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My nearly 4 year old has been getting into trouble at school on a daily basis  he gets bored and screams, hits other kids, and generally acts out. I’m trying to get him evaluated for ADHD (his father has it, so it wouldn’t be shocking) but it’s slow going getting connected to the right resources. He clearly has trouble regulating his emotions, any tips for ways I can help him at home? I feel so terrible that my guy is struggling and also causing harm to other kids.
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Slowly watching my toddler son stop eating all the healthy foods he used to devour when he was younger. And no, I’m not blending in a bunch of veggies into some kind of meatball or nugget for sneaky feeding and yes, I feel like a terrible parent for not doing it.
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Oct 17, 2024 17:52
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Dazerbeams posted:Slowly watching my toddler son stop eating all the healthy foods he used to devour when he was younger. And no, I’m not blending in a bunch of veggies into some kind of meatball or nugget for sneaky feeding and yes, I feel like a terrible parent for not doing it. Most typical kids do that though - eat everything as a baby then suddenly become picky as toddlers. Their diets usually open up again, though they'll have likes and dislikes. I don't think I've ever made a stealth vegie dish and my wife rarely, so don't stress too much.
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Oct 17, 2024 18:28
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Holy crap, whining on the internet moved things along. I finally heard back from the school district and my son will be evaluated in a month to see what resources he needs. Progress!
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Oct 17, 2024 18:47
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Hooray (?) my 3 year old got her autism diagnosis so my health plan will pay for more than just 5 weeks of speech therapy and we can access special needs Pre-K. Anyone deal with those kinds of Pre-K before so I can know if there are red flags to beware? Or just toddler autism care in general? Kid is actually fairly neurotypical other than no speech and stimming (eye contact good, plays with others, etc)
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Oct 17, 2024 19:59
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What are some decent locks we could use for our kitchen cabinets? Kiddo is getting to the point where he’s more curious and crawling around his grandparents house and getting into the cabinets like crazy. It was cool when it was just one cabinet he would get into but now he’s realized there’s a few he can mess with lol.
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Oct 17, 2024 20:14
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Skeezy posted:What are some decent locks we could use for our kitchen cabinets? Kiddo is getting to the point where he’s more curious and crawling around his grandparents house and getting into the cabinets like crazy. It was cool when it was just one cabinet he would get into but now he’s realized there’s a few he can mess with lol. we used these, with great success, once you muscle memory where to put the magnet they're barely noticeable as an adult. https://www.amazon.com/Safety-1st-Magnetic-Locking-System/dp/B004GCJMLG
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Oct 17, 2024 20:53
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Ours took an interest in cabinets for about six weeks and then moved on to the next developmental milestone. For that time we just keep everything sharp or fragile on the counter in a box or whatever
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Oct 17, 2024 20:55
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The other cool thing he did today was climb on the sofa and then on top of a side table that’s there. When I got there to pick him up grandma was crying because she just turned around for 3 min and he was up there and she feels like she failed or something. It’s scary sure but he’s fine and nothing happened. On the bright side a couple months ago I didn’t think he’d be walking/climbing properly and here we are. Qwijib0 posted:we used these, with great success, once you muscle memory where to put the magnet they're barely noticeable as an adult. Awesome, I’ll check these out. Skeezy fucked around with this message at 21:07 on Oct 17, 2024 |
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Oct 17, 2024 21:00
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Qwijib0 posted:we used these, with great success, once you muscle memory where to put the magnet they're barely noticeable as an adult. We tried a similar thing on the cabinet under the bathroom sink and I loving hated it. We've ended up settling on just slapping these on everything: https://www.amazon.com/Cabinets-Drawers-Dishwasher-Adhesive-Drilling/dp/B072KPZMMV/; cabinets, drawers, the oven door, whatever. He's not crazy obsessed with cabinets or drawers so only about half the cabinets in the kitchen have them, and of course anywhere with chemicals or sharp poo poo. The big obsession was playing with the Roomba, dragging it off the docking station and pushing it around and somehow managing to make it start despite the "Child & Pet Lock" being on. Once he started pushing down on it so hard he was scratching the floors, we hid it in the closet for a week.. and when we brought it back out, he'd point at it and declare "OOMBA!" but to this day hasn't gone back to pushing it all around the house.
