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Tamarillo posted:Ah thank you! This intel was missing in my family, my sister basically just taught her boys to pee standing up (sprayed everywhere) and their daycare centres appear to have handled the sitting down to pee part. My biggest hope for the future is that everyone can learn to pee sitting down. Standing is okay but only in the woods or as a party trick. My kid seems to have developed a heat-based rash or hives or something. Watched it flare up and recede almost in real time as she moved around during nursing and absorbed body heat. Luckily it doesn't seem to be itchy.
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PerniciousKnid posted:My in-laws are bad any this, and they're like, why do his parents get to keep the kids but we can't? And my wife is like, because you don't loving listen! And the thing is I'm pretty sure my mom was just as concerned for my sleep schedule and general comfort as a child as she seems to be for my daughter's. It was always very much a household where the kid had to adapt to the parents rather than the other way around. No wonder I never developed decent sleep health and generally had no confidence. Hopefully the scars help remind me how not to treat my kid instead of leading me to repeat the sins. Boomers hosed up too many people. I'm already dreading this weekend and the shenanigans my mom will try to pull. Maybe she'll call and tell me she's not sure how much time she has left and it makes her sad again. Or agree to some plans that work for us and then change them at the last minute so it's actually the most unpleasant thing in the world and fucks up my kid's sleep. The possibilities are practically endless! 
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Hi_Bears posted:You have to teach them to hold it down (bending forward helps too). Even after my son was potty trained it took a long time for him to find the proper positioning. Sometimes he would point down but not enough and it would spray out between the seat and bowl. There was so much pee on walls and floors I always thought people in public bathrooms were slobs, but now I know they just had bad parents
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nachos posted:Boy 8 months is rough on sleep huh. Our normally excellent sleeper is now waking up multiple times a night and having lovely inconsistent naps again. Feels like she’s in the middle of learning like 7 different skills at once and also teething. She also likes to scream at the top of her lungs now which is cool. Our kid is 7.5 months and we’re going through the same thing. Well minus the screaming. We’re just waiting for him any day now to break out the crawling or show something for all this fussiness...
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My former roommate's 19 month old screams and cries really all day, first thing in the morning cries. I am moving out to get some sleep, but i was talking to the hotel owner about the situation and he was saying the child is probably teething. Is there something that can be done for that? If the kid is in pain, well first of all I'll never make any suggestions to a mother because I feel like it's' none of my business, but wouldn't there be a treatment or something for it, if it's actually pain and distress secondary to teething?
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Hadlock posted:I always thought people in public bathrooms were slobs, but now I know they just had bad parents Some kid about 14 or 15 walked out the bathroom in a candy shop yesterday as I was waiting for the door to be unlocked, he didn't flush there were turds in the bowl. My first instinct was to go tell his mother. But I figured ehhhh  I'd probably just get in trouble.
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excellent bird guy posted:My former roommate's 19 month old screams and cries really all day, first thing in the morning cries. I am moving out to get some sleep, but i was talking to the hotel owner about the situation and he was saying the child is probably teething. Is there something that can be done for that? If the kid is in pain, well first of all I'll never make any suggestions to a mother because I feel like it's' none of my business, but wouldn't there be a treatment or something for it, if it's actually pain and distress secondary to teething? tylenol
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Our kiddo started running a low fever about 36 hours ago and spiked to over 102 yesterday. Got him in to the doctor for the last slot of the day, and they confirmed it's a virus. They're sending him to Texas Children's for a covid test which, hopefully, will be same-day. Wife and I feel fine so hopefully it's just a baby thing but it's hard to not be nervous. The broader covid issue is giving us a ton of anxiety around the things our son is missing out on. He turned 1 a couple weeks ago and he has never interacted with another child. He has seen them (at the doctor mostly, he does PT at the hospital) and is curious about them, but that's about it. Meanwhile I see relatives and friends on Facebook going to restaurants, the beach, even family reunions. When I'm really down about it, I find myself wondering why I should give a poo poo if nobody else does. PerniciousKnid posted:My in-laws are bad any this, and they're like, why do his parents get to keep the kids but we can't? And my wife is like, because you don't loving listen! This is my mom. Constantly stirring poo poo about how my MIL gets to stay with us for several days whereas they only get to visit on weekends when I have time to entertain. It's like 1) there are some specific health-related reasons that are nunya bizness because we are not children and are entitled to some privacy, and 2) I can't trust you not to start drama and/or undermine my wife while I'm not there!
