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MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



I went all baby-crazy a few weeks ago, and got pregnant immediately after deciding that my husband and I should wait another year at least, get some money in the bank, etc. We've got a good situation for the most part, but waiting was the right decision for us. I've been in shock since I found out yesterday morning via pee test. I'm only a "little pregnant", as in I just missed my period a few days ago, so I have approximately 8 months to get my poo poo together. I'm freaking the gently caress out:

1. How can you possibly keep being pregnant a secret until the 2nd trimester? I'm a huge blabbermouth, and can't keep a secret to myself for almost any reason. I've already managed to spill the beans to the 3 people closest to me besides my husband (my 2 best friends + my brother). Plus, the minute someone sees me turn down a margarita or a glass of wine, the jig is up. My poker face is no good unless I'm literally playing poker.

2. I'm somewhat ambivalent about this pregnancy, and it feels false to pretend that it was planned and that I'm loving over the moon about it. Obviously, that makes people uncomfortable, since they want to say "Oh, Congrats! You'll be the best parents ever, etc." I'm sure I'm not the only pregnant person that feels more overwhelmed than overjoyed. Am I really just supposed to put on a happy face?

3. I can't sleep. Insomnia ahoy. I just keep thinking about how I'm going to tell my parents, how my to-do list just keeps growing exponentially, and how I need to find/buy baby stuff I don't hate, etc. Is there something I could safely take to chill out, or is it time to brush up on my meditation skills?

4. I'm waiting to get started buying baby stuff until this summer, so what all do I need to be doing right now? I'm switching to prenatal vitamins, and taking supplements, and all that jazz. I've got some health care stuff to work out, but I'll make an appointment pretty soon and meet my midwife.

5. Any baby-related websites that don't make you want to throw up? If it helps, I'm on board with the whole cloth diapering, breastfeeding, natural-childbirth-if-possible motherhood track, and I hate those DD/DS/DH acronyms and the idea of a truckload of plastic crap invading my house.

I hope this post doesn't make me sound too cranky. I've got a great life and a great husband, and I'm looking forward to figuring out how a kid is going to fit in our life together.

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MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Thanks so much for your advice and support. I'm feeling much better about being pregnant, and starting to feel like being a mom might be something I'm going to be good at. I also feel super-lucky to be pregnant while we're living in Canada, since apparently I'm not going to have to pay for a drat thing. Also, it's fun to tease my Tea Party relatives that not only are we going to have a Canadian in the family, we're going to use public health care to do it. Ha!

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



A Serious Woman posted:

[b]MoCookies[\b], our daughter was very much planned and very much wanted and yet, I was extremely ambivalent about being pregnant and at times, I pretty much hated it. And I was NOT a silent sufferer. Some people handled my honesty well and others didn't. I figured if someone couldn't handle my not being elated about being pregnant then they weren't the type of person I would noramlly seek support from anyway and their opinion didn't really matter much to me anyway. The best advice I can give you is just to try to roll with it and enjoy it for what it is. I never thought I would say this but at times, I actually miss being pregnant!

And yeah, Canadian health care rocks! Are you going to qualify for EI benefits?

We're in Quebec, so we'll actually be using QPIP instead of EI. I was shocked when I found out how much money we'll get through Quebec's parental insurance. We've been here less than a year, so we're still figuring out how all this stuff actually works. I do love that they (QPIP) is so generous to dads too, not just moms. It's nice to know that we should be able to make ends meet even if he needs to stay home for a long time to help take care of me and the baby. I'm curious how long other families use EI and QPIP.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



I've been thinking about getting the Hypnobabies course. Have any of y'all done the classes or home study course?

I'm pretty sure I want to do natural birth, and I think laboring and/or birthing in a birth tub is something I may to do, too. But - I'm not religious, or spiritual, and I've got little patience for psuedo-science dressed up as actual science. However, I do 'meditate' semi-regularly to help myself relax and to quit thinking so I can get to sleep. I'm hoping that the Hypnobabies scripts will help me do the same sort of thing, just more powerfully, and while I'm attempting to push a person out of my hoohoo.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



The stories from this thread have really cemented it for me that I don't want any family at my house for at least the first 2 weeks after I have my baby. (They all live 2000+ miles away, but our moms are dying to come 'help' for a few weeks.) It sounds so loving stressful; no amount of cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry is going to mitigate the fact that people are milling about in my house when I just need peace and quiet and a goddamn nap. I'm wondering if maybe I'll feel differently as the birth gets closer, or is it time to start perfecting the "no you can't come until December" conversation?

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Whitey Ford posted:

My wife is at 8 weeks too.. have you told anyone?

Only her sister knows, we're planning on telling our mothers on Mother's Day (8th May here). Not telling anyone is killing me.

