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Funhilde posted:Congrats Ishamael! Yup, just went through this (23 weeks right now). I was told I had an anterior placenta at my 12 week ultrasound which meant I would start feeling the baby later than most (maybe as late at 24 weeks). Didn't stop me from panicking hugely at around 21 weeks though since it was going to be another week before the next checkup and I was just so afraid that something had gone wrong and I would have no idea. Luckily it was right when I literally couldn't sleep because I was getting so worked up that I felt him kick for the first time.  Now I get the daily reassurances of "ow, he kicked somewhere uncomfortable" and that's been really nice but I was a huge mess around 20-21 weeks because I'm barely showing and I couldn't feel him yet.If you do start panicking so much that it's affecting you a lot, I would definitely call the OBGYN/midwife office. Mine told me at my 22 week appointment that they are more than happy to reassure me or even let me come in early if I am really freaking out that bad.
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cailleask posted:Ahaha awesome! That was the only way I could prove to my husband that the baby was moving around, because until well into the third trimester she would stop what she was doing if he came anywhere near with a hand. It was actually pretty funny. Mine did the same! Every time I go, "NOW! He's moving now!" and my husband puts his hand on my belly, it's like suddenly he just lost all interest in moving. Eventually he got to feel the moving but it took a lot of "Why do you hate daddy" before that. 
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Ishamael posted:So you didn't worry about telling your parents too early? We are really on the fence, since she will be at 10 weeks when everyone is here. We actually told both sets of parents the moment we found out (so really early) because if something DID go wrong, we would want them to know and be supportive. They were under strict orders to keep mum to siblings and the rest of the family (which mostly worked except my mom couldn't keep a secret and told my grandmother) until our more official announcement to the families at 12 weeks. It really depends on your relationships with your families and how you/they will feel if the worst were to happen, imo.
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Ishamael posted:Yeah, it was sushi specifically I was curious about, since it is a lot more prevalent in Japan. We were wondering the other day if pregnant Japanese women avoided raw fish, or not. And now we know - thanks LyonsLions! IIRC Japan also has MUCH more rigorous food safety/health codes so you're very unlikely to get bad raw fish in Japan so it's much less of a concern.
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Ishamael posted:Aaaaaand that might be enough of this thread for me. Yeah my due date is in 8 days and I keep wondering how wise it is that I read this thread.
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Big Bug Hug posted:Shorties unite! 5'2 as well. Your poor wife... I'm sure she'll be ok! Yay short mommas-to-be! 5'1" here and 39 weeks today. He's been running out of room in there for months though. I tried to blame my 6'1" husband but then the midwife told me genetics won't kick in until age 2. (Still blaming him.) Found out today he is in the perfect position already right the heck now. No wonder I suddenly started feeling more comfortable. Alright baby, stay still until labor-time! I'm also mad that they don't do gas in the US. By all accounts, the hospital I will be delivering at is amazing but no gas. Hmmph.
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GlyphGryph posted:I also presented with a medal for the successful delivery of a one (1) healthy baby boy, and an engraved trophy saying "Amazing. Strong. Terrific. A loved and loving mother." which made her break out in tears, but they were tears of happiness this time. This is so sweet. I'm really happy to hear you guys are coping. Yeah, wearing my baby is something I am really excited about. Want all the skin-to-skin. Now if only the little guy will come out... 3 days past due date now. It's really stressing me out but my midwife is kickin' rad and we had a good talk with her yesterday where she was like, "Late is normal. Due date is seriously just an estimate. Your baby is measuring normal and healthy from what I can tell. Just hang in there." So I'm just hanging in there but holy poo poo I am uncomfortable. Plus I am in the GIANT SNOWSTORMS OF DOOM ZONE 2015 so the chance of him not coming during a storm is looking slim.
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I hope posting pictures of the end result of this thread (baby!) is allowed. Haven't seen it for a while, but I recall it being done. http://imgur.com/a/tq8BK This is Ezekiel. Born Feb. 21st. Wanted to share while I am having a good moment. Been struggling with PPD and just the normal stresses of new-parenthood. Getting help though (and meds) and learning to love my little man.
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silvergoose posted:Could it be sciatica? Babies can press down on the sciatic nerve and it can hurt like all gently caress. Yeah, I had sciatica at one point during my pregnancy and silvergoose can attest how pathetic I was whimpering as I tried to walk and almost couldn't because of the pain down my thigh. Especially if she notices the pain radiates down her leg sometimes. GG - Awesome pics and cute baby. Your wife's experience sounds awful but at least your little man is a cutie-pie. 
