|
CarForumPoster posted:My kids too young to have lived this advice but you left candy out and your kids four. Him sneaking late night candy seems like exactly what a four year old whose learning to make decisions for himself and has normal four year old impulse control should do. Well, to be fair it wasn’t just about the candy. He also really wanted his skeleton toy, monster truck, and puppy stuffy which were all downstairs. Any excuse to leave his room basically.
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 01:50
|
|
|
|
| # ? Jan 23, 2026 22:38 |
|
|
Our first two babies were pretty grunty when sleeping. Loud newborn stuff. This one straight up sleep yells. Very asleep and not in distress, but holy moly pretty sure he’s not going to be in our room until 6mos unless he discovers the art of rolling onto his stomach.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 03:08
|
|
|
Moved in with my MIL, going to EST from PST. With the 3 year old also transitioning from a crib to an actual toddler bed. My son is understandably having some difficulties adjusting to entirely new sleeping arrangements in every sense of the word but somehow my MIL is suffering the most, making herself sick with worry. Thank you for having us but your suggestions are unhelpful and I would have a hard time believing you successfully raised two children of your own if I hadn't married the living proof of it.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 05:29
|
|
|
Less than a month until predicted delivery (June 2nd). I doubt the baby will be quite so punctual but we’ll see.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 12:05
|
|
|
A Bad King posted:Any suggestions on how to address the random kids who glomp onto you as a parent at a park, because you're actively playing with your children, and they want to join in? I love my boys and I love being their playmate, and we roughhouse and do chase games or play ball even in a public place, and there's often one gregarious child (or two) that sees the fun and tries their hand at adopt-a-dad. Holy poo poo we had this at swim lessons. A 6 year old latched onto us while her sister was swimming and just started yapping about robolox and other YouTube stuff, while also pinching and patting our 2 year old. For a few weeks, she’d come over to us right as we walked in and I was convinced we’d have to find a new place for swim lessons. We eventually talked to her parents, which helped, and we haven’t seen them in a few weeks, so thank god.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 12:05
|
|
|
Patrón went down around 7:30PM, woke at 1AM for a bottle, then stayed down til about 7AM  he was awake and talking to himself at 7 but not in any distress, glady took a feed and then we played for a bit before he seemed sleepy again. He is down for a snooze now at 8. Now if only I had slept well, too, but he got me sick with some kind of crud so I can't lay down without coughing every so often.Thanks all for the sanity check on sleep time, it helped a lot
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 13:11
|
|
|
Now the baby has a 102.8 fever so this weekend is ruined too. Last week my older one had a fever. Week before that was coxsackie for everyone. Week before that was the beginning of coxsackie. Week before that, I don't even remember because my memory isn't capable of going that far back.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 13:41
|
|
|
See I like it when a rando comes to join our family at the park. It usually eases the pressure on me to do all the playing and also changes up the dynamic for my kids so they'll learn to play in new ways. It can also lead to conversation with another adult which is always welcome when I am usually just dealing with my kids all day. I also love to watch my 4 year old go talk to random park parents and see how they interact. I usually only intervene if they don't look warm or if he's scavenging for their snacks. I'm definitely not on board with teaching your kids that all strangers are dangerous and should be treated as a potential kidnapper/abuser.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 14:09
|
|
|
Rufio posted:I'm definitely not on board with teaching your kids that all strangers are dangerous and should be treated as a potential kidnapper/abuser. Same. Strangers *are* nice, good people. It is an extreme minority that would do harm to a child. Treating everyone as a potential villain is imo quite harmful to society at large as it transfers into adulthood. I learned only as an adult that trusting strangers is not only practical but it also makes both of you feel good, too. In other cultures kids are treated as a sort of communal responsibility. A pal of mine was in Vietnam years ago at a beach. A stranger came over and asked her to watch her kid while she went to get something, not even waiting for a yes as she left. My pal was shocked of course but it was totally normal there.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 14:34
|
|
|
I am so relieved reading the last few posts about strangers in the park because my son loves to talk to absolutely everyone. If he is visibly bothering someone I call him back, but otherwise he is a social butterfly. Also, to give a small update, I tried bribery with a sticker chart last night and little dude stayed in his room!
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 15:21
|
|
|
The issue to me is when the parents do not engage at all. We were at a family-friendly brewery and two older kids (5 & 7) started playing with my oldest (3). It was fine for a bit. We also had our newborn in the stroller and they wanted to touch and get in her space and wouldn’t take no for an answer. unfortunately we had to start being extremely stern with them and send them away. I’m not gonna be your babysitter while you drink and can’t even do the courtesy of checking in with your kid for a full half hour!
