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chocolateTHUNDER posted:Anyone in this thread use a device like this to suck the snot and crap out of your infants nose, and if so how do you like it? We have two of these for our sons and they’re the most effective snot sucker I’ve ever used. https://frida.com/products/nosefrida?srsltid=AfmBOor-GyEa_KD6dCTgp1mtEsDtIudUXmkUq-ukMv8xZ3aw3LBoENjB That is assuming you can get over the psychological jump of literally sucking the snot out of their nose. I cannot speak highly enough about the Nose Frida snot sucker.
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space uncle posted:My kids favorite toy right now is an old balloon. Not a shiny Mylar one, not a helium balloon, just your basic rear end manually inflated plastic party balloon. Wow this is almost exactly my life. I have a three year old who has been doing “moves” and “tricks” onto, into, and off the couch for 8 months. We started him in gymnastics in the spring and he loves it. We did two classes of parent toddler gymnastics where I attended classes and helped him through basics like forward rolling, balancing, and hanging. He can do stuff that demands strong arms, legs, and/or core (all appropriate for a three year old, of course). He also recently favored a two month old basic rear end party balloon. But lately his favorite thing is watching me play Dark Souls. He got obsessed with black knights from an old episode of Scooby Doo. I used that as an excuse to play video games and showed him a black knight in the game. Now a few evenings a week we wind down with Dark Souls. We’re about half way through the game now! It’s the coolest thing I’ve ever done in my life.
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Cais posted:If he’s gonna jump off things at least he’s gonna do it somewhat safely I guess? 100% My buddy did gymnastics from toddler age to middle schoolish and he says it’s the best thing he’s ever done because he learned how to use his body and how to fall down. He’s never broken anything and credits gymnastics for that.
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Tonight my 3 year old had one of those past life moments. He said, “One time when I was older I dropped something off and went back to my old house.” Taken within context that’s weird as hell, however, there was some relevant things that happened this evening that would’ve planted ideas of dropping off stuff and going back home, but the “one time when I was older,” and “my old house,” stuff remains 100% unexplained to me. I’ve always thought kids talking about past life stuff was fascinating. I still do, but now that it’s happened and it’s not nearly as weird with context, I’m left wondering what context was left out of stories and videos of kids talking about weird, past life stuff. I hope this makes sense I’m posting from the rocker while I do my usual shift of holding our infant for the night. Reflux is the loving worst, god drat. I feel like I could write a book about our experience so far. It feels like a life time of spit up, crying, and holding him semi-vertically through the night. It’s only been 7 weeks. We’re slowly figuring it out. Seems like he has some natural reflux, but also issues with foods my wife eats. Since we hit our insurance deductible for the year, we’ve been going to lots of PT and speciality docs to figure this out. The infant massage and PT makes my son feel good and is helping, but the nutritionist working with us has been a god send. We’re coming up on two weeks of my wife eating a very basic diet - roast chicken and root veggies and fresh fruit - and it’s like we have another baby. Once whatever he has problems with is out of her system his fussing and crying goes away. He still spits up but it doesn’t seem uncomfortable for him. This really turned into a sleep deprived  about my life right now.I’m excited for regular sleep at some unknown point in the future.
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Nocheez posted:Everything to my 3 year old happened either yesterday or tomorrow. She doesn't really have a grasp on tenses and the way time passes, but it's adorable to listen to her jabber on and on about nonsense. Same. We also get “last week” a lot too.
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CarForumPoster posted:If you have the food sensitivity sorted and he's still spitting up could be a good ol volume issue. If your wife is overproducing or he's takin in more than the lil tummy can hold it'll come right back. Seems kinda obvs but it's a common issue I hear from dr wife and I certainly have experienced too. We’ve seen a lactation nurse twice and at first she was convinced it is overfeeding, but it doesn’t seem to be the problem. The food sensitivity angle seems to be the biggest contributor to the problem. Every day my wife’s on the basic diet our son improves a little bit more. She accidentally ate some “bad” stuff on Monday of last week and within 24 hours my son was extra fussy and spitting up, two days later he was starting to improve. We’re waiting for food allergy test results to see if she’s has a problem with any foods herself. Because that can translate to baby’s having problems. Our first son had a dairy and soy intolerance for about a year, but not the reflux part of it. Those foods just made him very uncomfortable and it impacted his ability to nurse. After she cut out diary and soy he was like a different baby. Dreissi posted:I’ll bring this up because I also had a nightmare first month with acid reflux. Did they give you infant Pepcid? If not, try to get some. Night and day difference for us. Yep, he’s taking Pepcid twice daily. It helps, but it’s not like a game changer for him.