I'm at 8 weeks as well! We're going to have a bunch of goon babies in November, I guess! I've already told all of the parents like two weeks ago, and gave them the go-ahead to spread the good news (with the caveat that if I have a miscarriage or something, it's their job to go back and spread the lovely news too). We're waiting to tell most of our friends and coworkers for another few weeks since I haven't been in yet for my ultrasound. I may wait until Mother's Day before I start writing about it on my blog or mentioning it on facebook.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



yawnie posted:

I'm also due in November - Currently 11 weeks pregnant.

Is anybody else suffering from crippling morning (and afternoon, and evening) sickness, and found a magic cure? I'm hoping the magic week 12 that everyone keeps telling me about will mean the end of my nausea. I've tried all of the obvious things (ginger, tea, saltines, eating frequently) and have 2 prescriptions from the doc but it rarely works.

My morning sickness seems to be getting a tad better finally, but my daily routine has had to change too. I feel like I'm constantly snacking on something; the longer I go between meals the worse I feel. If something needs to get done, I have to do it immediately after eating. I'm usually useless after dinner though - nothing seems to help in the evenings. When it's too awful to deal with, I just put on a Hypnobabies track and try to fall asleep.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



limegrnxj posted:

Anyone have any running while pregnant experience?

I'm about 5 weeks today and am registered for a marathon in 4 more weeks, so when I would be 9 weeks. First pregnancy. I've been training since January and am a long time runner. I'm currently experiencing no pregnancy symptoms at all. The internet isn't very clear on this issue, mostly it just says "listen to your body". I would take it easy, drink lots of water. I ran 18 miles last weekend. Any thoughts?

Awesome! Based on what I've read, you should be in the clear. If you look around on the running forums, you'll find a few people who have run marathons when pregnant. Your body is used to running serious distances, just keep taking really good care of yourself and listening to your body. Maybe you'll get lucky and not suffer too much with 1st trimester hormonal symptoms and all that BS. Pregnancy symptoms might make it more comfortable switching to a half-marathon, though. I'm thinking mostly of all the morning sickness making it hard to eat right, seriously tender boobs, and intense exhaustion. I just hit 10 weeks, and I'm finally feeling well enough to get back into my semi-regular running groove.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Tesla Insanely Coil posted:

Now I have a question for the thread:
This is my first pregnancy and I am 6 weeks pregnant and have extreme exhaustion plus some insomnia (plus nausea, some cramps, etc). The only remedy for exhaustion I've seen is herbal teas - is there anything else? I'm thinking I'll have to do one cup of green tea so that I can get to school on time.

Good luck with your mental health; it's hard to say how all these new hormones will end up effecting you. But I was pleasantly surprised by how its affecting my mood. I've suffered on and off with depression and anxiety regularly for years, and for whatever reason, my preggo hormones have really helped even me out and the last few months in my head have been pretty great.

Pregnancy symptoms sure do suck though. I'm not sure there's anything you can do about the exhaustion other than just listen to your body. If you can't possibly work a nap into your day, perhaps you can time your daily caffeine intake to coincide with your sleepiest time of day. Mine always seems to be 3:00 on the dot, so it's just part of how I schedule my day now. I either take a straight up nap, or just chill out and listen to my HypnoBabies tracks. I'm now in my 2nd trimester, and even if I don't use Hypnobabies at all during the birth, it's been more than worth it for helping me relax at nighttime and especially for getting back to sleep after peeing for the 5th time during the night.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



I love the name Fiona! It's on my shortlist for girls names. I'm with your wife on the issue of picking such a similar name to the neighbors' child. If you plan on moving in the next year or two, then it's probably no big deal; if you're good friends with these neighbors or planning to stick around in your house for a long time, I'm guessing neighborly relations will be better if you go with another first name. I really love the name 'Olivia', but my husband's coworker/friend (one of the only ones with a kid) had a 'Livia' last year, so I feel like if I used it it would be weird for us, them, and probably our mutual friends.

Also - whole milk tastes SO freaking good today. WOW.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



I've been looking at various cloth diaper 'starter kits' online, trying to figure out what I need vs. what would be useful. I'm looking at prefolds + Bummis, and trying to figure out how much stuff I need to have in the newborn size. How does the following sound: 2 doz newborn-size prefolds, 3 doz infant-size prefolds, 6 covers each in newborn and infant, and ~4 doz wipes. Overkill? I'm lucky that my husband is completely on board with cloth diapering; all I had to do is show him how much money we'll save over disposables. If I can get along fine without the newborn size stuff, I'll probably just spend that money on wool covers. Since I have no way of knowing what size baby I'm having, how can I know ahead of time what we're going to need at first?

Also - we're living in Canada in a drafty, hard-to-heat house, and I'm worried that our baby will be cold, especially at night. Co-sleeping isn't an option for us. 60-64 degrees is pretty normal; I just have a rockin' feather duvet for nighttime and a pair of Uggs for daytime. I've been looking at woolen sleep sacks, but they seem awfully expensive. I'd love to know if they're worth it, hold up even with daily use, etc. I guess a hat + swaddling is the other option?