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Feb 28, 2015 17:18
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Funhilde posted:here she is. She's got a mess of red hair too. Hair pics please!!! I'm loving the baby hair. My Zeke's is so soft and cuddly I just keep rubbing it all the time especially when breastfeeding. Oh hey, is that the Clear-Vue co-sleeper? 'cause we have the same one.
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Funhilde posted:Well our little Edie is 3 months old! So is little Zekey!  Also, Zoloft is amazing and turned my life around when I realized I was going through PPD. So incredibly glad I reached out and got help. For anyone in here who ends up with PPD, you're not alone and it's not your fault and it does get better!
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BlueCat posted:Hi everyone. I've just found out (a couple of days ago) that I'm pregnant. Since finding out, I've been completely overcome by a resurgence of my anxiety issues. I had the opposite thing happen to me when I got pregnant where before, I generally dealt with some bad anxiety (and was on meds for it at different points) but pregnancy was basically the best anti-depressant I had ever taken. Then after I gave birth, post-partum depression hit almost immediately like a truck. Talking to my midwife about it, she said that both reactions are completely normal and common things in pregnancy because holy poo poo batman, so many raging hormones during pregnancy. Definitely talk to your OB/Midwife about it because based on what my midwife said, if it's bad enough/gets pretty bad, they might recommend an SSRI because at that point, it's more important that you are well than avoiding the tiny, tiny chance of the medication doing anything to your baby. loving hormones, man.
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eselbaum posted:Congratulations! She is so adorable, and a fun birth date too. Hope you're having fun so far! Do you know if you have the high lipase issue? Quickest way to check is to grab a bottle you expressed that is a few days old give it a quick taste yourself and see if it tastes awful (at least that is what I did and... ew). I just did it out of curiosity because thankfully Zeke apparently gives no poo poo about the horrible taste. But based on what I have read about it, he is the exception not the rule. Still, just as a hedge in case he starts caring, we've been scalding some of the pumped milk anyway which is how you stop the lipase from eating the fat and making the milk taste terrible. There are resources talking about it if you just Google high lipase breast milk.
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eselbaum posted:Nice work! We are currently using the changing table on our Pack n Play, and baby Edie is quickly outgrowing it! At ten and a half weeks old, she's almost too tall to fit in the thing. So, we'll have to figure something else out soon. Yours looks nice and long! We bought a changing pad and a cheap short Ikea dresser and velcro-ed the changing pad on top to stop it from moving so much. It was super cheap, works shockingly well, and when he gets longer than the length of the changing pad we can still use it; his legs will just hang off. And the dresser will continue to be useful in the future though we'll have to unstick that velcro. We were also like, "gently caress that" to the cost of a changing table.
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Stairs posted:As the mother of a three year old girl who is currently wearing a dinosaur shirt and sweatpants because she will scream her head off if you even say the word dress around her: This. Plus my baby boy is wearing plenty of adorable things. I dunno if you've actually taken a look at boy clothes yet but there's actually lots of colorful monkeys, puppies, dinosaurs and stuff of that ilk. I would be more pissed if I was shopping in the girls section to be honest because I wouldn't be able to buy a plain shirt without it having a loving bow on it.
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Sep 17, 2015 23:13
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JustAurora posted:Internet pregnancy truth: Until recently I've only ever read this SA Pregnancy thread. But as I started my first pregnancy I've ventured out to other boards at times when I've had weird symptoms or just wanted some reassurance. (I have so much hair on my stomach now I feel like I am turning into a bear). Ha! I totally did the same thing. It clicked for me pretty fast but then after that I sniggered every time I saw it. I'm glad I'm not the only one who got confused!
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Sharks Below posted:Hello I am formally joining this thread, 12 weeks today, Harmony test alll super low risk and I'm having a boy. I'm growing a penis inside me. lmao High five baby boy haver (though mine is 15 months old now...). I couldn't stop giggling about "Little, tiny baby testicles!!! Growing INSIDE ME!!" until my husband literally went, "STOP. Just. STOP."
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Also check those little palms. Their fists are always balled up in the beginning and it can definitely get red and irritated in there.
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Also if you can find pasteurized eggs at the grocery store you can make your own safe-to-eat-raw cookie dough! 
