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ponzicar posted:I guess my autism spectrum disorder is showing here, but why the gently caress didn't Boston marriage lady just immediately phone her friend and ask to bring Betty as a plus one when she got the invitation? If it was a mistake it would have been immediately corrected, and if it was a snub, the bride would have to either own up to it or back down. Because that would involve clear communication. Can’t have that!
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I thought kids only got darker eyes/hair as they got older? Like it’s common for a baby to be blonde and blue-eyed, and then grow into hazel eyes and brown hair, but I’ve never heard of it going the other way. Not at all, it changes as they grow. I started with light brown hair and bright green eyes to strawberry, bright blonde with hazel eyes to dark blonde/brown hair as I aged. My eyes are still hazel but sometimes look green if I wear certain colors. People change as they age, it's not that weird. And it's super weird for the dude with double recessive traits to be mad that his kid doesn't have them unless he's a real dumbass.
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May 4, 2021 21:12
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Arsenic Lupin posted:It's a conversational hotspot, but it seems to me that the parent who is raising her Deaf children with sign did a lot more to accommodate the other kid than did the mother who is raising her child speech-only. Yeah I really didn't expect that story to play out the way it did, I assumed the OP was going to be judgmental of the kid with the implant but nope.
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May 4, 2021 21:13
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pentyne posted:The deaf community especially regarding CI is like the disability community's equivalent of YA Twitter. What is YA twitter? I'm not familiar with it as a member of the disability community.
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May 4, 2021 21:16
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pentyne posted:The deaf community especially regarding CI is like the disability community's equivalent of YA Twitter. Yikes!
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May 4, 2021 21:17
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There Bias Two posted:What is YA twitter? I'm not familiar with it as a member of the disability community. Young Adult (literature) twitter, which really is the too-woke cancel culture Republicans accuse everyone on the left of being these days
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Really? Did not know. The blue of my eyes has faded a bit, or maybe it's just that they no longer contrast with the dark hair. Er, that was poorly phrased. Your eyes can get lighter when your hair does, which might make brown eyes turn amber or hazel eyes turn green. If you already have blue eyes and they get lighter, they'll trend towards ice blue or grey. Eye color is super weird. E: MAKE NO BABBYS posted:Not at all, it changes as they grow. I started with light brown hair and bright green eyes to strawberry, bright blonde with hazel eyes to dark blonde/brown hair as I aged. My eyes are still hazel but sometimes look green if I wear certain colors. People change as they age, it's not that weird. And it's super weird for the dude with double recessive traits to be mad that his kid doesn't have them unless he's a real dumbass. That's fair; I genuinely hadn't heard of anyone go from brown to blonde and I spent a whole minute googling it with no conclusive results. Now I have! Zulily Zoetrope fucked around with this message at 21:22 on May 4, 2021 |
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:Not at all, it changes as they grow. I started with light brown hair and bright green eyes to strawberry, bright blonde with hazel eyes to dark blonde/brown hair as I aged. My eyes are still hazel but sometimes look green if I wear certain colors. People change as they age, it's not that weird. And it's super weird for the dude with double recessive traits to be mad that his kid doesn't have them unless he's a real dumbass. I was at a party once during college and talking to someone about the recessive nature of red hair and this ginger overheard and took it as a personal insult, like I was threatening extinction upon his kind and he really wanted to fight me about it.
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Two close friends of mine got married a number of years ago and had chipotle at their wedding. It was good and I enjoyed it more than most other wedding meals I can remember.
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May 4, 2021 21:27
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There Bias Two posted:What is YA twitter? I'm not familiar with it as a member of the disability community. Its a toxic cesspool of a mix or all of the following - dragging authors for not being woke or progressive enough - trying to cancel authors for the same - trying to cancel authors while promoting your own books as better alternatives - flipping the gently caress out over a 10 word out of context description of a short story - dismissing any cis white person as not being allowed to have an opinion (you'd think it would be specific to race/trans issues, but no, blanket ban) - doxxing and harassing fanfiction writers for writing adult content, which will include minors as targets - doxxing and harassing in general for all of the above It makes the most extreme Tumblr communities step back and say they don't want to be a part of such an unhealthy environment. Notable things like "I identify as an attack helicopter" a tech dystopia short story where the trans author was harassed to the point of a breakdown, and then later people attacked anyone associated with the previous attack accusing them of outing trans people because the editor initially replied "the author is trans" when it started.
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May 4, 2021 21:31
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kntfkr posted:I was at a party once during college and talking to someone about the recessive nature of red hair and this ginger overheard and took it as a personal insult, like I was threatening extinction upon his kind and he really wanted to fight me about it. There was an infamous article about 15 years ago that really made the rounds that was saying that red-heads were going extinct because of their recessive genes. In addition to being a very poor understanding of Mendelevian genetics, the study was also an early example of viral marketing in that it was sponsored by Revlon to try and sell hair products.