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



limegrnxj posted:

Suddenly my pants don't really fit anymore. I'm only 10 weeks, things should still fit! I have heard lots of good things about belly bands, but during the work week, I have a bunch of stuff on my belt I have to get at, so I'm not sure how that would work. Guess I will have to find a couple pairs of bigger pants, til I can move into the world of maternity clothes. Kind of frustrating. I know at this stage, it's not even baby, it's just gross bloating that never goes away.

Around 8 weeks or so, all my fat around my hips and middle started migrating to my front. I didn't start gaining any actual weight until weeks later, but looking at my stomach, you wouldn't have guessed it. Are dresses an option for work? I'm not into full-on maternity clothes just yet (16 weeks and wearing my "fat" pants), but sundresses have been very forgiving and comfortable on my expanding gut. I have a belly band, but it doesn't seem to stay put on me; it kept trying to roll up my hips.

edit: My favorite pants so far have been my jeans that have a wide, soft, stretchy waistband. It's not visibly elastic or anything, but it's been nicely forgiving.

MoCookies fucked around with this message at 14:39 on May 31, 2011

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Ben Davis posted:

I just got my positive test yesterday at 11 dpo, but I've been feeling like I'm pregnant for over a week now. Sore breasts, waking up ravenous, needing naps, and semi-constant strange feelings in my abdomen--I don't really know how to describe it, but it feels like something's going on there. I'll feel little twinges and aches and pains. I always heard that the beginning of pregnancy was a period of detachment because of the lack of symptoms--is it normal to be feeling everything this strongly so early?

I have my blood test set for Tuesday. I think my concern is multiples, since I was on 50mg Clomid.

I knew I was preggo way before I took my test, and before I even missed my period. My boob-symptoms were like nothing I had ever felt before. I think if you know what's normal for you, then you can certainly 'just tell' pretty early. Now I'm 16 weeks, my body is being taken over and nothing ever feels normal anymore. Now it's a good day when I go 24+ hours without puking. This baby better be super-cute!

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



CubanRefugee posted:

So is it normal to have "good" days where the nausea isn't kicking your rear end? She was hanging out with friends yesterday, so the hope is just that she was distracted enough to not notice it.

The symptoms will come and go for a lot of ladies, and plenty of women have very few of the unpleasant symptoms at all. I started feeling a TON better once I figured out that I need to eat every 3 hours, fit in a nap in the afternoon, and have a popscicle when I start feeling nauseated.

I would encourage you/her to stay away from baby forums like BabyCenter because so many of those women are loving crazy drama queens, and it seems like most of the posts early on are all about miscarrying and other various horror stories. It's best not to read too much into any one fleeting symptom or lack thereof. Like the previous poster already said - the range of what's normal for a pregnancy is enormous. Hypnobabies (the birth course I'm doing) has this great track of positive pregnancy affirmations that I really love listening to. There are a lot of really negative attitudes, stories, expectations, etc. that we're bombarded with about pregnancy, and it's really nice to have a daily dose of positivity. "Pregnancy is natural, normal, healthy and safe." A little dorky, maybe, but nice to hear.

It also helped me to stop worrying to realize that the majority of 1st trimester miscarriages are due to genetic problems. I have no control over any chromosomal abnormalities that happened at conception, so worrying about something I can't change is useless, especially since stress IS something that can affect your pregnancy. I just focus on the stuff I can do - eat well, sleep well, exercise some, and remember to take my prenatal vitamin.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



I have some questions for y'all about practical pregnancy nutrition.

I'm now 21 weeks pregnant, and everything is going pretty smoothly so far. Baby's growing fine, my midwives are nice, I've mostly stopped puking, etc.

However, I'm a little concerned about my weight gain, since I was overweight to begin with (but had lost ~40 lbs over the previous 8 months). So far, I've gained 12 lbs, and roughly a pound a week for the last 6 weeks or so. I keep seeing 11-20 lbs as the recommended weight gain at my BMI, and it just doesn't seem like that's even possible for me at this point. I know I need to be getting more vegetables in daily (I tend to get 4-5 servings of produce a day), but all I can think about is eating carbs and fast food. Most days I manage pretty well and my eating isn't out of control, but I still seem to be gaining faster than I 'should.' I'm eating plenty of fruits and dairy, at least. I'm a good cook, which is part of the problem - I can whip up something delicious and high-cal really quickly, which is not helping my dietary self-control. Trying to get excited about eating whole grains and steamed veggies is pretty tough when I can't even see a picture of a cheeseburger without fixating on it for the rest of the day. I'm keeping a food journal again to help keep me honest and motivated, but I'm still struggling.

How did you ladies manage? Did you gain the 'recommended' amount for your weight? I'd love some tips, hope, encouragement, and/or a reality check.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Thanks, y'all. I'm just going to try to keep the carbs to a minimum and stay as active as possible, and hope the rest sorts itself out during breastfeeding.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Tulip Candy posted:

I'm not pregnant, but I'm debating trying to become so in the next few months, so I have some questions for ladies that have already gone through it.

