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Good-Natured Filth posted:My in-laws used to keep a tiny gun (I don't know guns, but it was like a micro pistol) on a bookshelf. Every time we would go there when the grandkids were infants, I would tell them to put it in the safe with the rest of their guns because eventually, the kids will be able to climb and get to it. They would laugh it off and do nothing. Like a derringer? I mean if your in-laws are keeping loaded guns sitting on bookshelves they're dumb as gently caress but if there's an 1800s black powder pocket pistol sitting out as decoration it's their own drat fault if a grandchild breaks it, but nobody's getting hurt unless the kid breaks off a small piece and swallows it.
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Oct 4, 2025 21:44
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An unloaded gun in arms reach doesn't do a lot of good when antifa storms my dad's living room, and of course there's one in the chamber
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Oct 4, 2025 22:13
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Pham Nuwen posted:Like a derringer? No. It was modern, not a display piece, and it was definitely loaded. Maybe it's called a "pocket pistol"? I haven't seen it in 7 years back when it went into the safe. It just looked like a tiny pistol to me that you could fit in a purse for concealed carry crap. Can confirm my in-laws are dumb as gently caress when it comes to gun rights, though.
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Oct 5, 2025 00:17
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When in Texas I had a coworker with a CCL (concealed [gun] carry license) and it came up in conversation one day she had one of the in her purse and it came to the office with her everyday. She probably had a similar gun. Google says about 2% of people in Texas had a ccl before they changed the law. 2% isn't a lot but for the group of people who don't think about guns very much, it's probably a higher number than you expected
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Oct 5, 2025 00:52
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I feel like I’ve painted myself into a corner with bedtime for my toddler (2.5 yrs). He slept with us up until he was about 18 months, and eventually we started transitioning him to his own bed. The bedtime routine developed unintentionally, and these days it looks like: mom or dad take him upstairs at 8 after tooth brushing and pajamas, go lay in his bed with him, and read him books and cuddle until he falls asleep, at which point we sneak out. On a good day it only takes like a half hour but on bad days it can be like 90 minutes. And he’ll wake up pretty consistently around 1am and needs to be put back to sleep - when we started the transition process we would just let him get back into bed with us but we stopped doing that when our second was born. My hope is that sooner rather than later it’ll be possible to leave before he actually falls asleep, but if you do that now he’ll hop right out of bed and try to follow, or flip out. I’m giving myself some grace and tolerance for a hosed up routine right now because his little brother is barely a month old and everyone is still adjusting, but I would love to have some time back in my evenings to try to keep up with dishes and laundry or just hang out with my wife and do grown-up stuff.
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Oct 5, 2025 01:43
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Necronomicon posted:I feel like I’ve painted myself into a corner with bedtime for my toddler (2.5 yrs). He slept with us up until he was about 18 months, and eventually we started transitioning him to his own bed. The bedtime routine developed unintentionally, and these days it looks like: mom or dad take him upstairs at 8 after tooth brushing and pajamas, go lay in his bed with him, and read him books and cuddle until he falls asleep, at which point we sneak out. On a good day it only takes like a half hour but on bad days it can be like 90 minutes. And he’ll wake up pretty consistently around 1am and needs to be put back to sleep - when we started the transition process we would just let him get back into bed with us but we stopped doing that when our second was born. This has the potential to get much worse. Consider figuring out soon how you want to pull up out of the situation, and get on the same page with your wife about it. We were in a similar position at that age, and we handled it poorly. Eventually my wife ended up spending the whole night every night in our kid's bed, and I fixed up my own room in the house because the king-sized bed I used to share with my wife felt crushingly empty and lonely. We had different opinions about how to prioritize the bedtime routine so this ended up lasting until our kid was almost six and has had reverberating effects on our relationship as you might imagine. (Not trying to get all E/N about it here, I'm doing fine, we're in therapy.) Obviously our families are not identical and there's plenty more going on in both situations but the point stands: once you start sliding and compromising on bedtime plans, you not only establish a new (lower) standard but you also set precedent that it can get even lower still. You can still have flexibility and accommodate your kid when you need to, but you also deserve to have boundaries and you deserve to be on the same page about those boundaries as your partner.
