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Question: if we hired a landacaping company to do work outside of the house, how concerned should we be about things like weedkiller/pesticide/etc. being sprayed? I was hoping to schedule it for a morning where she's in the office so hopefully it'd be a few hours between application/her coming home. She's at about 13 weeks if that matters. She usually doesn't spend any signifi any amount of time outside.
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Aug 5, 2024 19:55
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Looking for a playpen for baby now that he has started rolling like crazy and dog is still too interested in him... We have been looking at the following but seems a lil expensive but all the cheaper ones seem, well cheap... https://comfycubs.com/products/playpen-gate Any suggestions?
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Aug 5, 2024 20:44
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IANAMD but the greatest risk from herbicide/pesticide exposure seems to be around the middle of the first trimester, which your wife would be past by now. If you want to feel extra safe she could take a shower as soon as she gets home to rinse off anything she might have come in contact with between the car and the front door. If she's not making a regular habit of going outside and laying down in the grass things should be fine.
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Aug 6, 2024 17:37
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Couldn't you just ask them not to spray chemicals everywhere?
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Aug 6, 2024 18:51
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Nettle Soup posted:Couldn't you just ask them not to spray chemicals everywhere? Agree maybe just skip the chemicals this year, why risk it? Most of this stuff is preventative maintenance anyways unless you have an active termite infestation If there's a one in a million chance that "safe" chemical isn't actually safe, vs having six extra weeds in the yard, I'm gonna pick the option that involves extra weeding coronatae posted:IANAMD but the greatest risk from herbicide/pesticide exposure seems to be around the middle of the first trimester, which your wife would be past by now. I'm also not a doctor, but I agree with this line of reasoning
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Aug 6, 2024 19:33
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To start with, I’d probably at least try to find out exactly what they’re doing to, since it sounds like OP doesn’t know.
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Aug 6, 2024 20:04
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My OB is recommending inducing labor at 39 weeks due to my age (I’m 41). My physical therapist recommended the book “In Your Own Time”, so I looked it up. It seems like the author has an agenda. Can anyone recommend any unbiased, fact based resources with regard to pros and cons of induction due to age?
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Aug 7, 2024 01:44
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:My OB is recommending inducing labor at 39 weeks due to my age (I’m 41). My physical therapist recommended the book “In Your Own Time”, so I looked it up. It seems like the author has an agenda. Our lil man is 5 months old, momma was considered geriatric and induced at 39 weeks and it was smooth. Arrived around 8am and lil man was out by 2 or 3. Do you know the bishop score (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470368/#:~:text=A%20Bishop%20score%20of%208,ripening%20agents%20may%20be%20utilized.) ?
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Aug 7, 2024 02:27
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My OB recommended the same and the reasons provided were simply the brutal statistics on stillbirth. He raised this with me very early and it was a waste of breath and consideration because I went into spontaneous labour at 37w.
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Aug 7, 2024 10:45
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Hadlock posted:Agree maybe just skip the chemicals this year, why risk it? The nurse at my wife's OB-GYN didn't really seem concerned at all but after talking it over with my wife, we're just gonna do like you mentioned and just skip the chemicals this year. Better safe than sorry!
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Aug 7, 2024 16:34
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fyallm posted:Our lil man is 5 months old, momma was considered geriatric and induced at 39 weeks and it was smooth. Arrived around 8am and lil man was out by 2 or 3. Do you know the bishop score (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470368/#:~:text=A%20Bishop%20score%20of%208,ripening%20agents%20may%20be%20utilized.) ? Thanks for this! It’s helpful! G-Spot Run posted:My OB recommended the same and the reasons provided were simply the brutal statistics on stillbirth. He raised this with me very early and it was a waste of breath and consideration because I went into spontaneous labour at 37w. Really hoping for spontaneous labor since I was induced for my first. Hoping little one cooperates so I don’t have to make a decision.
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Aug 7, 2024 17:18
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I’m in the lateish first trimester and my sleep quality has absolutely torpedoed. I’m basically fully waking up by 2:30-3:30 each morning after barely making it to bed at 9:30pm. It makes it so hard to get through the day between work and the kids I already have. I’m hoping I get some relief in second trimester because I know from experience my third trimester sleep will also be hot garbage.
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Aug 10, 2024 11:18
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I am so hungry all the time forever. I had a huge portion of curry and rice for dinner, but all I can thinking about is getting a big bowl of cereal. Kiddo is in like the 48th percentile for size/weight as of the 20-week scan last month. He's been extremely busy in there, moving furniture around and practicing karate and whatnot. But he goes quiet when I try to get my spouse to feel. Oh well, plenty of time and opportunities before he gets here!