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cailleask posted:A place to change diapers - we put a waterproof pad on top of a dresser. Highly recommend this, but get some sticky velcro so the pad stays in place because our kid would just kick and kick and keep scooting the pad around which didn't help the changing process. Got a cheapo Ikea dresser for this and it's a great height for me (I'm short) and once we're done changing diapers on it we can just take off the pad and velcro.
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Apparently my uterus is just absurdly comfortable because my first (who is now 3) was 10 days past due date and then induced due to low amniotic fluids. Well baby #2 is now officially 41 weeks and has shown no signs that he's interested in leaving. Trying to be chill about it but I am so uncomfortable and cranky. And holy god is it more exhausting this time around with a demanding toddler running around too. Hoping to be back in the thread soon with good news but in the meantime, just ranting.
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Public Serpent posted:Yeah I'm way more nervous about trying to raise a boy into a non-gross adult. I was kinda hoping these babies would both be girls just so I wouldn't have to figure that poo poo out. Oh well lol same. When we found out we were having another boy, people kept getting, "Oh two boys! Boys are easy!" I'm like, bitch you think raising two boys to be feminist men who don't buy into the toxic masculinity bullshit that is everywhere is easy?!?!
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54 40 or gently caress posted:But like seriously, if your baby even looks in the general direction of a person of the opposite sex people are quick to say they’re ‘flirting’ People told me my son (when he was like, 2) was, "gonna be a heartbreaker" and I couldn't even begin to explain why that was weird and creepy. So many layers of wrong. Though I couldn't stop laughing when I told him once, "yeah go sit at that table near that girl for your snack" and he stopped in front of said girl on his way and said, "HI GIRL." Who then replied, "I HAVE A NAME. IT IS KATELYN."
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redreader posted:We're having friends over for a movie night, we saw incredibles 2 last night. We didn't think we'd get to see Infinity Wars in theater since the baby was due before the release date. Then we saw it in theater and I started getting contractions that night. Ended up being a week late. I guess he just really wanted us to get to see the movie! It's frustrating to wait but honestly it's a toss up whether heavily pregnant or brand new baby is worse.
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teacup posted:We were due on the 29th but my wife has had high blood pressure so they’ve bumped us to the 16th to be induced. I know it’s only a little early but man it feels fast now! Fingers crossed. Any hints and tips from ladies who have been induced or really it’s just “they do things and your body either reacts or doesn’t” The contractions suck more. The way it was described to me (and having been induced once and went into labor naturally once, I agree) is that the contractions when induced is like going from 0 to a hundred with no warning. Natural labor is more a gradual ramping up. Ended up with an epidural for both, personally. They try really hard to keep you at a low level of pitocin so that it's more an encouragement to your body but will raise it as needed to get you going. Just remember that there is an end point because eventually that baby is coming out of her so it WILL stop sucking. Helps to know you're only going through it as many times as you want babies. For my second kid, the knowledge that I was never gonna have to go through this again got me pumped and I was way more chill about the experience.
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If you live in the US, insurance covers a breast pump (unless that changed recently, gently caress healthcare in America) so don't buy one yourself. Check with insurance first. Car seat is essential if you plan to drive with them ever. We loved having the bucket one for when they are small and transitioning later to the regular convertible one but if you want you can skip the bucket and just get a convertible one which can usually go from newborn to like, 4-5 years old. That's pretty efficient. The bucket has a lot of advantages but my tall babies didn't stay/aren't in there that long in the grand scheme of things. What they sleep in is kinda a preference too. In the first year, you can do a bassinet, cosleeper, whatever in your room if you wanna keep them close. Eventually you'll probably want a crib, and you can probably just start with that if you want. We transitioned from bassinet in our room to crib pretty quickly because I sleep better without a baby in my room. If you want to mostly carry your baby, you can get a carrier/wrap instead of a stroller too. Again, preference. I know "whatever you want" isn't helpful, lol, but every parent and baby are different.