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Dreissi posted:Bummer. I always bring it up because the doctor really slow rolled us into it. We both came into the doctor at our wits end, and magically after a month we had finally proved we were miserable enough? The over eating angle was the first one brought up. It was at a very early ped visit. It looked like my son jumped growth curves from 80 to 90% for weight. Since then he’s settled along the 90% curve nicely. It’s been an interesting experience. We’ve seen a Chiropractor for infant massage. She’s awesome and the work she does has really helped. Also have been to the lactation nurse who is still trying to push the over eating angle and I’m honestly sick of her. There’s no evidence of over eating at this point but she won’t let it go. We’ve also been to a family doctor that specializes in breastfeeding and Osteopathic Manipulative Treatment (OMT). She told us she doesn’t think it’s a food intolerance problem and that it’s a bad latch. She observed my wife nurse him and commented it’s a near perfect latch and it doesn’t sound like he’s getting much/any air. But then in the next breath she reiterates that it’s probably not a food issue and instead a latch issue… Finally we’ve gotten the most mileage from a doctor who is a functional nutritionist and also provides Craniosacral therapy (CST). She is easily the most helpful of all the medical professionals. She now has my wife as a patient to help with identifying what food is giving our son problems. Seems like Brassicaceae (family that includes broccoli and cauliflower) is a culprit. We landed on this because my wife was eating lots of V/GF foods when we thought this was a dairy problem. They were heavy in broccoli and cauliflower and my son was miserable. Got off them and things improved. Then she had an ancient grains Vans waffle and triggered my son for two days. We learned brassicaceae is used as binders in lots of V/GF foods! Anyway, the point I’m ultimately trying to make is each of these professionals have their own speciality and some of them struggle to accept if their speciality isn’t the primary problem. Like the lactation nurse and family doc are still skeptical of food issues despite there being clear evidence and observations indicating my son feels great and is happy and comfortable when my wife avoids certain foods. Yet they still tell us “it’s probably not a food thing, it usually isn’t” and then push the over eating and latch agenda and I’m ready to tell them both to gently caress off. The chiropractor is awesome too because she doesn’t have an agenda. The massages she’s doing would help any baby and she’s a big advocate for trying multi-pronged strategies. She’s also a mom and brings her 2 year old to work with her and she gets it.
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:Don’t fuckin take your baby to a chiropractor Jesus Christ Slaan posted:Or anything other than a pediatrician or pediatric specialist in an actual licensed field It’s recommended by our pediatrician. It’s massage that seems to make him feel like a million bucks. There’s nothing inappropriate happening. I appreciate your concern. I am skeptical of Chiropractors in all other cases but this is a Chiropractor that has training in infant massage and that’s all she’s doing. Nothing is happening that hasn’t been recommended by the pediatrician.