If you had a choice on when you got pregnant, what made you aware that it was the right time? My partner is eager to have kids and so am I, but he's also at a different stage in life that I'm at. He's 25 and has a stable career, I'm 22 and can't seem to find something I want to pursue and so far have no degree. Sometimes I feel that I should just pick up school after I start family, but that sounds a lot easier than it is.

He really wants me to get a least a general degree and worry about a job later, but he also wants to start a family soon, so I'm trying to semi-timeline things in my head and see where everything falls into. I just don't want to be in a situation where our lives become unnecessarily hectic because of an untimely decision (totally aware that a baby will make thing necessarily hectic, though).

In my opinion, you need to have some sort of contingency plan for your life. If nothing else, I've learned that just because things seem stable right now is no guarantee that your life isn't going to change drastically. What I'm saying is, if you don't finish school, and if something should happen to your family (husband gets laid off, becomes disabled, or dies, or you get divorced, or have to move somewhere that you need 2 incomes to get by, etc.) how are you going to support yourself and your child? I'm not saying I've got this all figured out; in fact, it's something that I worry about a lot now.

I guess I sort of made the "mommy track" decision that you're contemplating. Despite having a degree, I have almost no job options (language barrier) where I live now, and the last few years of my life have felt like I've just been on hold anyway, waiting to figure out "what I want to be when I grow up." (I'm 27, so I'm not sure I'll ever have an answer to this.) That said, my decision to get pregnant was overwhelmingly driven by a crazy short-term hormonal urge to procreate. By the time I came to my senses and realized logically we had a lot of poo poo to get in order before we ought to make a baby, it was already too late, and I was already knocked up. I've come to grips with the situation, and am pretty excited about being a mom to this new little person. It also is at least some sort of "plan" for what the next few years of my life will look like, which is comforting in a way. Now I have something concrete to work on instead of just twiddling my thumbs waiting to move back home.

You don't really say that YOU want to have a baby, just that your husband wants to get crackin'. If you're not ready, you need to honestly say so to him, not just opt into it because you're not sure what adulthood and a work-life looks like for you. At 22, you still have a lot of time and opportunity to figure out who you want to be and what you want your life to look like. On the other hand, I feel like once you have a kid, I think you lose a lot of that me-time because all of a sudden, it's your job to be a responsible, stable, role model for your kid and to help them figure out their place in the world.

MoCookies fucked around with this message at 18:56 on Jul 8, 2011

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



I'm totally cranky this morning because the girl's name I had my heart set on, is now officially a celebrity-baby name. drat you, Posh Spice! :argh: I knew the name (which is Harper, by the way) was sorta one of those "up and coming names" popular names, but now I'm wondering if I need to go back to the drawing board. We've got a fairly common last name, and I wanted a less common first name for this kid. Would you change your unborn baby's name if a major celebrity just used it?

MoCookies fucked around with this message at 15:10 on Jul 11, 2011

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



You guys are making me feel way better about the naming thing. So far, picking out names has honestly been one of the most stressful parts of being pregnant. Maybe because I feel like people are judging what I think is cool? (I'm definitely not cool.) Everything else has totally fallen into place and the decisions were easy to make (cloth diapers, natural childbirth, birth center 3 minutes from my house, etc), but for some reason this has been so much harder.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Grayscale Rainbow posted:

TL;DR - I'm 20 weeks and still nauseous after having rather bad morning sickness. Can I expect to be nauseous throughout the rest of the pregnancy?

Just a few weeks ahead of you, and I'm still puking anytime I smell my husband's farts. Usually I find farts hilarious, but right now, bodily odors of any kind make me gag. I have to be careful about when I eat, because the longer I go between meals, the more likely I am to puke completely unexpectedly. I don't have the 24/7 nausea as much as I did in the 1st trimester, but I'm still puking just as much. Popsicles are my go-to food when I start feeling pukey, and it seems to reset my puke timer for another 108 minutes.

My mom had terrible morning sickness with my brother for all 9 months, so I figure this is just how my body is when it's pregnant.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Number19 posted:

My wife is about 22 weeks pregnant with our first. We've had a scare or two along the way but everything's tested out well and it's hopefully going to be smooth sailing from here on out.

My wife had terrible nausea in the first trimester. It was so bad that our doctor had to put her on medication for it. It's gotten better now but she still has to take a pill in the morning. She's tried to stop taking it with no luck so she might be stuck with it for the whole pregnancy.

We discussed the option of cloth diapers this weekend. She was really against it at first, mostly because she didn't know a lot about them and how much different they are now. I think she's on board now. My next step is to source some. Does anyone know of a place to get them in Canada that's reasonably priced? I've been searching for a couple of days and it's still cheaper overall to order them from clothdiapers.com and ship them here, even with the near $100 in shipping that it will cost me.