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excellent bird guy posted:My former roommate's 19 month old screams and cries really all day, first thing in the morning cries. I am moving out to get some sleep, but i was talking to the hotel owner about the situation and he was saying the child is probably teething. Is there something that can be done for that? If the kid is in pain, well first of all I'll never make any suggestions to a mother because I feel like it's' none of my business, but wouldn't there be a treatment or something for it, if it's actually pain and distress secondary to teething? Motrin or tylenol. Chewing on things helps, but you can't force a kid to chew. Mine doesn't want to chew on anything but her fingers.
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My roommate says he just 'wants his mommy,' haven't really talked about teething, that's just my speculation. She can't leave the room without him screaming. If she even takes a shower or goes to the bathroom he goes off screaming and crying at the top of his lungs. I feel so bad for her.
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Discussion Quorum posted:Our kiddo started running a low fever about 36 hours ago and spiked to over 102 yesterday. Got him in to the doctor for the last slot of the day, and they confirmed it's a virus. They're sending him to Texas Children's for a covid test which, hopefully, will be same-day. Wife and I feel fine so hopefully it's just a baby thing but it's hard to not be nervous. You're still doing the right thing. It's hard and when we get through this, there will be some effects for sure I think - hopefully nothing that can't be corrected with some hard work.... but you're doing the right thing. Your family's health is priority number 1. We are going through the same thing. All these people just not giving a poo poo (our state is one of the most active in the country for COVID right now) and it's infuriating. My wife is often in tears about why can't we all just be in it together. But we both usually come to the same conclusion... we're doing the right thing. Because had to go back to work eventually we did end up sending them both back to daycare so they at least get some kid time together.
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My kid is a horrible napper at home. Great daycare napper. A solid 2 hours M-F. Weekends are poop. An hour if we are lucky. I ordered a Hatch Rest last week and it came last night after she was already in bed. Played with it and just started it for afternoon nap (she got kicked out of daycare yesterday and today for diarrhea  ) and maybe it’s placebo but I rocked her for a few minutes with it on so she would get used to the melody playing and when I put her down she was more asleep than she’s ever been for a nap. I set it to play for 2 hours. I haven’t asked daycare but I’m fairly certain they play music during nap time for white noise. We have a very large fan in her room and that’s what she’s used to at night but I think for naps she needs some music. Gotta be honest ... listening to the music through the baby monitor is making me want to sleep .... Anyone else have a hatch rest? At what age did you start using the wake up function?
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Sarah posted:My kid is a horrible napper at home. Great daycare napper. A solid 2 hours M-F. Weekends are poop. An hour if we are lucky. We’ve had a lullaby machine and white noise machine playing through our sons bedtime for a few months now. We used to use the lullaby just at naps but our old machine only lasted for thirty minutes so we’d constantly have to reset it. We noticed he liked the music at night too so we bought a machine that would run music constantly and it seems to work...except when it doesn’t.
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excellent bird guy posted:My roommate says he just 'wants his mommy,' haven't really talked about teething, that's just my speculation. She can't leave the room without him screaming. If she even takes a shower or goes to the bathroom he goes off screaming and crying at the top of his lungs. I feel so bad for her. 19 months is a peak spot for separation anxiety. Teething is also a possibility but after enough of them come out the kid will just get used to bones uncontrollably erupting from his face and will even sleep through it.
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Oh speaking of teething, I can't believe I forgot to mention that our 14 month old has EIGHT coming in at the same time. EIGHT. Jesus Christ.
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Tbh I have no idea how many teeth are trying to escape my 15mos face because apparently teeth are top secret personal knowledge. If she even hears me say teeth she closes her mouth, and anyone who checks gets bit. Cmon kiddo.