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Aug 11, 2024 02:02
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I was referred to this thread by my goon doctor from The Goon Doctor. If this isn’t the correct place for a question like this, then I apologize in advance. We are needing to pursue IVF and of course my health insurance doesn’t cover it. We spoke to a health insurance broker and he suggested a plan from the marketplace that does cover IVF and has better pre and postpartum coverage, and costs about $100 more a month in premiums than we are currently paying. This is in the USA. Could their be any unintended consequences if we switch to this plan for the IVF and postpartum care and then drop them for our old insurance whenever they’re not useful anymore? Actually they are both BCBS plans, just different ones. I’m sure we’re not the first people to hatch this scheme and I wonder if it would trigger any retribution from the insurance company.
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Aug 16, 2024 02:30
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kreeningsons posted:I was referred to this thread by my goon doctor from The Goon Doctor. If this isn’t the correct place for a question like this, then I apologize in advance. In the US, there’s no preexisting conditions issue with health insurance anymore, so I don’t think you can be blocked from picking any insurance whenever you are eligible (such as during the upcoming open season). BCBS plans vary widely by region, so unless someone had used your specific plan, you probably can’t get much meaningful feedback. In our area, there is no insurance plan (even on the marketplace) that includes fertility care. If insurance coverage is an issue (as it is for many), I highly encourage folks to checkout New Directions Fertility Clinic in Arizona. We live out of state and traveled for our care, and even with travel costs, New Directions was about 60-70% the cost of local clinics. They have a mission of increasing access to fertility care and lower their costs by moving patients through in cohorts. Things weren’t perfect, but we were happy with our care overall (esp Dr Amols). https://newdirectionfertility.com/
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Aug 16, 2024 23:02
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I empathize and wish everyone the best but also lol at nude erection fertility
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Aug 17, 2024 05:53
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I've got a weird one. Wife is 18 weeks pregnant with our second, and now a section of her C-section scar has vanished. There's just a gap in it now. Anyone heard of this before?
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Aug 17, 2024 21:14
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SpaceViking posted:I've got a weird one. Wife is 18 weeks pregnant with our second, and now a section of her C-section scar has vanished. There's just a gap in it now. Anyone heard of this before? Wifey is just under 13 weeks pregnant and her previous section scar and appendix surgery scar and gall bladder scar have almost completed vanished. I find it very amusing.
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Aug 18, 2024 17:38
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Almost to the third trimester and the swelling has started in a big way! Probably due in part to the fact that I spent the weekend at a LAN party indulging all my snacky sodium-bomb cravings, sitting in a godawful plastic chair and wearing flipflops the whole time. Things are a bit better today but I need to stay off my feet and stop snacking like a teenager. I had a headache earlier and immediately spiralled into "oh god oh gently caress it's preeclampsia" but then I looked outside and saw the storm clouds rolling over and remembered I get barometric headaches.
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Sep 2, 2024 16:52
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Wahoo, month 8 starts today! Putting on my compression socks is now an Olympic sport. My fingers feel very stiff, I'm sure they are also swollen but I switched all my rings to a necklace several months ago for fear of one getting stuck. I did have an unusually high blood pressure at my last doctor's appointment, but I've been monitoring it since then and it's been fine. At the time I didn't feel sufficiently ballsy to explain to the doctor that it probably had to do with the sign on the clinic door that noted she, specifically, was running 45 minutes behind schedule and patients could reschedule if they wanted. Apparently that was no longer true by the time of my appointment but they hadn't taken the sign down and they whisked me back for vitals right away before I had time to settle.
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Oct 2, 2024 21:20
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Here’s a somewhat novel one. My wife is 9 weeks pregnant and hasn’t gone to a haunted house in years and years. She was excited for a night out, but is unsure if it’s a great idea while pregnant. The concerns are mainly tripping and falling in the dark and the cortisol levels, but I have a feeling she’s overthinking this. I guess I should note that she’s become an extremely jumpy person after her first two pregnancies. Like, extremely extremely easy to startle.
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Oct 12, 2024 23:47
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My girl is now 23 weeks and absolutely exhausted, she is sleeping 15+ hours and taking naps. Everything we read said 2nd trimester gets better but I've never seen it this bad and she is struggling and it's affecting her mental health big time. All is good with bloodwork, she's eating well, taking her multivitamins etc. Anybody experience anything similar or can offer advice.
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Oct 24, 2024 23:35
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My first pregnancy, I had never felt that level of bone-deep exhaustion before. I would basically come home from week, fall asleep on the couch, wake for dinner and go to bed. It didn’t really clear up a ton before birth, but also wasn’t nearly as bad in subsequent pregnancies. Bits of activity- walks or some yoga or whatever- helped stave off the worst of it until I could collapse for the day. She should keep an eye out, medically, but also it’s within the realm of normal. Significant brain rewiring goes on over the entire course of pregnancy and imo the fatigue is related.
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Oct 25, 2024 00:19
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2nd trimester is supposed to be golden trimester It's very likely she just has a low key bug, it'll pass Fun fact, the drug that organ transplant patients take, is an immunosuppressant, developed (cloned) from the chemical fetuses secrete to keep from getting rejected by the mother TL;DR mom has a suppressed immune system, let her sleep it off
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Oct 25, 2024 02:05
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Is she getting even a little exercise? A slow, small walk around the neighborhood for even 15 minutes a day can make a huge difference. Laying around because you feel sick and tired can in fact make you feel even more sick and tired. It suuuucks but if she can do even a little bit of something it may help to reverse course on the cycle?
