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if nothing else, raising children has given me patience with other people's kids doing/saying horrifying things in front of adults, while their parents are looking on silently horrified themselves
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Bribery. A sticker on a big chart for every time they use the potty. A prize for completing a row or the whole thing. Our kid also got a smartie for every pee and a gummy bear for every poop. It might seem like spoiling them, but it's not for forever and it's about finding something that motivates them. One of my friends bought a bunch of cheap matchbox cars which were doled out as rewards.
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Nov 9, 2025 06:23
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Seconding bribery. We used a wooden reward chart with nice wooden stars you could stick on with velcro. Didn't even have to give an actual reward, kiddo loved getting the stars and sticking them on the board
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Nov 9, 2025 07:31
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SixFigureSandwich posted:Seconding bribery. We used a wooden reward chart with nice wooden stars you could stick on with velcro. Didn't even have to give an actual reward, kiddo loved getting the stars and sticking them on the board Happen to have a link for that chart?
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Nov 9, 2025 11:48
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We got a potty timer watch and tied its music with getting a marshmallow and now every time the watch dings she drops everything and comes screaming ‘potty potty!!!!’
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Nov 9, 2025 11:53
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My son got 2 M and M’s for a pee and five for a poop. We kept them in a little cup with a lid so he could see how many we had. Once he was reliably using the potty we told him once the candy was all there would be no more and that was that.
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Nov 9, 2025 12:41
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Gamify going potty Grind out those potty points
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Nov 9, 2025 13:29
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Potty is a dump skill.
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Nov 9, 2025 13:32
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4 year old is happy to go to the potty and sit there for ten to twenty minutes. She just won't go. She has bowel control because we can see her hold out until a new pull up is put on. How do we break the diaper to pee/poo connection and switch to potty to pee and poo.
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Nov 9, 2025 13:47
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Slaan posted:4 year old is happy to go to the potty and sit there for ten to twenty minutes. She just won't go. She has bowel control because we can see her hold out until a new pull up is put on. How do we break the diaper to pee/poo connection and switch to potty to pee and poo. Stop giving diapers
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Nov 9, 2025 14:56
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Tried that. She just peed through the training panties and kept trucking
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Nov 9, 2025 15:33
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Pantsless weekend
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Nov 9, 2025 21:44
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Slaan posted:4 year old is happy to go to the potty and sit there for ten to twenty minutes. She just won't go. She has bowel control because we can see her hold out until a new pull up is put on. How do we break the diaper to pee/poo connection and switch to potty to pee and poo. My suggestion once again is bribery. It might take a little while, but once they associate using the potty with reward, it becomes a lot faster. Our kid took a long time to tell us she needed to per/poop, but long before that we could just take her and she'd go once she sat down
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Nov 9, 2025 22:02
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We did the cold turkey no pants weekend a little over 2 years old, and after that pull-ups only for sleep. It mostly worked. Accidents still happen but are declining. We had some potty-only fidget and wind-up style toys that maybe helped entice potty time, but mostly we just plowed through it and do frequent potty checks/attempts.
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Nov 9, 2025 23:02
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Our daughter didn't really care about bribes to poop on the potty, but when her brother would need juice for a hypo, we'd give her juice too. I mean, he got apple juice to get his sugar in range, she got a few ounces of prune juice. Kind of rigged the game against her holding out and keeping it in when you're getting straight prune juice and slamming it like you're hypo. Fine now, I just need BOTH kids to slow down how much TP they use, but they ARE self sufficient.
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Nov 10, 2025 02:24
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We had bribes, he just didn’t seem to care. He didn’t care that he was peeing on the floor, he didn’t care that he had wet underwear, he wouldn’t sit on the potty even if you offered gummy bears or let him blow bubbles. I have a theory that he realized peeing “wrong” was a way to get a lot of attention that had been going to new baby brother, which makes me want to put this off for a little longer so he can adjust a little more.
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Nov 10, 2025 02:24
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Count Roland posted:Happen to have a link for that chart? i bought 20 sheets of posterboard and a couple rolls of gold star stickers
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Nov 10, 2025 04:16
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Necronomicon posted:We had bribes, he just didn’t seem to care. He didn’t care that he was peeing on the floor, he didn’t care that he had wet underwear, he wouldn’t sit on the potty even if you offered gummy bears or let him blow bubbles. I have a theory that he realized peeing “wrong” was a way to get a lot of attention that had been going to new baby brother, which makes me want to put this off for a little longer so he can adjust a little more.  we've been feeling dealing with baby brother potty issues with no improvement for months now, but now it's pissing off her tk teachers and she seems to be finally turning things around now that he's arrived and appears to be less of a threat than she had first imagined we shall see through we're not quite 2 weeks into this, things could still get worse
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Nov 10, 2025 04:18
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Count Roland posted:Happen to have a link for that chart? Trying to find it but no luck so far
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Nov 10, 2025 09:47
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For us nothing worked until she (3.5) moved up a classroom at daycare. We laid on the "it's big kid school, they use underwear!" and the peer pressure of being the last kid in pullups got through. We still use pullups at night but she's going on 4 months of no accidents at this point.