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Discussion Quorum posted:Our kiddo started running a low fever about 36 hours ago and spiked to over 102 yesterday. Got him in to the doctor for the last slot of the day, and they confirmed it's a virus. They're sending him to Texas Children's for a covid test which, hopefully, will be same-day. Wife and I feel fine so hopefully it's just a baby thing but it's hard to not be nervous. First off, I hope your young one is feeling better and test comes back negative! We too have a “just turned” 1 year old and it is tough not letting him play too much, and are in the exact same boat w/r/t being the safer ones in our family. However, I think based on our interactions it isn’t causing anything irreversible, just kind of a bummer to us adults. We had another 1 year old he hung out in a kiddie pool with because they are a safe family, and we had a beach day where we kept some distance from immediate family and the cousins. He does love seeing other kids, he will scream at them and sometimes squeeze their feet, but honestly he doesn’t really play with them much other than to grab the same toys and then try to put them in his mouth. I think the big thing is really getting face time and that visual interaction so we still FaceTime almost daily with people and he has a social distance, outdoors visit with family/friends almost every weekend. I would definitely push on trying to find way to do the latter, because I just feel they get a lot out of seeing different faces and interactions, but I don’t think the risk is worth it to actually have up close experiences with people you can’t really trust. It can be hard to delineate and identify certain activities, but the path I follow is that the main point of infection is virus expelled from the mouth and nose (even while talking) traveling through the air and getting into your eyes/mouth/nose, and people can be infectious without symptoms. Therefore the goal is to prevent those virus particles from entering your, or you children’s, body through masks, distancing, and “fresh air”. Therefore my rules are not letting people/older kids hold him. No one gets close to him and makes noises or talks into his/our faces (surprised how many people like to blow raspberries to get a reaction...). Outdoors with ~6 ft distance I’m comfortable with no mask. And then I just feel even better if it is a windy day or like the beach which has a constant sea breeze. We don’t really linger inside and we don’t share food. I relax a bit on the adult distance with people we know are being safe, but 95% of our circle is interacting with unknowns either voluntarily or involuntarily. We will see how the Fall & Winter go. And big caveat, we have just the singleton and stay at home Mom so definitely no judgement passed on the folks that need child care, just wanted to give my rules for those that are interested in how other like-minded people may be dealing. Crazyweasel fucked around with this message at 16:46 on Aug 20, 2020 |
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We had zoom calls with the Mommy group and my toddlers got bored of it after a week. Oh well.
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Well she napped a little over 90 minutes today. The mean ol diarrhea woke her up. Looks like she's not going back to daycare tomorrow.
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hooah posted:Oh boy, I guess that's what I have to look forward to. Our 22-month-old just switched daycares since the woman running the in-home one he was attending is moving. Now he's in a big daycare center with his older sister. Suddenly, he's wanting to pee in the toilet at daycare, when he has barely even sat on the training potty at home. Yep that's what seeing other kids go toilet will do to a toddler.
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Hippie Hedgehog posted:Yep that's what seeing other kids go toilet will do to a toddler. Well, sometimes, I guess. I think our daughter started potty training with our encouragement at maybe 2.5?
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Sarah posted:My kid is a horrible napper at home. Great daycare napper. A solid 2 hours M-F. Weekends are poop. An hour if we are lucky. Yep, we used white noise starting at 6 months or so and it worked wonders for our kids. We stayed using the wake up function around age 3 with our oldest, which was when he got a big boy bed. We did a simple red light (dim) with white noise at night, with a switch to green light and a gradual softening of the white noise at wake up time. So far so good one year in.
