DACK FAYDEN posted:

I haven't been here nearly long enough to know this: why are there thread tags that literally just get you banned if you post a thread using them? Like, what's the purpose of them existing. I get that there's a warning and I'm not stupid enough and I don't post enough, no way it'll ever come up for me on multiple fronts, but what gives?

Regy Rusty posted:

Also it's funny when it happens, what more reason do you really need than that?

DACK FAYDEN posted:

I haven't been here nearly long enough to know this: why are there thread tags that literally just get you banned if you post a thread using them? Like, what's the purpose of them existing. I get that there's a warning and I'm not stupid enough and I don't post enough, no way it'll ever come up for me on multiple fronts, but what gives?

Son of Thunderbeast posted:

Yeah my understanding was, it was to reserve certain tags for mod-only announcements and in v1 of the forums they probably didn't have a way of restricting those tags to just mods and up, so they made the rule. Back then you had to report it before they got banned, so they were popular tags for banme threads.

Then much later radium (lol) added the autoban feature and using those tags just automatically triggers it now along with gassing the thread, which is much less fun imo

Scaramouche posted:

Ehhh losing all the "in b4 ban" posts wasn't that big of a deal in my opinion.

Solice Kirsk posted:

Just man up and spam goatse in as many threads as you can before getting banned like a normal person.

Solice Kirsk posted:

What are three things that never get laid.

The Time Dissolver posted:

In the r/relationships thread people are always referencing some concept called "Pete", what does that mean and where does it come from?

quote:

Did I screw up?

So, I (f/25) have been seeing my boyfriend, Pete (m/30) for 6 months and its been wonderful. I really thought I'd found "the one" with him, but after last night I feel my world has collapsed and am not sure I've made the right decisions or if I was right. My heart feels like its been pulled out of my chest and I can't sleep. I'd never felt like this about anyone before.

My good friend, who we'll call Dave, was my boyfriend from the age of 18 to 21, after which we broke up because we wanted different things in life. We stayed good friends though because we had a great friendship and had been through so much together. He lives in a different country at the moment but we still talk semi-regularly online and in Whatsapp. Pete knew that Dave was a friend of mine but didn't know he was an ex until about 2 weeks ago, when Dave asked me to visit him in Amsterdam while he's on a work trip (I live in the UK, he lives in Italy). I had already agreed and booked a ticket before I told Pete - they were on sale for a ridiculously low price on the dates that he would be there, so I jumped at the opportunity.

Pete seemed cool with it at first but after a few days asked me if there was any history between us. I was honest and told him there was. He didn't seem too bothered and eventually asked if I thought visiting an ex in another country was appropriate whilst in a relationship. I explained to him how Dave and my relationship wasn't like that and that we were strictly platonic. He didn't seem to really react, he just gave me a look that was...sarcastic, I suppose, would be the best way to describe it. I then told him that I wouldn't be controlled and hated men that thought they owned me and could tell me what to do. I told him I was free to see who I wanted and that I found his lack of trust in me upsetting, disrespectful and, perhaps, a sign of future abusiveness. I now realise that this may have been a bad thing to say. Again, he didn't really react so I thought that was the end of it.

Then, last night, he came around to my flat and broke up with me!

I asked him why and tried to get him to explain himself and he told me that my going away was to see "another man" a deal-breaker, that he'd been in this type of situation before and wasn't going to go through it again. I asked him if this was an ultimatum - I hate ultimatums, they are tools of abusers - and he said "No, its not an ultimatum. I've decided to break up with you. I have not presented you with any options. I just came to say goodbye."
Before I could say or do anything more, he kissed me on the forehead, said goodbye and walked away. He didn't seem angry, just...sad.
I tried to call him after, but he just texted me some bullshit about how this was for the best and that he wished me no ill will and hopes I'll be happy. He turned his phone off after whilst I bombarded him with texts and voicemails.

To make matters worse, I told Dave about what happened and he replied "Oh well, guess that means we can have even more fun then! ;o)" He didn't care about my relationship and my pain - he just wanted a hookup buddy and someone to get stoned with whilst he was in Amsterdam.
Now I've lost someone I love and my best friend - who I was only interested in as friends - has a different motive to me for meeting up. I feel like I've lost my partner and I've lost a best friend at the same time.

I tried calling Pete today, about an hour ago, and he actually answered! He told me that I should look to be with someone who wasn't so abusive. He said, "Please stop calling me - this is over. Have a nice trip to Amsterdam" Then he BLOCKED me! How could he do that to someone he loves? Is he over reacting or was I? What should I do now? Was I wrong?

tl;dr:
Booked tickets to visit best friend. Got dumped because he was an ex. Did I just dodge a huge bullet...or did he?
EDIT: OK I KNOW I hosed UP. What should I do?

Regy Rusty posted:

The first two are for mods, the third is what it says on the tin.

Also it's funny when it happens, what more reason do you really need than that?

super sweet best pal posted:

I hope Pete finds love eventually.

super sweet best pal posted:

I hope Pete finds love eventually.

ToxicSlurpee posted:

The giant panda is a carnivore that decided meat was just too much hassle and started eating bamboo instead.

Bamboo is...not exactly the best of foods. So not only did they, for some inexplicable reason, decide to eat the worst thing they could find they do it with a carnivorous digestive tract.

They're a carnivore. 99% of their diet is basically wood. What I'm saying is that pandas are bafflingly stupid and make no drat sense.

'Giant Panda' on Wikipedia posted:

Its ability to digest cellulose is ascribed to the microbes in its gut. Pandas are born with sterile intestines, and require bacteria obtained from their mother's feces to digest vegetation.

Rust Martialis posted:

Bobby Digital posted:

I hope he’s pals with the other r/relationships superstar, beastmaster with the pet hawk (I think?)

Avenging_Mikon posted:

It wasn’t a pet. It just was a friend. Also Dog-cape dude is awesome.

Ariong posted:

Reported for mod sass.

LingcodKilla posted:

Stay strong Pete!

Danaru posted:

The story in question:

Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 6 months - we broke up after I booked tickets to go on a trip with an ex from ancient history, who is more of a best-friend

quote:

I tried calling Pete today, about an hour ago, and he actually answered! He told me that I should look to be with someone who wasn't so abusive. He said, "Please stop calling me - this is over. Have a nice trip to Amsterdam" Then he BLOCKED me!

Danaru posted:

The story in question:

Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 6 months - we broke up after I booked tickets to go on a trip with an ex from ancient history, who is more of a best-friend

"No, its not an ultimatum. I've decided to break up with you. I have not presented you with any options. I just came to say goodbye."

Yawgmoth posted:

Edit: the best part of this story is that if it were from Pete's perspective not a single loving person would believe it.

m2pt5 posted:

I was curious so I looked them up on Wikipedia and found this gem:

LingcodKilla posted:

Rubbing your taint all over a child is a non-starter. Can’t they just take swabs from the motheres vagina instead?

Agent355 posted:

Bacteria that you pick up from the environment is not the same bacteria that lives in our intestine.

Jerry Cotton posted:

Except in San Francisco.

syscall girl posted:

Please direct all child-related butt-stuff to BYOB