestic partners. No more, no less. Similar to the "heterosexual life partner" or "bromance" trope for guys, except they don't need to be heterosexual, and they definitely don't need to be asexual, but they do need to live together. I think "Boston Marriage" is an old term that refers to two single women who lived together. It's basically code for lesbians during a time where people didn't believe that women could have sex drives. It's kind of charming to see it used in TYOOL 2021.
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May 4, 2021 19:01
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Barudak posted:So a Boston Marriage is what the asexuals call marriage now or is it in reference to they'd be common law married in any state that recognized it but decided rather than get married they'd just buy a house together. It's a reference to an old(100+ years) book where two women lived together, sharing income. The thing that makes me side with the OP is the fact that Op's been with her Partner for 20+ years and is also friends with the bride at this point. But the bride didn't invite her, then reached out to find out why OP wasn't coming knowing full well why. It reeks to me of a power move or trying to start drama and getting mad that the target is being the bigger person. Bug Squash posted:My kid's eyes turned ice blue from dark blue a couple of months after being born. Looks nothing like my eyes but I don't care because 1) I'm not a monster, and 2) that colour is kick rear end and brings much glory to the family. My eyes changed color a few times during my life and my niece's hair has gone from bright blonde to brown. Though it sounds like dad wanted a red-headed kid and is mad it didn't happen. Kurieg fucked around with this message at 19:06 on May 4, 2021 |
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May 4, 2021 19:02
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Thanks for explanation OP is totally in the right about the invites, but it weirds me out they're doing a ton of financial intertwining without marriage.
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May 4, 2021 19:08
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Barudak posted:So a Boston Marriage is what the asexuals call marriage now or is it in reference to they'd be common law married in any state that recognized it but decided rather than get married they'd just buy a house together. It's specifically two women living together long-term without relying on anyone else for support, and the term's been around since the 1860s at least: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boston_marriage e: that's what I get for not refreshing the page 
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May 4, 2021 19:14
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Boston Marriages are when both partners are diehard red sox fans.
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May 4, 2021 19:19
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Barudak posted:Thanks for explanation I guess it might be weird to be married if you're not into kissing and having sex with each other Even if it might be financially pragmatic
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May 4, 2021 19:22
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Bride is so focused on the "SO" part of the wedding invite that she forgets that she can just invite whoever she wants and rules lawyering herself into being a jerk is not actually a good look.
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May 4, 2021 19:24
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Malcolm Excellent posted:Boston Marriages are when both partners are diehard red sox fans. I don't see what's so special about that; quite a few marriages are sunk investment into failure.
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May 4, 2021 19:24
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Scaevolus posted:Bride is so focused on the "SO" part of the wedding invite that she forgets that she can just invite whoever she wants and rules lawyering herself into being a jerk is not actually a good look. I know right! I've seen countless weddings where people bring a good friend for the plus one. This isn't about the definition of SO for Op's friend, I suspect she doesn't want what could be perceived as a lesbian couple there despite the fact that they're not.
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May 4, 2021 19:28
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Scaevolus posted:Bride is so focused on the "SO" part of the wedding invite that she forgets that she can just invite whoever she wants and rules lawyering herself into being a jerk is not actually a good look. What's odd to me is that Betty is also a friend of the bride, so excluding her does seem like an intentional snub.
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May 4, 2021 19:39
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Bug Squash posted:My kid's eyes turned ice blue from dark blue a couple of months after being born. Looks nothing like my eyes but I don't care because 1) I'm not a monster, and 2) that colour is kick rear end and brings much glory to the family. Oh yeah, I'm not saying it's a strict one-way line; I've also known kids who grew from like baby blonde to platinum blonde, and it's not uncommon for your eyes to get blue once your hair starts turning white, but I think dark hair and hazel/brown eyes are at the end of a one-way street wrt baby colors.
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May 4, 2021 19:41
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Bug Squash posted:My kid's eyes turned ice blue from dark blue a couple of months after being born.
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May 4, 2021 19:45
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not going to a wedding after my platonic SO ("Boston Marriage") of 18 years wasn't invited? quote:I should go because the bride had basically escaped an abusive marriage and found love so her first wedding didn't really count. Lol what kind of excuse is that? "Abusive marriages don't count" is a new one. I'm glad OP has a spine and is saying the things I would say. I'm assuming this Tarkus posted:I suspect she doesn't want what could be perceived as a lesbian couple there despite the fact that they're not. is why the bride is acting the way she is. Even though they have been friends for 20 years there may have never been a situation where the bride had to direcrly deal with their sitation in a way that affects the bride.
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May 4, 2021 19:50
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Sisal Two-Step posted:What's odd to me is that Betty is also a friend of the bride, so excluding her does seem like an intentional snub.