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kntfkr posted:I was at a party once during college and talking to someone about the recessive nature of red hair and this ginger overheard and took it as a personal insult, like I was threatening extinction upon his kind and he really wanted to fight me about it. What an utter turd. My dad has bright blue eyes and red hair runs on both sides of the fam, so I assume that's why mine gets reddish in the sun/was strawberry when I was a kid. Double recessive genes are something I learned in like fourth grade with the little four box/square diagram. Especially when you're the rarity that's affected by it, how would you not understand how it works?! It's rare to have an entire family where every single one is a ginger, did you just assume it was the milkman's kid or something?
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May 4, 2021 21:40
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pentyne posted:The deaf community especially regarding CI is like the disability community's equivalent of YA Twitter. While I think that's a pretty terrible and insulting comparison, it is (or was, at least, I haven't really kept up with things) a live wire topic where the loudest people on every "side" (both for and against the implants) are pretty horrible and sort of set the tone. I don't understand how someone can be stridently anti-ASL in this day and age though, where even many hearing parents are teaching their children at least basic ASL because of the cognitive benefits it provides to be not just bilingual but to be bilingual in languages that are so different from each other, and CI-mom definitely comes across as the bad guy in this story.
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Nothing of the sort. I wasn't even talking to the kid. It was like at a punk rock kinda house (this was in New Brunswick/ Rutgers) and I had on a polo shirt so I guess I looked preppy and this guy was really drunk and aggro. He later got his rear end roughed up and thrown out for trying to start a fight with someone else and he accidentally elbowed a girl in the face while gesturing wildly.
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May 4, 2021 21:58
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pentyne posted:Its a toxic cesspool of a mix or all of the following Man. Remember the time YA twitter pitched a fit because a college student petitioned her college to remove a YA novel from their selected reading list and instead nominate a novel written for adults? The author of the YA book went on a pissy little rant about how it was misogynistic, even though the student who made the selection was a woman (and a BIPOC to boot). The author was sort of well-known so a bunch of toadies and wannabes were like "yaasss go off queen (gif of a black woman snapping her fingers)".
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GlyphGryph posted:While I think that's a pretty terrible and insulting comparison, it is (or was, at least, I haven't really kept up with things) a live wire topic where the loudest people on every "side" (both for and against the implants) are pretty horrible and sort of set the tone. Plus not every deaf person is a proper candidate for an implant, for reasons well beyond the scope of this thread. Though the arguments behind anti-implant activism feel almost literally like a cult, outright stating that being a part of their community is more important than being able to easily function in society at large. A bunch of pages back, someone relayed a story of someone who got themselves an implant and were promptly shunned by their Deaf family members, claiming that that wasn't at all unusual. It'll be fun when Neuralink (or someone) develops something that plugs directly into the brain.
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kntfkr posted:I was at a party once during college and talking to someone about the recessive nature of red hair and this ginger overheard and took it as a personal insult, like I was threatening extinction upon his kind and he really wanted to fight me about it. fuckin gingers, man, this is why we're getting rid of them
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Cockmaster posted:Plus not every deaf person is a proper candidate for an implant, for reasons well beyond the scope of this thread.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:fuckin gingers I wish.
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Have some obnoxious siblings: WIBTA if I didn't visit my dad because my brother is there? quote:I (17f) have half brother (16m) who lives with our dad and I visit them every year. AITA for telling my sister that money can't buy her a soul? quote:My (32M) father (63M) isn't reliable to tale care of himself anymore, and so we decided as a family that it would be best if he moved in with a family member to ensure that he was being cared for. My sister (38F) refused to, on the grounds that she's still upset over the fact that, when she was younger, pur father didn't have enough money to put her through the college that she wanted to go to because he was paying for his mother's medical bills because his father couldn't afford it, and she still holds a grudge over that.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:OP alluded to this in the comments, saying that she wasn't going to discuss her child's medical history. The irrational actors on either side of the issue basically insist their opponents are committing child abuse and causing lifelong harm. When that's the baseline for argument, it's always going to bring out the worst in people. The biggest thing about it is the people who maintain its a matter of "deaf culture", which is its own massive issue to pick apart.
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May 4, 2021 22:33
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SneezeOfTheDecade posted:AITA for Not Allowing my Daughters to Have a Playdate with a Girl who Has a Cochlear Implant? Oh nice, I finally get to see a story here that I have personal experience with! I say this as a profoundly deaf person with a cochlear implant and remedial sign language skills: The mother of the girl with a cochlear implant is 100% the rear end in a top hat here. Community, connections and culture are very difficult to make up for later in life and her daughter will probably regret shunning that part of her identity in her childhood. I always felt like I was in limbo between two life experiences, I wish I would have had some deaf friends with similar/shared experiences growing up.