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Oct 17, 2024 21:13
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Definitely leave one cabinet with access to things they can play with (wooden spoons, bowls, etc). But lock up your dangerous stuff. My first listened to every warning and just stayed out. Our second has necessitated locks on everything.
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Oct 17, 2024 21:19
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Elissimpark posted:Most typical kids do that though - eat everything as a baby then suddenly become picky as toddlers. Their diets usually open up again, though they'll have likes and dislikes. If it weren't for pouches and the peer pressure at daycare I'd despair of the three year old ever getting a vegetable in her. Then she has the nerve to tell me she likes to eat vegetables when they come up in some alphabet song.
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Oct 17, 2024 21:33
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Those magnetic ones are annoying at first but once you get the knack for them it's fine. My MIL still can't do it though. The trick is that you need to always have a "key" in arm's reach so you can access it quickly.
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Oct 17, 2024 21:36
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remigious posted:My nearly 4 year old has been getting into trouble at school on a daily basis My just turned 4 year old is going through a similarly difficult time (mostly at home, but sometimes bleeding over into daycare). We've got an appointment with a behavioral therapist next week. No advice but you're not the only one and it loving sucks
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Oct 17, 2024 21:41
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Skeezy posted:What are some decent locks we could use for our kitchen cabinets? Kiddo is getting to the point where he’s more curious and crawling around his grandparents house and getting into the cabinets like crazy. It was cool when it was just one cabinet he would get into but now he’s realized there’s a few he can mess with lol. If you have a regular door you need to keep closed, like a pantry, Door Monkey works well. I had to stop using it when I came out one morning to find my six year old had stacked 2 chairs on top of each other to reach it.
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Oct 17, 2024 21:46
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Jose Valasquez posted:My just turned 4 year old is going through a similarly difficult time (mostly at home, but sometimes bleeding over into daycare). We've got an appointment with a behavioral therapist next week. It is honestly very helpful to hear I’m not the only parent navigating through this. It’s so hard not to beat myself up and wonder what I did wrong. I tried to hard to raise a sweet and empathetic boy, but his brain chemistry has other ideas. Good luck to you and your family with the behavioral therapist, hoping we can find one soon as well.
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Oct 17, 2024 21:47
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Pham Nuwen posted:We tried a similar thing on the cabinet under the bathroom sink and I loving hated it. We've ended up settling on just slapping these on everything: https://www.amazon.com/Cabinets-Drawers-Dishwasher-Adhesive-Drilling/dp/B072KPZMMV/; cabinets, drawers, the oven door, whatever. He's not crazy obsessed with cabinets or drawers so only about half the cabinets in the kitchen have them, and of course anywhere with chemicals or sharp poo poo. The problem we had with the not-magnet ones, both those and the ones where it's a little hook on the inside, is it became a puzzle, either successfully solved, or extremely frustrating for them. Renegret posted:Those magnetic ones are annoying at first but once you get the knack for them it's fine. My MIL still can't do it though. Yeah, we just put some strong magnets in easy reach in all the rooms with them.
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Oct 17, 2024 21:58
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Renegret posted:Those magnetic ones are annoying at first but once you get the knack for them it's fine. My MIL still can't do it though. That’s the poo poo that worries me about them. My in-laws are in their 70’s and I don’t want to make poo poo harder for them if I can help it. I’ll get a couple options and see what they figure out faster. We’re only going to be using these in the kitchen anyways so the magnetic key can stay in there.
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Oct 17, 2024 22:51
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Constantly having to talk to my daughter about how just because we tell her little brother not to do something, does NOT mean she can scream in his face and physically restrain him when he does that thing.