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Oct 5, 2025 05:01
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Holy gently caress im glad i sleep trained the first kid. His naps are still poo poo and he sometimes doesnt hit 12 hrs/day but 1+ year of sleeping alone sounds awful. Sorry youre going/went through that. Not a suggestion per se as my circumstances were super different but i had to be the one to do all the sleep training stuff. My wife couldnt handle the crying, too kind hearted. Maybe researching and making the offer to take over will get your partner on the same page. CarForumPoster fucked around with this message at 05:11 on Oct 5, 2025 |
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Oct 5, 2025 05:08
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Time to establish better routines and boundaries now. It will only get much much worse if allowed to continue. Hatch sleep alarm so they know not to get out of bed. No more cuddling then to sleep, use some sort of timer to show they get five minutes of cuddles. Or some appropriate but low amount of time. When they get out of bed grey wall them. Put them back in bed and leave. If that doesn't work put them back in bed then sit in the chair in the room and be very very boring. And if that doesn't work, lock them in their room. Sleep habits and hygiene are both incredibly important to you parents and the kid. And the more you enable bad ones, the harder they will be to fix and the more damage they'll do to you and the relationship. Primarily from the lack of time energy grace that was spent indulging the behavior.
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Oct 5, 2025 06:25
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My 2nd generation hatch is making GBS threads the bed and the white noise randomly cuts out. Like it’s buffering white noise from the Internet and on a 56K. This is frustrating and my kid just had a sobbing meltdown with the poor babysitter who obviously had no idea how to handle this.
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Oct 5, 2025 06:44
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With our two-and-a-half we very much employ ‘sit in the room and be boring’ approach. All comments and questions get a noncommittal ‘mmh’, leaving the bed gets a swift, quiet picking up, putting back in and ‘now it’s time to sleep’. We wait until he’s settled but still not quite asleep yet, then it’s ‘good night’ and parent out the door. Sometimes he gets out which means we go sit for a bit again. Sometimes we repeat that 70 times. The key is to be incredibly boring and more stubborn than your kid. And I have a theory that leaving the room before your kid is asleep helps if they wake yuo during the night, because then they don’t freak out that you have disappeared.
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Oct 5, 2025 11:04
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Lol I thought I had it bad with my dad letting my son play witha plastic sheet over his head at Christmas, I hadn't even thought that someone would have the same stupid attitude to guns. I'm from somewhere without a gun culture though so having a loaded gun out on a shelf is about as alien as having a bucket of lava on it.
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Oct 5, 2025 11:57
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Get a programmable night light that turns red when it's time for sleep and green when it's ok to get out of bed. Our kids trust the lights more than they trust is when it comes to bedtime, and it keeps them from coming out of their rooms in the morning too early. Usually.
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Oct 5, 2025 12:19
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Doll House Ghost posted:The key is to be more stubborn than your kid. Thread title
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Oct 5, 2025 13:35
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Shoehead posted:having a bucket of lava on it. Wait until you find out about vulcanite filled saunas in Finland.
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Oct 5, 2025 13:38
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It’s not even stubbornness really, just patience. Kids just don’t have the tools to emotionally regulate like we do, so sometimes you just have to give them extra time to understand that yes, they are tired and it is possible to go to sleep. I’ll second the short tuck in ritual. I’ll sit and read with kiddo, and can feel it takes about 5 minutes for his heart rate to calm down after which it is time. Have also made the mistake of assuming he isn’t ready to sleep and going through the normal process - resulting in an unhappy child because they needed to sleep, not sit on their parent’s lap. Took a while to get to that point, and it involved putting him to bed, waiting until his cries made it clear he wasn’t going to sleep, removing him and then starting over. Sometimes even letting him play for a bit. Repeat, as many times as necessary. That said, every kid is different.
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Oct 5, 2025 13:59
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Man how am I going to put twins to sleep. Being more stubborn than one kid I can do, but two at once? Sounds challenging.
