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The age gap becomes more concerning when it's part of the combo of age gap, signs of unaddressed trauma, and her financial dependence on him. Like 24-32 isn't much of an age gap if they were both fully independent adults to start with but it doesn't sound like that's the deal. edit: speaking of age gaps, here's another!! My (f24) husband (m30) threw away all of my bras and replaced them with ones I don't like. quote:My husband and I have been together for 3 years total. We got married this last May. We have a normal marriage unlike me he has a high sex drive and pays too much attentions to little details. Being in the mood is not enough for him to initiate. He has certain images or ideas of how everythibg should be.
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Colleagues passively-aggressively unfriending me (24M) on Facebook?[new] (self.relationships)quote:It's safe to say, the last year has been a rather tough time for me. My family life and resulting anxiety has torn me to shreds, and I've had to take very large amounts of time out. I've basically only been able to half do my job, because of everything that's gone on and the fact I have other people to look after who depend on me, and it's all been a very difficult juggling act. comments posted:They are being professional. They are required to be civil to coworkers, but they are not required to interact with them on social media. OP posted:They are required to pretend they don't really dislike me. How can I work in this environment knowing they not only don't like me, but actively talk smack about me behind my back??
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:15 |
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Brawnfire posted:I remember stopping off at a friend's apartment to like, smoke weed and play geometry wars or some poo poo, on the way home from a restaurant. We had a big fancy pizza and so we put the leftover slices in our friend's fridge for the couple hours we'd be over there. Are you sure the roommate wasn't a dog, this story makes a lot more sense in that case. What a fucker.
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:21 |
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How do I get my sister's boyfriend to understand that he is taking his self-depreciating jokes too far?[new] (self.relationships)quote:My sister (20f)'s boyfriend (20m?) frequently will make joking remarks about how he is trash, or other casually self-depreciating humor, which as a one-off remark might be fine, but then when she responds how most people would - casually disagreeing and saying something like "to me you are not" - he will go into full-on debate mode every time and it turns into like a 10 minute conversation/argument where he will twist her words on her, use little phrasing flaws in bad faith, and talk over her. It doesn't devolve into shouting, but it does get very heated, and it seems to me like my sister gets upset and he will be blind to that because he is so thrilled to be right in his little pity-party, but I've been wrong before. https://twitter.com/punishedsk8er/status/1410378647794376708
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ghost emoji posted:Colleagues passively-aggressively unfriending me (24M) on Facebook?[new] (self.relationships)
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:23 |
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Stop saying passive aggressive
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:27 |
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AKA Pseudonym posted:I just need to know what makes some people believe they have a right to any food they have access to. Is it a cultural thing? Yes, this belief is very normal in Hugepieceofshitistan. But seriously, no, of course not. It never comes up as an element in any of the food thief stories. While food thieves will usually try to darvo, there hasn't been one posted I can remember where one of them said "muh culture" to justify stealing food from the break room. Kenshin posted:what are the chances that this person has gross political opinions that they post about on facebook? Given the fact they are on facebook in 2021, 100%. Who the gently caress is still on facebook? Even if you are some chud selling mlm stuff, why would you add people from your office? ghost emoji posted:How do I get my sister's boyfriend to understand that he is taking his self-depreciating jokes too far?[new] (self.relationships) Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 21:34 on Sep 13, 2021 |
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ghost emoji posted:How do I get my sister's boyfriend to understand that he is taking his self-depreciating jokes too far?[new] (self.relationships) I used to try to do that. In my head I was Rodney Dangerfield while in reality it was much more Eeyore. And not good Eeyore, more like those comic strips where Pooh is a random jackass to him for no reason.
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:33 |
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champagne posting posted:I need to know how this weirdness is ever combined with deathly allergies. "Oh yeah I will die if I look funny at asparagus" proceeds to eat whatever The amazing thing is that it would never be someone who’s like 17 where I could understand it as you not being used to not having your parents doing all the due diligence. No, the person would inevitably be mid to late 20’s and presumably have just gotten away with pure blind luck. (yes, some of them may have been over-emphasizing their allergies or straight up lying but it happened often enough that at least some of them had to have been real)
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:41 |
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ghost emoji posted:Colleagues passively-aggressively unfriending me (24M) on Facebook?[new] (self.relationships) Why in god's name would you want to RESIGN over this And then have to be convinced by your boss not to?!
