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Whats up thread. So we just found out my wife is pregnant. Guessing 6 weeks, making an appointment on Monday to confirm but she's been throwing up all week and she's been asking me for about three if I thought her breasts were getting bigger. And it took about nine seconds for the tests she took to return positive. And now here I am. She's passed out for the night and I guess I'm almost just looking for direction. I've got little to no experience with kids or pregnancy or any of it. I'm excited, but for the first time in my life I find myself clueless. What to Expect When You're Expecting is now sitting on a shelf in the bathroom, but I guess I just wanted a little input from outside sources and who better than the internet, right? Words of wisdom for a 27 year old soon to be father? Book recommendations? I'm going to start reading through the thread but anything that seems like it should be thrown at me is welcome.
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Hey thread. I've been googling all day looking for information on breast feeding and thought I'd try my luck here. Wife got c-sectioned yesterday (nearly 10 lb monster toddler-baby) and we've had very spotty luck getting him to latch. He started out pretty well yesterday we were getting him to go at it for 10-20 minutes at a time, just had to re-engage him every minute or so but he took right to it. Then late last night he was more reluctant, and now today we've spent at least five hours with a total result of less than 30 minutes combined time nursing. Online resources have said things like the demerol she was getting through IV after the birth might have made him reluctant and stuff. I haven't seen any other drugs mentioned by name but she did go full general anesthesia (being in any way awake would have caused a panic attack mid surgery) and maybe that's affecting it too? We've been trying skin to skin pretty much every time, and tried both sides with multiple positions, and he's just not having much of any of it. But then, his blood sugar level has remained good despite him not seeming overly hungry, no jaundice or anything like that, so I don't really know what to think. The nurses are pretty insistant on every three hours, I've read stuff online that said that's BS and stuff that says that's a necessity, so I wanted to get some personal opinions from the people in here. Also, my wife isn't the best eater, kinda inconsistent and she's had chick fil-a and applebees the last two days. She's been sucking down water like it's going out of style, but she hasn't eaten an overly large amount, going on two smallish meals a day. She says she's definitely producing, she leaks and all and can express colostrum. Would not eating too much affect her milk in a way that the baby wouldn't like it? Last bit, he's been more sleepy than anything else. I think maybe he hasn't gotten solid sleep with all the activity, I convinced her to lay down and now they're both passed out for the last hour and a half, any outside opinions on how long I should let them stay passed out, particularly the little one? He just seems really inclined to sleep right now and if he's so tired that he's falling asleep when we try to nurse the second we aren't harassing him with tickles and cold wash cloths on the forehead, should we let him do what he seems to need to do? The nurses just seem to have some basic training on a routine they try to maintain, we haven't gotten to speak with their lactation specialist for more than one five minute visit today. They're helpful but honestly some of them seem to know the how to of nursing and really nothing else. Not that I fare much better, but it's frustrating to ask questions and feel like no one here really knows a solid answer. I'm in over my head with most of this, but I figured at least maybe I can do some research. If you've got a source that would be great, if you've got some personal experience that would be greater. Thanks in advance.
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Mar 29, 2012 01:57
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Thanks for the help guys, the Kellymom site had a bunch of good ideas and I googled some more. He's feeding a bunch better now, we just had to get him accustomed and figure out how to reliably wake him up to get him to eat on schedule, I think he'd sleep all night if we let him. He hates being changed so now our default routine is to change him or pretend to when he's not dirty and that gets him awake and fussy. He's gone from five to ten minutes to sitting there going at it for half an hour or more at a stretch without us having to monitor him too closely. In other news he's already lifting his head up and stuff, which I read newborns usually aren't capable of doing. Not a ton, but if he's lying on our shoulders he's already trying to roll his head around to look at things. Bring me to my next question, I've been using a rolled up sheet to prop him up a little and keep him from rolling around too much when he sleeps, we can't keep him solidly in one place without doing that. Any suggestions on how to do that best, because right now we're improvising. Grandmother in law told us we shouldn't sleep him on his back because of choking while spitting up and I've read about SIDS and not front sleeping until he can turn himself over both ways, so I'm trying to keep him on his side. But he's a bit stubborn even when he sleeps so I was wondering what yall's experience with that was and what I should know or watch out for. Still googling away but I just thought of this and wanted to ask before I try to grab two hours before he needs to be fed again.
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Mar 30, 2012 07:31
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