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Oct 5, 2025 14:41
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This is all great advice - I’m already committed to not sleeping in the toddler’s bed at night anymore. And we juuuuuust got one of those Hatch lights so that should be helpful as well.
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Oct 5, 2025 20:58
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Necronomicon posted:This is all great advice - I’m already committed to not sleeping in the toddler’s bed at night anymore. And we juuuuuust got one of those Hatch lights so that should be helpful as well. If you can find a book about using the hatch alarm or something similar that can be an even better way of introducing it as The Rules.
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Oct 5, 2025 21:36
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Spikes32 posted:If you can find a book about using the hatch alarm or something similar that can be an even better way of introducing it as The Rules. Thats an interesting idea. Could AI-up a kids book about bedtime with cartoon images of their room and them. Looks like printed hardcover books are sub $30 on etsy.
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Oct 5, 2025 22:20
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CarForumPoster posted:Thats an interesting idea. Could AI-up a kids book about bedtime with cartoon images of their room and them. Man that'd be creepy. I'm keeping photos of my upcoming kids off the wider internet as much as a I can. Feeding them into an AI is definitely something I'll not be doing.
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Oct 5, 2025 22:40
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CarForumPoster posted:Thats an interesting idea. Could AI-up a kids book about bedtime with cartoon images of their room and them. Looks like printed hardcover books are sub $30 on etsy. Yeah extremely gently caress that
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Oct 5, 2025 23:39
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Call this the grandparenting thread
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Oct 6, 2025 00:30
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After spending time and money replacing batteries on a bunch of stuff that was stored in a bag under the stairs, I’m remembering why that stuff ended up there in the first place. Some psycho thought the extended music option on an orange ice cream truck toy meant “play in perpetuity” rather than 20-30 seconds.
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Oct 6, 2025 00:55
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Necronomicon posted:I feel like I’ve painted myself into a corner with bedtime for my toddler (2.5 yrs). He slept with us up until he was about 18 months, and eventually we started transitioning him to his own bed. The bedtime routine developed unintentionally, and these days it looks like: mom or dad take him upstairs at 8 after tooth brushing and pajamas, go lay in his bed with him, and read him books and cuddle until he falls asleep, at which point we sneak out. On a good day it only takes like a half hour but on bad days it can be like 90 minutes. And he’ll wake up pretty consistently around 1am and needs to be put back to sleep - when we started the transition process we would just let him get back into bed with us but we stopped doing that when our second was born. Our bedtime ritual is we've got one of those night lights that plays a lullaby song and a timer for 45/90/8hrs. We'll do a group hug, and and mom and I will alternate on who sits down in a rocking chair next to him, and read about 3-4 kids books. When the 45 minute timer ends the music fades out, I tell him it's time for me to leave, and at that point he's pretty agreeable. He'll try to pop up a bunch and lay on his stomach and try to chat up a storm, but I gently tell him to lay his head down and close his eyes. It's getting better; we used to have to wait until he was totally KO'd for us to leave but now sometimes he'll say "Daddy, leave," and give a goodnight as I leave. I'm never really sure how long is too long or too short bedtime should be for a three year old but if he continues to be agreeable once #2 arrives I'll be really happy. I know everyone says there's some regression but please boy just hold strong for bedtime holy poo poo
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Count Roland posted:Man how am I going to put twins to sleep. Being more stubborn than one kid I can do, but two at once? Sounds challenging. Friend has twins and even doing the expat thing with a night nurse reckons it's utter chaos when one vomits, etc.
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Oct 6, 2025 04:32
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It's tough at first, but when they come out of their bedroom when they're not supposed to you have to quickly get them back to their bed with as few words as possible. After the 2nd time in an evening, we start just picking them up and putting them back in bed, then walking back out without saying a word. Sometimes there's some crying at first, but they start to understand that there's no leeway and getting out just gets them put back in. Obviously if they need to use the restroom or get a drink of water we facilitate that, but it's apparent when it's just them trying to stay up a couple more minutes.
