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An extra 12 year old that isn’t actually a friend will most likely be sullen and sulky to be there  Speaking as someone that just had a 12 year old over lol.
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Kids are crazy resilient. We just moved into a new house on Sunday, the place is a mess. My 3 year old had a few wake ups during the middle of the night which is to be expected. There were tears when we dropped him off at his new preschool on Monday. Got a full night’s sleep last night and was smiles and laughter when we dropped him off at school today.
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Oct 22, 2025 02:30
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A "solution" to my squealing babies is to walk *and* talk. I took both of them for walks around my neighborhood and once I started to chatter away with a running commentary both calmed down quickly and went to sleep. My boy was so calm that literal fireworks set of 100ft away (Diwali celebrations I assume, young guys setting them off in a parking lot) didn't even make him flinch. Of course they don't stay that way. Both wake up within 5 mins of getting home and resume their yelling. Still, it's progress.
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Oct 22, 2025 11:23
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little tiny babies have a transport response that calms them down when they're being carried, so it's almost always a good idea to pick em up and walk around / bounce on a yoga ball / whatever when they're upset. also, a change of environment (different room, go outside, etc) is often helpful. talking to your baby is good, too! it feels weird to just be kind of narrating all the poo poo you do but it helps them out and they like hearing mom and dad's voice. they recognize dad's voice first when they are inside 
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Oct 22, 2025 12:06
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:little tiny babies have a transport response that calms them down when they're being carried, so it's almost always a good idea to pick em up and walk around / bounce on a yoga ball / whatever when they're upset. also, a change of environment (different room, go outside, etc) is often helpful. talking to your baby is good, too! it feels weird to just be kind of narrating all the poo poo you do but it helps them out and they like hearing mom and dad's voice. they recognize dad's voice first when they are inside Oh! This must've been why the best way to calm my boy down when he was a baby was to hold him while bouncing on a yoga ball at a steady rhythm.
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Oct 22, 2025 13:11
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fuckin KG3 loved the yoga ball, it's a pro tip if you don't have one. They are used to moving around inside mom while she walks or moves around, too. The uterus is not a still and quiet environment. (This also why babies like sushing, they hear blood flow, digestion, etc)
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Oct 22, 2025 13:22
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Just learned that my wife’s cousin is having a kid! They live like an hour away from us, so too far to casually stop by but easily close enough that we can plan playdates etc. We’re only interested in having one kid ourselves but it will be cool that my kiddo can grow up with a cousin nearby. Also we’ve identified an outlet for all the adorable outfits kiddo is wearing which he will grow out of soon.
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Oct 22, 2025 15:43
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At this rate we need to continue building a good community of friends for our kids. They have each other but they’re the only members of their generation in our extended family. They’ll be the cool older cousins if any other kids come around but I miss them getting that big cousin playtime at family gatherings.
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Oct 22, 2025 16:05
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Random 103F fever, responds to tylenol and no other symptoms present but drat this is not the week for this to happen. We're on day 3, and Friday is supposed to be my first non-sick non-baby tending day off since I went back to work 
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Oct 22, 2025 16:49
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Cliff Jr had that a couple times so far (13 months old tomorrow!). Just popping a fever for a day, no other symptoms, loving up daycare/childcare and letting me take a day off to play with a perfectly healthy baby. Hopefully they get over it quick!
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Oct 22, 2025 17:03
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He was sent home late Monday, feverish but ok yesterday, and more of the same today though fussier. The daycare policy of "fever-free for 24 hours" means one of us will have to take off work again and we are both currently in the middle of high effort high pressure projects with end of October deadlines. Intense burnout all around
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Oct 22, 2025 17:08
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Number two is on the way. Due date is 4 days before our firsts birthday. How do you guys handle kid 1 and 2 being a week apart do your kids freak out about it? One big celebration?
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Oct 22, 2025 17:44
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CarForumPoster posted:Number two is on the way. Due date is 4 days before our firsts birthday. Similar here. 4 days apart. So far the little one is only turning 2 this year so I suspect he doesnt mind if we only throw a big party for his sister. Next year, i predict there will be a school-and-friends party for the 8-year-old, and a joint party for extended family for both. Different weekends, ideally...