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Regarding being overwhelmed by chores - I feel everything you said. Here’s some stuff my wife and I have done to make chores with two kids more manageable. Dishes -we bought enough pumping parts that we can go 5 days without NEEDING to wash them. We don’t let things get to that point, but having that buffer is a nice. We used to need to wash pump parts every other night and now we do it about every two nights. Just decreasing pump parts washings to once a work week has been a nice change. -a dish washer with a sanitary cycle and a third rack for low profile things at the very top of the washer. All the pump parts and bottles can be washed on sanitary eliminating the need to hand wash the parts that need to be sanitized and steam in a microwave. The third rack gives you lots of flexibility. It’s a Bosch and I love it. -lots of extra dish drying things to air dry all the bottles and pump parts. Laundry We have a washer with a delay feature and it’s possibly my favorite appliance feature. It’s great for getting an “extra” load of laundry. We do cloth diapers so every night I load the washer with diapers and put a delay on it so that it starts around 3 am, finishes at 5:30, and I’m up at 6 and can put that stuff straight into the drier. It’s huge. Food prep and dishes Double or triple your meals when you cook. The minimal extra effort is such a minor thing compared to time savings from making a lot of food and only dirtying cookware once. This gets us at least one meal at home and left overs for lunch boxes the next day. If we make even more food that becomes meals to grab from the fridge for a few days or we portion the food into serving sizes and freeze it for easy future meals. Cleaning the house We tried house cleaners but it ended up more stress than it was worth IMO. All the cleaners we can (barely) afford require floors to be cleaned prior to their arrival. Maybe that’s normal, I don’t know. Regardless that meant the night before the cleaners came was a forced tidying of the house so that they could come clean the next day. Sometimes that rigidity is hard to accommodate for the schedules of two working, exhausted parents. We found it much easier to get an easy to use vacuum, specifically this thing when it was on a big sale. Even not on sale it’s the cost of like three weeks of a cleaner. It’s great because you don’t need an outlet to use it and it can do just about everything. It makes it easy to do stuff like clean one room a day and clean up dry spills as they happen. Bonus, our 3.5 year old loves it and if he makes a mess that can be vacuumed, there’s a 50/50 chance he’ll grab it the vac and clean it himself. Stay organized I do most of the day to day stuff and my wife does bills and poo poo like that. But we can swap places if needed. To this end we try to document things and use synched docs as best as possible. We have two notes (just in the standard Notes app on iOS) for “Evening Stuff” and “Shopping List.” Evening stuff is a check list that we use to accomplish daily chores. Check stuff off as you do it and there’s no need to have convos like “did you do the cat boxes? Did you check the mail?” The shopping list builds itself thru the week because we add stuff as we see it’s needed. Then on Friday or Saturday we meal plan for the week and all the stuff we need, and the daily meals, gets put into the shopping list. These two notes have had such a positive impact on our sanity, I cannot express how useful we find them. We are basically on our own. My parents live hours away and my wife’s local parents aren’t in great health and aren’t reliable. It sucks really hard but we’re someone surviving, barely. Hang in there. Once you’re thru the sleep deprivation some sense of sanity will return and things will feel less overwhelming.
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My almost 7 month old boy pees when I put lotion on his belly/waist. I can see it coming every time, the face he makes is adorable. I’m ready for it with a an extra cloth diaper and at this point it’s almost bed time ritual before I put his night diaper on.
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My kids (3.5 yr and 7 months) birthdays are 3 days apart. I’m already bracing myself for the possibility of meltdowns and extreme emotions.
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Any suggestions for lice? Just got a notice that day care has lice. This is one of my nightmares lol.
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Sweet, that’s basically what we came up with. The comb will be delivered tomorrow and we’re going to pick up otc treatment from a pharmacy between work and daycare.
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Kingtheninja posted:3.5 year old had some potty regression last sept-Nov, felt like we solved it by going with boxer undies. Haven't had any major issues until recently. He's been holding too long, or not going when he needs to. He doesn't seem to notice he's done it until it's time to pee. My 3.5 year old has been doing great with the potty for 8ish months. The last two days he’s had pee accidents at school. We’ve been having success asking ours if his tummy feels happy. It covers hunger and bathroom issues.
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Olanphonia posted:We started calling bad drivers Dingo Dogs (from Richard scarry) a few years ago and my son loves to call out every bad driver he can see. Dingo Dog really makes officer Flossie work for her paycheck.
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Illusive gently caress Man posted:Our 19 month old bit five kids at day care today :/ Your 19 month old had a busy day!
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Does your four year old go to day care? My older boy turned four a few weeks ago, but for at least the past six months he’s been into butt humor. There was a period of time where “booty butt” was a common phrase. He rubbed his butt on people and thought it was hilarious. The butt humor he turns to now is saying goofy things to put in his butt. Yesterday coming home from day care he told me to he was going to put a duck in his butt. All of this is coming from day care. My wife and I have never joked about butts, poop, crap, etc. We don’t support the butt humor and I’m tired of the butt jokes. I’m afraid as soon as he’s done with them his little brother (turned 1 a few weeks ago) will be ready to pick up his mantle and be the source of a future wave of butt humor at their day care.
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My boy is funny and I’m really trying to not be a party pooper (heh, get it?) about butt jokes. It’s the rubbing his butt on other people I’m not a fan of. That almost always came a few minutes after the butt jokes would start.