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Oct 6, 2025 12:11
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Democratic Pirate posted:After spending time and money replacing batteries on a bunch of stuff that was stored in a bag under the stairs, I’m remembering why that stuff ended up there in the first place. Speaking of which, my son has a doughnut truck that plays a little jingle that suddenly has this sick trap-style beat drop. We spend the time waiting for the bus in the morning pressing the button on this thing over and over again, and freestyling verses and dance moves over it. You just never know what's going to hit. Oh, here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MOnv5o2e9F8&t=13s Brawnfire fucked around with this message at 14:29 on Oct 6, 2025 |
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Oct 6, 2025 14:25
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Had to do some solo parenting yesterday and at the end of it I was so fried that after bathtime I parted his hair on the wrong side and didn't realize til hours later after he was asleep. Does explain why it was sticking up weird though. Crawling is so fun but it makes him exhausted. Little man was rubbing his eyes at 4PM so I pivoted to quieter sitting activities for a spell. The cats are living in terror as his speed improves.
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Took my 15 month old to the doctor today for his checkup, and the doctor told me that my son is above the 99.9th percentile in height. He is apparently one of the tallest toddlers in the state  He doesn't even have to climb on anything to look out a window anymore.
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Oct 6, 2025 23:00
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Oct 7, 2025 00:36
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what is the State Fair Prize Winning Fifteen Month Old Boy Child height anyway out of curiosity
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:what is the State Fair Prize Winning Fifteen Month Old Boy Child height anyway out of curiosity small plushies but if you have three tallest kids you can get the big snoopy
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As a fellow 99+ percentile height child haver my advice is to spend the next 5-6 years getting them used to wearing shorts year round or find a really good, cheap tailor/adjuster. We've hit the dead zone for appropriate pants. XS Menswear is too long in the leg or too gappy at the waist, max size 'tweens' wear is made for rakes or turns into a 3/4 length pant after the first wash. edit: oh, and a lifetime of people over-estimating their age / expected development. G-Spot Run fucked around with this message at 07:12 on Oct 7, 2025 |
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Oct 7, 2025 07:08
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Academician Nomad posted:Everyone should get a cargo ebike like I did, it's very fun and cool. 100%. I love mine. The entire family has covid, RIP. I long for the Halcyon days of my corner of the world being blissfully covid-free. Meanwhile Bean is big, strong, and I'm fed up with copping it when it's time to put pants on him or get him out the door. I'm at the point where I fantasise about shutting him in a cupboard.
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Oct 7, 2025 14:43
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Trip report. The Hot Wheels Monster Truck show is a lot like Disney: it’s a good way to spend as much money as you wish, it’s better with kids, and it’s somehow both a ton of fun but also only worth going once. Still, highly recommended.
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Oct 7, 2025 15:13
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G-Spot Run posted:As a fellow 99+ percentile height child haver my advice is to spend the next 5-6 years getting them used to wearing shorts year round or find a really good, cheap tailor/adjuster. We've hit the dead zone for appropriate pants. XS Menswear is too long in the leg or too gappy at the waist, max size 'tweens' wear is made for rakes or turns into a 3/4 length pant after the first wash. He's already wearing 18 - 24 month clothes and starting to outgrow them, so we've mentally prepared that his clothes are going to be even shorter lived than the average toddlers. Makes it easier to thrift for clothes for him, though, as we know we'll only get a month out of garments or so. My parents sent a bunch of clothes from when I was a baby pilgrim reenactor, and it's incredibly tempting to just throw him in those so we won't have to deal with pants. Chip McFuck fucked around with this message at 15:38 on Oct 7, 2025 |
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Oct 7, 2025 15:30
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My brother in law was a monstrous baby and was wearing size 4T stuff when he was like one year old lol. He turned out normal sized though. We moved to an apartment with three flights of stairs in the building and one in the apartment and KG3 has reverted to wanting to be carried up and down the stairs. “Pick up! No big step!!!” Please just go up the stairs dude I got two bags of groceries.
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My four year old is wearing 6T and is about to move to the next size. Having a 98% kid is hilarious, especially when my sister's 6yo boy is 40% and the same size as my daughter
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