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Oct 22, 2025 17:55
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Our kids are 9 days apart and it's no big deal. Family parties are usually combined but everything else is separate. Just make sure to do things for each of them on their specific days and you're good. ....if they end up on the same day uhhhh good luck
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Oct 22, 2025 18:32
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That would suck but also be so cool later on in life
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CarForumPoster posted:Number two is on the way. Due date is 4 days before our firsts birthday. Ours are 8 days apart, we’ve just done one birthday since neither is really old enough to care that much. It’s also helpful because all our family lives pretty far away so consolidating it on one day makes it more enjoyable for everyone involved.
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Oct 23, 2025 03:11
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Number two arrived earlier this week! All good and safe and happy for mom and baby  I've been solo dad with Ms. 3.5 for a few nights, my wife and the little fella get out of the hospital tomorrow so it's time to add the infant car seat back in and prepare for zero sleep 
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harperdc posted:Number two arrived earlier this week! All good and safe and happy for mom and baby Confrats! Boy or girl?
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harperdc posted:Number two arrived earlier this week! All good and safe and happy for mom and baby hell yeah toddler + infant in a 1 series is ambitious
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:hell yeah The all new ~*Hyundai Palisade*~ delivers best in class features at affordable prices.
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Oct 23, 2025 12:39
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CarForumPoster posted:The all new ~*Hyundai Palisade*~ delivers best in class features at affordable prices. i think they're in Japan so it's Toyota Alphard time!!!
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:i think they're in Japan so it's Toyota Alphard time!!! Do you ski? Hell yea I Alp Hard.
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hannibal posted:We're coming up on 1 year at our current daycare and have had a lot less sicknesses. So I think our immune systems are settling down a bit (finally). Last year we had HFM (from a temporary daycare we were at ONE freaking week), norovirus, and a handful of multi-day colds/fever. So far this year I've think we've had a couple of 24-hr colds/fever and that's it, and this daycare has twice as many kids as the previous one. Miraculously when I had COVID in August neither my wife nor kid caught it from me. Still amazed that at that one. So lucky on that last one. We only started testing negative 11 days afterwards. Tonight, kiddo did a poo in the bath. While I was in there with him.
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speaking of questionable German engineering vs suv, we finally decided to fix the leaky radiator on our off lease full size sedan as my wife realized she does not want to crawl into our above average height suv three days after getting a c-section. she wants to crawl into a car at a normal height. I'm pretty sure we're due this week or next and the mechanic has promised it by end of tomorrow
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Oct 23, 2025 17:04
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froglet posted:Tonight, kiddo did a poo in the bath. While I was in there with him. This happened to me a few times with my daughter. Never vacated a bath so fast.
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Oct 23, 2025 17:06
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No, we are not going to play "Y'all ready for this" during the bedtime routine Not even if it's really quiet
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my son likes to bounce in his crib to soothe himself, this has been slowly escalating as he's gotten bigger (22mos) and now he is slamming himself so hard into the crib it gets airtime, we have him behind two noise machines and two closed doors. he's not upset and he actually gets mad if you pull him out while he's doing it, it's been great because he manages his own sleep regressions but the bouncing is getting so fierce now that we find drawers open in the room from the floor shaking and it kind of sounds like the end of the world... anyways we are hoping he outgrows it
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My son today decided it was really funny to let got of his tiny pushbike handlebars and walk backwards until he loses balance. Me catching him makes it way funnier and I'm like kiddo, you don't wanna find out otherwise. We're hopefully going to try get him on a waitlist for speech therapy as soon as we move but I've been trying super hard to get him talking. He's an amazing babbler and his comprehension of actual speech seems really good, he will not form a word for love nor money unless he wants to. In the process I managed to teach him how to make a mwah sound and now he kisses his toys. He's quacking like a duck too. Ms Rachel's had a lot of play since we decided tl step it up and it hasn't got him talking but he's learned all the dances and just today is signing for more when he eats. Thats not really on topic but that's were the little guy is atm.
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Oct 23, 2025 18:09
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Shoehead posted:just today is signing for more when he eats. Always on topic! My almost-two-year-old is finally stringing words together. "Mine book" when his sister tried to take it from him. Of course that would be it. He never learned to sign "more", but he certainly learned to shout it a couple months ago. His favorite word, it surpassed even "mine".