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Brawnfire posted:Constantly having to talk to my daughter about how just because we tell her little brother not to do something, does NOT mean she can scream in his face and physically restrain him when he does that thing. Got yourself a little cop there, gotta remind ‘em acab
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Oct 18, 2024 00:50
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remigious posted:I tried to hard to raise a sweet and empathetic boy, but his brain chemistry has other ideas. Oof yea I feel this about my nearly 4 year old. Not that we have been perfect saints in raising her, but we emphasize gentleness and kindness and she can be a huge rear end in a top hat to her sister. Compared to her seemingly naturally sweet and kind little sister, she seems biologically wired to be easily frustrated and impulsive. It’s tough to see. I will say there is some amount of success we have found trying to introspect on what we could be doing better (like rewarding the gently caress out of positive behaviors, and moderating our impulsive reactions to her behaviors) but it’s an uphill fight with toddlerbrains.
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Oct 18, 2024 01:45
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Alarbus posted:lmao, food. Countdown until he's allergic to peanuts, dairy and nightshades. That's very rough for the lil dude and you, you shouldnt have to feel shame about  better meals when your kids own immune system is like: ??maybe you should just starve??You have my full permission to be feed him whatever gets him to adulthood safely and be proud of it.
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Oct 18, 2024 02:12
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Sweeper posted:Got yourself a little cop there, gotta remind ‘em acab My cousin's daughter was nicknamed "the sheriff" at daycare because she was such a stickler for enforcing the rules when other kids misbehaved
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Oct 18, 2024 05:39
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Sweeper posted:Got yourself a little cop there, gotta remind ‘em acab I legit used the term "cop brain" when talking about this with my wife. It's insane when you're like "no no, buddy, that's not safe!" and mere seconds later she comes in truncheon flying "motherfucker, daddy said NO! You want more PAIN? Stop resisting! STOP RESISTING!"
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Brawnfire posted:I legit used the term "cop brain" when talking about this with my wife. lmao
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Sweeper posted:gotta remind ‘em acab   
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Brawnfire posted:I legit used the term "cop brain" when talking about this with my wife. Can my boys have a playdate with her? My 5 and 6 year old treat the house like a WWF ring, and they could use a ref. My 5 year old is so mean to my 3yo daughter, too. AvesPKS fucked around with this message at 19:34 on Oct 18, 2024 |
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Oct 18, 2024 17:43
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I thought all little kids were cops and/or lawyers until they learn to rebel. I know I was, at least, and my 5-year old is showing the same tendencies toward her baby brother. Luckily she's old enough to understand his physical limitations, mostly, but she'll still start grappling him and lifting him out of places he's not supposed to go, and it never turns out well.
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Oct 18, 2024 19:33
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My 3yo girl is most definitely an agent of chaos, not for order.
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Nocheez posted:My 3yo girl is most definitely an agent of chaos, not for order. Baby's turning 1 tomorrow and I feel comfortable saying he's a little chaos gremlin, and I don't expect that to change. His older brother is a fuckin NARC though. Just a weird kid all around. Today was the fun run at school. As soon as it started he fuckin blasted off and immediately lapped the entire kindergarten student body...using the extreme outside of the track. He more or less kept up this pace for the entire 25 minutes. His teacher gave up on counting his laps. Kid is insane when it comes to running. Renegret fucked around with this message at 23:36 on Oct 18, 2024 |
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Oct 18, 2024 23:26
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Slaan posted:Hooray (?) my 3 year old got her autism diagnosis so my health plan will pay for more than just 5 weeks of speech therapy and we can access special needs Pre-K. If your kid doesn’t have disruptive behaviors, I would try to keep them mainstreamed/least restrictive environment and do pull-out work on speech, making sure the teacher understands stimming and is willing to accommodate. There’s a certain amount of (somewhat unavoidable) secondary trauma in autism classrooms where kids are having more serious behavior issues. My kid is at a special needs school (high school aged), and their school is good about making sure kids are safe. However, staff is trained in restraints and has to use them (rarely), kids loudly melting down is a fairly common occurrence, and elopement a much rarer but not-unheard of one. Their classroom gets loud sometimes, and they’ve had to evacuate a few times when a classmate starts throwing things or another starts banging his head against the desk/wall/floor. Their classroom is one of the chillest at the (K-12) school because they’re the oldest cohort; bigger kids at this school have higher behavior standards to keep everyone safe. One of the other moms in my class was telling me she switched schools because a kid in her son’s old class picked the teacher up by the throat and was allowed back. Engineer Lenk fucked around with this message at 02:54 on Oct 19, 2024 |
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Oct 19, 2024 02:52
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Survived my daughter's 9th birthday party. She had invited 9 girls from her grade over, but (thankfully) only 5 were able to make it. I felt bad for one of the girls (A) in attendance because she has ADHD, is extremely disruptive, and her parents are currently going through a divorce. There was another girl (B) in attendance that doesn't like A, and they got in a couple shouting arguments. I had to sit down to comfort A at one point because she was sitting down in a corner of the house crying because B said something mean to her. I'm not the parent of either of these girls, but also, I don't want to ignore it and let it play out in the middle of my daughter's birthday party?