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:43 |
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Tales from the gym. AITA for not paying my fitness trainer? quote:I borrowed my friend's reddit as a throwaway just in case. AITA for asking my personal trainer to give me a discount? quote:I (26F) am a full-time content creator (or as other people like to call it, influencer). I’ve been very lucky to have had a few of my videos go viral and grew an Instagram following in the 6 figures range; many of my followers are located in the general area I live in. With the following I have, I am able to make an income from doing brand partnerships and sponsored posts.
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 21:49 |
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MagusofStars posted:Having worked in restaurants, I’m not really surprised. Every few months, we’d have someone not even bother to ask about allergens then be shocked (and sometimes angry) when the food showed up and it has peanuts or whatever clearly visible on the plate. What I tended to run into in restaurants was unannounced flair. Like you order a basic side salad and it turns out this place puts chopped walnuts on it and you're just supposed to know that that's their style. These days most places are better about listing that stuff on menus than they used to be, at least for the common allergens, but occasionally you get stuff people take for granted and don't mention even when asked.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Tales from the gym. Lol @ both
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Carolyn Hax: Less-favored daughter fears her baby will be ‘second-banana’ grandchildSecond Banana posted:Dear Carolyn: My husband and I are expecting our first child after trying for a long time. I thought my parents would be thrilled for us, especially knowing it was a struggle. But this whole thing has been very much … their third grandchild. Carolyn Hax posted:Second Banana: Is there any reason you’re still in close contact with your parents, having ample evidence they will always and forever treat you as the lesser child? You’re still chasing a sister-level dose of their approval, still, and at risk of chasing forever unless you work on not needing it. Readers posted:Readers’ thoughts:
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 22:09 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:Carolyn Hax: Less-favored daughter fears her baby will be ‘second-banana’ grandchild Good advice, even if it is not going to be particularly easy to internalize or put into practice. I think the older generation of advice columnists would've told her to suck it up or grovel more
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ghost emoji posted:Colleagues passively-aggressively unfriending me (24M) on Facebook?[new] (self.relationships) It's that Black Mirror social media episode, but entirely self inflicted.
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MagusofStars posted:Having worked in restaurants, I’m not really surprised. Every few months, we’d have someone not even bother to ask about allergens then be shocked (and sometimes angry) when the food showed up and it has peanuts or whatever clearly visible on the plate. I once went to a Greek restaurant where a couple came in and the one guy was reaming out the wait staff for not warning them about the celery in the food because they were allergic. AFAIK, celery is pretty common in Greek food and frankly I've never heard of a celery allergy. Though, who knows, some people are allergic to water.
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champagne posting posted:I need to know how this weirdness is ever combined with deathly allergies. "Oh yeah I will die if I look funny at asparagus" proceeds to eat whatever I used to give my mom extra baked goods to share at work. I used a lot of weird poo poo and a lot of nuts, so I made sure she knew what unusual ingredients or potential allergens were in them. One day she's offering some to a new coworker and tells him "hey, if you have any food allergies, just let me know; my kid bakes a lot of weird poo poo and I have the ingredients at my desk." He responds "oh, I've got food allergies but they're really weird and nothing you need to worry about." 30 minutes later, of course, he's having an allergic reaction. A mild one, thankfully, but one that could have been avoided if not for blindly consuming free exotic pastries. Undeterred, he took some home because he liked them so much. I'm still mystified that he had survived to middle age.
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vonnegutt posted:The age gap becomes more concerning when it's part of the combo of age gap, signs of unaddressed trauma, and her financial dependence on him. Like 24-32 isn't much of an age gap if they were both fully independent adults to start with but it doesn't sound like that's the deal. So that's what happens when a sex doll gains sentience. (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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Tarkus posted:I once went to a Greek restaurant where a couple came in and the one guy was reaming out the wait staff for not warning them about the celery in the food because they were allergic. AFAIK, celery is pretty common in Greek food and frankly I've never heard of a celery allergy. Though, who knows, some people are allergic to water.
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Molten Llama posted:I used to give my mom extra baked goods to share at work. I used a lot of weird poo poo and a lot of nuts, so I made sure she knew what unusual ingredients or potential allergens were in them. My wife's friend is allergic to seafood but she likes it so much that she just takes antihistamines so that she doesn't swell up too bad. That's dedication.