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Oh poo poo I have a ton from my family (Chinese). Some from the top of my head: You're not supposed to do any repairs in the house. My grandmother is still convinced my birthmark is from my dad repairing the tub when my mom was pregnant. My parents refused to let us put a single nail on the wall to hang a painting when I was pregnant. I was told cold drinks are bad for you in general but especially when you're pregnant. My mother's face when I was like, "you know the hospital gave me ice chips to chew on while I was in labor" was priceless. Moving your bed is apparently a big no no? There's a ton of poo poo you're supposed to do/not do in the first post partum month. The craziest was being told I can't shower or take any baths during that time (lol no). Also supposed to not eat fruits and vegetables (wtf)? Oh and the baby and I weren't supposed to leave the house. Yeah I did none of that. There's more but I don't recall, I thought all of it was stupid though. The reasoning behind the month thing, as my mother tried to tell me, is that the month after giving birth you can "radically reset your health and get rid of chronic health problems or acquire new ones" based on how well you follow these weird rules. She then literally went on to lament, "alas it is too bad men do not get this period of time in their life where they can change the fate of their health." 
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nyerf posted:I'm sorry you had such a horrific time of it Koivunen. That sounds truly awful. Don't hesitate to take the time you need to grieve if you need to, debrief with a post partum trauma counsellor or similar--it is more common and more needed than people will tell you. You are important, and your birth experience matters. It's not just about the baby. I'm not sure what country you're in but there's a book by an Australian duo called 'How To Heal A Bad Birth'--Amazon/book depository carry it. This is not saying any of this was in any way your fault, that you have to 'fix' things, but if you find yourself needing help to process things in the following weeks and months and noone around you is giving you the space or the language to proceed... This book helped me. It was a start anyway. Wow, wish I knew about any of this after the birth of my first. It was really the stark difference I experienced for the birth of my second that drove home to me that I really should have gotten more support after my first. Thanks for the great post.
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Yup, my experience in the states is the same for both kids. Unless anything was out of the ordinary, no ultrasound until 12 weeks at the earliest. And actually, that's only if you opt for ultrasound for part of the down syndrome testing. Since I got free cell DNA for my second my first ultrasound wasn't until the anatomy scan at like, 20 weeks I want to say. And they definitely don't check for ectopic here unless you have symptoms or a history of it already. I also wish prenatal care was more comprehensive but lol good healthcare for women lol.
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My teeth/gums suffered a lot with my first because of this issue. Switching to a not-minty toothpaste helped a bit so you can try a different toothpaste but honestly it was pretty crappy no matter what.
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:How do/did you all deal with hip pain while sleeping? I got a pregnancy pillow and use a second pillow between my legs in conjunction with it. I still toss and turn all night. The lack of sleep is making me really irritable and emotional. A firmer mattress/topper might help. I had to switch to sleeping to my spouse's side because we have a bed that's half softer and half firmer. But honestly there's only so much you can do; it's just awful.
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KasioDiscoRock posted:I get that panicky sensation in my chest sometimes when breastfeeding. I’ve never heard of anyone else experiencing it, but I also never asked because I wasn’t quite sure how to describe it. I imagine it’s the same thing though since they’re both connected to oxytocin. Oh my friend had/has that! It's called D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex) and it's a thing. She had it bad enough she had to go on antidepressants for it.
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My first was 11 days late (had to be induced) and my second was 10 days late (did go into labor). I was effectively murderous by the end of both. It sucks and feels like the longest days of your life but I promise they can't stay in there forever! Good luck, rooting for you!!
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:
OH MY GOD SO CUTE I LOVE IT. So many congrats!!!!!! Welcome to  , little one.
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:I ended up with a 2nd degree tear after giving birth. Today, 11 weeks later, I think I injured this area again. Has anyone had this happen? I didn't reinjure it, but I had a second degree tear too and it took 6 months to feel normal again. So it might just still be in some stage of healing? Hope you feel better soon, BFC!
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Chernobyl Princess posted:I'm pregnant again! Baby 2 will arrive some time in early June. I'm excited for this pregnancy because I'm starting out on Zoloft instead of waiting for the depression to get so bad that I was genuinely starting to fear for my safety. God drat, that sucked a lot. Don't ignore peripartum depression, it's real and really bad. Congrats! Yeah I had the same experience with PPD and for my second I was like no way am I waiting to be on Zoloft. Made a huge difference! PPD is the loving worst.
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Big Dick Cheney posted:What kind of Christmas gift would be good for someone in their third trimester? I was thinking something that would make her comfortable (she would never buy that for herself) but I don't know what would help. Pregnancy body pillow. Made sleeping possible in third trimester, basically.
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KirbyKhan posted:Yeah, you can tell him when you want. My wife went heavy deep on the pee strips of various testing criteria. We didn't do a full hooray until we got the confirmation from the doctor, so I understand your instinct. Congrats!!!! And yes that nurse button. I was fairly panicked about not having one anymore when we went home.
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