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it took KG3 a little while to understand how "mine" works, he would say "mine [his name]" to make sure that it was clear that it was his.
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:hell yeah It’s a boy! And we kept the infant convertible seat we first got for our oldest (can face backwards as a bucket or forwards as a seat, and rotates 360 degrees on its base) so that needs to be installed when I go get the missus and baby. But when you realize that the wheelbase of that generation 1-Series is the longer than the classic Volvo 240…
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:i think they're in Japan so it's Toyota Alphard time!!! I am incredibly jealous of anyone who can buy a new Toyota Alphard.
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Shoehead posted:My son today decided it was really funny to let got of his tiny pushbike handlebars and walk backwards until he loses balance. Me catching him makes it way funnier and I'm like kiddo, you don't wanna find out otherwise. Shoehead posted:
Aww bless him One day he will look you dead in the eye, say MORE and you will be like  I always thought kids kinda linearly gained language, that words would be gained at a uniform rate, but it seems to be more like a language explosion where they'll suddenly start saying all sorts of things. Kids are weird. The crap week continues - Bean managed to stand up while on the toilet, did a small poo on his step stool, then stood in stool on his stool. It was such a mess I threw him into the bath. Good grief. And I've managed to break a glass, get some in my foot, and I cannot get the blasted thing out, which makes contending with rambunctious toddler difficult. 
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Shoehead posted:My son today decided it was really funny to let got of his tiny pushbike handlebars and walk backwards until he loses balance. Me catching him makes it way funnier and I'm like kiddo, you don't wanna find out otherwise. This is my life with my 16mo. He said mama dada and cat (cahhhhhh) around 12mo but speech got less clear and now he just doesnt talk. Were also on our way to speech therapy. He can sign 22 words about 18 of them are or derived from ASL but will NOT talk.
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At 18mo, our pediatrician was concerned about our son's apparent inability to talk; he suggested a follow-up at 21mo and said that if there was no improvement by then, he'd definitely need speech therapy. At 20mo he had his first word explosion, and he was totally caught up on speech development by 21mo. Now he's a little over 3yo and already hitting some 4yo and 5yo communication milestones. In summary, froglet posted:Kids are weird. We definitely started noticing some significant speech improvements after we increased the amount of time we spent reading books to him, from 10-20 minutes to about 45-60 minutes per day (most of that around bedtime).
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My fifteen month old is having the same issue where he just refuses to say words. He understands what we're saying to him and LOVES books, he just doesnt seem interested in speaking. When we finish a book he'll often point to the beginning so we can read it to him again and he will bring us books he wants us to read to him. But, no matter how hard we try and get him to say things like mama or dada, it doesn't seem to make a difference. When he does get screen time he usually gets Ms. Rachel or something from my childhood like The Big Comfy Couch or The Magic School Bus (I also like showing him MSB because my grandmother, his great-grandmother, absolutely hated magic and gingers and was an all-around terrible person). The doctor says hes fine and the language will come, but its hard for me not to feel like I'm failing them somehow even if this is just a part of your kids natural development.
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My nephew didn’t talk till he was two and a bit. He a great receptive vocabulary, and knew fifty signs. He’s fine now, and reads like a book a day thanks to his parents reading so much to him.
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It's generally useful to just talk to / at your kid and narrate stuff beyond just reading books with them. This feels super weird to do.
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My totally made up theory about kids learning to speak (in single language homes, dual or more languages will almost always delay speaking (which is ok)) is that as long as a kid is getting along fine with how they are currently communicating, they will continue to stay in that mode until it's no longer satisfactory for them. So, like, if a child can get the things they want, like snacks and books and entertainment, without needing a voiced vocabulary or with their current limited vocab, they'll just kinda sit there for a bit. Eventually their desires become more complex and so you see these bursts of new language as they understand and incorporate more of what you're saying into their speech. That doesn't mean parents should deprive kids or intentionally misinterpret their attempts at communicating. Instead, I think it should be taken as a win that a kid is doing well while understanding that they will still gain more skills eventually. Of course, the usual caveat applies: every kid is different and there is nothing wrong with just asking your pediatrician for advice about something like this.
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