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 15:35
|
|
|
Nybble posted:The issue to me is when the parents do not engage at all. We were at a family-friendly brewery and two older kids (5 & 7) started playing with my oldest (3). It was fine for a bit. We also had our newborn in the stroller and they wanted to touch and get in her space and wouldn’t take no for an answer. unfortunately we had to start being extremely stern with them and send them away. I’m not gonna be your babysitter while you drink and can’t even do the courtesy of checking in with your kid for a full half hour! Yeah this is the problem that happens sometime and I hate it I like interacting with other kids and parents but I’m not going to get trapped and unexpectedly take on parenting for someone I just met. Or in some cases haven’t even met.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 15:41
|
|
|
just remembered - that incident was on Father’s Day! wtf!
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 16:24
|
|
|
Rufio posted:See I like it when a rando comes to join our family at the park. It usually eases the pressure on me to do all the playing and also changes up the dynamic for my kids so they'll learn to play in new ways. It can also lead to conversation with another adult which is always welcome when I am usually just dealing with my kids all day. At a park sure, and my kiddos love interacting and being with all sorts of people and I love it too. It’s led to a ton of good interactions. But, a rando brainrotted 6 year old asking me inane questions for weeks on end when you want to watch your kids swimming lesson is an entirely different story. I’m fine with entertaining it to a point, and I don’t want to be the reason why she thinks people aren’t worth talking to, but I also don’t want to entertain your kid for 45 minutes.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 16:31
|
|
|
I'm reminded of a time my pal and I went to a big park with our respective gfs. We brought martial arts gear and were sparring in various ways, which was very interesting to the gaggle of kids nearby. They were 6-8 in both age and qty. They wanted to fight and wrassle. The group of parents yelled across saying we could try rid of the kids but my pal and I were happy playing around. After an hour or so it was time to go. One of the parents brought over a bottle of wine for us as thank you for baby sitting the group. Was a fun afternoon.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 16:40
|
|
|
CarForumPoster posted:My kids too young to have lived this advice but you left candy out and your kids four. Him sneaking late night candy seems like exactly what a four year old whose learning to make decisions for himself and has normal four year old impulse control should do. We tried to offer 3 year old some of his chocolate Easter rabbit, and he instead demanded a whole apple and promptly ate half. The rabbit is premium chocolate from a local place so don’t worry it got eaten anyway.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 16:47
|
|
|
meanolmrcloud posted:At a park sure, and my kiddos love interacting and being with all sorts of people and I love it too. It’s led to a ton of good interactions. But, a rando brainrotted 6 year old asking me inane questions for weeks on end when you want to watch your kids swimming lesson is an entirely different story. I’m fine with entertaining it to a point, and I don’t want to be the reason why she thinks people aren’t worth talking to, but I also don’t want to entertain your kid for 45 minutes. Maybe touch grass before you run around calling six year olds brainrotted dude I get it overall though, I’m fine interacting with other people’s kids and enjoy it quite a bit but there is a point when it stops being playing and becomes parenting and once it gets to that point its definitely bad.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 18:19
|
|
|
Spikes32 posted:Our kiddo has been going to sleep between 7 to 730 for his whole life and sleeping till 630 to 7am. It's honestly the best. Holy hell, same. I genuinely do not understand trying to put young children to bed at 8:30, or 9 PM. That seems way too late! Also that's, like, all my time to myself; I ain't given that up.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 19:18
|
|
|
Try as we might, 8:30 to 9 is the bedtime we revert to  Earlier school starts and me moving to a less-WFH role will probably force us earlier in the next couple years. We’re planning a beach vacation. My wife is proposing 5 days/4 nights - my line of thinking is we need grandparents to support that length of time with a 4 and 2yo.
|
|
#
?
May 3, 2025 20:28
|
|
|
Started taking my just turned 2 year old to swim lessons and it’s so rewarding. In just a few weeks (only a half hour per week) he went from being terrified, to happily jumping into my arms in the pool and grinning the whole time. It’s so sweet 🥹
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 01:16
|
|
|
Mine were 1 and 4 then 2 and 5 but we did plenty of beach vacations that length solo. We just made sure we had handoff time where each parent could do something solo, and maybe one evening where there was a sitter or kids club that could take them for a dinner.