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This week my 4 yo boy was really into hot dog things. Hot dog houses, hot dog cars, hot dog heads…. everything had a hot dog version. He’s never tried a hot dog.
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My almost 13 month old has been slowly courting his molars for what feels like a quarter of his life. It escalated last week, haven’t seen them poke through yet but boy or those gums swollen and he is CRANKY. We’re all (me, wife, and our other son) ready for them to come through because he’s waking up about every 30 minutes at night for the last several nights. It also has come at the same time as lots of other stressful life poo poo and all I want is some goddamned uninterrupted sleep. I’d take 2 hours at this point.
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I would massage gums but this boy hates anything like sweeping his mouth, wiping his nose, etc. He goes full on wiggle and thrash mode to escape. He also isn’t into teethers, pacifiers, cold/frozen washcloths, teether popsicles. We’re managing it with a steady diet of infant ibuprofen and mom’s boob.
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My first kid was a bad sleeper and still can’t make it a whole night in his own bed and my second kid is an awful sleeper! The rate at which kids are turning my beard white is astounding.
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My older son was a challenge in the months leading up to his fourth birthday. Lots of yelling, tantrums, throwing, hitting, and biting. As suddenly as it started it ended pretty much right at his fourth birthday. I think he was anxious about changing classes at day care and his birthday party. The twos were super easy. The terrible twos were not a thing at all for him, but 3 was hard, especially the second half of it. There was a period of time where my wife and I had to look at photos of him from the 2s to remind us we did actually like him. Now he’s back to being mostly pleasant and a joy to have around and I don’t have to remind himself daily that I do love my son. I guess what I’m saying is I wouldn’t overthink or get worked up over a thrown chair.
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I bought a minivan yesterday and I am very, very hyped to pick it up in about two weeks. I am quivering with anticipation thinking about opening sliding doors in a tight parking lot.
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Got a Sienna for the hybrid mpg. If it weren’t for that, I would’ve gone with an Odyssey.
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c355n4 posted:Sienna gang! Did you get the 2nd row captain chairs? Yep. Didn’t get the second row middle seat. Can’t be too picky with Siennas right now, new or used. With that said we got exactly what we wanted - a green, AWD, base XLE. My 4 year old is going from next to no room in my outback to all of the room in the Sienna. I’m excited for him. Those sliding second row seats also mean more leg room for me! 
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My now 14 month old had colic when he was a baby. It was an intolerance to corn. Took my wife doing an elimination diet and eating nothing but basic chicken, potatoes, and carrots. After a day of that diet my son’s entire disposition turned around and he was a totally different, pleasant baby. My wife slowly introduced foods back in over a few months and when we got to corn it was like old times filled with crying and spit ups again. Thankfully he outgrew it around 9.5 months old. I refuse to accept that some babies just cry a lot. Our first son had a similar time but with dairy and it took us much longer to figure out.
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Our first, born in 2021, was in the thick of the Covid formula shortages. My wife’s milk supply tanked hrs a few months in when we all got covid and it never fully recovered so we had to supplement with formula. He had dairy and soy intolerances for the first ~year, so the formulas available to him were a very narrow range and rarely in stock. I checked store websites several times a day hoping to see some in stock. One night at about 9pm the local Target indicated they had it in stock and I left the house immediately for it. I remember standing in line that night holding two things of formula and crying from relief. Kid two, now 14 months, never needed an ounce of formula, thankfully. Are formula shortages still a thing?
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lobster shirt posted:one of my cats died yesterday (very sad but he was 13 so not exactly a young guy). i got the corpse out of the house before my kids got home and we didn't talk about it yesterday since it was a school night. however. i am sure they will notice at some point. how do you handle talking about a pet dying with a 3 and 5 year old? Our 14 year old cat died in September. We knew it was coming, she had cancer, and we made arrangements for an at home euthanasia. We had been telling my son (4 yo as of the beginning of September) that she was sick. In the preceding days we told him that she was really sick and will probably die soon. The day of her passing we got home from day care pick up and once the at home crazies petered out, we sat him down and told him we had sad news, the cat died today. Explained that mom and dad are really sad and that he might feel sad. He took the news really well. We explained grief comes in waves and he might feel okay now but be really sad later. A few times shortly after he’d start crying and need a hug because he missed our cat, but recovered quickly. From my experience - tell your kids that the cat died, don’t let them notice and bring it up. Talk about grief and how it comes and goes and that it’s normal. Being up front lets you experience your grief and that can also be a learning experience for your kids. I had some spontaneous crying hit me over the week following the cat’s passing, and if my boy was around he’d stop what he was doing and give me a hug until I felt better. Long ago when my wife was a middle schooler, her mom had their family dog euthanized randomly while my wife was at school. No one brought it up after school until my wife noticed the dog wasn’t around and asked where the dog was. She’s still understandably bitter about that.
