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CloFan posted:Baby girl is doing good. We've been staying in this tiny NICU room for almost a week now, it's hell on our bodies and schedules but I'm glad we've got nurses here all the time for any help we may need. That's great! Hope she gets to come home soon.
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Shout-out to my wife's OBGYN who called at 4:55 and left a voicemail asking my wife to "call back to discuss your non-invasive prenatal testing results, but don't call back until tomorrow because we're closing for the night OK byeeeeeeeeeee". I tried to tell her that if it was important/bad they would have called earlier to get her on the phone, and that this was probably just someone phoning it in at the end of the workday, but ugh there goes our evening  13 weeks along, if anyone has been in a similar situation.
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Sep 9, 2021 23:22
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That's rough. Did they say when she got the test that they'd only call with bad news or call either way? Mine was like, if it's good news I'll send you a MyChart message, if it's bad I'll call.
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Sep 9, 2021 23:36
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It would be really cruel of them to do that if there was something wrong, I’m guessing everything is fine and they didn’t realize that it’s a dick move to leave a voice Mail like that. In their mind they may have thought they hat to leave some kind of voice Mail since your phone would show a missed call, but since they can’t leave info they just said that and called it a day, not recognizing that people are always anxious about test results, even though it’s something they deal with every day.
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Sep 9, 2021 23:54
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Emily Spinach posted:That's rough. Did they say when she got the test that they'd only call with bad news or call either way? Mine was like, if it's good news I'll send you a MyChart message, if it's bad I'll call. Not that I'm aware of, but my wife is convinced that doctors only call when it's bad news. I asked my sister who gave birth to her first kid about her experience and she echoed some of my reasoning; they always call because they want to explain everything instead of just sending you a MyChart to interpret on your own, if it was bad they would have called earlier in the day etc. Hearing from my sister calmed my wife down a little. E: Koivunen posted:It would be really cruel of them to do that if there was something wrong, I’m guessing everything is fine and they didn’t realize that it’s a dick move to leave a voice Mail like that. In their mind they may have thought they hat to leave some kind of voice Mail since your phone would show a missed call, but since they can’t leave info they just said that and called it a day, not recognizing that people are always anxious about test results, even though it’s something they deal with every day. I had a similar thought in that it's probably a legal no-no to leave medical information in a voicemail, even if the results are totally normal. I'm on the side that everything is fine, or at least I'm choosing to believe that everything's fine, but yuck. Not fun. C-Euro fucked around with this message at 00:03 on Sep 10, 2021 |
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Sep 9, 2021 23:58
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Yeah, I wouldn't expect them to do that with bad news and you're not supposed to leave info in a voicemail. I think unless they specifically said they'd only call if the results are abnormal (I had pretest counseling where they went over the possible results ahead of time so there wasn't anything to discuss with normal results) then it's probably just someone not thinking through the optics, like a friend whose new HR person scheduled a one-on-one meeting at like 5pm on a Friday without giving a meeting topic.
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Sep 10, 2021 01:10
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C-Euro posted:Shout-out to my wife's OBGYN who called at 4:55 and left a voicemail asking my wife to "call back to discuss your non-invasive prenatal testing results, but don't call back until tomorrow because we're closing for the night OK byeeeeeeeeeee". I tried to tell her that if it was important/bad they would have called earlier to get her on the phone, and that this was probably just someone phoning it in at the end of the workday, but ugh there goes our evening This happened to me as well, they literally called just before they shut and I missed the call. Called back first thing in the morning and they just wanted to explain that everything was low risk and ask me if I wanted the gender (despite telling them we wanted to know and I was happy for it to be left in a message). And then I was told, in the broadest Queensland (I think) accent I have ever heard, that I was having a daawwdaaahhh
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Sep 10, 2021 01:24
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Oooof. This is why If I call with normal lab results and have to leave a message I’ll say “Hi, it’s Dr ___ and I have good news for you from your labs. Give me a call back and we can go over them.”
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Sep 10, 2021 01:32
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C-Euro posted:Shout-out to my wife's OBGYN who called at 4:55 and left a voicemail asking my wife to "call back to discuss your non-invasive prenatal testing results, but don't call back until tomorrow because we're closing for the night OK byeeeeeeeeeee". I tried to tell her that if it was important/bad they would have called earlier to get her on the phone, and that this was probably just someone phoning it in at the end of the workday, but ugh there goes our evening I got a similar call for my NIPT with the vague voicemail. Turns out my results were just inconclusive because being fat and pregnant is associated with a high rate of test failure.
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Sep 10, 2021 02:39
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After two more rounds of phone tag we finally got a hold of her and everything's fine lol. Thanks everybody.
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Sep 10, 2021 17:59
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glad to hear it!