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I’m going to lose it. Over the last several weeks our 22-month-old son has been sleeping horribly. When it’s good, he takes a 1.5 hour nap around 1 pm. He’ll go to bed around 7/7:30 and wake up at 6. But these last few weeks, save for a few days, he’ll go to bed around 7, getting up around 11 or midnight and being up for a good hour or two where we try everything: changing, food, Motrin if needed, stories if we’re really losing it. Nothing loving works. He might go down for 5-20 minutes but then the screaming continues. He’ll still get up between 5:15 and 6:30 in the morning and he’s obviously tired as poo poo the next day, but sometimes he’ll skip a nap, take 30 minutes, and on the rare amazing occasion he’ll sleep for 2 hours as a nap. I don’t know what to do. We slept trained him when he was like 4 months or so and that worked, but it’s like he’s forgotten how to self soothe or something. Is sleep training an ongoing process at his age? Like now when we go in there we’ll try and hold him until he’s nearly asleep, sometimes up to 15 minutes, because if we don’t, he’ll crawl up us and latch on harder, sometimes start to cry if we put him down before he’s ready to try and sleep. The other thing are his meals. Sometimes he doesn’t want to eat anything at lunch and wants to go straight to sleep. Should we allow this? Same thing for his other meals. I know he’ll eat when he’s hungry but it’s almost like he knows he’ll get a food pouch in the middle of the night so he doesn’t worry too much about dinner. I loving hate those pouches. They’re convenient as hell but we go through 4-6 a day sometimes. He’ll eat a ton of what he likes: pasta, pizza, broccoli...but trying to give him other food is a roll of the dice.
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My 16 month old decided she didn’t need the boob to fall asleep tonight for the first time ever. We just rocked in the chair and she snuggled in and fell asleep. It broke my heart.
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nwin posted:I don’t know what to do. We slept trained him when he was like 4 months or so and that worked, but it’s like he’s forgotten how to self soothe or something. That sucks, man. We've lucked out so far and had no bad regressions in a long while. I guess you've already gathered from my posts but we're very pragmatic about these things. She has an easier time falling asleep on our bed, so she gets to do that. One of us lies next to us until she's well under. Then we lift her over to her crib (yes still in our room at 21 months... works fine so far!). The downside vs "sleep training" is we spend more time putting her to bed, but the upside is it's kind of a nice cozy time for us. I don't know how long we'll be able to keep this routine up; sooner or later she's going to climb our of the crib and then it's over to the next bed which doesn't fit in our room. nwin posted:The other thing are his meals. Sometimes he doesn’t want to eat anything at lunch and wants to go straight to sleep. Should we allow this? Pragmatic side again: If he often needs a nap more than he needs food, consider feeding him lunch earlier the next day, or giving the mid-morning snack later. Having routines is important but it's fine to make adaptations to them as the kid develops.
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My kid (2.5y) has ALL the regressions and nap strikes and all other cutesy phrases for hosed up sleep. To adapt we have settled into a pattern where we only try for a nap if she woke up before 7am that day, and she is allowed to skip her nap and instead just have quiet time laying down watching her tablet for an hour or so. If she naps that day, bedtime is 8:30, and if she skips her nap it's more like 6:30. At this point, the goal is just 12 hours of sleep, and we don't have the luxury of deciding when she gets those hours.
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Our oldest son slept on a toddler cot in our room when he couldn't use the full size co-sleeper in our room anymore. He had a bed in his room, but sometimes it was just easier to let him sleep on the cot. He eventually got over it and now he has no issues living in his bed so it's not like it's a forever thing. I think it lasted roughly about a year where he eventually fully transitioned to be able to sleep in his room by himself. We still left the cot in our room and told him if he ever has a bad dream and wants to come sleep in our room he can come in and sleep on the cot whenever he wants.
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nwin posted:I loving hate those pouches. They’re convenient as hell but we go through 4-6 a day sometimes. He’ll eat a ton of what he likes: pasta, pizza, broccoli...but trying to give him other food is a roll of the dice. I hear you on the pouches. I love how convenient they are, but they are so easy for the kid to fall back on. Any time we can get her to eat a full meal without holding out for a pouch is a victory.