I've been trying to figure out how to get the cloth diapers I want to Canada, too. There are several brands that are made in Canada, and in Montreal specifically. Bummis, AppleCheeks, and I'm there there's another one I'm forgetting at the moment. Costo.ca also sells GroVia bundles. I think we'll still be buying our prefolds from Green Mountain Diapers; they have a special policy for shipping to Canada, so some things are available and some aren't. I've also browsed a lot for cloth diapers on ByNature.ca, though I haven't actually purchased anything yet.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



I'm a fellow pregnant rager. Having to smell other people's terrible breath or body odor really just ruins my mood, and I just can't seem to let it go and get over it. I'll go from perfectly fine to wanting to seriously suffocate someone if I have to smell one more stale, reeking breath. A few weeks ago, I got stuck in a middle seat on a 6 hour flight seated between Mr. I-Haven't-Brushed-My-Teeth-in-2-Years and Mr. I'm-Going-to-Sleep-and-Invade-Your-Personal-Space. I was about to stab someone by the time we landed. I'm avoiding travelling and public transportation until I pop in November.

I also frequently dream about beating the poo poo out of people; about 30% of the time it's my husband, 30% is my little brother, and the remainder is zombies, rude strangers, and various celebrities.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Janelle posted:

Wow, I feel horrible. I stopped breastfeeding at six weeks. With the older kids' schedules and activities, not to mention all the regular chores and such, I couldn't nurse him. I don't feel comfortable nursing in public and whenever I've been pumping I never got enough to fill him for one feeding. I talked to the pediatrician and he was thrilled I even went for 6 weeks. Kudos to all the women who go for longer.

Now for questions. Those of you who use/d moby wraps, how long would you wear baby and was it hard to get him used to not being held when he outgrew it? I bought one today and it is a godsend. How hot do they get? I'm in Texas where we get very, very hot. Will I get super sweaty if I wear it outside?

Also, I have not had a period. I stopped breastfeeding Friday and have yet to get it. I had assumed I would get it over the weekend, but nothing. How long until your periods came back?

I've been lurking around the forums at TheBabyWearer.com, and there are some warm-weather wraps I've been looking at getting for my best friend down in Texas. Some of the ladies recommend the cotton gauze wraps for summer and warm climates, like the Bali Baby Breeze - http://www.wrapsodybaby.com/shop/breeze.php

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



car dance posted:

Yeah, I am nauseated all the time but I never feel close to puking. It makes it really difficult for me to eat/focus/do work or activities, so I need something that can make it lessen. Thanks for all the help. 7 Up has been helping a little, but I'm going to try some ginger products. I also had some success this afternoon with eating a ton of altoids (I guess the mint cleared up other scents from going into my nose). I managed to eat dinner tonight and eat until I was full, which is something that hasn't happened in a while.

You might experiment with cold foods. I found that a Popsicle was the perfect thing for nausea relief. I got a giant box from Costco and it saved my sanity. Nothing else, besides eating protein frequently, ever seemed to help.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Brennanite posted:

My husband and I have been discussing after-birth care. It was going to be my husband and me for the first two weeks, then my mother for a week, and my MIL for a week. This seemed perfect, since I have to go back to class two weeks after birth and leaving a two-week-old with a sitter seems wrong.

However, my MIL doesn't want to come help. She feels too old to care for a newborn. Okay, I appreciate her being upfront with her feelings. But then my husband tells me his entire family wants to come for part of the time his mother was scheduled for instead. My husband will have exhausted his vacation time, so it would just be me w/his family, and the baby, and school.

To me, this says "Bad Idea" in flashing red lights with sirens. Am I being unreasonable? My husband is willing to back me, but he seems to think I'm a bit nuts.

I've been doing a lot of hemming and hawing over my own after-birth care plans. It's hard to know what I'm going to want, but my goal is to keep things simple: keep myself, the baby, and our pets fed + get as much sleep as is possible under the circumstances.

I'm with you - the whole family of in-laws descending on your house screams "Bad Idea" to me too. I don't see how you won't end up completely exhausted from feeding the baby at night, taking care of the baby during the day, and then fitting in school somehow too, AND adjusting your normal routines to deal with an influx of visitors. Some families are more considerate than other, but I'm left wondering if they're going to be helpful and useful vs. demanding and disruptive to the new living-with-a-baby lifestyle.

Also (and #1 on my priority list) are you going to be able to nap at all with all those people in the house? I know I wouldn't, and I would be cranky as hell about it. I've discussed with my post-baby visitors that it would be great if they would stay nearby but elsewhere, and they would be more than welcome to visit/help/clean during the day. I feel kind of bad about requiring that they spend the money for a hotel/B&B when they (my mom & her husband, and MIL & FIL) just want to come help and celebrate the baby, but I think it'll be best for everybody's sleep needs. I turn into a total ogre when sleep deprived, so I have to say, I'm really not looking forward to turning into an angry zombie from breastfeeding every 2-3 hours for weeks and weeks.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Awesome Kristin posted:

I'm supposed to be 10 weeks today going by my last missed period. I had my ultrasound today and they measured the uterus and it's only the size of a 6 week pregnancy. They didn't really have any answers and I have to wait over the weekend to hear from the OB. I guess they're going to do some bloodwork or something to measure how far along I am chemically? I'm not sure.