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Sep 10, 2021 19:36
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Just checking in to say that if you have a bad enough result on blood work then sometimes your doctor's office will continue to hammer call you after closing until you finally notice that your phone was on silent (I'm type 1 diabetic. My blood sugar was low. They thought I was going to have a seizure and die in a ditch. I had already eaten a snack and was fine. But seeing all those missed calls was definitely terrifying especially when pregnant)
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Sep 11, 2021 04:35
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Apparently I'm GBS positive. Knew I should have stuck to PYF.
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Sep 13, 2021 20:29
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El Mero Mero posted:Does this thread double as the IVF/fertility questions thread? We're at about the 8 month mark and feeling pretty demoralized/starting to get ready to do research into fertility treatments and diagnoses. PLEASE talk to a reproductive endocrinologist. After 3 awful years of trying I saw a regular OB/GYN who did the standard hormone panel, transvaginal ultrasound, HSG, and semen analysis of my partner. She put me on 3 rounds of clomid unsupervised, which failed. I got a referral to a proper RE and was told I couldn't do any more clomid cycles as I was having visual disturbances at 100 and 150mg. First doc didn't warn me about that nor about ovarian hyperstimulation! Or the constipation! As was mentioned previously, sometimes simply having a hysterosalpingography (HSG) can flush out the tubes and result in an immediate pregnancy. Dealing with infertility has been absolutely soul-crushing and I am sorry that you are going through it, too. I'm starting the IVF process next month and can share a cost breakdown/actual process if anybody is interested, as that getting knocked up thread seems kinda dead.
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Sep 13, 2021 21:14
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We are home from NICU!  
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Sep 13, 2021 22:56
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Well, yesterday evening while trying and failing to shave my cat's butt, I ended up breaking my water. Very Niagara Falls ish. Three and a half hours of labor, three hours of pushing, one pair of forceps, and a 3A tear later, baby girl was born at 603 this morning. So far she's a champion self soother and sort of understands what my nipples are for. A little. Sometimes.
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Sep 22, 2021 18:08
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Aww, congratulations!! She'll get better at nipples eventually, enjoy your cute little lump! Also, every time you tell your birth story please start with "I was trying to shave my cat's butt" 
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Sep 22, 2021 18:32
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Congratulations Emily Spinach!! A friend of mine also experienced the forceps during her birth experience, her son had a little Harry Potter scratch on his forehead that healed up just fine (and physical therapy really helped her post-partum recovery as well). I hope you and your sweet little baby are doing well!!
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Sep 22, 2021 18:47
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My Shark Waifuu posted:Aww, congratulations!! She'll get better at nipples eventually, enjoy your cute little lump! I pretty much have to for the rest of her life. And thanks y'all! She's just got a couple of red marks from the forceps but honestly handled them pretty well.
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Congrats Emily Spinach! I really recommend seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist after a forceps birth - both my kids had to be yanked out, but only after the second one did anyone tell me how much your pelvic floor will be affected and the risk of prolapse goes way up after forceps. My physio was amazing and the exercises made a big difference.
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Sep 24, 2021 09:58
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Thanks! Definitely going to have to ask for the referral for PT, thanks for the reminder. At least I have yet to piss myself, but I worry that "yet" is doing a lot of work there.
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Sep 24, 2021 10:50
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Be careful about sneezing with a completely full bladder.
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Sep 24, 2021 11:12
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Alterian posted:Pregnancy Megathread II: Be careful about sneezing with a completely full bladder.
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So I'm pregnant again after two miscarriages, I've made it farther along this time than either of those so I'm trying to be hopeful but not too hopeful. My major gripe is that my husband shot a deer two weeks ago, so we have a freezer absolutely stuffed with incredible venison. And I am absolutely repulsed by even the concept of eating red meat right now. When I had my son I had virtually no nausea, but now it's like "oooh you glanced at an amazing roast dinner that you saved on Pinterest two months ago? Better go throw up!" Thankfully I also love a lot of vegetarian cooking, and chicken doesn't seem to be setting me off as hard, but god drat. There's 40 pounds of goddamn deer in my freezer and I can't even look at it.
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Sep 24, 2021 13:04
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Tamarillo posted:Food aversions are wild. I didn't have them at all last pregnancy and this time I had strong aversions that changed on a day to day basis and I couldnt anticipate if I could eat something until I saw the finished product in front of me. So so so expensive, packed lunches and leftovers were a strong no for the entire period. It's been my experience after five kids that little ones don't fully grasp the idea that there's a tiny human in there and they are more rejecting the *concept* than the actual person. Most of the time once they actually see said tiny human they are very pleased. Until the tiny human cries a lot for the first time but that's another hurdle you don't need to be too worried about right now 🤣
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Stairs posted:It's been my experience after five kids that little ones don't fully grasp the idea that there's a tiny human in there and they are more rejecting the *concept* than the actual person. Most of the time once they actually see said tiny human they are very pleased. Until the tiny human cries a lot for the first time but that's another hurdle you don't need to be too worried about right now 🤣 Echoing this. My two year old maybe sort of understood that a baby was coming to live with us, and when we brought the baby home for the first time she said THAT’S MY BABY BROTHER! We read a few big sister books to get get used to the idea and I think it helped. She also held her baby doll by her belly and said MY BABY IS IN MY BELLY so I think there was some level of understanding. She was great for the first week, extremely jealous for the second, and the jealousy has gradually been going away at three months. Just in the past few weeks she has been so much better with him. But every sibling relationship is different, ymmv.