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Oct 25, 2024 04:20
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Yeah I’ll second getting outside for a little walk or non work / non baby activity every day. That made a big difference for my wife. Make sure she is eating regularly, eating enough snacks, and getting a healthy assortment of fruits, vegetables, and protein.
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Oct 25, 2024 10:38
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Can anyone share some guides or calculators on when to consider joining insurance plans? We have $10k saved for pregnancy related medical and I have another 10k in my HSA. The good news is the majority of the pregnancy will take place in 2025. The bad news is my wife is changing jobs next week and we've accepted her new employer may just fire her since she won't be within FMLA tenure terms. I'm inclined to just add her to my plan for 2025, waiving hers, so we are working toward the family deductibles and OOPs for the whole year. I'm torn on the HDHP vs PPO as well, considering we have the cash to cover the OOP max for both. The PPO is a higher max with more coinsurance, but the plans seem the same on procedural coverages. I'm trying to plug in to a spreadsheet but having a tough time keeping the numbers straight. I checked the OP but it's old, sorry if this is a common question with open enrollment!
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Nov 7, 2024 14:19
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Why not have her on her own but with yours as a backup/secondary? That way she’s still contributing to the family out of pocket maximum, and you’ll get the benefit from double coverage. Depending on your insurer, this may be free to you.
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Nov 7, 2024 15:07
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I had no clue that was an option! I thought you could only be on a single insurance and that each policy has it's own individual/family max
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Nov 7, 2024 15:27
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I mean I can’t promise it’s an option for every single insurance but I’ve had it work many times with many different providers. Saved us a ton of money over the years.
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Nov 7, 2024 15:42
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When people were listing off pregnancy symptoms, nobody told me that my main and pretty much only ones were going to be "the baby seems to be residing in your bladder" and "you will sneeze constantly" I swear to god I sneezed twenty times in a row earlier and my nose is running so much it's starting to get sore. It's driving me mad.
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Nov 17, 2024 13:18
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Must be Bajoran
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Nettle Soup posted:When people were listing off pregnancy symptoms, nobody told me that my main and pretty much only ones were going to be "the baby seems to be residing in your bladder" and "you will sneeze constantly" My second had a foot crammed near my left lung and that poo poo continued to be extremely uncomfortable until I pushed him out. Like even during labor, the epidural didn't go as high as that foot so I was still feeling him kick my lung.
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Nov 17, 2024 15:01
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Nettle Soup posted:When people were listing off pregnancy symptoms, nobody told me that my main and pretty much only ones were going to be "the baby seems to be residing in your bladder" and "you will sneeze constantly" Pregnancy rhinitis is the worst. The only thing that worked for me was using Flonase when I woke up and again before bed.
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Nov 17, 2024 15:58
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:Pregnancy rhinitis is the worst. The only thing that worked for me was using Flonase when I woke up and again before bed. I think this is where I'm gonna end up. And huh, I always felt alien, now I know!
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Nov 17, 2024 19:48
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Pregnancy rhinitis made me snore horrifically so I had to start doing flonase before bed which mostly helped. I hadn't really had a chance to update in this thread but all my pregnancy edema started to get horrible and then at about 37 weeks I was diagnosed with gestational hypertension and induced because of my bp readings. I had originally wanted to try an unmedicated labor out of curiosity (with option to get epidural ofc) but the induction meds made early labor so miserable I got the epidural pretty early on and have no regrets since that allowed me to sleep and get fully dilated for delivery. Three hours of pushing and some salad tongs (forceps) later, baby arrived! Spent some time in the NICU for respiratory distress but we've all been home for a week and a half now and things are going well 
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Our little guy is so active he really kicks the crap out of his mam in there. It's kinda awful but hilarious at the same time. He does somersaults when there's loud music playing, particularly drum heavy music and 70s hits. (Very still for metal music) He gets very active when I come home from work and he hears me talking  We know exactly when he wants food. He will respond to the particular sound of chocolate wrappers  He loves water, and jiggles around like mad in the bath and shower. We love this little cracked bastard so much and we haven't even met him yet 
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Nov 25, 2024 14:24
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My dude, now 11, was SUPER active in utero too. And he's been super active his whole life since then as well. Just pure nonstop energy all the time.
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Nov 25, 2024 14:26
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The sneezing seems to have mostly died down, so the only symptom I'm left with is a bladder the size of a teacup. We had a nuchal fluid + everything else check the other day and everything looked great. Just waiting for the result of the NIPT now and then I can relax. edit: Results are in, all clear! 
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Hitting the third trimester like a brick wall with my third baby. My hips and back are so uncomfortable and I am really resenting the weight I’ve gained. It’s been a healthy pregnancy so far but man I’m looking forward to not doing this again.
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