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pentyne posted:Notable things like "I identify as an attack helicopter" a tech dystopia short story where the trans author was harassed to the point of a breakdown, and then later people attacked anyone associated with the previous attack accusing them of outing trans people because the editor initially replied "the author is trans" when it started. Hold up. Are you telling me there's a trans story about someone getting cyberpunked into becoming an attack helicopter, and hopefully proceeding to strafe the gently caress out a motorcade of TERFs? That sounds incredible.
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Bug Squash posted:Hold up. yes, it's by isabel fall, and she was harassed hard enough to be driven to have the magazine it was published in retract it it's not bad, if you can find it
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Cockmaster posted:Plus not every deaf person is a proper candidate for an implant, for reasons well beyond the scope of this thread. I don't mind explaining, it's interesting! So there are different types of deafness and cochlear implants are used specifically when the hair cells in the cochlear bone are damaged. Other types of deafness are caused by a structural defect between the auditory nerve and the outer ear or damage to the auditory nerve itself. Before I got mine I had to have numerous tests and an MRI scan so they knew it wasn't a waste of time or money. 
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oh jay posted:Do these sound like the actions of a man who had all he could eat? what?
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Bug Squash posted:Hold up. Not exactly. It's a sci-fi story about a future in which gender has become fully understood, commodified, subjected to artificial manipulation, and exploited by the military. There's an archived copy here; the original was pulled after the controversy and googling it just invites a firestorm of really bad takes.
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oh jay posted:Do these sound like the actions of a man who had all he could eat? yikes! posted:what? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CqT-AvswCZo
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SneezeOfTheDecade posted:AITA for Not Allowing my Daughters to Have a Playdate with a Girl who Has a Cochlear Implant? As a person who uses has used a cochlear implant from the age of five, gently caress NO you are NOT the rear end in a top hat. I used to be able to sign fluently, but once I got the implant I've forgotten it except how to ask where the restroom is and that's about it- I never learned ASL, either, mine was Signed English. The CI-having kid parent is dicks of the highest order for trying to force your kid to talk, and you would be well within your rights to hit them with a chair. Xachariah posted:I don't mind explaining, it's interesting! Malachite_Dragon fucked around with this message at 00:40 on May 5, 2021 |
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AITA for not helping my ex after he left our business?quote:I (F29) met my ex B (M29) college and started a business right after our senior year. Our relationship often got toxic, but I think being business partners kept us together. UPDATE: AITA for not helping my ex after he left our business? quote:It’s been some time since I posted this, but I wanted to thank all of you for steering me in a clear direction. The volume of responses was overwhelming and I’m sorry for not getting back to all of you!
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I thought kids only got darker eyes/hair as they got older? Like it’s common for a baby to be blonde and blue-eyed, and then grow into hazel eyes and brown hair, but I’ve never heard of it going the other way. My niece started out with a head of jet black hair like mine and then it turned blonde like her dad. I was a bit bummed to not get to rub it in his face but hey.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not helping my ex after he left our business? Real big "pay me for my sandwich recipe" energy from the ex.
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pentyne posted:Real big "pay me for my sandwich recipe" energy from the ex. god, i miss that story
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Malachite_Dragon posted:All true! The hair cell damage is exactly the type of deafness I have also, so I was basically fast-tracked for getting it. It doesn't always work even if you do have the right 'kind' of deafness, though, but it has gotten better from when I was a kid. I only got the right ear implanted, it's standard nowadays to do both, I'm told. Oh hey, I only have the right ear implanted too! Here in the UK it's not standard to implant on both ears unless it's considered necessary due to the extra cost, I think the patient being very young or vision impaired makes you eligible. I don't think I'd want to be bilateral personally, would be a whole other device and batteries to have to worry about. Besides music doesn't sound as good unless I wear my normal hearing aid in my other ear. Yeah I was warned that it might not be effective due to being implanted in an ear which hasn't had much use for a long time, since sometimes the auditory nerve doesn't know how to process the signals anymore, thankfully it worked out very well for me.
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DAD LOST MY IPOD posted:god, i miss that story I personally believe that the preplanned ketchup sales pitch skit is the best relationships post of all time. "This factory ketchup is boring and weak. Where's the real tomato flavor??" *throws darts at picture of a Heinz 57 ketchup bottle* "I'm coming for YOU!"
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My girlfriend (28F) doesn’t thinks she’s good enough for me (20M), what can I do to make her feel less insecure?quote:Exactly as the title says. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months and I really love her but she’s always had an insecurity of thinking she isn’t good enough for me. Please excuse the lovely formatting, I’m on mobile. tldr at bottom.
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DAD LOST MY IPOD posted:god, i miss that story I still want to try that sandwich.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My girlfriend (28F) doesn’t thinks she’s good enough for me (20M), what can I do to make her feel less insecure? Man I've heard of a lot of excuses from alcoholics but "you're too good of a BF" is a new one. Also, no one pounding drinks like that a couple dozen or so times is ever a "recent" problem they just no longer feel the need to hide their drinking.
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