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GlyphGryph posted:But that has definitely caused friction with friends without me realizing it was going to. Sometimes, I suspect, because they were planning on using the cost as an excuse not to go even though they didn't want to go for an unrelated reason... but sometimes because apparently the offer alone made them unhappy and made them feel bad about their financial situation. And it's something I have trouble really understanding, although I have since modified my behaviour in response to their concerns. It can definitely stir up some unexpected feelings in folks. I remember becoming extremely bitter about the wealth distribution in my University town after going through a year where I sometimes couldn't afford food after rent. Developed a weird contempt for some of the exchange students, since their parents were rich and they lived lives of (relative) luxury. Thinking back, I was suffering from depression and eating oatmeal and pasta with ketchup for a month did a number on me. I also remember having to spend literal weeks persuading a friend it was ok to come to a Christmas dinner I was hosting for a circle of friends. He couldn't afford to bring presents or an extra dish of food that year and felt terrible about it, while we all just wanted to see him regardless  Basically it's weirdly emotional to realize other people in one's friend group are on a totally different level financially and people don't always deal with it well. Fruits of the sea fucked around with this message at 20:15 on May 4, 2021 |
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May 4, 2021 20:10
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May 4, 2021 20:13
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Oh yeah, I'm not saying it's a strict one-way line; I've also known kids who grew from like baby blonde to platinum blonde, and it's not uncommon for your eyes to get blue once your hair starts turning white, but I think dark hair and hazel/brown eyes are at the end of a one-way street wrt baby colors.
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Mr. Lobe posted:I wonder what the husband thinks the nature and purpose of a gift is gifts are just a way of enforcing your beliefs on others
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May 4, 2021 20:16
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Scaevolus posted:I assume Betty isn't as close as a friend, and the bride thinks it's ok to split the invites and skip one of them, but obviously you can't only invite one part of a couple, so 6-month boyfriend is fine. splitting up a tightly knit friend cluster is an obvious minefield even if you're less close with some of them personally, so unless OP is reaaaally overstating the degree of familiarity between the bride and Betty it's hard not to read it as a deliberate snub.
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May 4, 2021 20:29
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AITA for not eating my noodles?quote:Every Christian holiday my family gets together at my moms. This year it's immediate family only (my siblings, mother and myself).
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May 4, 2021 20:33
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pentyne posted:AITA for not eating my noodles? Okay dude you're already just making your own meal. Use basic ingredients instead of these noodle packs.
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May 4, 2021 20:41
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pentyne posted:AITA for not eating my noodles? Instant noodles are like 350 calories. Throwing away half the noodles, even if you add some veggies, that leaves a "meal" of 200 calories. How small is this person that that leaves them too full? That's like a bag of lays and a coffee with cream.
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AITA for Not Allowing my Daughters to Have a Playdate with a Girl who Has a Cochlear Implant?quote:So I have 2 daughter (Both 7F) 1 is Deaf and 1 is hearing. They both go to a school which is down the street from our apartment that teaches sign language. It's not really a Deaf school as they also allow hearing people.It's technically a public school so even if my daughter wasn't deaf we would still be zoned for it. But we did decide to live here before we adopted a Deaf child so that all of our kids, deaf or hearing could go to school together. Also I am a CODA (Child of Deaf adults),went to school for deaf studies and am a teacher of the deaf at a different school for the deaf in our city.
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May 4, 2021 20:45
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oh jay posted:Instant noodles are like 350 calories. Throwing away half the noodles, even if you add some veggies, that leaves a "meal" of 200 calories. How small is this person that that leaves them too full? That's like a bag of lays and a coffee with cream. Add in the full sodium 'flavor' pack and you're probably bloated from all the broth you're absorbing as well
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May 4, 2021 20:48
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oh jay posted:Instant noodles are like 350 calories. Throwing away half the noodles, even if you add some veggies, that leaves a "meal" of 200 calories. How small is this person that that leaves them too full? That's like a bag of lays and a coffee with cream. lol goons will get judgemental about literally anything i guess
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May 4, 2021 20:55
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SneezeOfTheDecade posted:AITA for Not Allowing my Daughters to Have a Playdate with a Girl who Has a Cochlear Implant? The deaf community especially regarding CI is like the disability community's equivalent of YA Twitter.
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May 4, 2021 20:56
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yikes! posted:lol goons will get judgemental about literally anything i guess Do these sound like the actions of a man who had all he could eat?
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ghost emoji posted:I'm pro Chipotle wedding I have DJed over 100 weddings. I've been in weddings that cost $15,000 and weddings that cost $150,000. In all that time, I've seen ONE wedding where I wouldn't prefer Chipotle to whatever ridiculous bacon-wrapped reheated scallop at $250 a plate horseshit was served. That was the wedding where the entire thing, wedding, reception, dinner, and party combined was just a huge crab/shrimp boil on the beach where the crabs/shrimp had come out of the Gulf about 30 minutes prior to eating. Food is absolutely one of the places where wedding companies get you. They'll start you off with a "reasonable" $50 per plate meal and by the time they've filled your empty loving head with just how elegant serving a fuckload of strangers duck bits for only an extra $30/person and getting the real silverware for only $12/person and and and and then you end up with $250 a person. tl;dr serve Chipotle at your wedding. gently caress's sake, serve Taco Bell at your wedding rather than pay what wedding companies and caterers will ask.
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pentyne posted:The deaf community especially regarding CI is like the disability community's equivalent of YA Twitter. It's a conversational hotspot, but it seems to me that the parent who is raising her Deaf children with sign did a lot more to accommodate the other kid than did the mother who is raising her child speech-only.
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Any venue that says that you must serve their food is absolutely going to gently caress you hard and give you substandard food for the price you end up paying per plate.
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I guess my autism spectrum disorder is showing here, but why the gently caress didn't Boston marriage lady just immediately phone her friend and ask to bring Betty as a plus one when she got the invitation? If it was a mistake it would have been immediately corrected, and if it was a snub, the bride would have to either own up to it or back down.
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