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 01:27
|
|
|
had KG3's first haircut today. he looks like a kid now and not a baby 
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 01:58
|
|
|
It's hosed up It's not right
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 12:15
|
|
|
just hosted a real birthday party for a 3-year-old at a play place yesterday oh my god
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 13:50
|
|
|
KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:had KG3's first haircut today. he looks like a kid now and not a baby My 1.5 year old son has beautiful locks and they will never be cut
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 14:11
|
|
|
Crescent Wrench posted:just hosted a real birthday party for a 3-year-old at a play place yesterday it's okay it's over you've got a year
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 14:19
|
|
|
The family’s birthdays are all loaded into the first half of the year, including our new February baby. Hosted our last 2025 birthday party yesterday and I am very burnt out on celebrations. FYI- Costco has packs of mini squishmallows that work out to ~$1.25 a goodie bag and the kindergarteners were near getting feral over the high-quality loot.
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 14:28
|
|
|
Benagain posted:it's okay Divided by number of kids you have 
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 15:22
|
|
|
Hosting a party at a play place is ez mode. Report back after you host at your house and have to entertain the adults too. At least there's the option for cocktails
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 15:41
|
|
|
nachos posted:My 1.5 year old son has beautiful locks and they will never be cut 3,5yo daughter but same
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 19:45
|
|
|
My wife absentmindedly mentioned a birthday party our 4yo is going to, but we are keeping our 2yo home from, in the kitchen while the kids were playing in the next room. 2yo drops toys and sprints over: “party? I go to the party toooo? Mommy?” When my wife hesitated to answer, the kid hit her with that SadKitty.jpg face Puss in Boots pulls in Shrek 2. I’m still finding pieces of her heart scattered around the floor. Amazing how kids hear a soft comment like that but are deaf to any clear and direct requests or questions.
|
|
#
?
May 4, 2025 20:28
|
|
|
Rough night last night, little man was up at 10:30 and allegedly every 90 minutes afterwards according to my partner who did night shift.
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 00:18
|
|
|
KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:had KG3's first haircut today. he looks like a kid now and not a baby nachos posted:My 1.5 year old son has beautiful locks and they will never be cut My son had this insane halo of bright blond curls all around his head, like he'd gotten a perm done by a Van de Graaf Generator. We took him to get them cut back when they got unmanageable assuming they were probably going to keep coming back like my daughter's wild locks did. Instead it just came back less curly and darker. Whoops, the end. Bye tiny little wild blond baby Also my daughter's aforementioned shiny-penny corkscrews are now deep, chocolate-brown whorling locks so you just never know what's next.
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 00:54
|
|
|
Brawnfire posted:My son had this insane halo of bright blond curls all around his head, like he'd gotten a perm done by a Van de Graaf Generator ... Whoops, the end. Bye tiny little wild blond baby Oh my god, same. I'm really hesitant to cut #2s mullet because I see photos of my Krusty the Klown haired baby and am devastated by how cute he looks (having forgotten all the nightmares of detangling brushes and conditioner washes on a squirmy toddler)
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 01:08
|
|
|
i think if KG3s hair had been very interesting we might have kept it longer but it was just fine, straight, sandy blondeish white people hair that kept getting in his eyes.
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 01:14
|
|
|
RCarr posted:Started taking my just turned 2 year old to swim lessons and it’s so rewarding. In just a few weeks (only a half hour per week) he went from being terrified, to happily jumping into my arms in the pool and grinning the whole time. It’s so sweet 🥹 We started our daughter at four months and at about 30 months she started not wanting to participate in the last 10 minutes of a 30 minute lesson. It was too much money to miss out on a third of it so after a few weeks and this we pulled her out and am going to try again after she is 3. At 3 she can have lessons with a parent not in the water and also she's got some little friends in those classes so we are hoping she get's back in the groove.
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 02:42
|
|
|
7mo is supposed to be asleep, is instead spinning her pacifier around in one hand like a butterfly knife.
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 03:24
|
|
|
Cliff posted:7mo is supposed to be asleep, is instead spinning her pacifier around in one hand like a butterfly knife. stab? stab.
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 04:11
|
|
|
if you're gonna let your little boy's hair grow out at least get it trimmed or do a ponytail or something. Girls get their hair managed but I'm always seeing little boys with absolutely untouched long hair who are constantly brushing it back out of their eyes. It's briefly sad when you do the haircut and he suddenly looks older, but drat mine is cute with a fresh cut and a big grin.
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 17:24
|
|
|
|
| # ? Jan 23, 2026 22:38 |
|
|
Patrón's newborn hair got really long and fell out everywhere except a perfect mohawk strip atop his head and little tufts over his ears. We buzzed down the over-ear tufts and everyone is always delighted by his baby mohawk. His hair is growing back and I suppose eventually the length will even out but I hope he can one day appreciate that we let him be the coolest baby in any room
|
|
#
?
May 5, 2025 17:40
|
|