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I remember being scared of houses. Like, driving back with the family to our rural home at night. Driving past some specific house I thought was spooky for no good reason. I'd cry about it, and try to get my dad to take a different route. I think sometimes he did but eventually he just said look this is the road we're taking. I guess I dealt with it.
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Olanphonia posted:I told my son when he started that around age 4 that monsters aren't real but if it would make him feel better I would put up an anti monster shield around our house that would make a really loud alarm if any tried to get in. That seemed to work. I have to say I really look forward to tricking my kids.
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Dec 10, 2025 00:33
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coronatae posted:I could have a spicy nana. It's an extremely Colombian thing to have a big spoonful of savory soup and follow it with a bite of slightly underripe banana. Speaking of which Patrón also got to have Colombian empanadas while we visited my family at Thanksgiving and I think it thrilled my dad that he enjoyed them At the risk of a tangent: what do you mean by slightly underripe banana? My partner likes bananas that still have some green on them, which I would call extremely underripe, but then I don't have a calibrated scale.
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Dec 10, 2025 03:05
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Mistaken Frisbee posted:We finally had our twins yesterday via scheduled C-Section, 37 weeks and 3 days. About 6.5lbs and 7lbs respectively, one minute apart because our daughter was very eager to escape after they pulled our son out. The pain in the recovery seems like it'll suck, but the process was so much easier and less stressful than my spontaneous vaginal birth last time. Everyone says, especially after a multiples pregnancy, that you immediately feel so much better. I feel like I do, but also that my body and brain is immediately choosing to forget how I felt like...28 hours ago. That's a lot of baby to have packed in there, I can see why everyone comments on it. My partner had twins two months ago so I feel like commenting more. But since you're already a parent I'm sure you're much more qualified than I am to handle all this. Have fun!
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Dec 12, 2025 19:24
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G-Spot Run posted:Is putting presents down early a cultural thing, like people celebrating on Christmas Eve instead of Christmas Day? I've only ever known presents to appear just like magic on Christmas morning. I'll even put away the gifts the kids make for the family at school so they're out of sight out of mind. When I grew up it was mixed. Parcels would arrive from distant family members. The kids would unbox the parcel and make a big deal of guessing what was inside and seeing who it was for before putting them under the tree. This could be days of not more before Xmas. But waking up Christmas morning there were always more. And the stockings had stuff in them. I don't think I ever really believed in Santa but it was magical nonetheless. And it's interesting, before reading this thread right now the idea of opening Xmas presents because you couldn't wait has never occurred to me. I don't think I've heard of it before. The day was so sacred the idea somehow never occurred to me, or my sister. Though we'd sometimes open one gift on Xmas eve, usually one from a distant family member.
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Dec 16, 2025 00:02
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KYOON GRIFFEY JR posted:Yeah my wife’s family did this with Santa gifts, which is very smart. We’ve stolen that one. Wow. Did they buy the tree and... stash it out back somewhere?
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Dec 16, 2025 01:48
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he told me he always wondered as a kid why mom and dad were so tired looking on Christmas Day.
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Dec 16, 2025 03:08
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Sundae posted:Things not to do around a five year old: Why #2?
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Dec 16, 2025 03:54
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Scapegoat posted:So I mentioned we had been talking to our daughter about the cat being put down. She took it quite well and had questions and we explained the cat was old and sick and was in a lot of pain. She then announced that granddad was old and might need to go to the vet. Well, she clearly understands
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Dec 17, 2025 13:11
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Moogs posted:For the first time in my life, I missed a flight. Switch issues on the train to the airport, they made us get off the train and we were trying to figure out if it was okay / safe to call an Uber and install our car seat in it. Seems like the answer is yes, as long as you know how, but anybody have experience? Cars have standard attachment points for seats. If it's Uber you could get a ride and look up how to access those points while the car is on its way. Otherwise if the seat uses the seatbelt method to attach then you can just use that.
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Dec 22, 2025 21:01
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The twins did great. I feel like I tell people how fussy they are (10 weeks) but when company actually comes over they behave well. Made for a very nice Xmas indeed.
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Dec 25, 2025 23:51
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RCarr posted:They told her to make sure he is kicking every hour if and go to the hospital immediately if he’s not. We have another appt next week where they will talk about emergency C section if it’s not resolved. Geez every hour? Kids have downtime in wombs just like in the outside world. Our twins would go longer sometimes without kicking, only to kick up a storm later when they were active. I wish you luck, that sounds stressful to monitor.
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Jose Valasquez posted:Last night, as she was leaving, my mom casually dropped that she got her concealed carry permit and had a gun in her purse at our house all evening where we have a 5 year old and a 1 week old Haha holy poo poo that's wild Certainly no way a 5 year old would root through someone's purse! I also assume someone who would keep a gun like that would store it safely ie unloaded.