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Luigi's Discount Porn Bin posted:It's not super uncommon! The EU has a list of 14 allergens that have to be flagged on every product containing them, and celery is on there. Ah, well, ya learn something every day. Though, as I recall, the dude was yelling at the waiter 'What kind of Greek restaurant has celery in their food?!?!'
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 23:09 |
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Celery has to be on the list with onion, garlic, and dairy (like a casein allergy that won't even let you eat butter rather than lactose intolerance) for allergies that you should just abandon eating in restaurants for. They're in everything and often not recognizable.
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I know someone with really bad celiacs, really dangerous allergy to eggs, and has lactose intolerance lol. She lost the genetics roll
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vonnegutt posted:The age gap becomes more concerning when it's part of the combo of age gap, signs of unaddressed trauma, and her financial dependence on him. Like 24-32 isn't much of an age gap if they were both fully independent adults to start with but it doesn't sound like that's the deal. Ah yes, that traditional r/relationship "sweet gesture" where I destroy all your poo poo and replace it with poo poo you can't use. I always wonder if the delusional "gifter" actually expects on any level for the person to be appreciative, or whether it's explicitly a double-layer punishment where they expect to be able to do something mean to the recipient and then scold them as well.
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AITA for taking an annoying ongoing joke leading up to my wedding too seriously?quote:So my wedding was on Saturday. My husband is still a little frustrated with me for how I handled a joke between him and his family and friends, and I'm still a little frustrated that he doesn't see how rude the joke was and didn't step up on my behalf when it was clear it was bothering me.
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AITA For Calling My Husband A Helicopter Dad After What He's Done? (self.AmItheAsshole)quote:I'm a STAHM and my husband is a Police detective in our local Police Department. We have a 16 year old daughter "Hannah"
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ghost emoji posted:AITA For Calling My Husband A Helicopter Dad After What He's Done? (self.AmItheAsshole) YTA for marrying a cop
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 23:43 |
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I want to know what the disagreement was about
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# ? Sep 13, 2021 23:51 |
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I mean it must have obviously come through in his tone and follow-up comments. Pretty much 100% this. The correct way to say that in respect to your wife would be with extreme horny Gomez Addams energy, and this dumbfuck definitely sneered it instead.
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Tarkus posted:My wife's friend is allergic to seafood but she likes it so much that she just takes antihistamines so that she doesn't swell up too bad. That's dedication.
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ghost emoji posted:AITA For Calling My Husband A Helicopter Dad After What He's Done? (self.AmItheAsshole) there's a reason why cops have a super high divorce rate
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Yeah I was going to say, celery is actually a relatively common allergy! I love celery and would be sad if I was allergic. I did discover I was very allergic to buckwheat a few years ago, which has been really goddamn annoying. The vast majority of people don't know what buckwheat is, and if I order food out, people assume it has something to do with wheat so I get their gluten free talk-track. It would be rare except for the ~ancient grains~ hipster thing, and it's common in gluten free baked goods and leads to cross contamination.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:in college I kept film developer in a communal fridge in a milk jug painted black with a big skull and crossbones on it. The same two guys would constantly keep trying the jug in the hopes that this time it would contain goth milk or something, and get mad when it didn't. Goth Milk, obtained in the darkest recesses of barn corners by the saddest, most calcium deficient goths
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A cow with black nail polish on its hooves
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Bauhaus playing non-stop at volume in the milking shed for white on white translucent black milk.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for refusing to pay for my friend's EpiPen? quote:Edit/update: So I visited Jilian in the hospital today and she apologized to me for what happened. It was an accident. She said she didn't eat my kare-kare but took some rice. She didn't realize that some sauce got on the rice bowl, so there was clearly a cross contamination. It wasn't her who went in my room, it was Trish and another housemate, Ian. I will be charging them for the stolen beer and food. I do like that the person who ended up in hospital is so much more understanding than the people trying to force OP into paying for her epi-pen! Good on OP for charging them for the beer and food.
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Evil Willow posted:I do like that the person who ended up in hospital is so much more understanding than the people trying to force OP into paying for her epi-pen! Good on OP for charging them for the beer and food. I assume they are worried the roommate in the hospital will blame for poisoning her, which it sounds like they did, so they were trying to deflect blame on the OP in a vain attempt to get the OP to take responsibility and clear them of all guilt.
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The_Franz posted:there's a reason why cops have a super high divorce rate And it would be higher if they didn't abuse plenty of people into being too scared to leave.
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