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Two days ago my 14 mo came home with a diaper rash that didn’t respond to any zinc oxide creams and baking soda in the bath. Yesterday morning it was looking like tiny red bumps and less like a wide spread red rash, so we hit it with nystatin thinking it was a yeast rash. He came home with even more red dots on his tush and some on his feet. We suspected hand, foot, and mouth This morning the red dots were raised like tiny blisters all over his tush, legs, and feet and some on his belly. We felt pretty confident it is HFM so we kept him home. We just got a message through the day care app that HFM is in the toddler room. 
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Dazerbeams posted:Like clockwork, my 3 year old has a switch flipped around 4pm and becomes a feral beast who refuses to listen to anything anyone has to say. He even got a nap in at preschool today! What the gently caress. And I told myself I wanted a second??? The threes were really rough for my older son. It started around 3.5 or maybe a little earlier. Near guaranteed melt down, listening ears that were completely broken, tantrum when anything didn't go his way. It was super challenging. As soon as he turned 4 he started mellowing for a few weeks, then had a rough week or two, and now we're much more stable. He wants to help, he doesn't argue every time about brushing teeth, getting dressed for school/into PJs, coming to the dinner table, etc. He's even starting to take initiative - the other night after his bath he zoomed out of the bathroom and a minute or two later he came back while I was still cleaning up from bath night and he was beaming. He wanted to show me how he got dressed all by himself. Regarding the 4pm feral beast - it's hanger making his emotions harder to regulate. My boy matured rapidly over the past few months and he's able to manage his emotions much better. It's still shaky if he's hungry. Being aware of when, how much, and what he's eaten goes a long way. I bring him chocolate milk and a small snack every day for the ride home from day care. Getting a bit of calorie boost is usually enough to carry him to dinner time with no/minimal tantrums.
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My younger son had such gnarly reflux that he wasn’t able to lay down for more than a few minutes before he started spitting up and choking on it. So my wife and I held him while sitting in the recliner through the night for the first 3.5 months. We stayed awake in shifts. Sometimes you gotta do what you need to survive even if it’s not what medicine recommends. For what it’s worth one of the pediatricians at the practice we go to had a baby with the same type of reflux problem (a protein intolerance) and was supportive of us holding him upright through the night.
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My son got 2 M and M’s for a pee and five for a poop. We kept them in a little cup with a lid so he could see how many we had. Once he was reliably using the potty we told him once the candy was all there would be no more and that was that.
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Potty is a dump skill.
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soupcon posted:Similar situation with my daughter, no breaking things but extreme stubbornness/crying/meltdowns over things like eating, bedtime, anything she doesn't want to do. We thought we'd hit a golden period where she was mostly chill and could be reasoned with but that seems to have changed for reasons I can't fathom. I don't think there's been any real change in her environment - she had the flu recently, but the behavioural regression predates it. Sounds like my 4 year old. We go through good, pleasant periods and then very delicate periods full of meltdowns about everything. Last night was the breaking point for us listening to whining about Halloween candy. Every meal time goes fine for a few minutes but then my son starts whining about being done and wanting candy. Once we hit that point he won’t eat any more food and throws a tantrum about candy. Last night this played out and the whining and tantrum was excessive, so all the remaining Halloween candy went into the garbage and the garbage bag went straight to the curb side bin. He was very angry but god drat my wife and I have had it with candy ruining every evening.
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CarForumPoster posted:Hes doin better today, guessing around 4pm hell head south like yesterday. Based on my experience with two children, fevers are much like the xenomorphs from Aliens. They come at night, mostly.
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This book is very helpful, “How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen.” https://how-to-talk.com/how-to-talk-so-little-kids-will-listen-book/
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