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Nov 10, 2025 12:17
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Potty training for me seemed to be each kid is different. Bribery had small impact for my twins. One learned incrementally and seemed to slowly expand her skills sitting on toilet, peering a little, and then a lot. The other just kept peeing herself in underwear and not trying to use toilet until one day she did. One thing we did was have her play naked out back in the kiddie pool and have a little potty nearby. Mine are currently in pull-ups at night but wow one just slept for 14 hours after skipping a nap and stayed dry the whole time. No way I could not pee for close to that long.
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Nov 10, 2025 16:25
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Goddamit the little one has pinworm. Why does it have to be worms. Just give me the viral infections again instead. I can't stand doing this much washing for long.
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Nov 10, 2025 21:04
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Count Roland posted:Happen to have a link for that chart? I now know we bought it from Aldi (in the UK). The brand is Little Town but I cant find any trace of this reward chart/board on the internet, somehow.
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Nov 10, 2025 21:16
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Our kid turned 3 not long ago, and he's mostly potty trained for the daytime. TV is our bribe for pottying. We started experimenting with potty training at 18 months just because he was down to sit on the potty - but for a long time it was mostly "place him on it and let him watch TV". Then eventually, when he wouldn't actually pee consistently when he asked for the potty, we just started only offering TV after he successfully went potty. Now he has to go potty by himself, put underwear on, and wash his hands (with assistance) before he gets the TV time. He'll use it without TV time too now, depending on the time of day. We tried underwear for awhile but that didn't seem to help him go to the potty and my wife and MIL decided to put him in pull-ups, but one pantsless weekend seemed to be a big help. Our summer daycare provider one day, just before he turned 3, was just like "I'm not putting him in pull-ups anymore, he's ready, he's just using the potty here" and that was thankfully enough for all of us to finally make the last push needed. What's weird is before age 3 or so, most daycares send the message that basically they won't work with your kid on potty training or let you switch to underwear if the kid isn't totally accident-free and self-sufficient with potty time. So if your school sets the bar that high, it makes you reluctant to train them at home knowing they're going back to diapers at school. Thankfully he started at a regular preschool last week and while their handbook said no underwear unless they're totally accident-free, in person they seemed like they really wanted to not mess with pull-ups with him anymore.
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Nov 11, 2025 00:10
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Baby #2 and (thankfully) so far the biggest nostalgia hit has been the "startle reflex" which I'd completely forgotten about but both humorous and iconic
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Nov 11, 2025 01:24
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Mistaken Frisbee posted:What's weird is before age 3 or so, most daycares send the message that basically they won't work with your kid on potty training or let you switch to underwear if the kid isn't totally accident-free and self-sufficient with potty time. So if your school sets the bar that high, it makes you reluctant to train them at home knowing they're going back to diapers at school. Thankfully he started at a regular preschool last week and while their handbook said no underwear unless they're totally accident-free, in person they seemed like they really wanted to not mess with pull-ups with him anymore. So our daughter was out of nappies by 2.5 and we had huge issues with our daycare letting her switch to underwear and their policy was two weeks for no accidents so she was wearing nappies only at daycare. It got to the point we were looking at changing daycare providers but chatting to one of the other parents what the issue is that some parents expect daycare to do the potty training for them. She had a bad regression recently about a year after. We worked out it was a reaction to her new brother wearing nappies and the attention he got when we changed him.
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Nov 11, 2025 01:25
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Scapegoat posted:but chatting to one of the other parents what the issue is that some parents expect daycare to do the potty training for them.
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Nov 11, 2025 02:20
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ExcessBLarg! posted:For how much daycare costs, yes, yes we do. I've heard they used to take the lead. I end up seeing on Reddit a bunch of Early Childhood Educators complain about preschool kids not being potty-trained, but at earlier ages the schools basically discourage you from trying now.