Is it likely that this pregnancy could have been 4 weeks off, or more likely that it stopped growing? Would my body notice it dying? I'm confused.

I wish I had an answer for you, but I wanted to say that I'm sorry you're having to wait the entire weekend to find out WTF is going on. I imagine that they're going to measure your HCG levels on Monday, and possibly a second time to see what direction it's moving.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Bodnoirbabe posted:

On friday I'll be 12 weeks and announcing on my facebook that I'm pregnant. Any funny, not sentimental, cheesy, or weepy statuses you can suggest for myself and for my husband?

Also, I am having an odd reaction to buying baby stuff. I know I will need a lot, but I haven't bought anything yet. Not even a book. I just have this feeling that if I start, I wont stop. I'm also really nervous about how much stuff there is and that I'll choose the wrong stuff, the wrong brand, the wrong fabric, etc, etc. Baby stuff seems like a huge minefield to navigate. Anyone else feel this way?

I didn't announce on FB for the longest time because everything I could think of to say either sounded cheesy or annoying. I ended up just saying, "Sometime around American Thanksgiving, I'll be having a Canadian baby!" (btw: we're American expats in Canada) That's not too bad, right? I just didn't want to be one of those annoying moms on Facebook from day one.

As far as buying baby stuff goes, I have very little bought for this fetus, and I'm like 25 weeks now. I try to remind myself to quit worrying, and that they don't really need that much stuff. Someplace to sleep. Something to poo poo in. Enough clothes and blankets so they don't freeze. Car seat. I'm trying to limit the baby stuff to purely essential items. Not that it stops me from constantly comparing various babywearing devices and cloth diaper brands. I'm currently waffling over whether to buy a $220 cashmere Didymos. Any babywearing nerds want to talk me out of it? I'm having trouble balancing my usual tightwad nature versus my "ooooh! cashmere!" instinct.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Bodnoirbabe posted:

YES! I am having the most vivid dreams every night. They seem so incredibly real but they couldn't possibly with how weird they are. What about anyone else?

Tons of crazy rear end dreams here. Lots of them are about me fighting various people in my family, and occasionally strangers and zombies. Good times. Last night, it was something along the lines of beating the poo poo out of my dad for criticizing my cooking. Preggo rage, indeed!

I've also had several awesome dreams about theme parks.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Nice to hear other people say that their 2nd trimester isn't all double rainbows and unicorns, either. I'm ~26 weeks now, I think, and my pelvis has been so achy the last few weeks, it really makes getting out and doing anything fun WAY less fun. I've been excited for months and looking forward to this 3 week film festival we have every summer (last summer I saw like 25 movies in 2 weeks). I'm know I'm a huge dork, but it's one of the highlights of my year. This year I can't get comfortable at all in a theater seat, and have only managed to suffer through a handful of films. I almost starting crying when I realized I won't get to see many movies next year either, because I'll have to find a sitter and I should still be breastfeeding at that point, too. I'm sure I'll figure out something because it's important to me, but the concrete example of just how much everything is about to change really hit home.

It reminds me of some really good advice I recently got from another young parent. He said make sure to figure out how to keep what's really important to you a part of your routine, even after the baby arrives. He's a really chill, involved parent, (and a great musician) so it was nice to hear someone say it's okay to be 'selfish' in that way, even after you have a baby. Definitely my favorite baby-related advice so far.

MoCookies fucked around with this message at 17:51 on Aug 7, 2011

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Philosopher King posted:

So where does everyone stand on the 3d/4d ultrasound? I've heard a few conflicting things in the past and I'm not sure what to believe. Is there a strong possibility of danger to the fetus?

Danger - not so much. Other effects? Possibly. There's been a few studies associating left-handedness and ultrasounds, which kind of freaks me out about the other possibilities. We decided to skip it because I find the pictures creepy, anyway.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Ben Davis posted:



I think I see what you mean - the two vertical white marks would be the femurs, and there's a bright white bit in between them, in what could be the crotchal region? Not sure I'd be buying blue baby clothes just yet, but I'm guessing the tech knows what to look for.

More baby penis all up in this thread! Here's my fetus a few weeks ago from our level II ultrasound, around 23 weeks. I'm keeping this thread classy with a straight up crotch shot.


baby penis - 23 weeks by TXQuebec, on Flickr

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Doom Catcher posted:

I have a pair of jeans that do this. They're the most comfortable pair, minus the sag-crotch and that they fall down a lot on the second wear.