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Two days till our twenty week scan - wife is showing and I’m super nervous - none of this feels right to me and I don’t feel ready at all 
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Oh man that one is great, you can see the brain and spine, eye sockets and starts to look like an actual human. That's when it got real for me. It's very cool Fun fact, humans and giraffe (and 99% of all mammals) have the same number of vertebrate, giraffes just gave really elongated vertebrae. All the vertebrate you see in that session are all the vertebrate your kid will ever have. They don't like, grow more vertebrae as they get taller If it's a girl they'll also check the ovaries for eggs, which is pretty cool, you're effectively seeing your (potential) grandchildren for the first time as well (  )
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Manwithastick posted:Two days till our twenty week scan - wife is showing and I’m super nervous - none of this feels right to me and I don’t feel ready at all No one is ready, not really. It’s normal to feel this way. Also normal to feel like this postnatally. It will be okay.
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Manwithastick posted:Two days till our twenty week scan - wife is showing and I’m super nervous - none of this feels right to me and I don’t feel ready at all Do be kind to her though. My first pregnancy, my husband responded to me starting to show by withdrawing all physical affection beyond a hug if I was lucky. Not great for the emotional health there. This time round I've got a low lying placenta so we have to be careful anyway, and I care less because I know the pregnancy will be over before I know it and he's a great dad when the baby is actually born. But the first time round can really seem like forever and that's doubly hard when your partner puts you at arms length because they're a bit confronted by the rapidly changing reality of the situation. Tamarillo fucked around with this message at 02:53 on Sep 29, 2021 |
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Unusual question time. Crossposting here because this thread seems considerably more active than the Getting Knocked Up thread, and I would guess that some people here maybe can help. Any thoughts would be appreciated!Squibsy posted:I have a question and I guess this is the best place for it. Edit: I suppose I should clarify that this is all 'just in case' - I do not have any current plans to start a family and therefore I don't have any sense of what future family goals would look like. There are so many variables in how such a thing might come about that it doesn't feel worth torturing myself trying to think of them. So I guess my question is: as an 'in case' store for unknowable future scenarios, does 19 ampules seem like enough? Squibsy fucked around with this message at 08:52 on Oct 11, 2021 |
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Oct 11, 2021 08:47
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19 is a lot unless 1) abnormally low sperm count 2) planning on having more than 4 families (not 4 kids, families) One sample is good for 4-5 eggs I think, probably a lot more than that, and then you can freeze the embryos
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Hadlock posted:19 is a lot unless Thank you for such a clear answer! This is really good to know.
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I had an ultrasound today and saw the little critter with it's little heartbeat. It's measuring almost dead on for my due date and I'm just so loving relieved that there's living tissue in there. Two miscarriages in under a year kind of takes a lot of the joy out of a new pregnancy, and it feels a lot safer to celebrate now!
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Chernobyl Princess posted:I had an ultrasound today and saw the little critter with it's little heartbeat. It's measuring almost dead on for my due date and I'm just so loving relieved that there's living tissue in there. Two miscarriages in under a year kind of takes a lot of the joy out of a new pregnancy, and it feels a lot safer to celebrate now! That’s great news! So sorry about your losses, that’s a lot to go through in a short amount of time. Seeing the heart beat is such a fantastic feeling!
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Taking my cue from the thread title - my wife is suffering horribly from piles and bleeding haemorrhoids - should I be worried about the baby? What could help here?
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Manwithastick posted:Taking my cue from the thread title - my wife is suffering horribly from piles and bleeding haemorrhoids - should I be worried about the baby? What could help here? Nah, it's just a thing that happens sometimes. It shouldn't impact the baby. Best thing you can do is as much of the heavy lifting around the house as possible and stock up on preparation h. It's almost certain to go away after the baby is born.
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Chernobyl Princess posted:Nah, it's just a thing that happens sometimes. It shouldn't impact the baby. Best thing you can do is as much of the heavy lifting around the house as possible and stock up on preparation h. It's almost certain to go away after the baby is born. All of this, plus, if over the counter stuff doesn’t work, she can get a prescription for 5% hydrocortisone cream with lidocaine. And sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it’s not uncommon if the hemorrhoids never completely go away. If she gives birth vaginally her recovery may be more painful because the hemorrhoids will be at their worst after pushing out a baby. Padsicles helped me tremendously. Maxi pads for overnights, dump some liquid witch hazel on it, smear a coat of A&D ointment on, fold it back up and stick it in the freezer. Feels amazing on a sore bottom.
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3 months to go and we’re pulling it all together - got too excited and built the pram for a test drive 
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