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Nov 11, 2025 02:31
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Yeah my daycare was encouraging us to send our kids in underwear for practice and took to them potty on whatever schedule we wanted. One teacher bragged that her potty training technique was sure to work. It didn't, but I appreciated the flexibility. But that daycare was very expensive.
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Nov 11, 2025 03:00
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Here it's very much team work. We switched from diapers* to underwear after coming home from daycare for a week. After a week it started going ok, talked to daycare teacher about it and she suggested sending him in underwear straightaway. He still has diaper on when they are outside (mostly because it's cold and they have thousand layers of clothing to wade through and they are outside for long periods of time) and while they are having a nap. He still has accidents but we just send in 10 000 pairs of pants and underwear and they send soiled ones back in a plastic bag. *I've noticed that Americans/the Internet makes a distinction between diapers and pull-ups. Aren't they both diapers, just a different style? We changed to pull-up style as soon as the kid started standing up, because changing them standing is a lot easier than trying to wrestle a baby alligator to a changing table.
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Nov 11, 2025 06:51
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There's pull up style diapers, and then I think there's big kid pull ups that are thinner / less absorbent? More like a Depends style "catch a small accident" vs "hold it all". Our kids stopped at pull up diapers, which, yeah, are pull on instead of securing the tabs.
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Nov 11, 2025 15:59
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Yeah I think pull ups aren’t really intended to be soiled like diapers, but they can catch the worst of an accident when it happens.
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Nov 11, 2025 16:01
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My daughter basically potty trained herself before she was 3. She was a rockstar, just decided she wanted big girl underwear and that was it. Her brother is 3.5 years older and they stopped using diapers (pullups in his case) pretty much at the exact same time. He still has more accidents at bedtime, rare as they are.
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Nov 11, 2025 16:07
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coronatae posted:I wonder if the babies would enjoy being carried in a sling? Patrón loves being held against me but we overheat each other real fast. Plus now he's mobile he simultaneously wants to be held but also put down so he can scoot around the house. Adorable  Mistaken Frisbee posted:Our kid turned 3 not long ago, and he's mostly potty trained for the daytime. TV is our bribe for pottying. We started experimenting with potty training at 18 months just because he was down to sit on the potty - but for a long time it was mostly "place him on it and let him watch TV". Then eventually, when he wouldn't actually pee consistently when he asked for the potty, we just started only offering TV after he successfully went potty. Now he has to go potty by himself, put underwear on, and wash his hands (with assistance) before he gets the TV time. He'll use it without TV time too now, depending on the time of day. My little oddball is weirdly intent on potty training himself. This past week or so he's been saying "need toilet!" or "need potty!" and it hasn't been a ploy for telly time. This morning he even refused to let me put a nappy on him til he'd done a wee on the potty  I'm impressed, and now the weather is warming up maybe we need to start properly potty training him?
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Nov 11, 2025 16:22
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A friendly reminder to other procrastinators…get your winter break childcare sorted out. I actually remembered in time to get my little guy signed up this year, but just found out that the camp decided to close for the last week of December and now I don’t know what the hell I’m going to do.
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Nov 11, 2025 17:12
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My son sat and peed in his little potty all by himself at 18months old and was super excited about it. But then never was interested in doing it again in the year after. Second baby is due in 2.5 months so I’m hoping he will take to it before they arrive but who knows.
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Nov 11, 2025 17:50
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remigious posted:A friendly reminder to other procrastinators…get your winter break childcare sorted out. I actually remembered in time to get my little guy signed up this year, but just found out that the camp decided to close for the last week of December and now I don’t know what the hell I’m going to do. In a twist, both this and the potty topic coincide: we got my older to work on going to the bathroom right before bed, and once he was dry for a whole week in a row we promised to take him to the hockey hall of fame. We're making good on this promise over Christmas/New Year's break 
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Nov 11, 2025 18:29
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Did anybody use a daycare that enforces regular nap times (like 0900 and 1200) for infants? I've never heard of them around here but my sister's daycare does that and it seems barbaric for a six month old...
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Nov 11, 2025 23:07
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After several months of being relatively chill our 5 year old has started having some epic meltdowns again. Hitting, breaking things, literally trying to flip tables. We try all the recommended "authoritative" approaches, explaining why the rules exist, praising good behaviors, explaining consequences ahead of time... but none of the guides ever seem to have an answer for "what if that doesn't work"  What we're doing is obviously not getting through at this point... We talked to a behavioral specialist about a year ago for an evaluation and they weren't concerned, and his behavior did improve, but it's been a major regression the last few weeks.
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What are the consequences you impose?
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