All of my other maternity pants are great though, so I'm not sure. I'm hoping that once I pop some more, they'll fit better because I love them lol.

I've been having this problem with my maternity jeans, too. So I started wearing my belly band on top of the jeans around my hips, and that really helps my pants stay up. As a bonus, I feel like the extra smushing/support helps with the aches and pains I get by the end of the day.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Fire In The Disco posted:

I had lots and lots of aversions, especially to meat, during my pregnancy. I ate a ton of eggs, cheese, brown rice, fruits and veggies, and drank almost a half gallon of milk a day. Not very interesting, I know, but it tasted SO good while pregnant! I have never gained back a love for red meat, either; I can tolerate it now, but I don't crave it ever.

An example day for me during pregnancy was:
AM snack - protein shake (if I tried to eat solid food early it always came back up)
Breakfast - a couple of hard boiled eggs and some fruit.
Mid-morning snack - handful of nuts
Lunch - Salad with cheese and hard boiled eggs, fruit
Mid-afternoon snack - another protein shake
Dinner - something with cheese or beans as the main protein, or fish a few times a week.
Before bed snack - some more easy protein.

Something like this is a really good idea, and has worked well for me too. I've found the more protein I eat, the better I feel. Greek yogurt and milk have also been go-to foods for me the last few months. Getting enough veggies into my daily meals is probably the toughest thing; it seems to be easier if I work it into breakfast (like an omelet with lots of onion, peppers, etc.) and I try to eat veggies for snacks as much as I can. Mostly, I just want to eat tacos, cheeseburgers, and coffee cake, though. It's a daily struggle.

Still - if something turns your stomach, don't force yourself to eat it. When you're pregnant, you're much more susceptible to food-borne illnesses, and the whole sense of smell pregnancy superpower is protective, from an evolutionary standpoint. :science:

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Dr. Octagon posted:

I have to say, all of the comments we've received when we mention cloth diapering ("oh, we'll see how long that lasts" and the like) only make us MORE determined to stick with it. I've also gotten comments from my husband's side of the family about how I shouldn't even try to breastfeed, and that our decision not to circumcise will "cause problems later." I just have to sit there with a forced smile on my face as I watch these people give their babies and toddlers sips of beer.

It's pretty overwhelming trying to figure out which product(s) are going to work for you, but I'm in the same boat with annoying comments from my family. I find it really obnoxious how people who know nothing about cloth diapering, other than that they're diapers and somehow involve washing cloth, feel completely free to tell me I'm stupid, CD is stupid, and that I'll never stick with it. Luckily, my husband is totally on-board and is pretty much the only other person who will be changing diapers on a regular basis anyway. I've heard from tons of people who like cloth diapering, and very few who have said, "It's a good idea, but just didn't work out for our family."

For what it's worth, I think we're going to use prefolds from Green Mountain Diapers with Bummis covers, and maybe half a dozen pocket diapers from Applecheeks.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



yawnie posted:

Like everyone else has said, just be as supportive as you can. She's going to be feeling her entire body change very suddenly, and she can't even cope with changes the way she normally would because her hormones will be changing her emotional responses and she may not even be aware of it. It goes a long way just to be sympathetic to those changes and tell her you know it's hard and that you're there for her. Be involved. Offer foot rubs. Don't be upset if she needs you to get her a watermelon at 3am. Offer to help out around the house more. Tell her she looks beautiful often, because she's going to feel fat and frumpy.

THIS. So much.

More advice: Tell her she's gorgeous and awesome everyday. Tell her that her rear end looks great in her maternity jeans. Sex her up enthusiastically. Leave the room to fart while she's in the nauseated/sensitive to smells stage. Realize that some crazy hormonal poo poo is happening in her brain, and there's nothing she can do about it.

I know that the intensity of my reaction is totally nuts, even as I'm having it. I should add that my normal self is really even-keeled and low-key, but around week 6 of pregnancy, the crazy showed up. As an example, here's a conversation I might have with myself over the course of 5 mintues:

"Oh, there's that pregnancy book. I'm slightly annoyed that <husband> still hasn't read it, since I asked him a week ago."
-->
"God drat it! I'm going to be raising this kid all by myself, and dealing with a loving lazy man-child for a husband! Argh!"
-->
Sobbing + "I have no idea what I'm doing. He has no idea what he's doing. I'm a terrible parent already. I'm never going to sleep again, and I'm going to be a frumpy, fat, uncool person forever, and my kid will be a horrible person because of me."
--->
"Hmmm, I'm hungry. I should probably eat something healthy, like those nectarines, but those oreos and some milk would be really good. Okay - nectarines and milk first, and then oreos later if I'm still hungry. I'm awesome at being pregnant."

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



netally posted:

This post is probably going to make me sound a bit crazy. But do you think it's possible to have a phobia of breastfeeding? I've always been a bit grossed out by it, but now that I know it's something I'm going to have to do it terrifies me. I'm pretty chilled out about the labour, looking after my baby etc. But I can't even look at a photo of a baby latched on a boob without feeling sickness and dread.