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Our 4 year old has suddenly hit a point where he's scared of everything. He's up multiple times in the night and wakes us up because he heard a noise. I've been assured that it's totally normal but I really don't like having my sleep hosed with this badly 
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Hippie Hedgehog posted:That sucks, man. We've lucked out so far and had no bad regressions in a long while. We try our best to adapt, but it’s frustrating when nothing is working. Even with the crappy sleep last night, today he slept in until 8 am which was very welcome because we got some sleep too. We kept him engaged this morning and tried to feed him lunch early. We’re putting him down now so we’ll see how it goes. He hasn’t eaten a ton but we haven’t given him a pouch yet today so I’m glad to see that. Organic Lube User posted:My kid (2.5y) has ALL the regressions and nap strikes and all other cutesy phrases for hosed up sleep. To adapt we have settled into a pattern where we only try for a nap if she woke up before 7am that day, and she is allowed to skip her nap and instead just have quiet time laying down watching her tablet for an hour or so. If she naps that day, bedtime is 8:30, and if she skips her nap it's more like 6:30. Sometimes he skips naps but at this point my wife is still adamant he must take a nap and gets really frustrated when it doesn’t happen. Half of the reason is she just needs some time off and doesn’t feel like she can get it when he’s up there having some alone time instead of napping. We just never know when he’ll start freaking out if he’s up in his crib not napping. Before COVID she used to take him to the Y on a daily basis so she could get a workout in and he could play in their childcare. Now she gets no time. I try and carve out my lunch time so I can watch him and she can do whatever but works been busy and I can’t always give her that option.
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The way we look at it is we still get that time to do whatever we want (sleep), but we don't get to pick when it happens, but we know if we don't get the break in the middle of the day then it'll happen a little earlier at night instead.
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Organic Lube User posted:My kid (2.5y) has ALL the regressions and nap strikes and all other cutesy phrases for hosed up sleep. To adapt we have settled into a pattern where we only try for a nap if she woke up before 7am that day, and she is allowed to skip her nap and instead just have quiet time laying down watching her tablet for an hour or so. If she naps that day, bedtime is 8:30, and if she skips her nap it's more like 6:30. That sounds ... Very reasonable, actually. Congrats on finding something that works for you. I don't know at what age we should expect naps to stop but probably before 4 years old? Edit: Also tablets at 2.5 are you a monster etc. (We have resisted as far as 21 months and thankfully the kids at daycare aren't allowed to bring electronics. So, she still doesn't know about screens apart from pictures of herself on our phones, and video calls to her grandparents and uncles.) Hippie Hedgehog fucked around with this message at 18:39 on Aug 22, 2020 |
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I reject your antitablet propaganda.
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Yeah I realize I came off a bit judgey there. If I had my way my child would grow up in a world with only dial-up Internet, which you had to use from a shared PC at home, like I did. Of course I know that's not in the cards and I'll have to adapt to reality. Of course, I realize that a kid on a walled-garden iPad with a daddy-curated app selection is completely safe. I just want to see a world where our kids don't turn out to be slaves to the attention deficit machines like us... 
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Hippie Hedgehog posted:Yeah I realize I came off a bit judgey there. My thinking on that is that growing up with dial-up and barely any TV didn't prevent me from becoming the Extremely Online person that I am, so I shouldn't expect it would work for my kid either. If anything, I think my parents' attempts to limit our TV/computer usage just made me more susceptible because I built up no resistance to those flashy screens. Lure of the forbidden fruit and stuff.
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I was alarmed at how quickly my nephew would stop and turn to look at any glowing tv, including one across the room, even at 6 months. By like 18 months he didn't know how to work the remote, but knew enough that the remote controlled the glowing screen, and would find it and hand it to you I grew up playing doom, quake, etc; i.e. "murder simulators" haven't murdered anybody (yet) Friend recently gave their 8 year old a smart phone, 10 years ago parents were hesitating to give their 16 year old kids smart phones
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I have something that will hopefully distract from screen time chat: Three days ago my 2.5 year old has started to stutter, repeating the first syllable of many of his sentences. We're keeping an eye on it and plan on talking to his doctor about it but twice he's gotten really upset and said something like "it's hard to talk". It breaks my heart.
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Slimy Hog posted:I have something that will hopefully distract from screen time chat: We don't have a stutter here, but she does tend to roll all of the helper words of her sentences into "na na na na" so she'll say something like "Grandma na na na counter" if she wants her grandma to pick her up and set her on the kitchen counter. We usually try to clearly enunciate what we think she said back to her so she can hopefully hear the right way to say things but it is slightly troubling.
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