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Oct 19, 2024 20:45
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Good-Natured Filth posted:I had to sit down to comfort A at one point because she was sitting down in a corner of the house crying because B said something mean to her. I'm not the parent of either of these girls, but also, I don't want to ignore it and let it play out in the middle of my daughter's birthday party?
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Tonight my 3 year old had one of those past life moments. He said, “One time when I was older I dropped something off and went back to my old house.” Taken within context that’s weird as hell, however, there was some relevant things that happened this evening that would’ve planted ideas of dropping off stuff and going back home, but the “one time when I was older,” and “my old house,” stuff remains 100% unexplained to me. I’ve always thought kids talking about past life stuff was fascinating. I still do, but now that it’s happened and it’s not nearly as weird with context, I’m left wondering what context was left out of stories and videos of kids talking about weird, past life stuff. I hope this makes sense I’m posting from the rocker while I do my usual shift of holding our infant for the night. Reflux is the loving worst, god drat. I feel like I could write a book about our experience so far. It feels like a life time of spit up, crying, and holding him semi-vertically through the night. It’s only been 7 weeks. We’re slowly figuring it out. Seems like he has some natural reflux, but also issues with foods my wife eats. Since we hit our insurance deductible for the year, we’ve been going to lots of PT and speciality docs to figure this out. The infant massage and PT makes my son feel good and is helping, but the nutritionist working with us has been a god send. We’re coming up on two weeks of my wife eating a very basic diet - roast chicken and root veggies and fresh fruit - and it’s like we have another baby. Once whatever he has problems with is out of her system his fussing and crying goes away. He still spits up but it doesn’t seem uncomfortable for him. This really turned into a sleep deprived  about my life right now.I’m excited for regular sleep at some unknown point in the future.
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Everything to my 3 year old happened either yesterday or tomorrow. She doesn't really have a grasp on tenses and the way time passes, but it's adorable to listen to her jabber on and on about nonsense.
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Nocheez posted:Everything to my 3 year old happened either yesterday or tomorrow. She doesn't really have a grasp on tenses and the way time passes, but it's adorable to listen to her jabber on and on about nonsense. Same. We also get “last week” a lot too.
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Wildtortilla posted:Tonight my 3 year old had one of those past life moments. If you have the food sensitivity sorted and he's still spitting up could be a good ol volume issue. If your wife is overproducing or he's takin in more than the lil tummy can hold it'll come right back. Seems kinda obvs but it's a common issue I hear from dr wife and I certainly have experienced too.
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I’ll bring this up because I also had a nightmare first month with acid reflux. Did they give you infant Pepcid? If not, try to get some. Night and day difference for us.
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I've got some weird respiratory thing with bad POTS (not COVID thank gently caress) and was doing a bunch of postural blood pressures this morning. The three year old was interested in the machine and asked what the tube did. Me: it pumps air and inflates things. 3yo (resting his hand on my belly): is that how you got big? Me: 
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