I'm in the UK, and the NHS are really militant about getting women to breastfeed. I've been offered free classes, help breastfeeding when I'm on the hospital ward and there are drop-in clinics with lactation specialists. Yet all this support just makes me feel even greater pressure. I'm at the point where I'm finding it hard to enjoy my pregnancy and get excited about the baby, because it's like a big cloud looming over the horizon. Goonettes, how do I feel better about this? Did any of you manage to get over the fear of having a giant lamprey attached to your nipple?

I agree with FITD and think that it would be good if you could talk this out with a professional therapist of some kind. You don't HAVE to breastfeed, no one can force you to do it, and millions of smart, healthy kids were raised on formula. Perhaps I'm reading too much into what you've written here, but whether or not you choose to do it, breastfeeding is a pretty normal human function, and to have that level of dread and anxiety just from thinking about it makes me wonder if there's actually something else that's really bothering you.

I'm curious though - does it gross you out to think about how you're already feeding your kid with your body during pregnancy, or is it specifically the nipple-boob-mouth aspect of breastfeeding that bugs you?

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Even though we're in Canada, we really depend on my husband's full salary to make ends meet, so instead of taking parental leave, he's taking all (3 weeks) of his 2011 vacation and 2 weeks of his 2012 vacation days to stay home with me and the baby after the birth. Honestly, I think he'd probably drive me nuts if he was home full time for 3 months and not working at all. I think he's actually going to end up working ~2 days a week starting in mid-November until he runs out of vacation days, which I think is a better situation for everybody involved, plus his projects at work.

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



vanessa posted:

Yes. I'm taking a night course for work, and I got a B on an assignment, and I almost started crying because it wasn't an A.

I've got my first "real" prenatal appointment today (had a viability scan about 2 weeks ago). Is the doctor going to think I'm a whack job if I ask her to find ways to minimize how many times I need to have blood drawn? I have very strong physical reactions to having my blood drawn (vomiting, fainting) so if there's a way to space out the blood tests so that I need to have blood drawn fewer times, I'm all for it. (I should note that I'm not a complete needle phobe; I do perfectly well when I get vaccinations or when I needed to get a TB skin test done in the past.)

Hopefully you won't need too many blood tests. I think the only one I had was for STDs and whatnot towards the beginning of my pregnancy. I did have blood drawn again during the gestational diabetes test, but that test wasn't required, I requested it because of a family history of diabetes. Is that unusual? It's my first pregnancy, and my midwife/birth center is really non-invasive when it comes to tests and exams. (Maybe this is also weird and unusual, but I'm really hoping to go the rest of this pregnancy without any internal exams.)

edit: I also almost went psycho on my husband this morning because his alarm clock kept waking ME up, and the jerk just kept going back to bed over and over. My fuse is extra-short lately when I feel like my husband is being lazy. At least the flip side of these hormones means that food tastes AWESOME.

MoCookies fucked around with this message at 15:30 on Aug 31, 2011

MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Banana Cat posted:

Same here! At work the other day, I mentioned being tired and immediately got a nice long lecture about how this was just the beginning and I have SO many more sleepless nights ahead of me and if I thought pregnancy was bad, wait until I have my baby! Well actually, I'm pretty sure being tired had way more to do with staying up until 1am dicking around on the internet rather than being pregnant, but whatever.

I just hit my third trimester and even with baby stuff beginning to fill our bedroom and feeling my cervix get pummeled every day from the inside, I can't seem to wrap my head around the fact that I'll be holding a baby before Christmas. Does it ever really sink in? And can I do anything about the cervix pummeling or do I just have to deal until she's born?

I can't believe all those people giving lectures about how much worse being a parent is than being pregnant - STFU already. It's like they have to one-up you or something or they're not the superior parent.

I enjoy blaming random poo poo on the baby, but I also don't have a bunch of well-meaning assholes giving me lectures about what it means to be a parent, and how tired I'll be, and blah blah blah. Its mostly just because I want my husband to go up and down the 2 flights of stairs to get whatever stupid thing I forgot so I don't have to. I can deal with the stairs or BH contractions, but both at the same time is no bueno.

Just hit 3rd trimester, too. That cervix punching and kicking is awful. Have you tried the inversions and whatnot from spinningbabies.com yet? Thankfully, I've found it gets my little dude to move elsewhere at least half of the time.

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MoCookies
Apr 22, 2005



Tesla Insanely Coil posted:

I have a question - do you go to the hospital as soon as your water breaks or do you wait until contractions are a certain length apart?

I'll be laboring at home until things start to feel "serious" enough that I want the big birth tub. I'm less than 5 minutes from my birth center, though. I think distance to the hospital/birth center is an important factor for a lot of people. If I had 30+ minutes to ride to get there (or traffic, weather conditions, etc. to deal with), I'd be more conservative, for sure.

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