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Dec 28, 2025 16:10
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Yeah babies are little GI systems with a loud cry attached to them. I often shake my head when I come into the room and my partner informs me there's been a big fart in the same tone she might report some bit of interesting national news. I shake my head but I understand that the fart really does matter and it has a direct effect on my life. e: fixing autocorrect Count Roland fucked around with this message at 02:53 on Jan 1, 2026 |
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Dec 31, 2025 23:10
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nachos posted:It’s been like 3 years are the holidays over yet Mine have been pretty chill and easy all things considered but I too need to get back to work. Making babies fart all day is fine but i could use some variety.
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Jan 1, 2026 20:30
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I've been asked if I want to travel for work. I do *want* to, but the twins will be just over 3mo and a week in an other country seems like too much to put on my wife. Even if she got help from family (which we've done before) the sleeping situation could get pretty insane. On the other hand the kids are improving, and sleeping better. I was told that "I could say no" to this trip, though I do worry a bit how it might affect my position/career. My wife is tough and if I really needed to go she'd figure it out. I'm just about ready to decline the trip, unless my boss comes back and says it's a requirement. I find myself hesitating though. Any thoughts?
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Jan 2, 2026 22:47
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Hadlock posted:When our kid turned ~18 months Overall the travel is fine. Once the kids are bigger (and in daycare!) then it won't be much of an issue. It's a known, if inconsistent, part of my job. It's this particular trip I'm concerned about it. International and to a remote area. Seven days, though not set in stone and could be longer. It's winter where I live to travel delays due to weather are always possible. And the amount of work required for the twins is large. Today was a rough day, even though I'm still on vacation and was home to help. Some help is available, maybe, if I were to travel. But the help won't be as effective or as welcome as me. This is something of a philosophical question: dad the caregiver vs dad the provider. I hesitated when I was about to tell my own dad that I wouldn't be traveling. I imagined his response would be something like 'back in my day we did what needed doing, and made it work'. This thinking isn't in fashion these days but isn't without merit. Me having a good career is good for my family. My wife endures 7 days of difficult childcare -- how much is that worth, against my job? I don't really know, it isn't something I've thought about deeply.
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Yeah I've tried to have a discussion on it, several times. The wife has declined to take a stance or offer a real opinion. She agrees it would be hard on her. When I told her I was planning on not going her first question was his it would affect my career. Her posture is one of careful neutrality. She worked in her family's business growing up. So I suspect the idea of refusing down work is pretty foreign to her. Plus she's an avoidant kind of person which makes it hard to know what she actually thinks about something.
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Coca Koala posted:Do what needs doing and make it work, but don’t assume that just because it’s there to be done means it needs doing, you know? It’s possible to balance having a career and being a father and it means that both roles will need to make some compromises. Yeah, this is a good perspective.
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My wife is generally more capable and organized when it comes to house stuff. When it comes to cooking, dishes, laundry and groceries I'm pretty equal with her. When we're both home during a day it's usually me doing chores while she's mostly with the kids. But for things like cleaning the bathroom or putting new sheets on the bed or vacuuming yeah she's usually there well before I am.
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Jan 5, 2026 23:08
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AAAAA! Real Muenster posted:My 5 year old is in a specialized kindergarten program that has him in a classroom with other elementary age kids with special needs (my boy is high performing autistic + ADHD). Today, a 5th grader absconded from his part of the specialized classroom to jump a playground fence and put my boy in a head lock THREE TIMES. I am at a loss for words. I dont even know what to do at this point. My wife told me that the school is working on getting that 5th grader transferred somewhere else but its a slow process and I'm sitting here like "what will you be doing to to protect him *tomorrow*"? Yes that's certainly a good question. Have a teacher keep an eye out to intercept the kid when he runs over? Attacking a much smaller kid multiple times seems like grounds for suspension.
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harperdc posted:Meanwhile the almost-3 month old is baffling. Starting to sleep almost 6-7 hours overnight at a go, but be awake more during the daytime. Most nights recently it’s been just a quick pit stop during the night for feeding. Last night, it took fully an hour and a half to get him down, probably because he unleashed hell in his diapers midway. Nothing like baby giggles at 3 am. Aside from the giggles both my twins have been like this for a few weeks now. My partner just started a nap schedule during the day, where they get fed and then encouraged to sleep for a given period of time. The whole staying up the whole day resulted in a great deal of screaming. The nap schedule has worked 2 days out of 2 so far.
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Yeah I think I'd have a pretty low tolerance for that sort of thing. I want to make my kids happy but I am not keen on taking orders, nor rewarding fits with what the kid wants.
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